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I think you can respect a person without respecting their views. I know quite a few people who would be the total opposite of me, in fact I am married to a man who has very different opinions to me on some important issues. I respect him and I respect his point of view even if I don't agree with him.



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Yes, if it is something they are doing, but their character is intact. i.e. I don't respect the decision to drink excessively, but I can be friends with you. If I feel you are a liar, a thief, a cheater or an emotional abuser, for example, then no.



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emoticon , we can agree to disagree. Now, respect is another topic.

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It depends on the entire situation.

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Yes. I look for lessons to learn. I/we must be careful how we judge people.

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Yes, I would think in this case you can consider them a friend as long as there is not truly lack of respect. I live in a place where my religious and political views are at odds with those of most of the population. So as long as people can accept my views being different I can do the same. Smart people can use the same data and arrive at different conclusions. This doesn't infer that one is wrong and one right. They simply differ.



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I try to keep an open mind. People believe some of the strangest things sometimes but can still be a good person. If they are not a positive influence in your life no friendship will form or last.



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I consider respecting a person's political & religious views to be completely different from respecting the person. But to answer the original question, no, I could not be friends with someone whom I don't respect.



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I don't think so.



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Yes. I have one friend in particular. She has been a faithful friend for almost ten years now. We differ very much when it comes to politics and religion. She is also almost fifteen years younger than me. She is a little on the dark side and a bit of a positive pessimist, if you can dig that. I adore her and am so grateful to the Lord that I met her and she is in my life forever.



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Not really - it would be hard!

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You mentioned that this person is not a close friend (not someone you would go and do things with on the weekend). Is it a friend at work?

If this person is not someone you would hang out with in your free time, then the relationship is not super close. If it IS a work buddy, would you keep in touch with this person if you left your job?

How do the person's viewpoints, religious or otherwise, truly affect you? Unless the person does things that are immoral and harmful to others, I see no reason why you can't share a friendship. Friendships have varying degrees of closeness and trust. Just because a friendship is not completely close and trusting doesn't mean it is not valuable to either party. Enjoy the parts of this person you like, and disregard the ones you don't. If this person's differences do affect you in a negative way, I say drop the friendship.



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It depends on the reasons I don't respect them. I find it hard to make friends overall, so probably would only be an acquaintance, at best, with somebody I don't respect. Then again, I'm pretty open minded, so it would be a very serious reason for me not to respect people. Am I contradicting myself? Probably, knowing me, lol!



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Yes, definitely, for most things. If we differ politically, religion, etc. that is fine with me. As long as we show each other respect. But if they are really "out there", i.e. "I was Cleopatra in my previous life" then I can't really be friends with them on any level. (I actually had someone tell me that!)

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That is a tough question. I don't think I could be anything more than an acquaintance. It would be hard to spend much time with them or have conversations with them if I don't respect them. It is one thing to have different political or religious views but quite another to flat out not respect them. Would you want someone to be friends with you if they didn't respect you? I wouldn't.





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No.

Lol, I keep changing my mind on this question.

I can be polite to people I don't respect, never friends.

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It depends on why I don't respect them. It's hard to be friends with someone whose moral values ... their ways of treating people ... etc. go strongly against my values. But I can be friends with people who are "good people," but whose judgments and abilities I don't respect.

I have a couple of people in my life (friends and family) who are good people with kind hearts. They mean well, but they make a lot of foolish choices in their lives and lack critical thinking skills. I don't respect their judgments or their abilities, but I can still be friends with them.

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My best friend is a republican. I'm a democrat. Neither one of us could be classified as extreme in our views, but neither one of us is going to ever switch political parties. We both think the other is misguided, but we respect each other and really enjoy being together. We mostly try not to talk politics, but, when it happens, we are polite and respectful towards each other. Do I respect her political views? No. But, I do respect her right to decide which political party she's going to be a member of and who she's going to vote for. We actually have a lot in common.

If you limit yourself to being friends to only those who agree with your political and religious views, you are really limiting yourself in life. Like someone else said, you won't find me hanging out with political or religious extremists, because I do have my limits, but I definitely will be friends with people of other religions and political parties so long as they are respectful of my right to have my own views and do not try to force their ideas and beliefs on me. We all actually have more in common than we think. Most of us actually want the same things... We all want to be happy, made a decent living and be reasonably comfortable in life, have good health for ourselves and our families, have good friends, and just basically enjoy life.

We are not so different as the major political parties and some religious groups would want us to think. I think we let these things divide us too much and, when we do this, it's because we are not thinking for ourselves but rather letting others (i.e. political party leaders or religious leaders) think for us and tell us who is good/bad, who we should associate with, etc. We allow ourselves to be polarized by our religions and political parties and it's not really in our best interest; it only serves the political parties and some of our religious leaders to have us polarized like that. I think that we need to stop and think and realize that, despite what others may say, we are all not so different and what the majority of us really want is pretty similar.

