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No, but I appreciate it when they do.

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Nooo, never...

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Depends on the host. I go prepared. Either have a big salad before going so I won't be so hungry and dive into unhealthy things. Or offer to bring an appetizer, salad or dessert.



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Yes, because a host should be aware of who they invite and take their needs into consideration.

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In this age of more awareness, YES !!!!



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Nope. I eat, or don't eat, what is provided.

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Most party food served is carb-loaded and high calorie. How can one expect to have a host serve anything healthy? While it is nice, no one should expect it.

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No, I do not



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No. I do not.

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no don't expect it

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No as my Mom always told me either I could eat what was served or walk away. I eat before going out?



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2/2/14 11:51 A

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Yes.I live in a small town.Everyone knows Im getting healthy and am part of a weightloss challenge with 150 others of the town.I always eat light before though just in case.

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I don't expect it, because I can usually count on being able to put something together.

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It depends on the event and who the people are. For the most part, I do NOT expect people to have healthy options. I'm hopeful but usually, for a party, people are taking a little splurge.

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No. It's there party



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No. Not gonna lie I'd appreciate it but its his/her event.

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I don't expect it but I'm more inclined to visit again if they do.

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No. It's not their responsibility to cater to my health choices.

Tonight I took my kids to a b-day party at a friend's home and she sent me a text and asked if I wanted a chicken salad instead of pizza. I told her not to go out of her way to do anything extra. Since her husband is also eating healthy, she had the stuff for the pizza. Yes, I had salad and pizza, along w/ a small piece of the cookie cake.

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In this day and age,
Do I EXPECT your host to HAVE healthy food options? Yes
Do you get upset if they don't? No

I was taught whenever you are invited to someone's house, bring something! Sometimes, I'll call and ask what the menu may be and why, my go to option is a salad with no dressing or a veggie tray, enough for everyone. Some bring wine. Although I'm not a vegetarian, I don't eat beef or pork. Having a meatless meal is no probably for me however, some people like to ask and I share. My friends and co-workers understand, others I didn't need to explain.
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2/1/14 10:36 P

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This is a subject that I've had lots of conversations about. I expect people to serve what they want to serve. However, if I can't eat what is served I also expect the host not to be offended. I do have food allergies and if I have any questions about what is in something being served I won't eat it. There is a difference between choosing not to eat something and not being able to eat something for medical reasons.


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Not really, but my family and friends know at this point that I need to eat gluten free so they try to accommodate me and that is nice. I think it is very caring and polite for a host to try to ascertain their guests' special needs, if any, and provide something they can eat.

But "expect," no.

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no, but with close friends, they do know I am vegetarian and usually have a soy burger for me, or let me g =bring my own

besides, most of my friends are health conscious themselves, so it is not that big of a problem

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Even if you bring enough food for everyone else it would be like " oh hello! I know you spent hours preparing all that greasy food but I think it's disgusting and no one should eat it so I brought some salad :)"

Maybe if it's a close friend and you ask him some days before the party it wouldn't be so bad but still



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I may HOPE they have some healthy food, but I do not EXPECT it. I appreciate it when they do, and make the best of things when they don't.

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I usually bring a healthy dish that everyone can share.

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If someone brought their own food with nothing to share. I would be excessively miffed. And they would not be invited back.

The only exception would be a food allergy, sensitivity, or if it was a family member. Or if they were diabetic and wanted to bring a sugar free desert.

If they wanted to bring something. I want them to ask me first. So I don't end up with 20 pumpkin pies.

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I also expect a host to serve exactly what they want and as a gracious guest, I will eat what they serve.



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I expect a host to serve food they want to serve. If someone has a life-threatening allergy or a serious food intolerance, I would expect that person to communicate their issue to the host, and for them to work out what would be safe for the allergic or gut sensitive person. With that exception, I think most foods can fit into healthy eating with a bit of portion control. And I know if I am hosting, I am serving a meal I think is healthy. It is not like I am trying to poison my guests.

I'm of two minds about the "bring your own food". On the one hand, if I were having a sit-down meal, and someone brought a dish "so they could eat" without letting me know first, I'd be kind of miffed. I mean, if you don't like my cooking don't come for dinner. On the other hand, if it's a party or a potluck and people will be standing around snacking, and no meal is served, I would be happy & grateful if someone brings a dish of snackables to share. As a guest I wouldn't bring food without clearing it with the host first, though. Unless the food was actually a gift TO the host. But then it would be specially packaged as a gift, and obvious in that regard.

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I think we save ourselves a lot of anxiety and disappointment by simply asking the host what she's having...especially for a party type get together. I don't think most people would object to someone bringing something they can have...and in this day and age.
The problem most hosts have is being told that someone has special needs, and making things for that person, and then the person not eating it. The same with the guest...not knowing what kind of food will be there, and then not being able to enjoy...or being afraid to go, because you don't know if you are strong enough.

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No I don't, if you are invited for dinner you eat whats served as you are a guest in someones house. i would be offended if someone brought food when I invited them for dinner



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No most don't, so I often bring a dish that is a healthy alternative that I can have

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Yes doesn't everybody?

