I was going to comment on the "he never said you were fat" angle, but it's covered above. I guarantee if it was my husband, he'd have meant it in a helpful way - like, "Use your Spanx today and keep the sweater because I know that if you want to firm up, you'll make it happen."
Of course, my husband has explained in the past that he thinks that criticism is loving. He wants me to tell him things like, "You've been letting yourself go and you're not really looking your best in that bathing suit. Are you going to change your diet or are you going to start running again?" He honestly finds it sexy that I challenge him like that. Let me reiterate: He finds me criticizing his body a turn-on. (shakes head)
We had to have a conversation about how I don't feel the same. He still doesn't understand that and makes comments I don't like sometimes. It helps to know where it's coming from though and it helps that he is trying to be more aware of the fact that I hear "You are fat" when he thinks he's saying "You are a strong enough person that I think you can do anything."
Yesterday is but a dream, tomorrow but a vision. But today well lived makes every yesterday a dream of happiness, and every tomorrow a vision of hope. Look well, therefore, to this day.
~From the poem "Salutation to the Dawn" generally attributed to Kalidasa ~
10wks/10lbs challenge - goals are in ()
Week 0: 131.0
Week 1: 129.0 (130.5)
Week 2: 131.0 (129.5)
Week 3: 128.0 (128.5)
Week 4: (127.5)
Week 5: (126.5)
| current weight: 128.5