I am unsure of how to respond in this situation. I live far from my parents, so I only see them for a few weeks a year at Christmas and during the summer, and I try to make the most of the time I do get with them.
My father is morbidly obese and suffers many medical conditions as a direct result of his weight. I have lost nearly 30 pounds since the last time I saw him, and I have worked hard to learn new eating habits and build my fitness level. However, rather than congratulate me on these changes, my father chooses to comment teasingly every time food that isn't salad or fruit passes my lips: "Oh, that's not on your diet!" "Watch out! That'll make you fat!"
He thinks he's showing love, but no matter how many times I attempt to rationally explain to him that it's not a diet, rather a lifestyle change, and that I work hard to be able to enjoy the occasional treat in moderation and still lose weight...well, he doesn't seem to get it. My many attempts to verbally explain to him that his comments are hurtful and unnecessary don't seem to get through to him, and rather than acknowledge my feelings he laughs and brushes them off.
I don't want to stay frustrated with him or hide my eating as an avoidance maneuver, but I'm at a loss for what else I can do in this situation. I can't control his choices. Any suggestions? Anyone been in my shoes before?
| current weight: 209.0