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No, so I plan ahead and normally eat prior to getting to any event and eat what I can at the host event.

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I don't and I don't just show up with something. I ask the host if there is something I can bring.

Bringing something without permission or just for yourself. Says to the host. So what to all your planning. Your food is not good enough for me.

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I've never had any complaints about party food when I've gone to them. I usually expect there to be the typical appetizers that aren't the healthiest, but there's also usually a fruit and veggie tray set out.



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No I don't expect it (although usually there is) and I wouldn't be offended if there wasn't. As far as bringing something, I always offer to do so when I'm invited, but will only bring something if the host/ess takes me up on the offer. I wouldn't just show up with something to eat or drink, except maybe a bottle of wine.




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It would be nice, but there is no obligation to have healthy options. Totally up to hostess.



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I feel they should have both especially a veggie tray.



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No. I usually offer to bring something that I feel safe with if it is a good friend. New friends--no I would just accept what is offered and try to make the best choices.



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Definitely not. The host should be able to have whatever options they want to have. If they choose to put in some healthy options, then that's awesome.

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i think they should have both.



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No, I expect before I go I will have a healthy snack so I can consume a little of everything my host has worked so hard to provide for me and other guests.



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No I don't. I really believe this is where we should practice "in healthy moderation" I guess I am not at a point in which I have given up everything bad for me. I just try to be accountable for what I eat. Which means if I accept a party invite and there are only things like hamburgers and potato salad and the fatty comfort foods I try to indulge a little but stop when I am full. Which can ultimately be a motivating tool for me when I succeed on a learning tool that tells me I still need to work on paying attention to being full and letting myself go past my comfort point.





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No; I expect them to serve whatever they want and if I accept the invitation, I gladly participate in the meal they prepared! emoticon

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If someone is entertaining you, the menu is up to them, it is up to us as to how much we eat of what is being served. there is no bad food, it is always the amount of food that we eat that is the problem!

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Haha NO! they're giving you free food, who cares if it's healthy or not? It's not like your paying for it. If you don't like it don't eat it.

Bringing your own food is rude.



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no I expect the host to serve the best that they can and not cater to each individual.

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No and it is a good challenge to make sth out of nothing ;-)

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No not everyone has a weight issue. Their party their food choices



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yes, i expect the host to cater for invitees needs



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Not really.

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No but it also depends on the host. Many of my friends are already health conscious. So with them I do expect better choices of food.



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not usuallly

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Not unless I offer to bring them

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Do I EXPECT a host to have healthy options? No.
Do I get UPSET if they don't? No. Disappointed, maybe. Upset, no.

Kind of goes back to, when you're a kid and you get asked to eat supper at your best friend's house. And they serve something you don't like. You accepted the invitation-- do the best you can with what's available to choose from, do not throw a fit because you don't like it.

All that being said.... if it's good friends or family who are hosting the party, I'll definitely offer to bring something. They all know I eat healthy, and are usually relieved that I'll bring some healthy stuff and then they don't have to figure out something to make for me. If it's a dinner or party with people I don't know well, or say, the company Christmas party (small, family-owned business; the party is NOT a pot-luck type thing, it would be a serious faux pas to show up with any food) I say nothing and do not show up with platters of food. I just do the best I can, from whatever they've prepared.


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I really don't like parties, so I don't go to many, but I never expect the host to provide any particular type of food. I always eat before I go, unless it's a dinner party, in which case I would ask what they are making and if I can bring anything. Otherwise, if there's something I want to eat there, then great, if not no biggie.

I'm not in a particularly "upscale" sort of crowd, so most gatherings are of the everyone brings a dish sort of variety anyway, so if I want healthy food, I bring something healthy.

Also depends on the type of party and who is going to be there. If it's a pizza and beer sort of gathering, I don't really expect the host to set out a bunch of "healthy" alternatives that have a high probability of not being eaten.



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I am just grateful to be invited.



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I don't expect it either. If I'm invited to someone's house, I scope the food selection and try and make the wisest choice based on what's offered. I don't want to be completely rude and eat nothing at all, so I'll usually have at least a LITTLE of what's being served, if it happens to be a bunch of stuff I wouldn't normally eat. It's not something I have to do every day, so I don't worry about it. I simply make the best of what I have to work with. It's like going to a restaurant - you're completely in control of what choices you make - or not make.

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Upset as in visibly upset? No, never -- but if someone invited me over and had only potato chips and beer, yeah I probably would just make sure that our get togethers happened at my house in the future!! It doesn't make sense to be upset if there are unhealthy AND healthy foods available though , maybe your friend just didn't see anything healthy at all. That's like being a low fat raw vegan and getting upset because there are too many almonds on the table.

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no, i don't expect it
I usually bring my own dish, just in case (if it is not a formal dinner)



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No, if someone is kind enough to invite me into their home. I think it would be rude to dictate the type of food they serve. I will bring something that I like, to share with everyone else.

Although as a hostess I do like to make what my guests like to eat. If the food preference is something like raw vegan. I will try, I don't guarantee success. Since that is so far out of my comfort cooking zone.

