The only thing that's constant is change and we are beautiful creative and our styles should reflect that. I wear what is comfortable and what looks good on me. I don't keep up the latest fashions and recycle my clothes my adding accessories as I'm one that like my clothes to last, more classic than anything. I have changed as life it not about standing still and being remembered what I looked like while overweight, You'll have to do some experimenting and I like to take a girlfriend shopping with me.
Edited by: SUNSET09 at: 9/26/2013 (23:30)
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I took a workshop that encouraged me to try and visualize what my true, natural self would wear, how she would act, what she would eat, etc. and to try to bring her alive in the present. So, I try to do that, and it helps increase my self-esteem. My natural self loves to eat fruits and veggies, because they are delicious and make her feel good. So, I eat more of those. My natural self loves to take long walks and to dance, because it makes her feel free. So I've started to walk and do a bit of freestyle dancing every day. My true self loves to wear dresses, because they make her feel beautiful. Yeah, I think it's nourishing to "change your look," because you are treating yourself as a trully beautiful person. You should not have to wait until you lose X number of pounds to treat yourself as a beautiful person, because you are beautiful NOW.
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current weight: 194.0
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2,736 9/23/13 1:29 P
I guess that I have gradually changed my style over several years. I have started to wear (some) makeup, to make sure that my fingernails look nice and that my toenails are always painted. I think that my look is a bit more pulled together overall.
For me, the changes that I'm going through are about getting healthy and taking care of myself--it's not just about weight.
It seems kind of odd to change EVERYTHING overnight, but if that's how someone wants to do it, why not?
I am not really into fashion or anything, but I have bought striped shirts for the first time in my life. I finally feel I can wear them now that I am thinner. I'm a pretty basic dresser for the most part, think LL Bean or Land's End, lol, but I have bought a few more form-fitting shirts of late. When I have been heavier, I tend to wear looser clothing just out of comfort. I always like having a good hairstyle no matter my weight, though. :D
I had to laugh when I saw this on the forum, because it's precisely the conversation that I had earlier in the day with the Man!
During the past decades, I've spent a ridiculous number of hours in dressing rooms trying on outfit after outfit to determine the cuts and styles and colours that are most flattering to me. I have found that stark colours (black, chocolate brown, white, and dark olive green) work the best with my colouring; and that fitted or wrap styles work the best with my figure. I was at the point where I could scan a store and have the "right" styles just jump out at me (which is important to me, since I loathe shopping).
I was telling the Man how relieved I was that my proportions haven't changed as I've lost the weight. Keeping the same proportions means that the cuts and styles that flatter will not have changed. This is a huge relief to me --- I was sooo worried that I'd have to go back to the hours of trying different things to figure out what would work with the "new" body!
As for hair and makeup, well, I can't wear makeup due to allergies, so that won't change, and I can't see changing my hair style either --- it's another case where I've tried many different things over the years, and have settled on a simple cut that is very practical for me and flatters my features.
I'm still *me*, just slightly smaller, and I really like my "style" in clothing and hair, so don't see any reason to make a change when I get to goal or sooner.
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I have changed my lifestyle but am terrified to change my look - specifically my hair. I am half black and have never been able to do anything with it, but am too scared to take the plunge and trust a stylist.
I agree that it is not necessary to wait to make changes.
When I started having a more positive attitude toward myself, I started to add more colorful clothes to my wardrobe. It makes me feel more energetic and happier when I wear cheerful colors. I have tried harder to find clothes that fit me well- not too loose or too tight. I am not at my goal but I still look and feel better when my clothes fit the body I have right now.
I haven't made big changes in terms of hair or makeup. I probably won't ever make huge changes in that area.
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9/22/13 5:04 P
I'm not doing anything any differently either. I've thought about getting my hair cut, but I keep chickening out. I don't want a drastic change, but I wouldn't mind something simple. no muss or fuss.
In general, my looks have stayed the same even though my lifestyle changed. I'm a garden variety ragamuffin. hate getting dressed up unless I absolutely have too. I will say, that I do look good in a business suit. LOL !!! most times, I'd rather run around in gym clothes.
