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Hang in there! I too have 50 lbs to lose too and most of my family don't get it either. It's difficult to find a happy median where everyone is happy with the food choices...but it's like a trial and error I find. I try new recipes and if they like it that's a keeper..if not I try to find another. Then make up a cookbook full of these recipes so I have it handy next time..I even wright little notes on the comments the family says about that recipe...it helps. My biggest issue really is emotional/stress eating and a limited budget on food. That's why I try to find a compromise with recipes so everyone is happy and we don't spend a lot on "special" foods for me. Stay strong...you've got this emoticon

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3/1/14 9:30 P

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I don't think so! My husband knows Ive been eating salads non stop - that's why he ordered a supreme pizza emoticon



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most of it.

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3/1/14 7:10 P

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Sort of. I try to make meals for the whole family that are healthier, rather than something for me and others for them. The lemon pepper chicken I made the other night was low cal, low fat and a giant hit with the whole family. They don't complain too much. I try to keep a balance of foods in the house. I think if I got really oriented on you CAN'T have that, they would want it just because it's off limits. The Halloween candy eventually went in a jar and then got thrown out by xmas. Yes, I did eat some. They didn't want it once they had some and it was out of plain sight. I hope some of my new habits rub off. I wish my DH would join me on sparkpeople, but he doesn't think its his thing. I hope he finds his thing soon, because we are both getting to the age where the extra weight can become a problem.



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3/1/14 9:51 A

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Yes, thankfully, they do. But, I'm careful that my changes don't leave them downright annoyed. In other words, they're kids. They like the occasional treat. I'm a salty snacked so I don't buy chips and whatnot. Instead, I bake cookies or a cake. I would never eat these things so they don't tempt me yet the kids don't feel deprived.



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2/28/14 11:51 P

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My family SO does not get it. I live with my in-laws, husband, and my daughter (she is only 10 months old) and they eat HORRIBLY. Both in-laws are diabetic but they eat more sweets, grease, and junk than I have ever seen! My mother-in-law is CONSTANTLY making pasta and sauce, mac n cheese, fried foods, and all sorts of desserts. There is nearly always a sheet cake or cookies in the house. They "support" me by NOT telling me I'm fat. I guess that's support. My husband supports me but does not want to diet (truth be told he could use a healthier food diet) so he brings in what he wants, hides it most of the time, and just buys me stuff separate. It wouldn't be so bad but if he buys me salad or something for me, it is guarenteed that my in-laws eat it on me and then claim they will replace it (which they never do) so yeah, I will say that I have a horrible time with family that just doesn't "get it" *phew*

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2/28/14 12:54 A

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I live alone so nobody is bringing trigger foods home. That is a huge help. I also cook all my own meals and do my own shopping, so that's another bonus. I lost 40 pounds this summer and when I went to visit my family, they didn't say a single word of encouragement or congratulations. Chumps! That's why I only see them once a year.



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2/27/14 2:12 P

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Sad to see so many people not getting the support they deserve.
At least there's SP!
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2/27/14 2:04 P

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i have one word to answer this NO i don't have any support for the excersices or the eating better foods from my family or any one else it is only me for me.








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2/26/14 9:38 P

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I am really lucky to have a really supportive husband. He finally gets portion control and now serves my meal on a salad plate instead of a large dinner plate. He wants to eat healthier even though he has no weight issues. He is very label literate and checks product labels at the grocery store and has engaged with good nutrition habits. My goal is to reach a healthy weight by my 60th birthday next December and he retires the following year so we want to create healthy and energetic bodies to travel with.
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2/26/14 6:15 P

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My kids say they wish I would just eat like I did before and stop talking about cals, fat, and servings. My husband listens to me but eats how he wants. I guess it doesn't bother me too much to have all that junk in the house LOL. I do however feed my family as health as I can get away with and have really portion controlled them big time. I'm the only fat one go figure. It's great to be loved just the way you are but not when it's not who you want to be or when it's unhealthy.
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2/26/14 3:46 P

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My hubby gets it in a way, but he still brings tempting foods into the house. If I can put the item in the refrigerator then it is ok. Out of sight, out of mind.



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2/26/14 3:16 P

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My husband sort of get it. He understands and he's supportive, but sometimes he really craves fast food and tries to convice me to join him. So I really need to be firm. Last time I gave in to temptation :(



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2/26/14 9:04 A

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My husband is just starting to understand, but this is after 2 years of working on losing weight AND he still wants treats in the house. He understands and completely supports me working out, but he just doesn't get the "keep it out of the house' thing. He wants me to just "not eat it" if it's there or control the amount I eat when I do eat it. I'm hoping he'll come around and realize that it simply doesn't work that way for me.

