I'm with BunnyKicks on this one-- I've known guys who are extremely conscious of their weight. They do handle it differently, though. It's a combination of being more realistic about it and doing that "best defense is a good offense" thing that guys do. I used to put a lot of time and angst into finding clothes that "made me look slimmer," as if wearing all one color or an A-line skirt instead of pleats could hide 60 extra pounds. Guys don't do that; they know that avoiding horizontal stripes makes maybe a 2% difference in how they look. And as for talking about it, a lot of that IMO is sort of "I'm going to make fun of myself first so I beat you to the punch."
I do think men get a pass on being overweight as long as they're not obese. Guys really don't agonize over an extra 20 pounds the way women agonize over an extra 5. But when they get to the point where there are things they can't do because of their weight, or they're obese enough that strangers might comment, they agonize every bit as much. They just don't show it the same way.
"Men just don't worry like we do...They also don't worry about if they look fat"
ohhhh i don't know about that. my spouse and son are both overweight and while you won't ever hear them wailing and gnashing their teeth about whether they "look fat in these pants" - i assure you, they worry about it. perhaps they internalize it better... or feel more socially-compelled to "put on a brave face"/laugh it off like it doesn't bother them or like "they meant to be that size on purpose." But excess weight bothers the men in my life as much as it bothers me, even if we express our worry in different degrees or different ways.
Goal 1 - break 200 (46 pounds lost)**DONE** Goal 2 - leave obesity behind (BMI 29.9, at 185#) **DONE** Goal 3 - BMI = Normal (154# or less)
I read about one family where all the men used to weight themselves before and after the Thanksgiving meal, and they competed to see who could put on most weight during the meal! I don't know what the prize was. Another helping of pumpkin pie?
Fitness Minutes: (25,679)
1,673 11/29/13 4:42 P
So, yesterday, at the family Thanksgiving feast, two of my relatives (a father and his SIL) were sitting on the couch digesting their meal. As they sat and watched the football game, they started talking about their guts. Specifically, the SIL was teasing his FIL about the size of his gut. The FIL had been extremely slim for a very long time. Now that he's older, he's getting some middle age spread. For years, the FIL teased his SIL about his weight. The SIL (in his 30s) was always a bit stocky, but not obese. Sitting at the couch, the starting pointing fingers and wondered WHOSE gut was now bigger ?
I sat there and told them, that conversation is something you'd never ever hear a group of women discuss. And yet, this is not the first time I've heard this conversation. Last week, at work, the guys were talking about their weight. There is a scale in the cafeteria. Some of them decided to hop on and see what they weighed after having eaten the turkey lunch. I said to them, you won't see any woman do that. And yet, every single one of them, regardless of their weight/size, didn't even think twice about discussing their weight. Could have cared less about what the scale said.
Why can't women take that same attitude about the scale ? We do so many of us tie our emotional state to that number ? Why can't we be more like the guys and just take it for what it is, a number.
Have you seen this before ? Did the guys in your house start comparing their waistlines ?
SparkPeople, SparkCoach, SparkPages, SparkPoints, SparkDiet, SparkAmerica, SparkRecipes, DailySpark, and other marks are trademarks of SparkPeople, Inc. All Rights Reserved.
SPARKPEOPLE is a registered trademark of SparkPeople, Inc. in the United States, European Union, Canada, and Australia. All rights reserved.