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11/19/13 7:13 P

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Some days I'm good but today was bad. I had no motivation to do anything I sat on the couch and snacked. Then ate a whole frozen pizza between my husband and I.

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11/3/13 5:32 P

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NOMOREGODDESS,

I loved what you said about how you cannot go to food and let it manage your emotions and stuff all your emotional mood swings. Furthermore, I liked how you said that you pray about things then deal with the appropriate emotions. I have to look at emotional stuff like that to. This last week I learned a hard lesson, I had been praying for God to give a conviction on eating sweets- well I ate a ton of sweets one night before bed and I suffered a 'sugar hangover' with a monster migraine for 2 days. I was eating the sweets because I was unconsciously eating and going along with my husband how can eat a 7-11 and not gain an ounce. I know what he does is not healthy but I don't have to eat like that. Now I take my emotions to God and let Him deal with them. Great Post!


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easy! i'm committed!

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This one is a struggle for me. It is hard not to hide my feeling in the chip & dip bowl. I have to re-balance my all of my relationships: with God, food, family, friends & co-workers. I cannot go to food to manage & stuff all of my emotional mood swings. I have to pray and take things to God first then deal with (& deal out) the appropriate emotions from & to the right people at the right time.



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when I'm with my children @ their homes (they live out of state) there's not really a problem. My daughter & daughter in love are both focused on healthy eating & are setting great examples for my grandchildren. At my parents'(again out of state) their diet is atrociously unhealthy. So I pack my choices, take them out or offer to cook for them. When visiting my husband's siblings (yes once again out of state) its hit or miss often miss terribly & they are at times offended if I bring healthier choices.So I do my best to stay focused. At home my husband & I are both trying to be healthier. We both exercise regularly. I am very focused on making healthier food choices while he eats whatever he's craving. Of all the situations I find home to actually be the biggest test. Since my husband credits exercise more than proper diet he sometimes seems to not understand why I am so concerned with diet.



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I'm going to do what many have said, that is fill up on healthy foods first, especially salad and fruit. Oh, and of course, drink lots of water! emoticon

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Right now it is just myself and my adult daughter in the house and she is so supportive of my effort and doesn't do anything to get me off course! My son comes home from college for Thanksgiving in three weeks and he also is so encouraging. So for my situation, I feel pretty good. I already have been thinking out the holidays and getting my game plan in place. I know that I will indulge in a few of the Thanksgiving foods but will measure, track and record all of it. In addition, I will exercise a bit more to help. I think having a plan and sticking to it will be the reason for my success in continuing to lose during the holidays. But bottom line, I know it is easier now to lose weight with my kids being older (23, 21) then when they were younger.

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11/3/13 8:36 A

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Good for you for planning ahead! I hope you have a fun weekend.

I found over the summer that one day of eating poorly, and past my caloric goal was not damaging over the course of a week. It may be too late for this gathering, as you are probably on your way, but since a nutritionally disastrous party, I try to eat at the lowest end of my planned calories, i.e. 1200 calories on the days preceding the event. That way, if I find a buttery-fried-sweet food too tempting to resist, I still don't exceed my calorie goal for a week.


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11/2/13 9:52 A

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I will be around my family this weekend, out of town. I am going to have success by:
bringing my own food for the meals I know I'll need it!
staying active
avoiding the kitchen except at meal times...

Enjoying the FAMILY and focusing on giving my body what it needs for fuel not emotions!

Determined to have a great weekend!

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Focus on the blessings and the progress...

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11/1/13 5:02 P

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It is hard! So far the getting full on healthy foods first has worked for me.



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It is really hard! My family loves to go out to eat, so sometimes you don't have a choice about where you're going. In the end it is your decision to eat it, though! I try not to blame them too much.



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i enlist the grandchildren to help me.



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10/31/13 2:02 A

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Still trying to figure this one out. It's not enough just trying to resist what's on the table. I tend to think it would be useless to create a dish or two if I'm the only one who's going to eat them. I have to give this up and stick to my commitment to change the type of foods I eat for the sake of my health and well-being. I'll learn to adjust recipes so that I'm making only two or three servings, and if there are left-overs, great! No cooking for a couple of days!

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I'm actually motivated by how much food my boyfriend eats at night to not pick up a thing. I swear, every commercial he gets up and grabs something else.
I moved all the snacks out of reach to where you really need to go on a mission to find them, but he does.

I also go out running at least 4 times a week and can't believe he can just sit there day after day, watching me leave while he sits on the couch. It's insane!

You can't have results and excuses at the same time!

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10/30/13 5:23 A

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It is in the mind, so it is easy if you want this journey to stick with it


How can you know that you can't unless you have tried and failed.

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It's not as hard as you might think.