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2/25/14 11:28 P

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I just moved back to my parents house after living with my ex for the last 4 years. I'm using the change to make other life changes, such as losing weight and getting in better shape. I'm actually motivating my mom to do the same. We're sort of holding each other accountable,though she is doing weight watchers and I'm just tracking and exercising here. I'm bringing healthy food into the house and cooking healthy meals.

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2/25/14 5:45 P

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what about making an appointment with your pcp and or nutritionist and invite the family along? This round table discussion with a professional to review the pro's and effects of a healthy weight and impact on family life may "bring it home" and then they "may get it." good luck!


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My older daughter get's it! BUT my SO doesn't he likes me thick, NOT where I was but where I am now, and I want to be healthier and smaller.

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2/25/14 3:42 P

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I live alone so what I have in the house is what I bring in for the most part. When we have dinners at each other homes there are always good things and not so good things to choose from. Only the children are pushed toward the good stuff and the adults do what they feel is o.k. w/o interference.



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My husband is very supportive - eats what I eat (though he eats a bigger portion), works out with me, helps me make good choices.
My parent's are both super supportive too! They are both trying to lose weight as well. My mom even sends me motivational text messages if I tell her I'm hitting a wall.
My problem lies with my sister and brother-in-law. Both of them are still partiers and they want me to be as well, even though I don't really drink anymore. For example, they want me to go out with them this weekend, and then on St. Paddy's Day. Both times they will be performing and I know both events, my sister will be trying to buy me drinks. It's hard telling them no, but if they won't accept the fact that I can go out and have fun without eating and drinking bad, then I just can't go out with them.

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2/25/14 3:18 P

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I think my husband kind of gets it. I mean he knows I need to lose the weight in order to get pregnant and he always says that he wants to help, but then when it comes down to it he wants to get unhealthy stuff in house and go out and all this stuff that I know I can't do because I know I will just over eat.



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2/25/14 2:56 P

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I completely know how you feel. My kids and hubby prefer me heavier. This is why I have gained and lost the same 40 lbs throughout my life. I get tired of the struggle between the two worlds. Then they will say something like ' well at least you were skinny then'. It is hard . Now I am doing this for me. Life is a gift. Every breath is a gift. Take it.



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2/25/14 11:55 A

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I am struggling!!! My family husband and daughter both know i am 50 lbs over weight. Why do they have to sit there in front of me and eat junk food? It is bad enough i have to cook their meals for them and smell how yummy it is, GOD I'm feeling so frustrated! emoticon
It's bad enough it is freezing outside and I can't slip away for a walk. Any suggestions would be great HELP ME GOD PLEASE!!!

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My parents get inspired and are always optimistic even when I am not doing so good. I am grateful. My brother does not say it, but he respects it. I can tell.

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2/25/14 9:25 A

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My husband does and is very supportive, my daughter has a harder time understainding what i am trying to do, my son is just plain healthy and he wants me to be the same but he doesn't always get it.



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My family is supportive of almost everything I do in life.

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My husband and sons do.
The rest of my family have no idea



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2/24/14 12:57 P

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i havent told my family i want them to know once i have conquered my eating habbits and working out. i dont want to tell my family bc they want believe it till they see it.

i gotta stick with my goal. i can see my way through this this and i will succeed.


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Most of my family was happy to see me start losing weight. I was unhealthy, and wore baggy, unflattering clothes because of shame. A few people made comments, and when I started getting close to my goal my dad had a few comments. He now gets that my weight is healthy, and I'm happy, it's just different because I was chubby for so long.

I do have an aunt that won't talk to me though because of it. She posted an offensive comment about me not "being fed" (as if I'm not an adut who can feed herself) on a facebook picture. Concern is one thing, but being disrespected in front of everyone I know on facebook isn't cool. I deleted the comment and sent her a message trying to explain I was healthy, and her comment was offensive to me. She ranted, told me I looked like I weighed 100lbs, and deleted me.

I have plenty of support, and everyone I've told thinks she's overreacting. I'm not bothered by it, I don't need negativity in my life.

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2/24/14 12:30 P

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I am still working on getting them there. Since I am the cook it helps with getting better control of the evening meal.

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2/24/14 11:21 A

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My husband doesn't get portion control. He sees the way I portion out the protein and starch and I heap on the veggies and fruit and he thinks that I'm starving myself or saving my calories for "junk," which is not the case. I don't think he gets that women don't require as high a caloric intake as men.



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Most of the time, they do !



