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MJEFFERSON23
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3/14/14 11:08 P

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I do not volunteer I tell them only if it comes up naturally in conversation.

The only "diet" that works is consistency!

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No

If I am not for myself, who will be for me? If I am not for others, who am I for? And if not now, when? ETHICS OF THE FATHERS

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3/14/14 9:08 A

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some I do but others I don't


How can you know that you can't unless you have tried and failed.

Join the 10 minute challenge and get exercising.

See what you are made of by joining the 100 day challenge.

Links on my Spark page.

Don't forget to make your workout fun so as not to get bored with it.

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3/14/14 8:21 A

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@HiCalGal emoticon In general, I don't tell many people about my lifestyle efforts. I feel that my efforts should "speak" for themselves. I would hope a friend would see that I am more than my outward physical appearance. My character and social justice values - besides just being pleasant to be around - should count for something. emoticon

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no and i dont like talking about it either. i may be the minority but thats just the way i am.

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Nope, unless it comes up. I wouldn't even bring it up with close friends and family. I hardly want to talk about weight loss day in and day out.





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if they didn't know me before then there is no point.

How can you know that you can't unless you have tried and failed.

Join the 10 minute challenge and get exercising.

See what you are made of by joining the 100 day challenge.

Links on my Spark page.

Don't forget to make your workout fun so as not to get bored with it.

https://www.flickr.com/photos/wigmore/

See trevcannon.blogspot.co.uk/


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3/2/14 6:20 A

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No, unless weight, comes up in the conversation



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3/2/14 6:17 A

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Only if they ask...



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Only if they ask.



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Friends, family, strangers



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There have been a few instances where I have had to. Once in a while someone who didn't know me when I was obese will make sort of a snide remark about "thin people who don't have to worry" when I turn down high-calorie food, or someone who's overweight will say, "I wish I were like you and didn't have to worry about [dieting, exercise, finding uniforms that fit, etc], and then I feel that I have to say, "Well, I used to weight 50 pounds more than I do now, so I do have to worry about what I eat, and I've experienced exactly those things." I have also had to mention it to explain certain things in my past-- If they ask about hikes in parks I visited 15 or 20 years ago, I have to say that I wasn't fit enough to do them. It gets some weird reactions; you're not supposed to be more fit in your 40s than you were in your 20s!



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3/1/14 7:29 P

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Usually not unless the topic comes up of weight loss.

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3/1/14 6:53 P

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If the person asks, I will tell them what my exercise regime is as an endurance athlete. If they don't ask I just keep on going in the conversation.



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3/1/14 6:47 P

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I think that the question is for those of us who have actually lost a significant amount of weight and maintained that loss.

Whether to tell people that you are starting a new diet seems like a different issue...

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I try not to mention it since so many people in my life turn out to be diet sabotagers. I got a call from my doctor's office on Thursday that my blood sugar is too high and I need to be on a special diet for a while and then he will check me again to see if I need medication.
People who give me food generally give me sugary stuff which I really don't need right now!



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3/1/14 5:51 P

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No, I am scared that if I put it out their and I don't lose weight then I have failed in their eyes. it has happened before. I am accountable to sparkpeople though, you guys are the only ones that know of my ups and downs and failures.



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yes if topic comes up

~Stephanie J., St. Louis, MO



“Stay committed to your decisions; but stay flexible in your approach.” ~Tony Robbins

"Finding happiness is like finding yourself. You don't find happiness, you make happiness. You choose happiness."






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Yes--certainly not ALL of the details, but it is something that tends to come up eventually.

A lot of my friends (old and new) are dancers, athletes, fitness enthusiasts, etc. I am very fit and have insane endurance even though I am still a bit overweight, so I often need to explain that.

Edited by: AZULVIOLETA6 at: 3/2/2014 (14:28)
Dances: salsa (standard/LA), casino, rueda de casino, cumbia Colombiana, bachata, mambo, cha-cha-chá, merengue, reggaetón.

