Does anyone self sabatoge?

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8/19/12 11:09 P

lxne. What the heck?

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8/19/12 10:12 P

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8/19/12 9:12 P

No one has commented here for a long time but it's still good to read. First of all, I'm still not being 100% honest on Nutrition Tracker. However, I think doing it 80% of the way is still better than doing it 0% of the way.

Tonight, I ate too much. I was frustrated because my partner is very down and has some physical problems that are making her depressed. I ate my portion of fish and she gave me what she wasn't eating. Now, why did I do that? To top it off, I ate way too fast and made myself sick so I had to take some nausea medicine.

I just turned 67 and I thought I would be a font of wisdom by now. I swear the older I get, the less I know. When I was 20 or 30, I really thought I had all the answers. Now, I just try to live each day in this crazy world as best I can and try again tomorrow.

Best wishes to all.

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7/9/12 2:24 P

I recently saw something that I'm sabotaging my weight loss with. I found myself wishing I was down to my goal weight so I could have some of those high-fat stuff like the Mexican food I love. I realize the fat is still in my head, and I have to work on that. Otherwise, I'll go back to my bad habits and gain all my weight back.

How do I do it? Get my mind going to eliminate the unhealthy foods from my agenda?

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7/9/12 2:18 P

I think self sabotage is very common. I do it too. Obviously or I'd be where I want to be by now! It's when we say "I don't care anymore" that really hurts us. Remember to outsmart those negative thoughts we all think in our heads and try to turn them into positive words. For me it is "I've had it with (whatever) and I want something really good to eat!" I'm going to have it too! Then I go sit down and think about what or who is making me feel like I need to have something "bad" for me and say out loud, "okay, but if you do, you are only hurting one person, you!" "So stop hurting yourself would ya?" I think self talk is a very important part of becoming a healthy and thinner person. Don't you? I think I'm adding this to my blog today.

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5/15/12 11:55 A

I haven't yet but am tempted to from time to time. :/ When I'm feeling like I want to give in and eat more or not do my workout I get onto sp and read whatever I can to find the motivation to stay on track.

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5/14/12 9:32 A

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5/14/12 1:42 A

I "splurged" yesterday, but it was all on "healthy" food. I ate 2 apples instead of 1, I had an extra protein shake, and an extra can of veggies. So, I ate a LOT but managed to not go too far over my calorie range and I got lots of extra good for me stuff. It's my PMS week and I knew I would have munchies, so I haven't kept anything in the house that's bad for me (like candy or chips). I'm not thrilled I ate extra, but I AM thrilled that I didn't just completely go out of control this time (like eating a whole pizza!). I think I'm getting better?

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5/1/12 9:40 P

I tend to when I get upset

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5/1/12 7:29 P

I have been back on track and doing well this week. i joined the "official spring into shape boot camp". I have been tracking and keeping up with my water consumption. I am afraid though....Saturday, we have a party to attend. Afterwards, a visit with my sister-in-law and brother's house. Here is where the temptations and "bad" food and empty calories come in to play. I only hope I have enough will-power this time NOT to self-sabatoge .

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4/27/12 11:19 A

As long as there is nobody else around to see me, I don't consider it cheating! Yep, I'm terrible when I'm by myself. I'm working on it too.

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4/27/12 10:54 A

Love the ideas! Thank you for sharing them! I had to laugh at some of the things because I didn't really realize I was doing some of the same things until I heard them from you! I have a problem with pigging out on weigh in day. It's like "yay, I'm down two pounds! Let's hit the chinese buffet!" I tend to plan my "carefree" day at the end of the week and then start again when my splurge is over. UGH... all that work, then I sabotage it. I need to work on that.

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4/26/12 6:39 P

JOMC0720- I totally get going to the fridge after a fight with my man, as well as when I feel like a "bad" mom. Add that with the word diet and the rebellion that seems to go with it, it is no wonder that I am back to 214. I tend to binge and I have worked really hard to eliminate that as a response to a broken heart, but I am still aware of its existence. In every other area of my life I tend to be inline with my core beliefs and values, but not when it comes to eating and health. I have come a long way, but still sitting a lot heavier than I desire. One step at a time I guess.

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4/26/12 9:44 A

I know exactly what you mean about a compliment throwing you off! I have the sweetest friends who try so hard to encourage, but it's like I hear their compliment and it triggers something in my mind that tell me I can back off (the one thing that has caused the weight loss) and I just get totally thrown off the program, like because someone has validated my hard hard, noticed (yay - it's noticeable!!!) that I'm changing - something about that makes something in my brain just lose control. And I eat. I drink. I be merry.

