It is so hard to change behaviors. Changing behaviours is best done kindly and gently.
Rewards for good behavior, over the long run, are the way to change.
I have tons of goodie points so I am going to give you something obnoxious so you will remember you are the precious gift in the lives of your family and friends.
Treat yourself as if you were the queen. Welcome to spark people
Sing to the Lord a new song, for he has done marvelous things:... Psalm 98
Therefore we do not lose heart. Though... we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day my day....So fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen. for what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal
2 COR 16-18
Doing nothing is the most perfect form of action, when I do nothing there is nothing left undone and there is nothing left to do.... The Way by Lao Tse