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JAMIRBLAZE
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12/13/13 9:46 A

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I'm reserved to everyone, but people are definitely friendlier to me at 140 lbs, than they ever were at 250+ lbs. My most recent drop from a size 12 to a size 4 made that even more obvious. I'm not terribly social, so a lot of the time, it annoys me, but sometimes, it works to my advantage. emoticon



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12/13/13 9:27 A

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Often it has nothing to do about the height the man is....that is merely and effect not a cause of his brusqueness. Just my opinion ....BTW I have always preferred men 5'9" and below as I don't like when men tower over me....see we all have something out of the norm.



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12/12/13 5:30 P

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I think people ARE more respectful to people who look healthy. I think it goes with the unwritten rule that people who look like they value themselves by taking care of themselves...seem to command more polite respect from others.
So either...other people don't drop these useless comments
or the healthier you are, the less you care about these useless comments.
Either way...it's a win

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As I've lost weight, a lot of people have commented that I look or seem taller. I was always tall to begin with, but as I have become more proportional, it is more obvious.

Maybe without all of the fat you don't seem so short anymore. :)

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12/12/13 3:32 P

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I do not know any short males (or females) who overcompensate for their height.

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12/12/13 10:53 A

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I haven't come across any short men who over compensate for their height - or lack of it. But I have come across women who have done well in business, head teacher of school etc and have met some quite bitchy characters - as if in their fight for the top, they've lost any compassion for others.

Do you have The Apprentice is US? In England there are nearly always some very bitchy women fighting for the top place while the men are often more compassionate as maybe they don't feel they have so much to prove.



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12/12/13 9:31 A

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First paragraph from Wikipedia on Napoleon Complex:
Napoleon complex, or "short man syndrome", is a pejorative slang term describing a type of psychological phenomenon which is said to exist in people, usually men, of short stature. It is characterized by overly-aggressive or domineering social behaviour, and carries the implication that such behaviour is compensatory for the subjects' stature. The term is also used more generally to describe people who are driven by a perceived handicap to overcompensate in other aspects of their lives. Other names for the term include Napoleon syndrome and Short Man syndrome.
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Hahahaha, I have been called this by some spiteful people during my lifetime (I'm 5'6") but haven't in a while or at least since I started living a healthy life-style and I wonder sometimes if my appearance has either deterred people from saying this about me or that my level of confidence is noticeably stronger and I now don't sound like I'm making up for being short, bald and fat? (I am still the former two, lol)

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Do you know of someone, or perhaps yourself, who has had folks adjust their attitude towards a person who was previously out of shape and now looking and living healthier?

My close friends both in real life (IRL) and here on SP know that I can be a "button-pusher" and also flirty and naughty all wrapped together and when I was FAT I was overboard, there wasn't a lunch time with colleagues that went by without me somehow making conversations go south as in raunchy or fifth grade boy humor (btw, I have never had anyone at lunch be offended by this or at least to my knowledge but the times I wasn't there I'd hear about how boring lunch was, lol).

I'd like to think that I have curbed that behavior a bit the last five years or so and on several occasions I just don't talk at all at lunch just so that I can appreciate polite conversation.....really.

Another question somewhat related to the original topic:
Bossy short men can be said they have short-man complex, is that the same as bossy women having a bossy b*tch complex? My opinion, I don't think so, I think the term for bossy men is much more accurate than for women.

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