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6/8/14 9:51 P

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I am a widow who lives alone. However, my children and their families all get it because we all are striving to be healthy.

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No way! My husband won't even *try* to get it either. :(



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6/3/14 8:58 A

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No


“Knowing is not enough; we must apply. Willing is not enough; we must do.” ~Johann von Goethe


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6/3/14 8:44 A

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On one note my husband encourages me to run, the next moment he is trying to hand me chocolate cake. And b/c is one of those people who able to eat whatever he wants and stay like a twig, I buy 3 different diets for the family,,, so no..

"Why not go out on a limb? Isn't that where the fruit is?"


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emoticon depends on what mood they are in. Sometimes the mouth says they "get it" but the action speak otherwise. Healthy lifestyle choice is here.

"One of the secrets of life is to make stepping-stones out of stumbling blocks." -- Jack Penn


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3/24/14 5:20 P

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I'm very lucky that my hubby is supportive and encouraging without being annoying or overbearing. :) And he's more than happy to switch to a mostly vegetarian diet!



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3/24/14 3:20 P

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Yourmern - that's too funny that he had a backlash and needed pizza. I know mine will go out and buy every junk food, even ones he doesn't like!



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Yes. They are very supportive.

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I understand completely. My husband made a comment yesterday about my "measuring food." I was very upset. He was suppose to start a life change with me, but no luck. I am on my own. Then I ate a sugar free pudding and was told by father in law, 'That's not good for you."
I responded, "It's better for me than what you eat." I was already grouchy and feeling under the weather. You see six years ago I lost over 100 pounds, just by changing my life style and I kept it off until 2012. I was put on bed rest, lost my job and had two surgeries, one in August 2012 and February 2013. Since then I have been depressed and eat.
I started back to school to earn my Bachelor's degree in October of 2013. This week I decided it was time for the old me to come back. I have lost 3 pounds this week, probably water retention, but hey for me it was 3 pounds! By my birthday I will have 25 pounds more off and by September I will have reached my goal weight.
My point is - You can do it!!!! emoticon



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My husband gets it for the most part. He knows I need to lose the weight for us to have a family but he doesn't help much.

As for the rest of my family, they should get it, but they don't. Everyone in my family is big, but 3 people have already have had the bypass surgery, they keep pushing it on me, but I don't want it...



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3/18/14 1:00 P

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My husband doesn't quite get it. He prefers a little bit of meat on a woman and if I get down on the thinner side he won't say anything, but he'll encourage me to eat more. There was this one time where both my husband and his mother ganged up on me about how I could use to gain about 10-20 pounds. Of course I went ballistic! Which is why he usually doesn't say anything but having mom in his corner made him brave!! emoticon

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3/18/14 10:44 A

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Heck no, not even a little bit! I've moved past that stage in my life - to old to give a damn!

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3/17/14 11:22 P

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Atta girl, Holly! So happy you've chosen a healthy route! You can guarantee that the weight you lose will stay off if you lose it in the manner that you've chosen! One thing I'm going to say that's shocking — EMBRACE THE PLATEAUS! Yep... you heard me right. Our bodies strive to maintain a "set point" and will fight us every step of the way when we try to force it to change. The body gets to a stage where it starts saying "EMERGENCY!" and starts reserving everything it gets — and I believe that's when you plateau. SO: since calories in = calories out, just find a comfortable spot to maintain that plateau for a little while. "Give in" to it, basically. Why? Because you will be creating a NEW set point where your body gets comfortable. Let it "set" when it wants to. Take a bit of a break, maintain the plateau, and then when your body gets comfy there, you will be able to start losing again. I believe that people experience yo-yo dieting because they a) lose it too fast and b) try to "force" their bodies out of plateaus by "trying harder" — they just push their bodies further into "EMERGENCY MODE" and foil the whole works. SO: keep being smart like you are. Lose the weight slowly, even if it takes far, far longer than you would like. Because if you do it right the first time, you'll never have to do it again! And... tell your goofy boyfriend it's OK to approach this like the general "oaf" that our beloved male counterparts can be. Have at it, buddy. Don't come crying to us when the weight comes back. :-P



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3/17/14 6:37 P

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Not so much... I don't really have much family around me anymore -- just my boyfriend. He went on a diet the same time I did and is losing weight like crazy. He boasts about it and makes me feel bad. However, he is going about it in an unhealthy way -- just counting calories and eating what he wants with no exercise. I may have only lost one pound so far, but this is a new and healthy lifestyle for me -- and I am going to keep on doing what I'm doing!



