I'm so sorry to hear about the struggle and pressure of the situation you are going through. You already sound like you have enough of your plate without your husband being unhealthy with his eating.
As the others said, it does sound like he wasn't really serious about the surgery. Or maybe he was serious but he didn't understand the weight of the procedure he was having. I am looking into that procedure and see what a beautiful thing it can be for those like me who just can't get the weight off and keep it off. On the other hand, I have seen how AWFUL it can be for those who regret it and still try to do whatever they want.
My best friend recently had this surgery and has lost 55lbs. She looks like a whole new person and is doing well. She still has her days where she dumps (she's only 2 months out) and is still getting used to certain foods etc. she sometimes eats things she shouldn't but then she regrets it.
I can't imagine why he would want to throw up all the time. I hate throwing up and know I could be scared crapless of eating things that might make me dump. Sounds like you have a case of mental issue. He needs to see someone about the mental and emotional process of this all. Like they said in my seminar " it takes 1 hour to change your life but it takes 5 years to change your mind"
I would do your best to encourage him towards someone he can work through this with because it's not your burden to bear. you are his wife but you can't change him, he will only change if he wants to. Tell him to join "thinner time forum" it's a website like spark people but completely for those who have had or are planning to have bariactric surgery! They share their stories, good and bad, and all the in between. It's really encouraging and eye opening and he might even meet a guy friend on there that he can connect with and relate to, to help him straighten up!
BEST OF LUCK GIRL!
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