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4/29/14 3:44 P

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For me the initial motivation to lose weight came from within. I knew that I was too heavy and also knew that at my age (61 1/2) it would affect my health and well being and I didn't want that. I'd say my health concerns were the main motivation.
Now in maintenance I'm finding a lot of motivation from sites like Sparkpeople and blogtolose or reading weight loss blogs. Plus I love how I look and feel so that's still an inner motivation.
Every little bit helps.



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4/29/14 3:05 P

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If you don't have the motivation inside of you, doesn't matter what else is going on in your life, there is always a "reason" to overeat, any excuse in the book. When I'm motivated, I could sit in a bakery and not touch or want a thing, or sit in a house full of See's candies, I won't touch it, and can do it for months. I cook separate foods for the others, but I eat only the protein and vegetable and some starch. BUT, when I don't really want to do it, it doesn't matter who or what is there or not, or watching someone on tv whine about losing weight, watching ads of people who have temporarily lost weight, etc. When it works for you, nothing and nobody and what they do can set you back. That's why it's not easy, it's hard to keep up that kind of constant mind game.

Plan for tomorrow, but enjoy the heck out of today.


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4/29/14 3:01 P

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"No, because the person who feels that way is not taking personal accountability for their own actions."

Yeah... we see, time and time again on these boards...
"I haven't been to the gym because my friend won't go with me"
"I ate junk because my husband ate some"
" I was out with friends and I had too much to drink because they did"
"Someone brought donuts into the office... and I just HAD to have two!"
etc.

Personally accountability is severely lacking!

“We cannot change the cards we are dealt, just how we play the hand.”
~ Randy Pausch

"There's a difference between interest and commitment. When you're interested in doing something, you do it only when circumstance permit. When you're committed to something, you accept no excuses, only results."
~ Art Turock

"We have a saying in Tibet: If a problem can be solved, there is no use worrying about it. If it can't be solved, worrying will do no good."
~ 7 Years in Tibet
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4/29/14 2:35 P

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At this point in the game, I feel that this is all motivated by me. My husband still eats junk and constantly buys soda..which I have cut dramatically. I used to drink 4-5 cans of diet soda a day. Now I'll have one every 3 days!

But, it has to be bought first and that was my husband's doing.

Finally after all these years, I have the motivation to say enough is enough! I need to take care of my body. I have found that motivation, finally!

"Tired of Starting Over? Stop Giving Up!"

1. Hit ONE-derland ( COMPLETED ON 7/18/14)
2. Obese BMI GONE at 174 Pounds (IN PROGRESS)
3. Hit First Weight Goal of 160 Pounds (IN PROGRESS)
4. Hit Ultimate Weight Goal of 130 Pounds(IN PROGRESS)


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4/29/14 1:48 P

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"So, I "get" encouragement and helpful tips and that those things ARE important but by the same hand can I/we BLAME those same folks for me/us not losing weight because the encouragement they gave didn't help? "

No, because the person who feels that way is not taking personal accountability for their own actions.

If I had someone telling me 30 times a day to quit smoking, but I was just kinda meh about it, and I failed, it would be idiotic of me to blame the person, saying that I failed because they should have told me 32 times a day, as opposed to 30.

The best exercise in the world is to bend down and help someone up.


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4/29/14 1:07 P



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I would say that taking the weight off and keeping it off requires a bit of both.

1) We need to find the motivation within ourselves to start the process.

2) We need support during the process to keep that process going.

I think why most "diets" fail is because experts don't recognize the importance of having a good support system. It's one thing to take the weight off. it's another to keep it off. And that's where having support helps a lot.

Example, what a person who has had WLS ? As part of the the pre and post surgery process, they are expected to be part of a support group. Why have a support group if the surgery will do the work for you ? Well, the surgery is only one part of the process. Having support is the other.

You need both.




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4/29/14 12:47 P

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I have no one save Sparkpeople who even know I'm on this journey. So I have no outside motivators. I occasionally read someone's story on Spark and it gives me a little motivation but mostly I motivate myself.

Karen


 
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4/29/14 10:51 A

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The opinions of others is a non-issue with me.

Like you, I feel that is has to come from within....
or you will end up failing once all your cheerleaders fade away.

“We cannot change the cards we are dealt, just how we play the hand.”
~ Randy Pausch

"There's a difference between interest and commitment. When you're interested in doing something, you do it only when circumstance permit. When you're committed to something, you accept no excuses, only results."
~ Art Turock

"We have a saying in Tibet: If a problem can be solved, there is no use worrying about it. If it can't be solved, worrying will do no good."
~ 7 Years in Tibet
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4/29/14 9:33 A

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Is losing weight just simply a matter of wanting to do it or do you personally need a "team" of motivators to help you lose weight?
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So, I "get" encouragement and helpful tips and that those things ARE important but by the same hand can I/we BLAME those same folks for me/us not losing weight because the encouragement they gave didn't help?

For me, the motivation came from within, a deep and profound WANTING to lose weight and no encouragement was needed and I knew I would stand or fall on my own. To me this is the way to lose weight, void of the opportunity to blame others for me not losing weight or being successful.

A hard pill to swallow for sure but I know this isn't the way for everybody so [TOPIC QUESTION HERE!!!] do you know anyone who solely lost weight as a result of only having others motivate and/or support them to lose weight?

Edit due to mis-spelling a word in the title.
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Edited by: KJFITNESSDUDE at: 4/29/2014 (15:14)
USING SP TO HELP YOU KEEP TRACK OF WEIGHT LOSs, CALORIE INTAKE AND EXERCISE "IS" THE SHORTCUT!!!!!!
sTOP TRYING TO CONSUME A MAGIC WEIGHTLOSS PILL, OY!
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