I have to say that "stress" has many different levels - and that there are many reasonable reactions and coping mechanisms to "stress". It is important we each have a menu of stress-busting options to deal with challenges.
1. The everyday challenges - working late, bills, cars break down, sick kids, etc.
2. The major impact challenge - layoffs, moving, weddings, divorces, major illness, surgery, childbirth, car accident, job change, etc.
3. The major heavy-duty impact challenge - major personal illness, death of a close relative/child/spouse, bankruptcy, natural disasters, major personal loss.
Level 1 - an everyday stress, get over it, go to the gym, this "stuff" happens all the time.
Level 2 - Give yourself room to grieve, be sad, take comfort, but try to think of it as a life milestone, you have to come to grips with the impact, kind of like a car accident - take stock, deal with it, and move on. If you wallow, you suffer more and more.
Level 3 - This is "killer stress" in an unavoidable package - there is no simple answer like "exercise" or "go on vacation", this is more like "forgive how long it takes" kind of stress. You should exercise, eat well, go on vacation, enjoy family, etc. But time (and therapy) but more time, will help. Being healthy and strong help you deal, but this is "ground zero".
Some people never have a Level 3 issue, but you might be surprised - as I was - when it happened to me. Just love yourself enough to be healthy.
Level 3 - This is the "stress-killer" stuff, and there are no
Karen - Seacoast New Hampshire
Do or Do Not. There is No Try. Yoda
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