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3/17/14 3:14 P

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My mom has taken control of her health in the past 5 years ...she get it and even though she has a limited budget she totally eats organic and eats fruits and veggies. She is 70 years old and works out 5 times a week. She has shed 50 lbs. My mom waved good bye to plus sizes and she is so shocked when she put on 16 misses pant and a 12 jacket!

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My husband is great and as he does a lot of the cooking (we are retired and share cooking and cleaning) I find his being aware of my weight loss efforts helps! He asks what we should have for a meal and he is learning a lot about healthy cooking and nutrition. I think I am very lucky to have the support! If there was chocolate and snacks around me I would struggle more than I am now.

You’ll get where you want to go as long as you take more steps in the right direction than the wrong one.


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No, they don't! It's so hard to avoid sweets and unhealthy snacks when my husband is constantly bringing them into the house. He has taken to hiding his snacks so I don't see them( that is so wrong on so many levels) he has not come on board the healthy eating train but I am determined to do my best, with his support or not!

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After reading several posts here. I am glad to know that i am not the only one who struggles with family sabotaging my eating and exercise. change is hard. It's hard for me but it is also hard for my family.

slow and steady wins the race... I think I can , I think I can, I think I can...Just one step at a time, I can do this!


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3/13/14 7:59 A

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they better or they can leave.

YOU ONLY LIVE ONCE!


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3/12/14 9:22 P

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Most of them do. I'm not sure my dad does but he's never struggled with his weight. I don't think it's purposeful; its just not something he faces. Makes it hard sometimes but overall it's okay. emoticon



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I am so fortunate that my husband and son "Get it." I don't ask what they eat when they are away from home, and they don't bring home things I shouldn't eat. As for everyone else, I haven't talked to them about it. This is my choice, and I have to be willing and able to make the right choices when in "public." Only I can do this, it is no one else's responsibility.

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3/12/14 2:51 P

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NO! DH TAKE ALL OUR FOOD PREP FOR GRANTED. AFTER ALL IT IS "MY JOB". GUYS GET TO RETIRE BUT THEIR WIVES NEVER DO. WE STILL HAVE ALL THE DAILY CHORES TO DO WHILE HE RELAXES AND DOES HIS OWN THING. NOT ALL GUYS ARE LIKE THIS BUT MOST OVER 50 ARE.

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right on!!!

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good job!!!

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just keep doing the right thing!

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don't give up

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don't give up

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It's kind of sad when family members, whether consciously or unconsciously, try to sabotage what you are trying to accomplish. Is it out of fear? Fear that you might be successful and might change who you are? Fear that you addressing your short-comings might force them to address their own short-comings? Or is it just plain "They just don't get it?" I really have no answers, just rants!

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No

Remember to take time to enjoy the journey!


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They do. They're very supportive.



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my family gets it in a way but still most have no clue

http://www.terrorsofmen.com/ the website of the most inspiring man i know


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I made a post on here yesterday about this. Again What do I have to do totally loose my mind and scream "I AM FAT, I AM TRYING TO LOOSE WEIGHT!!!!" QUIT SHOVING YOUR FOOD IN MY FACE!!! Gosh, no nobody gets it. I was with someone today and while I was waiting for her to get done doing what she had to I decided to eat a banana and I was almost done when she came out and she says take me over to White Castle so I can get something " Do you want some? " UM NO!!!!! I need to loose, then asked when we could go to LA MEX Restaurant for lunch and Margaritas, my reply UM my bday, well that's 2 months away SORRY and I flat out told her I'm tired of everyone throwing a wrench in to my weight loss and ruining it. Gosh, I'm sorry everyone I just needed to vent........

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no they dont

i gotta stick with my goal. i can see my way through this this and i will succeed.


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My DH didn't get it. he kept saying he didn't care what my weight was he just wanted me to be happy. My Dr. explained to him that I would be happier in the long run if I got the weight off my knees. Now he doesn't understand what foods I need but if I tell him that food isn't good he doesn't get it again.

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no my family dones not get it they jsut keep eating the junk food and eat most of the meal that we fix it is all junk food I say i need to eat better if I want to los the weight myhusband knows he needs to get healthy but don't do anything to make things better he want to start walking like I have with my dogs now that the weather is getting better , he always has an excuse why he can't come out with us oh well if he don't want the health i can't change his mine I have tried. thanks for being there for me all my Spark friends. with you I will change my ugly weight. .







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My family "gets it," but it didn't just miraculously happen like that. Your family really needs to be willing to support you, and then it's your job to help them understand how to best do that.

So if you're having challenges with a family who doesn't "get it," then first try to figure out where the exact challenge is. Do they not WANT to be supportive? Or do they not know HOW?