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4/26/12 4:10 A

well, my family will go on a beach outing tomorrow.
i'm only on day 4 and i'm not yet ready to show the world my flabby belly. XD
anyway...that would mean FOOD FOOD and FOOOOOOOOOOOOOD
i always self sabotage on parties and other occasions :hope it doesn't happen tomorrow

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4/26/12 2:15 A

no, I don't

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4/26/12 2:08 A

No way

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4/26/12 2:04 A

There's lots of good reasons to be afraid of success. Maybe you're shy and the extra attention is unnerving. Maybe the extra responsibility / hours of a new job could be enough to put the rest of your life out of balance. Maybe it will be a financial stretch to keep replacing your wardrobe with a smaller one! That's all stuff I can logic my way through and work on solutions.

But, I'm pretty sure if you are afraid you'll really get the promotion, you deserve to have it. And if you got a compliment its because you worked hard to lose the weight and you look .great. We deserve our successes and we deserve to be recognized for them. (At least I'm sure all of you do. Me...that might be another story. Right?!? We're our own worst critics.)

I deserve to be healthy and strong and to carry less weight around. I'm going to learn and change my habits and earn it!!

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4/26/12 1:09 A

I have no support system. Whenever I have an argument with my husband is when I look to food for comfort. This has been on going for 20 years and I have gotten up to 240 lbs. Can anyone give me words of encouragement? UPDATE**** I posted b4 scrolling down and reading those words of familiarity from all of you. I am not alone !! Thank you. Thank you.

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4/25/12 8:00 P

OMG!!!!!!!! YES!!!!! boy oh boy do I self sabatoge. Every week (until today) lets hope. Just one glass of wine. before i know it, I had 3 and out come the chips and dip. I was doing well. Lost 5 pounds... Now those are back on and I am starting over. Thanks for everyones support.

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4/25/12 6:44 P

Thank you Alphalioness. You offer some great ideas. When I read your point about a rebellious inner child, I had to laugh. It is exactly what I am dealing with. I do not like being told what to do Ever!

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4/25/12 6:34 P

YES! I had a co-worker compliment me on my weight loss and it threw my a bit...I missed 2 days in a row of working out and overate those days. I don't know why but the compliment. I also just recently went for a new position at work and my biggest fear right now is that I just might get it!?!?!? I have a huge fear of success :(

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4/25/12 5:34 P

Hi everyone. I just joined up today.

I can definitely relate to so many of the posters who have replied to this topic. I do it all the time! It mainly happens at night. I have trouble sleeping so I take some meds to sleep (prescribed). I find that once I start to relax, I start to give in to the cravings. Right now it's peanut butter cups and kit kats (both bite-sized). Every time I get up to use the restroom at night, I grab a couple. I hate this about me. I would ban them from the house, but I share my home with my twin sis, who has more self-control and willpower than I do when it comes to this sort of stuff. I am determined to change this behavior, even if it takes me a long time. I am working out and eating sensibly every day so that is what I'm focusing on right now. I'm not letting those late-night failures demotivate me.

Also, the fear of success is something that I can relate to. When I think of myself as being back to my original 135 lbs., I feel this chill go through me. I guess it's because me at that weight is full of undesirable qualities in the eyes of others, and it scares me. Dealing with fear of success is just as important to me as working out everyday.

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4/25/12 5:14 P

Athena1012 - Here's a theory for why you do what you do...We hate to be forced into anything, even if it's something that's going to be good for us. The minute we make it something we "have to" do, some part of us rebels. (How many times I've said, "I GOTTA get back to eating healthy this week...) I know when I think about going to work, a part of me balks - and I rather like my job compared to some. I have that kind of reaction when I get roped into something on the weekend (even it it turns out to be fun in the end). But when I think of doing something that I want to do "just because", I don't feel that same resistance. Make sense?

I would ask youself what first pops into your mind when you think of the word "diet." Deprivation? Bland, boring food? "Having to" log in everything you eat (lack of freedom)? Difficult? If that's the case, then maybe the rebellious child in you is acting out by going in the exact opposite direction. I know that sounds immature, but the unconsious mind is not logical, and it IS your unconscious mind that's running the show. I'm sure your mature, logical mind is thinking of all the healthy things you should be doing at that moment. If you think about a diet in negative terms, try to focus on small changes that you won't resist so much, like adding a piece of fruit to 2 or 3 of your meals or having some ice cream but only on weekends. Once your mind gets that dieting doesn't have to be such a negative thing, you can build from there.

I've done some hypnosis. The PYT program I mentioned in my other post uses some of those techniques via audio you can download. Just a thought. And no...I don't get any commission for suggesting it to people (although I probably should - LOL). It's just really helped me make a lot more progress in the last few months than I've been able to in years. (It also talks about the rebellion thing.)

Good luck!