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God walked the earth with people that no one respected, they became his apostles. One of the things we are suppose to do is help people in their walk to god.
I have tried to be around people that I don't like how they live, or ethics, or morals, but it is very hard. Sooner or lster they try to bring you down into their level. I even tried to bring them to church. Thinking that if they listen they would change.I don't really believe god mean this in his message. I believe god wants us to convey his message to others. Bringing them into your life, well that's another story. I know I wasn't strong enough to walk with unethical people. They just keep trying to bring you down into their level of thinking, and lifestyle, lies, and games.
Being polite to others, listening, meeting in groups, that seems to work a bite.



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Acquaintance yes but friend no.

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the term "friend" can be very vague.
I just avoid topics of politics and religion with anyone but my husband. and I try not to judge anyone based on these views because I would not want to be judged myself. a person's personality and the way they treat other people and conduct themselves is much more important to me. I think one can still respect another person if their views are different. It's acceptance of another human. If you can accept each others' differences, I don't see a reason people can't still be friends. But it depends on how important those views are to each person. if their personality is still enjoyable and you have other things in common, I think a "friendship" is perfectly acceptable. an agreement that those touchy subjects just don't come up can be reached. But if they are constantly pushing their views on you and this affects how they treat people in general, distance may be better.
I have a co-worker whom I talk to often. I do not agree with her habits with the men in her life, but I do not know details and tend to just avoid the subject with her. I'm confident in my own personal views that I'm not worried about adopting her's. While I may not spend much time with her outside of work; we have many, many other things in common and I greatly enjoy talking to her about these things. Her personality is amicable and I have no other complaints about her.


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I make it a habit to never talk religion or politics with my friends. I know a lot of my friend's religious affiliations, but never talk to them about it, and they respect my silence. Occasionally a comment will slip which tells me what my friends think about a politician or a political issue, but I only tell them things like "I appreciate where you are coming from," or " I appreciate your viewpoint." They never can tell how I feel.

Here's how I decide: Am I happy when this person calls me? Am I genuinely happy to see this person? Do I dwell on the experience I had with this person long after the experience is over? If I feel that I am spending too much time cringing when I encounter this person, or have ill feelings after our encounters, then this person is not worthy of being called my friend. Sometimes it's very hard to get out of these relationships (especially when the person pursues you), but I try to distance myself by making it hard to get ahold of me, or by turning down their offers time after time. Usually, this gets the point across. I don't like being used by others -- the old "friend in need is a friend indeed" thing. What's tough to do is to end a relationship by telling the person the outright truth about how you feel.

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No, it just wouldn't be genuine. That's just not a friendship...at least for me.

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Never. To do so would cause me to need to compromise my convictions and I wont do that.

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I can't. No respect, no trust.



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Sure..a friend (for me) is a person who you accept for who they are. My opinion of things are not set in gold and neither are theirs. I would not hang w/ them because we most likely could not agree on what to do..but when I need a good argument I would be a calling !! emoticon



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I pride myself with being able to get along with just about everyone. Most people say I'm easy going. But, I have very few true friends. So, no not really be friends.

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I cannot. You are stuck with relatives, but friends are a matter of choice. I choose to surround myself with positive, fun, successful people who make me feel good about myself and add to my life. Life is hard enough without filling it with losers. If you lay down with dogs, you will get fleas. That's my motto.

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Still an interesting question when you read the topic line and really think about it not in terms of having things in common or admiring people or whether you'd say hello or talk to them or be civil. The question is only: "Can you be friends with someone you don't respect?"

Thinking about it, I don't have ANY friends I don't respect. There must be a reason for that, so no, I couldn't be friends with someone I don't respect, at least in some respect.

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Probably not.

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Guess it would depend on the person in question and the situation. If I was alone with this person on a raft in the middle of the ocean and we were both struggling for our lives, could we forego the respect issue and work together? I would say, I think so. If we were in a foreign ono-English speaking country and we were the only English speaking people, would I do activities with them on weekends? Most likely. If they were fun to be around, with a positive personality and willing to support my journey to better health, would I hang around with them, most likely. So if I was willing to hangout with them on weekends, would they be a friend? Guess it all depends on your definition of friend.



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I think it would be possible, but quite difficult

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I'd be civil in passing, but no, I wouldn't be friends with them.

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Nope.

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No, I would not even consider doing that at all. That person I know I wouldn't even be able to trust. It would be a waste of unnecessary negative energy.

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Probably not.



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Could not.



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No. I would not use the term friend for someone like that.
I am friends with people who have different religious or political views but not with someone whose views/actions I do not respect or find abhorrent.
I might be polite and friendly when I see them but definitely not consider them an actual friend.



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no really friends



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I have several friends and relatives who have different politics views than I do. Take my cousin, whom I love dearly, she would be considered a right wing conservative. I would be considered a left wing liberal. Yes, we've gotten into some pretty heated arguments over our differences in religion as well as politics. Guess what ? We still did things together.

