Here's an example of I mean:
My friends dad, when we were kids, would always want to solve problems or confront my friend by telling him there were going to sit down at the dining room table and talk about whatever it is they needed to talk, a CLASSIC and antiquated way to deal with things with that impending doom feeling.....
Me? It depends on who I'm having to talk to about serious problems. For my daughters I know they respond well when I come to them wherever they're sitting and then I start a conversation not related to the topic, I almost never go to them mad and angry, I can't say the right words then and I end up making things worse so I now use this approach.
My ex-wife was a "right here, right now" kinda person. The problem with that is it could be anywhere at anytime in front of anyone. She would put me on the defense immediately and would badger me to respond immediately so I would NOT have time to "measure" my words which made her mad all the time because she'd think I was speaking without passion or lying.
My Mom was well known for her kitchen table talks, I never suspected there was something important to discuss until I was already deep into the conversation. She liked to give me long examples about life situations to help put things In perspective for me (you kinda know this about me already just from this post alone, lol). She was awesome because the end part of the conversations were always "so do the right thing" kinda message like in those Lassie TV shows where Timmy's dad would tell him the moral of the story at the end.
My gf likes to discuss serious problems either while we're driving or on the phone (she's an introvert and quiet & shy to boot), she can't look me in the eye to tell me I'm doing something wrong or bothering her, she says it's because she's afraid I'll be upset. I never am as I know if I want to keep her not only will I keep my cool but I won't use any kind of discussion techniques on her (aka Jedi Mind Tricks).
What about you? Is there a certain way you like to solve or discuss problems? While shopping? While doing an activity like golfing or walking?
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