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4/25/12 4:58 P

I am the WORST about self-sabotaging. I'll do well on my diet for a few days, and then get stressed out and absolutely lose my mind and eat everything in sight. It's especially bad because my roommate doesn't have to diet, so I'll convince myself I can just have ONE of her cookies. One is okay right? Wrong. Because I don't stop at one. I stop at five. or nine. okay, maybe 12. I think my problem is that I freak out when someone stresses me out, and get in the mindset of, "Well, if so-and-so doesn't care about me/respect me/like me/etc. why should I feel those things about myself?" and then I eat.

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4/25/12 4:46 P

It seems that every time that start anything resembling a diet, I start eating terrible. What is that about? For the most part I eat pretty well, but as soon as I start something like weight watchers or even Spark People, I eat whatever is in front of me. For example, I was going to start logging my food today (on here) I ate 3 bowls of Reeses Puffs cereal. I normally exercise 3-4 times a week but this week- nothing. I'm starting to think hypnosis is an option. Any thoughts? Anyone else do these kind of things?

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4/25/12 4:34 P

Wow you`ve got some really good ideas. MY main thing is getting healthy and strong and I am not sure how to put that into a picture. I use to have ( 20 years ago ) a beer poster on my wall in my bed room, on it a girl with a red plaid shirt, denim skirt, cowboy hat and boots. She was my kind of sexy and I guess over time I used her as a mental picture of what I desired to look like, minus 4 inches. Back then I didn`t have any weight issues. I have tried to find that poster I think it was Miller Lite, not sure tho. Perhaps I could find another picture that I can use to visualize how I want my body to look. I have a great imagination so I won`t need to add my head to it. Oh my I just had a thought........... I can carry a picture of myself around when I was heathy and thinner.

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4/25/12 3:58 P

This might resonate with people who have been overweight for a long time or have reservations about being their "ideal" weight. (I know that last one sounds strange, but sometimes being thinner affects current relationships (jealously, resentment) or causes discomfort or awkwardness in dealing with newfound attention.)

Every time I started making decent progress I would self-sabotage, and I never knew why until I started looking at my mental self-image. I had been overweight for so long that I had a hard time picturing what I would look like thin again. No matter how much I wanted to be thin or consciously tried to control things through will power, getting thinner was incongruent with the self-image I had of myself. The unconscious mind will win out over the conscious mind (will power) every time and so the pounds would pile back on. So I've really been working on changing my self-image through visualization and other mental exercises. I know of some people that have photoshopped their head onto a picture of the perfect body just so that they can "install" a new visual self-image into their subconscious. Anyone interested can check out ProgramYourselfThin.com by Jim Katsoulis. I'm still a work-in-progress but his work has helped me a lot.

The other thing that will help is finding that emotionally powerful reason for being thin. Something that you want so much that eating the extra cookie or whatever pales by comparison. Maybe it's being able to keep up with the kids or looking fantastic at the next family reunion. Whatever it is, you need to have a strong emotional connection to it so that you remember why you don't want that cookie when all you really want to do in that moment is eat the whole bag. Write the reason(s) down, carry them with you, and read them often.

I hope these ideas help someone like they've helped me. I've met all of my nutrition and workout goals every day for the last 3 weeks and to be honest, I haven't been really tempted to fall off the wagon. I'm actually excited to get to my goal weight and I just bought a $30 photo editing program so that I can do up my own head-on-perfect-body photo.

Here's one more idea for all you competitors out there: Tape a Year-at-a-Glance calendar on your wall. Highlight any day that you work out (I do green for cardio; blue for weights) and write in the details (time, calories burned). Number the days you meet your nutrition plan, counting up from 1. When you have a "bad" day, start the count over on the next day. Challenge yourself to see how much of the calendar you color in and how many days in a row you can eat clean. :))

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4/25/12 2:53 P

Somebody else does it to ??????? I had a cookie and milk at 3 am. I was feeling very guilty about it. What was different, this time, I paid attention to what I was having, because I knew I would be accountable and have to log it. Is amazing what keeping tract of our food can do to us. If I had not thought about my accountability, I may have eaten two cookies. When I logged my snack in the tracker I did not go over my calories for the day so I was content. When I later weighed and I had dropped 2 more pounds in a week I was ecstatic . I thought hummmm maybe if I had made even better choices I may had seen 3 lbs less on that scale. I am learning and I am on my way............
Just follow the mellow brick road........... just follow the mellow brick road. Follow, follow, follow, follow, follow the mellow brick road.

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4/25/12 2:00 P

I sure do, it seems as if I hit a point in weight loss and then I pull out the ice cream and cookies and have a few moments of insanity.