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It's amazing to me that so many have responded to my question and even more reassuring that so many people are in the same boat as me, sometimes when you are trecking through the "sludge" it's hard to see how many people are in the same boat. Thank you all!

Every day no matter what happened the day before I will get up, dust myself off and start fresh!


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Yeah, they get it, but it came with a lot of head-banging. The family I live with got it right away, but my extended family used to offer up all kinds of bad food choices. I had to constantly remind them that I didn't eat that anymore. I never got any judgment, it was more forgetfulness. Now most of the time they remember, and if they don't, I just say "no thanks" and I get the "oh yeah" look. It's all good though. They don't have to like what I'm doing and frankly, I don't care if they like it or not. If they're saying anything about it now, it isn't within my earshot. And the family that lives with me is all on their own separate eating plans and nobody ever says anything to anyone else. I think we all figure it's none of our business what anyone else eats. It does make grocery shopping interesting though :-)

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My boyfriend TOTALLY gets it, and is doing this with me. I have gone gluten, dairy and sugar free, and he has gone all but the gluten free. To give him credit though he has cut back significantly. My main family back in Nebraska are supportive but have reservations, I mean gluten, dairy AND sugar free? What do you EAT?? haha but it is okay I find things to eat and don't make a big deal of it!! They want me to be healthy and happy, so that is all there is to it!



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3/10/14 10:57 A

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No they don't get it! Let's put it this way, I will be sitting there eating a banana, and they will sit right in front of me eating nachos or McDonalds, I will go grab for a fry and they say no your on a diet just makes me want to rip their head off. Thats when the claws come out and oh yes i will get a couple of fries. Why do they have to do that to me, it really makes me sad.

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yes!

It's the job that's never started takes longest to finish.
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My wife "gets it" just fine. The rest of my family give lip service, but constantly offer unhealthy food choices. The fact that they are all overweight too makes it seem to me like they are unconsciously (or even consciously) trying to sabotage my healthy eating, so they don't have to face themselves.

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In theory but its really a no. I have a loud italian family which revolves around food. My mother has been on the Weight Watchers kick for oh prob 30 years and hasn't had much success. At least maintaining. She makes comments about how I look but makes it very hard to be around her and resist food. Same problem where I live. I feel like I don't have a safe food space bc there is crap everywhere! I get frustrated and think I could have made so much more progress but just trying to focus on the positive and moving forward however slow is good.

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In a word, no. When I first started my "lifestyle" change I was doing it for my family. So I would be healthier and better able to care for them but when I didn't get any support I realized that in order to be successful I needed to change for myself. Now when I eat what I shouldn't or stop exercising I have only myself to blame. It is easier to see the faults in myself than to blame others.I give myself a stern talking to and get back at it!



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Good question. Sometimes I think yes and sometimes I think no. I have been on/off diets and programs many times in the past. I know he is saying to himself "Here she goes again". or maybe that is me saying that and I think he is too. As someone else said, I am making this my life plan. So I don't go crazy when I have a 3400 calorie day because something unexpected comes up but I do tend to go crazy if I don't get my 10,000 steps each day. I have to say my husband has been very supportive when I am either walking through the house getting my steps or going outside at 9:00 at night to walk just 15 more minutes.

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No, my husband has type 2 diabetes and is on meds for that as well as cholesterol and a few other things. He refuses to eat healthy and seems to think a pill is the cure for everything. It is very frustrating to cook for us as he refuses to eat most vegetables, except corn or carrots, and he likes his red meat and potatoes. He also has a sweet tooth so is always buying pies and cookies which I will not eat. He rarely eats salad and when he does it is usually just a little bit of iceberg lettuce with thousand island dressing ( his favorite). If I put anything else in it he picks it out and leaves it on his plate. He doesn't get it that his unhealthy eating habits will catch up to him one day! I have made up my mind that I will continue to eat as healthy as I can because I'm doing this for me and no one else. I'm so glad I found Sparkpeople by accident when I was on the internet. I like the trackers and the Sparkpeople Cafe. I purchased the activity tracker recently and, even though I have a knee injury right now, am trying to get in as many steps as I can.



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once he sees the positive results he may jump on board. it is kind of like a sports team no one cares until they start to win.




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My boyfriend does NOT get it! He came home from his parents yesterday with a brownie for me. I ate it and enjoyed it, but my life would have been no less complete without it. He does not see why I would want to join a gym (did it anyway!) Uuuuhhhgghhhhh.....so frustrating!



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It's just me and my two cats. Since they love me no matter what, they get it.



