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11/19/13 7:54 P

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I merely want them to be there when I have a bad day and tell me to keep going in a forward direction.



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11/19/13 7:47 P

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Mt pet peeve is when someone (a friend, relative) says to me when we are at a luncheon, out to dinner, buffet, etc., is that all your having? I never ate a lot at one sitting since I can remember. I eat comfortably for me. People then ask if I am dieting, something I never talk about. I want to lose 15 pounds but I don't want to discuss it. So to me diet support is not to make a comment on what I eat or don't eat. I feel being judged when they ask and I feel funny saying I have a small stomach when I am overweight. The comment makes me uncomfortable.

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11/19/13 7:28 P

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I never expected "help" from anyone, it's a personal thing, and the 6 times that I've lost a lot of weight, it was me saying "NO", didn't matter where I went or who cooked what. Something deep inside of you has to "click". Unfortunately, it never stayed "clicked"...............another person cannot change your mind or attitude about eating or not eating, in fact, you might resent them, whether they tempt you to eat or keep on nagging you. Nagging never helped anyone!!! Support from within is always with you, day and night, and especially when you are "alone".

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11/19/13 7:15 P

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I expect them just not to go out of their way to be mean.

If they decide to, anyway, OUT they go! This old world is overpopulated, and I don't need such people.



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11/19/13 6:30 P

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I have never binged, so...

Don't people do that in private though? How would a friend even know?

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11/19/13 5:53 P

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we know how hard it is to lose...
if you started bingeing would you want your close friend to give you a gentle nudge?

Edited by: SHERYLDS at: 11/19/2013 (17:56)
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11/19/13 12:42 P

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I do not expect help beyond perhaps just listening.

I am lucky to have a lot of friends who are former athletes, dancers, fitness fanatics or health nuts, so I do not feel bad about talking to my friends about workouts or what I am eating.

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11/19/13 12:31 P

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don't tempt me with my favorite foods

ask me to exercise with you

I pretty much do those things for friends/family trying to lose weight. If they tell me something else that would help, I'll do my best to do that too (unless it's some crazy fad)

my mom is the worst as far as food goes. She always says she wishes my DH would lose weight (strictly for health reasons), but she'll make him a very decadent butter pecan cheesecake for every family dinner.
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11/19/13 9:46 A

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some people define support as BACK ME UP.
but a lot of time ... that back up ... is a moving target;
Sometimes it depends on your mood.
So...when you share your desire to lose weight and tell your close friend,
How do you expect them to HELP you.

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