I also think it is rude when a guest brings their own meal. For them alone and none to share. What is my cooking so offensive that you need to bring your own meal? How bout you don't get offended next time you are left off the guest list.



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No only if the persons is a health nut



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@KKKAREN.....I don't think there is a problem bringing a healthy crudite platter, or a healthy dish to a party. People often bring a bottle of wine...so what is the problem with bringing your own contribution to the party.

but I just ask the question about IF PEOPLE GET UPSET....
because I've known folks who were expecting everything to be healthy and then resented it when there WERE junk food options that they could not have.

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If its family yes, because they all know im eating healthier and I always offer to bring food too. If its a party or someone I dont know well, yes it would be nice if they offered something healthy but I don't expect it, nor do I get upset if they don't provide healthy stuff. Just probably wouldnt eat anything there.

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I don't expect the host to have anything healthy for me if I'm an uninvited guest (just stopped by and offer to stay for dinner is extended, etc.) but if the invitation is extended, they usually have options for me. At our church functions, the hospitality ministry know that my husband and I are vegetarians and they ensure that we have options and are not limited to just salad. Even then, we sometimes bring out own and end up almost not getting any since others are gobbling up what we bring.

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Yes and no. If it were someone I didn't know well, I wouldn't automatically expect them to provide the kinds of foods I want. Out in the world, there are not always the kinds of things you want to eat available, and that's okay. It might be worth your time to phone ahead and ask what kind of foods will be present. At that point you may be able to be like "Oh I'm just trying to eat healthy and I just wanted to know what to expect." and then offer to bring something to help out.

If it's one of my close friends, yes I expect them to provide healthy foods. All of my friends that would invite me over know that I am working really hard to be healthier, they know how much it means to me, and they know about my progress and struggles. I make it a point to let my friends and family know what is going on, and we talk about it regularly.

While it is not their responsibility to make sure I eat healthy, it is their responsibility to make sure their guests (and FRIENDS!) are comfortable. If one of my friends invited me over knowing how hard I'm working, and then didn't bother to be sensitive to my food needs, I wouldn't think they were being a very good friend.

Edit: Now that I think about it, i think it would really depnd on HOW WELL I knew or didn't know the person on whether I would phone ahead. If I didn't really know them at all, there's no way I would do that. I would either probably ask someone i'm better friends with if they knew, or just show up and play it by ear.

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Unless a host/hostess asks me in advance if there are any issues/allergies or something like that; I expect them to have whatever they provide - healthy or not.

It's not their job to make sure I'm eating healthy.

If I want to make sure there's a healthy option - I'll ask if they would like me to bring something along.


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It depends on who it is, If i know it's someone who isn't healthy then I will end up bringing a veggie tray or something. I never criticize what a host prepares for their guests

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a good host has some healthy choices, a good guest does not bring his/her own food!

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No, I don't expect it, but it's great when it happens.



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i think the issue with this is that "healthy" is such a relative word. there isn't a single, solid set definition that it includes these 400 things and nothing else. so what one person thinks of as healthy won't necessarily be on the list.
i mean, broccoli would probably make most people's lists. some people would prefer their broccoli steamed and that would still fall into "healthy." other people might add some butter and bacon to the broccoli and that's where you start getting some discrepancies. for some people that additional 100-200 cals would make it "unhealthy." for others it is a drastic improvement on what they would have otherwise eaten and so it still quite "healthy."

with that being said, i think it depends on if the host tried. i know i am fairly picky with things and most of my hosts know this as well. if i see that they have made some effort to accommodate me then that has to be good enough. i mean, if i want everything exactly as i want it i should be hosting, not guesting. and just because i am picky about something shouldn't mean that the other 20 people there shouldn't get things the way they like them as well.

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No I don;t, and this is why I eat before I go to a party and drink a ton of water while I am there....it is really up to the guest to eat or not to eat the foods.....you don't always have to eat unless of course it is dinner and then you could offer to bring a healthy dish to help out while actually it would be something you really like to eat that is healthy



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Well, if it was a party for a group that had health as a central focus and no healthy foods were served then that would upset me because it wouldn't be in line with the focus of the group.
If it was a party for a group of people that didn't have health as a focus then it would be nice if some food was healthy but it isn't going to upset me if it is not.

So I would expect a SparkPeople party to have more health concious food choices than a party with random friends or relations.

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yes or at least be aware of the guests dietary needs (food allergies)



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yeah, kinda. If someone expects me to eat at their house, I would be pretty mad if they only had things that contribute to ill health. What kind of hospitality is that? When I invite people over (which I do a LOT) I always make sure that all the food is health-promoting. And I do go to the trouble to meet specific needs, for example my FIL is on a low sodium diet so I respect that. And I know which of my friends are vegetarian, vegan, gluten-free, etc., and of course prepare food that they can eat. Otherwise, what's the point?

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I often hear people complain about party food.
And I think the answer is to bring something you CAN enjoy.
But
do you EXPECT your host to HAVE healthy food options
and do you get upset if they don't?



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