We have been married for 43 years and I always get my hubby a little something. Since he is now diabetic not much candy but a card and a gift card to his favorite sporting goods store. We usually go out to dinner. My dad died on Valentines Day 4 years ago. As kids we had a great day celebrating as I have a brother who was born on Valentines Day.
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2/13/14 8:21 P
I'll get him his favorite chocolates. It is usually him buying me flowers & chocolates. Should not be one-sided. I will always get each of our kids ages 9 to 18 [4 of them left at home] a nice valentine box of their favorite treat. So they feel special too.
That's going to take me hoofing through the snow, down the hill, to the store.
I'm not a fan of commercialism, either. All of our holidays are more or less contrived, so it doesn't matter to me what the reason - we're still expressing a sentiment on a day we've decided is "special".
If Valentine's Day is meant to show those we love our appreciation that we've found them and share our lives, then I can't see it being restricted to women. Don't we appreciate our guys? Sure, day to day stuff is appreciated by anyone. But isn't it nice to have a special showing? How happily embarrassing to have flowers, or some little gift, show up in a public venue. "Somebody loves me!" Sure, corny, maybe. But don't you believe that every other person in the room isn't noticing, and thinking, "gee, I'll bet that feels nice!"
When my DH and I were just dating, I used to send little foolishnesses to him at his job. I once had a big load of flowers (I mean B-I-G) delivered and placed on the front seat of his little bitty English sportscar... right where everybody would pass it and see this garden bursting out of all the windows and crevices. He fussed at me later... but he was smiling and blushing as he fussed. I had a local bakery deliver a "birthday" to his job one year. Cake and ice cream and decorations and party hats and favors... everybody loved it, and he had to acknowledge the personal holiday and take the friendly ribbing from his coworkers. The thing is, there's no predicting. Some years we don't celebrate anything. Some years, I just get in a mood at one holiday (not even necessarily a major one) and do some wackiness like this.
Our guys appreciate our affections and special efforts too. They deserve it! You WANT them there, don't you?!? Let them know.
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2/13/14 3:59 P
We have been married almost 45 yrs., we go out for dinner, and tonight we are celebrating early, so having dinner and going to an ice hockey game, and we always buy cards for each other. When we were younger and poorer, we did at least buy cards, and I admit I would get flowers and he would get some doo dad, but it's usually dinner out, at least. Lucky to still be together, he has had major health issues................
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Not, it's not just for women. I bought him a couple of gifts and we'll have dinner at home with candlelight, champagne, etc. One of the gifts I got him is dinner at a restaurant he likes, so we'll go out to celebrate on another night when it isn't so busy.
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I believe that every day you should show your loved ones you care. With that being said I do celebrate valentines day. I got Dennis a gift bag of stuff I knew he'd like. I got my friend and her 2 grandkids each a gift bag. I also believe that we should love ourselves so hopefully tomorrow I will do something for me.....
I don't buy in to Valentine's Day much, as it's a "manufactured holiday" and we try to always show each other that we care for each other, rather than saving it for one day a year!
We still celebrate it with some small thing. This year I bought him a trick yo-yo (he was talking about one during Christmas, now he can get back in to a hobby he enjoyed!), and a few years ago we went and saw Rambo IV (the theater was empty, LOL). We always do dinner at home because restaurants are too crazy. But for the most part, it's another day.
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4,848 2/13/14 11:09 A
I am not really a big fan of the bloated commercialism that surrounds most holidays whether they are "real" holidays or not. But I am a big fan of romance and Valentine's day has always been a good excuse for a bit of extra romance, right?
My husband proposed to me on Valentine's Day, 1995, and we went out that same night to pick out my ring. So the bar for Valentine's day was set pretty high for us from the start. In all honesty, I found the tradition of exchanging silly cards in elementary school to be fun, so I must add that to the mix.
One or two times through the years my husband has surprised me with a romantic show and overnight outing, but often times we just go out to dinner. I have already told him that he has spent way too much money on me (and himself, actually) for Christmas and other things and I do not want to do anything more than go out to dinner this year. Of course I expect he will get me a very nice card. I will usually get him a card too. Valentine's day may be for both, but to be honest, I don't "buy" him stuff (other than a card) or surprise him with gifts or anything on Valentine's day. He says he enjoys giving me stuff and expects nothing (other than love and affection of course) in return. I believe him.
This year, my brother's wife has passed away and the visiting hours and funeral are Friday and Saturday so I don't see that we will be celebrating Valentine's day very much this year. She and my brother got married the same year we did, 1995.
For me it's all about being together, I don't get caught up in all the hoopla we treat one another good everyday of the year that's what real love is all about not just celebrating it one day a year but doing special things for one another every single day. I appreciate the little things and so does he just cuddling watching a show together will be just fine for us, I know he has my back and he knows I have his. It's nice to get little tokens but honestly all I need is his time that's a gift in itself for me and he feels the same way. When there's real love you don't need more then to be with the one you love
Starting to like the new me! Waiting for my garden to come to life!
Ok gals, your guy takes you out or a give you a nice gift, I 'm a bit old fashioned and believe its about Love and being a Couples celebration so what do you buy or do (keep it clean) for your significant other/spouse?
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