My former boss was also extremely conservative. I adored her !! Another close friend of mine, ditto, conservative. we disagreed on politics regularly. It's funny. My conservative friends don't consider me wrong, they merely consider me... misguided. LOL !

While we may disagree on politics or religion, there were plenty of other things we did like to talk about. So, yes, this left wing commie has lots of right wing friends and family members whom I love and respect.

Ronald Reagan and Tip O'Neill respected each other, they found common ground. So why can't today's politicians and adherents be like that ? Why does it have to be my way or the highway ? I'm going to say a dirty word now, why can't people learn to COMPROMISE ?

If I don't respect someone, it's not because of their political or religious beliefs. If I don't respect someone personally, it's because of other issues.




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just saying hi would be ok, confining or be extremely friendly, no.

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it depends on what the differences are.

I am friends with many people who don't share my religious or political beliefs. (and thank God we are not all the same, would hate that).

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No.



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I can respect that a person has a different opinion and be friends - no problem at all with that.

there are 'deal breakers'. Extremists, for example. I wouldn't be hanging with the Westboro Baptists.

it can also be difficult to view somebody the same way when you find out they are not at all who they profess to be

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I can be civil and respectful with some one whose views I don't respect.



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why not respect everyone



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People who limit restrict their friendships to people who's political and religious beliefs mirror their own, limit themselves to a very small world. There are amazing, good people out there who just come from different cultures, religions, social orientation, and political ideologies. If there is a problem discussing certain topics (like religion and politics) then don't discuss them.

If one can only relate to people of their own mindset, I wonder if they feel threatened by the fact that someone else thinks differently.

but I'm biased...I'm the result of a multi-cultural, inter-denominational family


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Just my point-of-view here... Yes, we could be friends & hike & stuff together. We just would agree to disagree on certain issues (political, whatever...). We'd have to stay away from certain conversations. If they became overly vocal then I would avoid them.


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I could be civil, but it would be near impossible to be friends.



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I will be hospitable, but I don't have to be friends. I don't have time.

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I like a definition of "friend" (the noun) I found online: A person whom one knows and with whom has a bond of affection, typically exclusive of sexual or family relations.

I'd carry that further and say we can also be friends with family members or those we have other kinds of relations with, which is all separate from what friendship means.

I'd also carry my definition further to include that the bond can be not limited to affection but include love, although not necessarily.

Nowhere in my definition do I have to admire or respect my friend, although as it turns out I have friends I do admire and respect.

In fact, as I was trying to say in my earlier post lol, I have had nonfriendships with people I thought were friends but it was only because I thought I respected or admired what I thought they were, or even what they really were.

This is a very good discussion topic.

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Not truly.

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heavens NO!!!!!!!!!! i have a roommate whom i dont respect and i cant even bring myself to speak to him

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No, that's the definition of a friend, someone you admire and respect and vice versa



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No, because friends respect one another.



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Yes I can be friends with someone who has parts of her personality that I don't respect. I too am learning and making mistakes as I go. Love has to be there for it to work. That is the bottom line for me

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Absolutely. A friend is a friend. It is a whole other thing to me than whether I respect their beliefs or anything else about them.

It is important to me, in fact, to remember that I have often in the past mistaken certain things I synched with as far as personality or similar characteristics or beliefs and interests for friendship and been disappointed to find that some "friends" weren't really friends and what I experienced with them wasn't friendship.

But I've learned to tell the difference.

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I couldn't consider them a friend, just a casual aquatint. A friend is someone that you enjoy being with because you respect them for who they are.

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NO.



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Is the issue that you don't respect their beliefs and views or that you don't respect the person? To me respect is based on character and integrity rather than beliefs. Of course if the person is forever pushing their beliefs on you that can be a problem. Or if, for instance, they profess to be a Christian or adhere to another religion and you know they regularly live differently from what they profess - then there is an issue with the person's integrity.
On balance I would say that if you enjoy the other person's company you can still be friends.



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no



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I couldn't





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Interesting answers. I'm going to break the mold. I don't choose to be judge and jury for others. If all my friends had to be like me the world would be a lonely place. There are definitely things that cross the line. With the exception of those the answer's yes.



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No I could not but I can call them "some one I know".



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I wouldn't consider them a friend.. just a acquaintance.

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Respect for me is based on morals, values and how you conduct yourself. So if I do not respect you I would not want you as a friend.

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I don't think so.



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IMHO
Respect doesn't require that you adopt their political opinions and religious beliefs...
Respect means that you accept that they may have a different view of the world.

but I guess if their political opinions and religious beliefs cause conflict between you and it is a subject that is constantly being brought up...then maybe a little distance is better



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tough one



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My question is not going to affect anything; I'm just curious what other people think. Here is my question:

Can you consider someone a friend (more than an acquaintance but not a close friend that you'd go do things with on the weekends) whom you don't respect? A person's political and religious views form who the person really is and if you don't respect any of those views, can you consider them a friend?

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