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It is easier now for me since we are empty nesters. But this is what I do for my husband. I will cook a meal and give him his portion and put the other portions in the freezer right away. He can eat off that for 3 days before I have to cook again for him.

We'll see what happens at Thanksgiving. I better plan, plan, plan up a storm to help me out at the family gathering.



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10/28/13 3:27 A

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Great topic- great responses:
This works for me- 90% of the time- eating exercises

I learned this from Joel Fuhrman- if it is an event or dinner especially; I eat right before I go- I will have a half pound of fresh non-high calorie vegetables like tomatos, celery, peppers, lettuce. Then I have an apple on the way.

It is much easier to control impulses if you are not famished! You really have made the decisions about what will go into your mouth ahead of time.
It is easier to have one of those…….. that are so good, but you should have only one.




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It is so much easier when the family wants to be healthy, too. Years ago in my family all there was--was fattening food. Now there are always some healthy stuff too. chris emoticon

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10/27/13 1:12 P

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Actually, it is harder not to stay healthy around them. My oldest daughter is a nurse, and works for my PA. My son creates and sells workout supplements for his own business, GunShow. They get together on weekends and hike up mountains for ten + miles. My son has been coming on weekends to help me with yard work. They know it is a challenge tor me to exercise as much as I am, because of fibromyalgia and arthritis. We have revamped Thanksgiving and Christmas dinners. emoticon




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This sometimes takes a lot of self discipline, but it can be done. Just have to stay strong and focused on your goal.



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When we were first married, hubby wanted a huge breakfast on Sunday mornings. I said sure--go ahead. I was always watching my weight and really did not want a big breakfast --and I was working full time so I did not want to be in the kitchen all Sunday morning! emoticon

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My husband is a great support to me, so when it is just the two of us it is relatively easy. When I am around family it is incredibly hard. I was back home in Australia for 9 weeks to help care for my mum who had had 2 bad falls. While there I discovered what an emotional eater I am and also how well-meaning family can ply you with your favorite foods. My "NO!" muscle was mostly anesthetized during this time, so of course, I packed on the weight. I was also without regular internet access so didn't even spark. The one thing I maintained was regular walking!

We are moving in December to be within spitting distance of my mum. I know I will need more than average help to both maintain and to continue to lose!
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This is a difficult one for me. Usually I have to make more items for dinner to accommodate all.
It's always more work for me when I focus on eating healthy for me. One huge thing I will give myself credit for is on weekends....I make a breakfast for hubby including eggs, potatoes, meat and toast....I instead will have oatmeal.

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The holidays are bad for me with the family. Honestly I eat what is healthy there to eat and watch my portion sizes. Then the next few weeks work out like crazy, I love my food and have a very hard time saying no

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I've found that I have problems at my parent's house. They buy all kinds of bad stuff, stating that they deserve a treat in life at their age. Then they want me to join in. Now that I'm aware of their influence, I go there resolutely.

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My in-laws are the bad influence for me. I always end up eating and drinking more when I am with them. It can be very frustrating! I keep making it the goal to stick to my plans when I visit, but I have yet to succeed. I'm in a place now where I just try not to visit them too often. It's sad, but I don't feel in control otherwise.

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It can be difficult when around temptation but you can have in moderation or simply choose to bring something that you know is a healthier version of something you like.
This is what kills me about people who try to push you to eat... If I was an alcoholic would they offer me a drink? If I was a drug addict would they offer me coke or weed? No of course not so why offer me something that you know in the long run can harm me.... I mean one little piece of something chocolate can really throw you off for not only a few days but can build to weeks.
I've had to choose to say no, because I love sweets but to me they are my addiction.. put something chocolate in front of me with frosting and I'm choosing to walk out of the room so I can't smell it , see it or taste it....
When I do go to parties which isn't often but lately I either bring veggies and dip or I'm looking for it or I'll try to fill up on salad..
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Thank you for the reminder that "if we truly want something, we will find a way, no matter what challenge/s stand between us and it."

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I don't see my family much, but when I do there is sure to be LOTS and LOTS of food.
I like to prepare well in advance. The week before I make sure to watch my diet very carefully and not skip out on work outs. The day of I try to get an early morning work out in before anything and make sure to have a big salad or something healthy before I go out, so I'm not hungry and snacking.
I offer to bring something - especially desert where I can make it a little more healthy.
At the event, I offer to help prepping in the kitchen, and setting the table, take the dog outside - anything so I don't have to sit around and eat.
For the actual dinner, I load up on veggies. Small portions of the unhealthier foods are KEY!
Same with deserts, a sliver of a slice won't derail me.

Don't listen to any negative comments. They're most likely just jealous. Just be polite, smile, nod & move on. Remember you are doing this for yourself & think about how amazing it will feel when you reach your goals!