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3/7/14 2:49 A

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my family gets it for me but that is because they also want to do the same thing. You have to want it for your self and forget about every body else. when they are ready for the journey they will join you. My dad had triple bypass surgery a few years ago. He still eats crap 4 times a week that I cant eat twice a week on my current diet. I made a chicken and rice soup for his lunch and then for dinner my mom took him to their good friends house with a deep dish pizza.
The thing is I cant force people to get on this train with me, and I cant let them get me off of this train. when they see positive results my ass shrinking they will be more interested in getting on this train with me. But I can care less about what they do for now I am going to curb my behavior the way I know I must.



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I'm sorry they don't get, it sounds like you're having a rough time! It really sucks when you kind of have to live a double life - holding yourself to one standard while those closest to you are following other standards in the same household and daily life.

If I were you, I would get stern. Start cooking healthier meals for them that are good for YOU and THEM (remember, just because someone isn't overweight, doesn't mean they're healthy - everyone needs to eat right and exercise regardless of body weight). Also, do your research and let them know how bad things can happen to you when you don't take care of your body. Heart disease, diabetes, depression, dementia (studies show that people who get degenerative diseases like dementia/Alzheimer's have rabid sweet tooths their whole lives). Eating bad can really rob you of years from your life!

Eating right and exercising isn't only about losing weight - it's about being healthy and improving your quality of life. And when you feel better and are healthier, you can take care of them better too!

You're doing the right thing - hang in there.

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3/6/14 11:00 A

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My husband verbally says he supports me, but does not think to "step up". I have to ask him.

He grumbles a bit sometimes, but takes care of our little one while I go to the gym, and never complains about the nutritious foods I prepare.

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Food can be such a sensitive topic.

Since you have kids, a place to start might be by reading Ellyn Satter's work on Feeding Your Family, and talking about what you want the food landscape to look like in your house - what habits do you want to teach your children, knowing that they will learn best from your behavior, not your words?

It might be worth sitting down with him and making a formal agreement that neither of you will give the other a hard time about anything food-related. He will not push food on you that you don't want, and you will not push food on him that he doesn't want. Putting it in those words might help, and at least clear the air and make it clear what you want.

Take life one day at a time - enjoy today before you worry about tomorrow.


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Yes, thankfully, all of us "get it". I have great support & outside influence that helps my children stay motivated! It has helped them to see & hear from someone besides just their dad & I. Now, our extended family doesn't quite understand our commitment to health, but they are still supportive.

He (The Lord) said to me, "My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness." Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ's power may rest on me. ~2 Corinthians 12:9


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Thank heaven my husband does, and he's supportive.

He eats a lot, but he must have a high metabolism. He eats three meals a day, plus nutritious snacks, and usually walks the dog, somewhere from one to three times a day. That's his exercise, and he's slender!

Me, on the other hand - it's a different story, but I'm glad he supports what I'm doing, and what I want for myself. He's been a big support to me in the past, and knows I love sports. The rest of my family - I think they'll only care when they notice me back in my "proper" clothes.

MsBootcamp

"The most effective fitness workout is the one you do!"

"In 10 sessions you'll feel the difference, in 20 sessions you'll see the difference, and in 30 sessions you'll have a different body"- Joseph Pilates, on his training method

30 to 90 mins of cardio and strength/resistance, 5 days/wk

Dr-supervised Bio Hormone Therapy + Nutrition + Sleep + Stress Mgmt might start to = Fitness (partly borrowed from Fitness on the Run, Alexandria, VA USA)


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My fiance kind of gets it, but he's naturally thin and so often doesn't understand on the level I wish he would. Nevertheless, he supports me!

"I am only one, but still I am one. I cannot do everything, but still I can do something; and because I cannot do everything, I will not refuse to do something that I can do."
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3/4/14 11:01 P

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My family is supportive, but also thinking "here's Mom on another diet for a few days."
That's ok.
I just smile to myself because I'm not on a diet. I building a healthy new me.

Edited by: MOMMELL at: 3/4/2014 (23:03)
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Luckily they do.



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My family is very supportive of everything that I do. My mom actually lost 40+ pounds a few years ago, and she is now a personal trainer; so she definitely understands my desire to lose weight. I am so thankful for the support I receive from my family!

"Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you."-1 Peter 5:7


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My boyfriend is starting to get it. For instance today we made a pasta salad with whole wheat pasta (our first experience with it) and fat free Italian dressing. It turned out pretty good so I think he is starting to realize that healthy can be tasty too. He does often encourage me to be "bad". If I say I want a cookie he'll say "so have it", but he's getting better there too.

