hmmm, I've once heard it put, as a "compusult?!" Can't look to the "negative" ones for our support system, you know you're on the right path. You keep up your good work, and at some point maybe others will climb on board. : )
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Posts: 52 11/8/09 7:47 P
He noticed your loss and wanted to let you know, but his insecurities prevented him from being direct. I would take as a compliment!!! Yay for your loss!!
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Posts: 31 11/8/09 5:42 P
Take it as a compliment. Stay on the road to health.
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JUST_HEATHER
Posts: 52 11/8/09 12:11 P
Take it as a compliment. It sounds like there is some self-depreciating going on as well, but that is more about how he feels about himself, not you and there isn't much you can do in most cases to change someone else's views.
Of course I have all kinds of snippy replies to situations like this, but they are generally better off left in my head.
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ILOST150POUNDS
Posts: 1,402 11/8/09 10:20 A
I'd take it as a compliment and also maybe a round about admission that he may need to do something about his health. That kind of thing happened to me all the time along my weight loss journey.
Definitely compliment. I agree with Evakaneva though, offer him the opportunity as well. Keep up the great work!
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EVAKANEVA
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Posts: 239 11/8/09 10:13 A
Take it as a complement but it could also be a cry for help. Stick with it but just to be obstinant put yourself in his face and be there for him for when/if he wants to take that step.
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Posts: 317 11/8/09 8:22 A
Definitely a compliment. It's a sibling thing. My sister and I know the "nicest" thing we can say to each other regarding weight loss is "bitch!" LOL!
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CRICKETRO
Posts: 28,803 11/8/09 7:32 A
...as jealousy and insecurity from his side (or the entire family)
and evidently, a well hidden compliment
as said, your brother is making it a job to be mean to you anyway, so don't be surprised lol
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INKYDINKYDOO
Posts: 683 11/8/09 5:51 A
Accept it as a compliment and assume he was joking. Obviously, he's seeing the results of all your hard work. Time for a woo hoo!!
If he was serious . . . shame on him! Focus on how much better you feel and try not to let his bad attitude influence your actions. (((Hugs))), my friend.
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VGIMLET
Posts: 468 11/7/09 10:47 P
Compliment. He's not just a guy, he's your brother, and he can't be too nice, after all. LOL.
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Posts: 227 11/7/09 8:32 P
Compliment..and a little I am proud of you in there somewhere!
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Posts: 3,766 11/7/09 7:38 P
Heck, even if he did mean it as an insult, I'd STILL take it as a compliment! Just smile and thank him for noticing all of your hard work. =D
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Posts: 477 11/7/09 6:13 P
I'm sure he meant it as a compliment . . . most guys aren't always that good at saying things with tact.
compliment, honestly your brother needs to learn to support you in your effort to live healthier, if he doesn't he's petty and you can tell him that plainly.
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Posts: 106 11/7/09 2:55 P
Compliment! Maybe it is just making him realize what he should be doing! Be an example to him, maybe he might be wanting to change but scared of it therefore he makes this kind of a remark to you.
"And I asked myself about the present: how wide it was, how deep it was, how much was mine to keep." - Kurt Vonnegut, Slaughterhouse-Five
It is important find time for yourself. Take pride in what you have done.
it's not how HE intended it, that counts, it's how YOU take it!
I vote for COMPLIMENT! Next time smile sweetly and say "Why, THANK you!"
XCELERASIAN
Posts: 775 11/7/09 11:05 A
Take it as a compliment.
Also, he's your brother. It's his job to be mean to you. lol...
CATHEITE
Posts: 1,017 11/7/09 10:47 A
Definitely a compliment. Congratulations!
Forgive me for adding this, but that's also a VERY stupid thing for your brother to say. You should stop losing weight because you're showing up your family?! Uh, no. He needs to work on his self-esteem.
AMETHYST_REM
Posts: 431 11/7/09 10:28 A
Sounds like a guy compliment. They seem to like to hide them in some kind of put-down format ...
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PILETERE
Posts: 111 11/7/09 9:35 A
take it as a compliment,and stay with it
69_XENA_88
Posts: 12 11/7/09 9:05 A
Definitely a comment, but unfortunately it sounds like he's jealous. Don't let it bug you, and keep doing what you're doing :)
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Posts: 72 11/7/09 8:38 A
A compliment to you. Sounds like he doesn't like himself very much. You are on a great path. Stick to it. If the others come along for the healthy ride that's great but if they don't .... well.....
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Posts: 11,913 11/7/09 8:11 A
Definitely a compliment. Good for you. I almost detect the subtle hint that you may be a good example that your family will follow.
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AMBADINGE
Posts: 56 11/7/09 7:53 A
I have a very wise friend who says "When in doubt, always take it as a compliment." I think that is great advice.
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Posts: 100 11/7/09 3:22 A
That is for sure a compliment. Keep up the AWESOME work!!
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Posts: 3,718 11/7/09 2:41 A
Compliment to you...insult to himself. People often say things like that to make you feel bad but don't let it get to you! You are doing great and you will be the example that everyone needs in your family for them to make the lifestyle change too! Keep up the wonderful work!
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WHITEBULL1221
Posts: 49 11/6/09 11:59 P
I have recently begun on my journey for a lifestyle change (14 weeks ago). I have lost 17 pounds and am feeling really good about how things are going. I come from a VERY overweight family. Today my brother (who is never supportive of anything I do) told me that I needed to quit losing weight because I was making the rest of the family look fatter. I am not sure how to take that.
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Definitely a compliment. Good for you. I almost detect the subtle hint that you may be a good example that your family will follow.