Currently learning: Mexican cumbia, danzón, Cuban rumba

Dances to Learn in the future: flamenco, tango Argentino, samba, belly dancing, bhangra, ballroom rumba


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I don't bring it up ... but if someone asks, I don't avoid it. While I don't want to make a big deal about it, I want people to know the truth. I interact with a lot of people on an irregular basis -- just see them 3 or 4 times per year. So they have noticed changes and sometimes ask.

"Eat less. Exercise more." is what I say when asked about how.

I have also been honest about it not being all happiness and smiles as I adjust to a thinner body. People wrongly assume that the shopping for new clothes, etc. has all been fun ... and I have not hesitated to educate them about the "mental work" that has been (and continues to be) necessary to sustain my efforts.

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Hey - if someone thinks you are fit and thin..more power to you!!!

;)

Yeah, someone who weighs 200 pound might think I am thin, while someone who weighs 98 pounds might think I'm fat, so it's all relative.

lol....no one, however, will ever think of me as fit. I seriously have to start toning this month with pilates. Unfortunately I fit that old expression to a T "Whenever I feel the urge to exercise, I lay down until the feeling passes"!!!

The best exercise in the world is to bend down and help someone up.


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I made the "fit and thin" comment because when we moved to a new house, one of our new neighbors actually said that in conversation to me, when we were talking about going out to eat. (Thank you, Sparkpeople!!) She'd never known me when I was overweight. Keep in mind, too, that "fit and thin" is a relative term. Depends on how the person saying it, perceives themselves in comparison. Because people in general DO compare themselves. I'm certainly not anywhere near as fit as I could be, even though I'm at goal weight.

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No.

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Wow - Ms. Ruth literally took the words right out of my mouth!!

Lol....except for the fit and thin part :)

The best exercise in the world is to bend down and help someone up.


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DRLMAZ
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2/28/14 5:29 P

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only if I had weigh lost



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2/28/14 5:25 P

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Nope! No one else's business!



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No I wouldnt

I CAN DO THIS


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No, for the most part. If the subject comes up then yes.



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No, I've stopped talking about weight other than on diet sites that are by design places it is more or less safe to talk about weight, anonymously.

If someone tells me about their weight loss journey, I say something complimentary and/or supportive and don't discuss mine.

Moving in new directions.


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I think some people treat weight loss history the way they treat their hair color....


Edited by: SHERYLDS at: 2/28/2014 (19:48)
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I've never had anyone tell me "You're so fit and trim", even when I was, before, lol. But no, I wouldn't mention it unless everyone was sitting around telling their personal tales of woe, and it doesn't last that long, anyway..........

Plan for tomorrow, but enjoy the heck out of today.




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Only if the new friend raises the topic in conversation. Like, "my SIL really wants to lose 20 lbs but can't afford WW or Jenny Craig". And then I'll say, "well I lost xx pounds using Sparkpeople, and it's free". If they say "you're so fit and thin" then I usually just say, "I try to eat a well-balanced diet and get some exercise". I don't usually say anything else unless they specifically ask or say something like, "I bet you've never had a weight problem". And even then I don't go into great detail unless they're really interested.

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2/28/14 11:33 A

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If they ask I do. Other than that I just keep it to myself.

Same with old friends. I will only volunteer information if they ask. Otherwise it is in one ear and out the other. Or you have the people who look at you and assume that because you are currently slim. That you have never had a weight problem.

Even the ones that ask go silent when I tell them it was hard work and exercise. No product hawked by Dr. Oz

Edited by: MANDIETERRIER1 at: 3/14/2014 (13:59)
Made it to my maintenance weight of 125 pounds.

Even though I have reached goal. I still don't know everything about weight loss.

Please read my blog

erinwroteablogyall.blogspot.com/2014
/08/shame-shame-shame.html


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SHERYLDS
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After you've lost a substantial amount of weight
Do you tell a NEW friend about your struggle and show pictures before and after ?




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