I too am sorry to read of the passing of your two friends, so young, and seemingly in good health............as the others have said, take each day one at a time and try to get the most out of them. It is a tragedy and sad, nevertheless.
Plan for tomorrow, but enjoy the heck out of today.
My DH's mom died of a brain aneurysm. She was older than your friend... around 50. But it was the same type thing, very sudden. He has a photo of her, taken a couple days before it happened, smiling and happy at a street fair. I look at that photo, and there is no clue that her time was limited, no foreshadowing of what was to come. Only symptom she had beforehand was a headache the day it happened. Took a couple days for her heart to stop, but she was pretty much already brain dead.
It's very sad-- even sadder when it's a younger person. I reckon the lesson (if there is one) is that none of us really know how long we'll be here.... enjoy each day, do the best you can, and love is the most special thing of all. Be generous with it.
Ruth in Cookeville, TN Central Time Zone
Promise me you'll always remember: You're braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think - Christopher Robin to Pooh
It is scary, and yes, it could happen to anyone at any time. Of course ANY of us could die any day, no matter how young and apparently healthy we are. It is not predictable and it is not fair, but it is reality. Everybody knows that intellectually, but when someone close to you dies so suddenly it drives the point home on an emotional level.
For me, really understanding that has actually been life-affirming. I LIVE every day very fully and enjoy my life absolutely as much as possible. I don't put up with a lot of BS and I don't waste a lot of time.
A friend of mine had one in December. She survived but will be in rehab for a long time. She is 35. I had another college friend who had one at 20. She didn't make it to the hospital. My husband's uncle died from one when he was in his late 40s. It just happens. I am sorry you lost your friends. It is just terrible and shocking and I know is very hard.
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I survived a cerebral aneurysm nearly ten years ago--I was 28 when it happened. This is something that very few people make it through, even though survival rates are getting better all the time. I was in the hospital for more than a month, but during that time everybody else who came through the neuro ICU with an aneurysm died.
It sounds like your friend did not suffer much, so perhaps that is something that you can take some comfort in. I am very lucky to be alive and am (mostly!) very functional, but I would not wish what I went through on anybody, ever. My immediate family members all refuse to get tested because they would rather fall over dead than go through what I did with brain surgeries and recovery.
There are a few possible risk factors--high blood pressure, drug use, smoking and a handful of genetic disorders. I have ridiculously low blood pressure and have never smoked or used drugs. I don't have PKD, Marfans or any of the other diseases that can increase aneurysm risk. There seem to be some families where aneurysms are genetic, but I am the only person in my extended family to ever have one--it isn't always hereditary. Brain aneurysms are slightly more common in people of African or Hispanic descent--I am mostly Hispanic.
Generally though, brain aneurysms are just a freak thing. There isn't necessarily any reason or explanation beyond a weakness in a blood vessel which balloons up and then explodes.
That is terribly sad. But aneurysms are one of those things that just happens. Usually there's no specific cause, and usually very little warning. On rare occasions, someone does have symptoms, but even if it's diagnosed ahead of time, often the doctors can't do anything about it. Your friend didn't do anything to cause it, and there's nothing you or her other loved ones could have done to prevent it. It's just bad luck.
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Bluenose, I heard that also that we are born with a weak blood vessel. I thank God every morning I wake up & thank Him at night for my day whether it is good or bad,because I was breathing all day. JUDY
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Brain aneurysms can happen even in 20 year olds. School of thought is that it is something you are born with (a weak blood vessel in the brain) and it is not usually found until it bursts...very low survival rate and death is instantaneous.
I am sorry for both losses. We just had in our town a young mother 26 went to 3 different hospitals with a blinding headache in two weeks seeking help.They found out it was a treatable blood clot even when they finally found it they released her from the hospital.She has 2 sons age 9 & 4 . The same hospital a young Doctor just starting to work at the hospital had a terrible headache she was admitted & released she died. A lawsuit is against the hospital & Doctors for these 2 cases.what a loss the Doctor the paper said was brilliant, the mother was brilliant to her family & friends. Two losses of life's that could have been avoidable. Take care Judy
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sending u (((HUGS))).......and prayers to you and her family. It must be tough. I have heard about younger people like that doing that. I don't know much more than that. I knew this lady in her 40's who did that. Her hubby came home from work and found her dead on the floor from the same thing. Wish you well........Sorry about your 2 friends.
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A friend of mine went into a coma yesterday due to a brain aneurysm. She died today, never regaining consciousness. I assume that is normal. But, is it unusual for a 32 year old woman to have a brain aneurysm? What would cause a 32 year old woman to have this happen? From what I read on webmd, it looks like black women are at a higher risk. My friend was a black female. She didn't smoke and I am pretty sure she didn't drink either. How can this possibly happen to a 32 year old woman?
It's saddens me to know that she has died. She had a lot of talent and passion. We met in college. We met had mutual friends. Of course, we attended a small private college in western NC. She majored in music (jazz - saxohpone). I majored in Ecology.
This is the second friend I've lost in less than 6 months. Back in August, a friend of mine lost her battle with brain cancer. She was also 32 years old. We also met in college. She left school but then decided to go back to school to get her degree in English Education (to teach high school). She had one year left.
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