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2/23/14 11:45 P

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It is amazing to see such a wide range of support we all have. My husband supports me to the best of his ability which is not much. He has so many health issues and is deteriorating mentally due to dementia. But he tries. He loves what I cook for him and I am able to substitute healthy choices for the poorer choices we used to choose. And when I eat, I cut down on the portion size of the most unhealthy dishes.We had spaghetti today with wheat pasta and veggies on the side. I only had 1/2 C pasta, a little sauce and lots of veggies. No one even noticed what I was eating since my plate was full. Also, I had a smaller plate, but they did not notice that either. lol Sneaky, sneaky. All these things help me help myself.



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Not really, they get some of the healthy eating but really they think they 'know' everything. They follow fads without research and some only believe things if it fits what they want to hear.
My husband has been great and supports me in all of it, he recently started eating healthier with me as well. It hard since my family doesn't even talk about it with me, they think its 'easy' for me because I'm smaller than they are in size so to them I just don't understand. Because I 'like' to workout and they don't want to give things up or change even if it would improve their health.
Really I just do what I do and can only hope to inspire them to want to be healthier. All if my life they have teased me for eating healthy and not eating processed foods. But I still see that what I do influences them, even if they don't say so, little by little they have made tiny changes to their lives. Progress is progress, and I'm grateful that they try.



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My family has to get it. As the person that does all the meal planning, grocery shopping and cooking, they're either with me or they starve. When I went vegan last June, my whole family went vegan. My kids no longer even ask for chicken or beef when we go out to eat. In fact, my daughter wakes up on a Saturday morning wanting to juice instead of help make pancakes. I think those are very positive changes.
The rest of my friends and family don't really understand the vegan lifestyle but support me because they see how much weight I've lost, and my husband's lost and how much happier and healthier we are. Of course I get statements like, "I could NEVER go vegan.", "I love eggs and cheese too much.", "Where do you get your protein?", but I'm happy. I get plenty of protein. I've even dropped my cholesterol in 3 months.
It's not for everyone, but I'm the type of person that is all or nothing. It wasn't working for me any other way. Once I gave it everything I have, it's worked.



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My children get it and we try to support each other. Their father does not.

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My family tries to be supportive but they aren't as heavy as I am. The healthy eating is okay but they do like to indulge in desserts from time to time. I usually keep junk food out of the house but sometime they give it legs and open the door. They are about 10-20 pounds overweight and don't understand what it's like to be in pain and tired because of weight. The emotional side of losing weight is totally lost on them.
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My husband gets it and is supportive , however the rest of the family makes fun of my eating choices ( flexitarian -almost no meat) and exercise routine. Up until last week, when my 50 year old brother-in-law had a heart attack and underwent emergency triple bypass surgery. I'm waiting to see if the fried porkchop, fried okra, fried potato dinners change. Southern fried everything is sooo not good for you.

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My friend had the surgery a few years ago, and at first I was jealous watching the weight fall of of her, but she's literally sick all of the time; se cannot eat more than 1/2 a cup of food, many foods now make her ill, the surgery complicated her pregnancy. I would not wish what she goes through on a regular basis on my worst enemy.

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I agree that weight loss is lonely work. For me personally, I need to make the decision and just take care of it. All the help and groups in the world will not make a difference to me until I make the decision, so it has always been and will always be "lonely" work. That is not to say that having your family on board or being with groups does not help or assist, I believe they can and do help you to remain accountable. As an example, I have a son who has become much healthier due to my becoming healthier. He is working out and watching his food intake and actually becoming a vegetable lover or maybe more of an enjoyer. Now he made that decision for himself but I do like to think that my progress in the area assisted in that decision.



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2/22/14 3:44 A

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Just a small reminder to you (and your sister emoticon ) if she continues her livingstyle afer weightloss surgery she will be back to where she started in a few years. By the way ensurances only pay for this surgery if you prove lifestyle change and weightloss for some time before the surgery, even if there is a big health risk if its not done!

DOn't let them discourage you!
Have a nice day



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Not at all. I feel like I know in my heart that I can do this, this can be the time that it finally sticks, but no one else seems to care much. Every day there is some new temptation. I walked into the kitchen and saw 4 bags of valentines day candy laying on the counter.. In a house that 3 people live in. It makes me angry, and frustrated, and worst of all, discouraged.

Every few weeks my sister will talk about getting weight-loss surgery, while binge eating chocolate and lunch cakes.. She thinks it's a quick fix and gets defensive when you try to explain that your mind needs to be ready for a change like that, and hers isn't. I also get irritated thinking about it for a selfish reason, too. As wrong as that may sound.. I'm working hard to do this, she is doing nothing but sabotaging me, but if/when she gets the surgery, the weight is going to start falling off and I'll be left chugging along for years to come, still trying to get rid of this.

It's really hard to do it when no one has faith in you, but you have to have faith in yourself and realize that you're never going to change them, but they can't change you either. Train your mind and you body will follow.

Nothing changes if you're comfortable.


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