I have changed my style, so much that people sometimes don't recognize me. My hair has gone back to my natural color. My hairdresser says she can give me any cut, doesn't have to stick with the older, heaver body type cuts. Clothes wise more fitted. Lifesyle stayed the same. Just the gym has become a big part of it.
I almost always wear my hair in a ponytail too. But sometimes I wear my hair differently. I go for months between trims not bcoz I don't care but bcoz my hair grows extremely slowly, so I can afford to go for months in between trims.
I seldom wear makeup, not bcoz I want to look plain, but bcoz I'm too lazy!
I did change my look, *before* I started the weight-loss part of this journey.
I used to present myself much like the person described in the OP. No makeup. No style to my hair, I'd go months between cuts and just start putting it up in a ponytail elastic when it got too long and annoying. No style to my clothes... no colour, just black and brown, mostly cheap "anything, just so long as it covers my body" sweaters and tshirts and black slacks. I really hated how I looked, and the weight was only but one of my "issues"......
So. One day, something clicked. I *somehow* came to the sudden conclusion, that I probably WAS going to be a "big woman" for life, so.... rather than tide myself over on cheap ugly clothes until "the magical day I lost weight"... might as well make the best of it. Might as well be the best, most attractive big woman I could be. I went out and invested some money in work-appropriate attire, a bright purplish skirt, a bright red skirt, a *stylish* black blazer, a couple nice scarves to brighten up the basic-blacks... I got a hair cut. I put on lipstick. And I *tried* to walk confidently, barging through life exuberantly instead of mousing around hoping not to be noticed at all.
I got a lot of remarks about "looking really good, great colour on you! love your haircut, it suits you so well! oh, nice lipstick, gee you sure look classy today!" before I ever lost one pound. Before I ever *thought* about losing one pound. Several months elapsed. Then one day, a new epiphany: "hey, I... probably could drop a few pounds... it wouldn't be THAT hard....why not try...?"
I honestly think that this phase of "changing my style and presentation/improving how well I cared for my appearance" was what ultimately led me to a mental place where the idea of weight loss seemed possible. During the phase where I did not care about my appearance and was trying to hide from life, I felt far too defeated and undeserving of any such luxury as "health" and "mobility without the encumbrance of excess weight" and "attractive, quality clothing." Once I started to take care of me.... the rest of it started to fall into place.
Weight loss has been the LAST stage of a process of transformation for me, rather than the first.
But, yes, as I've dropped a few sizes and no longer have to rely on specialty plus-size shops, yet new styles have become available to me to try on for size. My "style" continues to evolve.
Goal 1 - break 200 (46 pounds lost)**DONE** Goal 2 - leave obesity behind (BMI 29.9, at 185#) **DONE** Goal 3 - BMI = Normal (154# or less)
I always tend to have the same type of style. However, I would say I steer towards more form fitting shirts/outfits when I'm healthier. I feel more confident about my body. I don't "show off" my body because I'm more demure than that, however, I just dress my body differently when I'm not trying to "hide" it under clothes.
current weight: 194.5
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9/21/13 10:04 P
I've been at goal weight more than once in my life. I change my looks at goal because that's when I feel best about my looks. Like the way I look in clothes so I start to think about new hair styles that now my face in thinner. I don't completely ignore my looks when I'm overweight. I stay clean and well groomed but only do the basics to show myself in public. When at goal I shine because that's when I feel the best in mind and body.
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9/21/13 9:40 P
Years ago I was in a Hospital Weight Loss Center which included group sessions. One of the members was a lovely woman, late 40s, who always wore black, always had her hair tied back in a ponytail, and never wore makeup. She was a sweet, intelligent lady who was klnd to everyone. She took off about 50 pounds during the course of her membership. She decided to get a makeover.....dress, hair, makeup, color. She walked into the session and no-one recognized her....until she said something. We all thought she was a new member waiting to be introduced once the session started. You heard a gasp from the group...the transformation was amazing.
But why wait until some magic number.... Wouldn't it be nice to make little changes to your new look all along the way. Me....I have lots of room for improvement.
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