Do you know why she got divorced? That might say a LOT.
Strong, to me, is sticking to your values and your "road", so to speak, yet doing so without mowing over anyone else in the process. A strong woman can be honest when she needs to, but doesn't get any joy from hurting someone with gossip or uninvited judgment. She's strong enough to take it from others without crumbling or second-guessing herself. She can be a friend and can admit it when she really needs one herself.
idk... sounds like your friend has relied on her looks alone, to attract men-- for so long, that she's never learned some social skills. Not a "strong woman" so much as a "strong (read: obnoxious, overbearing, loud, selfish & self-centered) personality".
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I agree with what others said...abrasive personality, and probably not the nicest person you are likely to meet, when it comes down to it. In her own mind, being "strong" means being selfish, loud, and maybe obnoxious at times. If she is "hot" I know there are some men out there who will likely fall for her eventually, but she will chew them up and spit them out so I don't see any winners there.
To me, a strong woman is a confident enough not to need to announce she is "strong" in some kind of statement that she "can't find a man who likes strong women like her."
It is quite possible to be a strong woman with reasonable confidence, balanced with knowing when to be quiet, and how to be tactful, kind and considerate when discussing issues, expressing opinions, or making decisions that affect herself and others.
She sounds more like an overbearing personality. She might be fun in small doses, but it tends to exhaust people. She is also attention seeking. I would not reply to her description of herself in your shoes, what would that accomplish?
I also agree with others. (I especially like what Love4kitties said) Your friend has a strong personality. I wouldn't consider her a strong woman.
To me a strong woman is the one who can be all that, but knows when to tone it down. In other words they have a filter. They 'don't' chew people up and spit them out.
A woman that faces chronic physical pain and still has a positive attitude. A woman that builds up people and other women especially and doesn't feel the need to tear them down. I saw a Facebook Meme recently. "If you want to locate the strongest woman in the room. Look for the one that is building others up."
I don't really know your friend. So I may be possibly way off base. To me the woman you stated. Is like the Great and Terrible Oz. All bravado and no substance. Just my humble opinion.
Edited by: MANDIETERRIER1 at: 4/30/2014 (19:02)
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I think your friend is using the phrase "strong woman" inappropriately to describe herself when a more apt description may be that she has an abrasive personality.
When I think of a strong woman, I think of a woman who has faced hardships in life, been knocked down but gotten up again and again--someone who has the inner strength to persevere and to keep going when things are hard. A strong woman, IMO, is a woman who can face a challenge and, no matter the outcome, will find a way to come out of it and keep going. She's a woman with inner strength and this strength is beautiful. Or, I can think of a strong woman as a woman who knows herself, knows what she believes in and is willing to stand up for that. She stands up for what she believes in with dignity and in an appropriate manner.
You can stand up for what you believe in without being an abrasive loudmouth.
An opinionated woman (or man) is someone with a lot of opinions. It's okay to have opinions, but not okay to be abrasive with your opinions or try to force them on people. This is true whether you are a man or a woman.
A woman (or man) who thinks it's cool to post about sitting in a Jacuzzi, drinking alone, sounds like someone who I wouldn't describe as a great catch. Also, being brutally honest isn't a great way to get people to like you--it's abrasive. Being honest is one thing, but you can be kind about it and, sometimes, it's best to keep things to yourself. This is especially true when these things are hurtful (especially hurtful with no real purpose). When I think of someone who is "brutally" honest, it's someone who is hurtful with their honesty. I'll bet your friend wouldn't like someone to be brutally honest with her.
Whether or not she is physically attractive, she's going to be hard-pressed to find someone who wants to be with someone who will chew him up, spit him out and hurt him with her brutal honesty. That's really no fun for anyone.
No one really wants to be with someone with an abrasive personality, no matter what they look like.
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Two words in your description of her may be the reason that your male friends think that she is Bat Shxt Crazy. Loud and brutally honest. Does she use tact when she is brutally honest or just spews comments? I have yet to meet a man that likes loud women.
Just as the others have said, a strong woman is one that can take care of herself in any situation but does appreciate the help of others.
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To me a 'Strong Woman' is a person who doesn't let a gender stereotype define her. She is intelligent, she knows her mind and what is important to her. She stands up for what she believes in, but she's not afraid to admit it when she has made a mistake. She knows how to love and gives herself wholeheartedly. She is in touch with her belief and principles, but she has an open mind, and she is willing to listen to others without being judgmental. She knows how to be her own person and still be a woman in every sense of the word.
I think the same definition can be applied to a 'strong man' (just replace the word 'woman' with 'man')
I guess I think of strength as a different quality. I think being independent, dealing with hard situations without becoming bitter or broken, and being understanding and supportive of others are qualities of a strong woman/man.
Your friend's personality might be seen as "strong", but she might also come across as abrasive, inconsiderate or unkind.
I agree with others. She sounds like a strong personality. I am much quieter and seemingly passive, but I also have a strong personality that would bulldoze someone not assertive. A strong person is someone who respects themselves and others, stands up for themselves and can shoulder life's burdens.
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I would call what you're describing a strong *personality*, whether the person is male or female. That is something that some people are drawn to, but others are put off by. What I would consider a "strong woman" would be someone who is intelligent, acts with integrity and its able to be independent even within the context of a relationship. While the former definition could also be described as "bat shxt crazy", I don't think anyone would say that about the latter.
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To me a strong woman/person is someone who can face hardships willingly or unwillingly and still be the person they are or someone who doesnít stay beaten down because of hardships. Basically, to me, a strong person is a person who always tries (to improve themselves, achieve what they want, fight against obstacles) no matter how many times they fail themselves, are let down by others or are told they canít do something.
I donít know if your friend is strong or not in my definition of the word but what you are describing sounds like a person with an aggressive attitude and I think a woman/person can be passive, quiet and shy and still be strong.
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the context in which I write is this; a female FaceBook friend of mine keeps lamenting that she can't find a man that likes strong women like her. I kinda understand what SHE means because her personality is loud, funny, straight to the point, brutally honest not to mention she's smoking hot (in my opinion). Often times she'll post on FB that she's sitting in her Jacuzzi (she made a killing in her divorce) drinking all alone but no man around to enjoy it with her.
I am engaged to be married in November but I knew this woman after she got divorced but before I met my fiancť and though she's my "type", or so I think, I just know she'd chew me up and spit me out in a heartbeat even though she always kidded about us hooking up.
A few guys I know that know her say she's Bat Shxt Crazy but I think just think they these guys aren't attracted to her because she's very opinionated.
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