Good Luck! Holidays can be rough!

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To DANAEBOYCE1 --

This just breaks my heart to hear you say this, because a strong support group is key to meeting weight goals or any goals. If it's not your family, then at least you have your Sparkpeople family! I too have lost and gained the equivalent of a small pony. You are NOT alone, and maybe knowing that others are on your shoes will help you keep on!

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Lulubelle64 you could have written my post (and that doesn't happen often here!) I'm in exactly the same situation (though don't always make it home for the summer trip - but always for Christmas). As I don't live around my family the only time I'm with them is the "bad" food times - when there's cookies and big meals, etc. While my Mom is a food pusher, she's gotten better (or I've gotten better at ignoring it) when I'm home, but she does make holiday cookies (my absolute favorites) for my Dad and everyone else... and I have an incredibly difficult time with just taking one. The only problem is of course the big holiday buffets with things I never make for myself (which makes them so much more appealing 'just that once').

I'll be fine if I don't lose a pound those two weeks that I'm home... but I don't want to gain any either!

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when I go home at Christmas I am going to have the same problem. We all love to eat so I will work on finding healthy alternatives for a lot of our meals.

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Okay...give your mom/family another way to show their love. I was fed food as a way for my mom to show love, then I continued the cycle. I would bake cookies, cakes, or fix my kids/grandkids their favorite meal as a way to show love. My daughter understood this, so she asked me to do things for her, INSTEAD of cooking for her (hem a skirt, babysit, etc.). Then, she asked me to learn to cook her favorite "healthy" meals. Food pushers are not usually being sabotours. Especially family members.

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Wow ! A big Thank You for all the advice and support I here !!



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My dil feeds her family healthy and that helps me big time too.



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I've found that willpower has been the key for me. I'm currently on a two week hiatus from sugar which will be ending on Thursday (I've lost 4 to 5 lbs. in that time). It is important for me to note that it's not like I'm not taking in any sugar because I'm still eating fruits, and I have been eating condiments which I'm sure contain sugar. At this point, I'm not even actually craving sugar anymore so when I was home over the weekend, and my family were all eating sweets around me it didn't bother me not having any. It may help to just try to cleanse your palate? You could maybe try to really focus on your willpower when not around family so you're prepared. I'm not saying there can't be slip ups. . . They happen sometimes without even noticing it. It might be worth a try.



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I don't stay near my family. If I was around them more, it might would be more of a problem.

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Yes me too! I come from a family of overeaters too! My mum is very obese and loves to eat and serve everyone extra portions too. So it's very difficult around her. Really, it's like fighting a war. I just take my time to eat my desert or food very very slowly. I stretch it out for way longer and really enjoy it. Usually by then, I don't need seconds and the family probably would have had 2 or 3 and wouldn't have noticed that I am still on my first. Good luck!



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My fiancee actually said he was tired of hearing me talk about it every month (I have gained back the weight several times) and asked me to talk about something else. My family has a similar effect on me, and honestly, I am going to keep my distance for a while, except from my sis and my mom; and also not drink, either. My family is full of drinkers, and when I drink, I snack like crazy. I feel like I am going to have to work even harder this time because nobody believes in me anymore. Thank goodness for this site, and these boards, because this is my only support right now. Let me know what works for you

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I guess I'm pretty fortunate! All I can say is try to remember how far you've come and to say no I'll just have a few smallish bites.

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I agree that it is about learning and growing. I slipped a bit already, on my second day, Before I would just give up and continue to eat and eat and eat.
I have made progress in that I stopped eating. It was not the plan I wanted to follow for the day, but an improvement. I am learning to be kind to myself. It is a journey, and I will make it.

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I am finding this a learning process. Thank you for your input.



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Everyone's tips are really great!

I would like to add that meeting this challenge will probably involve some trial-and-error till you find what works for you. That's totally fine! Just think of it as experimentation. And just my experience, there is not a single solution because there are a lot of situational variables (occasion, what else is available, etc). I am really a big advocate of looking at this as a chance to learn and grow. Good luck!

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10/9/13 7:55 A

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Glad to hear this. I too had to take responsibility for what I cook and what I eat. My husband is a picky eater, so I was only cooking what he would eat, and eating that too. I now realize it is worth the work of making 2 meals, as combined as possible, but with myself getting the vitamins and nutrients I need, and less calories. I have already lost 7 lbs, and tomorrow is weigh in, and I can hardly wait. Yes, I have to take responsibility for my own eating, and my weight.



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Not my own family, but my husband's family - they overeat and they much of it is unhealthy. When possible, I try to arrange it so we eat out together, that way I can order what I want.

