@Sheryl - my parents have been divorced close to 50 years. And mom is still holding a grudge!
my dad, on the other hand - he's so laid back. He says he learned so much when mom left him. He lost 'everything he cared about' (his wife & 2 daughters) because he was 'an immature jealous jerk'. He moved on years ago and learned that being jealous doesn't change a darn thing. If somebody is going to cheat, they are going to cheat. Being jealous won't prevent it. And if they don't cheat and you're a jealous maniac, well you just make yourself and your SO miserable.
mom also cut ties with her sister many years ago. They were never close, but mom just completely cut her off. Sis & I really missed them (we lived with them for a year; we got very close to our cousins), so I sent a card to the last address I had. My uncle called me and told me that my aunt was in the hospital with serious health issues and dementia. I didn't get to see her before she died, but sis & I did drive out to Louisiana and see our uncle and 3 of our 4 cousins (one moved out of state). When I told mom her sis had died, she just said "I feel bad for Jerry (my uncle) & the girls". She always loved her BIL, but still won't contact him. YOUR SISTER IS DEAD. Let it go!
mom doesn't speak to her brother any more because "I always call him; he never calls me". Wow. THAT'S real mature.
Fortunately when I found my aunt and uncle, mom's brother had moved out there to help take care of his sis. He and Jerry always got along, so he stayed. They have a lot in common and they are enjoying life.
meanwhile, mom's circle of friends/family just gets smaller and smaller. I'm pretty sure one day she'll get PO'd at me about something. Nothing I can do about it though!
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