Positive thoughts lead to positive actions which yield positive results.


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My husband didn't get it at first. I had to make a major change in my eating habits because I was diagnosed with type 2 diabetes. My husband was bringing home boxes of frosted sugar cookies, trying to take me to restaurants and asking for heavy pasta dishes or enchiladas for dinner every night.

Then one of his friends, who he didn't even know had diabetes, had to get a toe amputated, and all of a sudden my husband is totally on board with my new way of eating.

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My husband doesn't get it at all. I get the eye roll when I talk about diet and fitness or about the Spark People. It is very upsetting to get no support. I have worked very hard to reach my goal. He thinks that now that I am thin, I can just eat whatever, he doesn't understand that I needed to re-train myself in my eating habits. Otherwise, what was the point. I will just gain all the weight back like I have in the past. I have tried to talk to him about this but he isn't interested in talking about it so I just continue to do what I have to do for my health and well being. emoticon



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No my husband doesn't get it at all....he keeps buying chips and candy and sits there and eats it in front of me all the time. He says "you are the one on a diet not me". For the record I am not on a diet...I eat healthy.....he is about 150 pounds over weight but refused to do anything about it...which is his choice but I wish he supported my efforts....when I try and workout when he is home he keeps coming in the room to talk to me...and asked how much long I am going to be....same question all the time when I workout for the same amount of time every day. I do however have a great support team in the work place...Just wish I could get the same at home...doesn't change what I have to do...just adds a challenge....and I am always up for a challenge! emoticon

Keep Smiling with Dy :)


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3/4/14 5:16 A

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My husband calls me the health bunny and he is moderately supportive, but tries to be the devil on my shoulder when it comes to bad unhealthy choices. Obviously real life is about not cutting some things out 100%, but it is hard when the cupboard has everything you know you shouldn't eat. Sometimes it is exhausting always saying no, it would be nice to have more uplifting choices. Being in a healthy home isn't just for one person, its for everyone.. I've had him hide the nutella from me haha, which is pretty hilarious because the moment I realize I'm hunting in my own home, the more time I have to feel ridiculous. Stay strong spark people!!



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Yes and no... My sister, (with whom I'm temporarily staying with) is very supportive in regard to my weight loss and exercise. Yet, she still insists on buying unhealthy, tempting snacks. It can be very difficult resisting chocolate ice cream, a variety of salted nuts, cookies, and pizza. I've tried to get her to eat healthier, but to no avail. It really can be tough when I'm at my weakest (8 to 10 pm). In fact, every time I have fallen off the wagon, was due to the goodies in her cupboard... emoticon



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The more information and education I show my husband the more he understands. I recently took him through several quizzes to determine what his body can do (he has always maintained a healthy weight) vs mine (i can't tolerate large amounts of carbs and need protein with every meal). These really helped him to see why I have begun making healthier choices for me and how we can both work around each other to make good choices for us as a couple trying to stick to a food budget.



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I live alone, but I correspond with my sister and parents regularly. All of us want to make healthy changes in our lives, but lately I've been the only one seeing progress. I went home to visit them all last weekend with my boyfriend, and my mom told us to help ourselves to a treat from the snack cupboard (a multi-shelf pantry cupboard full of mini candy bars, cookies, chips, fruit snacks, and licorice... a designated cupboard that has been there since I was a kid). I flat-out asked her, "Mom, with all of us trying to be healthier, and with my 7-year-old nephew already struggling with his weight, why do you still have this snack cupboard?" She cheerfully responded, "Oh, we could never get rid of the HAPPY CUPBOARD!"

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NO!!!!



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Nope, not at all... so sad

Fakin' it, til I make it!!!



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Not even a little bit.



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As with most things, my answer is a mixed bag - not all one thing or another.

All of my family 'say' they get it and, thankfully, most of them do. Some, however, don't really have a clue, but they haven't really listened to any of the challenges I've faced in the past few years. The people closest to me 'get it.' Those who are not as involved don't.

Since I choose to be flexible when eating out or at someone else's home - making the best choices I can from what I am learning - I make it less of an issue for everyone. I only really have to worry about me and what I am doing / learning / feeling,

I took the road less travelled by, and that has made all the difference. - Robert Frost


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Yes but they don't want to do it emoticon

How can you know that you can't unless you have tried and failed.

Join the 10 minute challenge and get exercising.

See what you are made of by joining the 100 day challenge.

Links on my Spark page.

Don't forget to make your workout fun so as not to get bored with it.

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Yes, they do and are supportive


I did my best today, tomorrow I will do even better.


 
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