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It is really, really difficult... but it does get easier.
I second what's been said. Bottom line: the way to solve the problem is to take 100% responsibility for it, to accept others exactly as they are and to focus on changing your behavior.
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I've often been in your situation, and almost always, I caved.

It's about the most challenging situation a person could face. About the only way I know to handle it is to bring, if need be, a piece of your favorite fruit OR a homemade fruit salad to share with others so that you are not so tempted by the dessert, and aren't left having to stare at a lone cup of coffee or tea (they seemed to be designed to be cried into, at family dessert time - or such has been my experience). You needn't justify your choices EVER by talking about getting in shape, either - it's your right, and you don't have to explain your decisions.

It's a tough thing to do, but eventually, you'll be able to do it. You've already shown the first key ingredient in this - awareness! You're halfway there...



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I told my family I'm allergic to some food (I'm lactose, gluten and soy intolerant). Then I can easily refuse to eat pretty much anything, because the chances of it having gluten or lactose in it is high.



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I often travel and care for an ill aunt and cousin. The food they eat is scary, especially since my aunt is diabetic. I am tempted by all the ice cream and reeces cups, and chips etc etc etc. I usually make a run to the grocery and get fruit, raw veggies, hummus etc that I can eat and enjoy. I do the cooking so I also control the food there. I have given up with any of them eating a salad, so I just make one for myself. Last trip down I even took my blender and had my smoothies etc.

we just had family in this weekend, we ate out twice. I chose salmon, hold the butter sauce, with steamed broccoli, hold the butter sauce, and a salad.. I stayed right on track for that meal. I even had a few of the nachos, and stayed on track. The other meal I splurged a bit, but I also had a big work out that day and had calories to spare for the day.

This weekend I am traveling and teaching. that will be the challenge. Lunch will be provided, and it may not be something reasonable. But I am also taking a cooler with me. I will have fruit and hard boiled eggs for breakfast. I will have pre packed chef salads for diner, and some healthy munchies like hummus and veggies, low fat cheese and pitas for snacks. I am also bringing my pool noodle so I can grab some workout time in the pool after a day of teaching. If I do decide to go out with the girls after class for diner after all, I will choose the best I can. If I go over, oh well, its a special occasion, and I can get right back on track the next day. As long as I dont blow it day after day and make it a habit, the world wont end.

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I just came back from a big family gathering that involved both a restaurant meal and a big family dinner. In order to help manage the situation, I volunteered to handle the sides and salad. So instead of commercial slaw, baked beans and chips beside the meats my cousin smoked, I steamed baby carrots, green beans and baby yellow squash, then sauteed them in a little olive oil with fresh rosemary and fresh sage I had brought from my own garden. I also did a big tossed salad with melon and pineapple, dressed with a little olive oil and fresh lemon juice. The veggies were beautiful and tasty, and proved very popular with my traditional (and generously proportioned) Midwestern extended family. And no one really noticed or cared that the veggies and salad were prepared without salt, which my father needs to avoid. I quietly wrapped my meat in lettuce leaves instead of a bun, enjoyed birthday cake and wine in small quantities, and did not have to talk much about my effort to get back into shape.

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I understand how you feel. When I was growing up, food would be used to celebrate happy times; it would also be used to comfort us when things weren't going well. My family's life centered around food.

In 2010, I lost 92 pounds on SparkPeople in less than a year. My adult son moved back home and brought with him junk food and all sorts of tempting treats. After testing my willpower for a couple of weeks, I ended up joining him in eating all of the unhealthy stuff - and gained most of my weight back.

So - now I am back on SparkPeople again and just lost 22 pounds. I will be going back home (to Arizona) over winter break to visit family. I am planning to get tough now so I don't fall into the same eating trap that killed my weight loss 3 years ago.

Stay strong - you can do it! I'm right there with you! :)
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I go into the holiday season knowing that there are going to be things I want to eat and that I will not lose any weight, and I am fine with that. Because I live overseas, I only see my family at Christmas and in the summer, so I am not in the same situation as people who see their families all the time.

Because I am coming from so far away, and because I have really limited food options where I live, I can get away with saying things like, "I really have a craving for asparagus." and my family will go out of their way to get it for me. When I was home this summer, my mother served huge bowls of blackberries and raspberries for dinner every night because she knows how much I love them, and I cannot get them where I live.

For a lot of families, food=love. If you can get your family to see that giving you healthy food is showing you love, it's win-win.

I've found that requesting something that is special but healthy works well. My mother makes the most amazing veggie soup, which I love, so I ask for her to make that. I am getting something healthy, and she is doing the food=love thing.

If you have formed the habit of checking on every new diet that comes along, you will find that, mercifully, they all blur together, leaving you with only one definite piece of information: french-fried potatoes are out. ~~Jean Kerr

And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom. ~~Anais Nin

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Well on my way:-)


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