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4/25/12 1:58 P

I'm getting a little bit better... with all the 'bad stuff' so readily at hand in my store, I'm putting a bit of effort into having healthier options equally readily at hand... home made greek yogurt seems to be my key lately. Mixing it half and half with ice cream in a milkshake cuts the fat a lot, and boosts the protein so the full feeling lasts longer. Mixing it, instead of milk, into sugar free pudding mix (sometimes with a banana and/or a tbsp of peanut butter) to make popsicles is working too. So yes, I'm still self sabotaging, but at least I can satisfy the craving with a slightly less evil option than the Jos Louis that keeps calling my name lol

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4/25/12 1:53 P

Yes, yes, yes...I do...that's me! Self-Sabotage Queen! I am doing better though. Well, at least in the last 2 weeks, I am. I have tried to be very aware of what I eat and when I eat. I try to ask myself if I'm hungry or just bored, upset, or emotional about something. I noticed that I was having a BAD (VERY VERY BAD as in the caloire equivalent of a full meal followed by a full meal) problem with the first few minutes after I got home in the afternoon, so I also started making myself do something when I got home, instead of finding a snack. I have planted some new shrubs, done laundry, dishes, cleaned the bathroom, read part of a book...anything to not eat! I've also decided that gum is my friend. I chew on a piece of it for less than 5 minutes normally, but it keeps me in check! Yay! Isn't the saying that it takes 28 days for something to become a habit?

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4/25/12 11:38 A

I am in the royal court of self sabatoge. When I am upset about something I over eat, I don't understand how I justify it. It doesn't solve any problems, change any circumstance, or make me feel better. Now.... to change it

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4/25/12 11:16 A

Pizza always gets me. I justify it by ordering the thin crust and getting the veggie one, but I always go overboard with it.

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4/25/12 10:49 A

Glad to hear I am not alone in this. Thing that is particularly puzzling to me is I am doing stuff now that I was never guilty of before. My weakness has always been carbs with little interest in sweets. Lately though I have developed an insatiable craving for chocolate and am finding excuses to sneak a piece of cake or fudge daily.

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4/25/12 10:40 A

Sometimes when I am doing something totally horrible like sneak eating chips from the bag i feel as though i am outside myself looking at this idiot who thinks that if no one sees her eating it it doesn't count.

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4/25/12 10:39 A

Hi, I lost over 100 pounds and then due to stress. a bad marriage, a separation, cross country move and a few other tings I have gained a lot back, but taking it step by step I can do it again. I am my own worst enemy and find that I am a stress eater and think it will not hurt but I am hurting myself....I need to learn to listen to my inner voice and not beat myself up so much. Keep grapes in freezer and they will defrost at work, watermelon too...good for you and will pep you up....Big hug to you Debby

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4/25/12 10:36 A

Hi Traci, I know what you are talking about when others around you are eating all of this stuff and you are trying to be better and take care of yourself..Take it wasy and maybe a piece of sugar free candy would help or chew gum if you can. Walk outside during a break and get away for a few....Big hugs Debby

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4/25/12 9:43 A

Hi! My name is Traci and I just joined SparkPeople. I do this all the time! My biggest problem is at work where I munch all day on potato chips and drink soda (lots of soda!).
I was so surprised to see how many other people do it too. I was in Weight Watchers for a while, but I always felt like I was the only one that self-sabotaged. I think this website is really going to help me lose the weight this time. Wish my luck!

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4/25/12 9:42 A

I have to admit I have done this. I think it is a scared thing. As soon as I see a big jump in the scale I have said hmm I can eat that ice cream. And then the next day Dang why did I do that.

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4/25/12 9:17 A

Totally! This has been me so many times, but for once I'm keeping it in check.

The main ways I self-sabotage is to get stuck thinking that food or drinks are the "reward" for getting through the day and going nuts. The second is to have things around the house that I know I just can't resist. These things combined with slacking on activity are just a recipe for sabotage...at least for me.

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4/25/12 8:37 A

unfortunately, yes. I am trying to make changes though.

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4/25/12 8:05 A

I have not self sabatoged this time. I did it in the past and just gave up dieting but this time I feel that I am mentally ready to lose the weight so it doesn't seem to be a problem.

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4/25/12 6:06 A

Yes! I am trying to change that behavior.

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4/25/12 5:35 A

I'm definitely a self-sabotager. Two things often help for me. If the problem is food, and for me it's usually with overeating a particular type of food, I ban that food from the house for a set amount of time until I feel like I'm back on track and better in control of myself. If the problem is exercise and lack of motivation to go to the gym, I analyze my week and figure out which days are possible to squeeze gym time into my hectic schedule. I then pencil them in like any other appointment. I often find that there are only two or three days maximum where I REALLY can't make time for a good exercise session.

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4/25/12 2:24 A

HI. My name is Carla and I am new around here. Self sabatoge is what brought me here. I am hoping if I mix things up I can get my motivation back. I am on WW and was doing very well for a good 7 months or so. Lost 45 lbs and was really looking forward to getting rid of the last 15. Then I literally woke up one morning and started rationalizing reasons not to stick to the plan. Next thing ya know I have gained back 20 lbs and can't seem to stop the backwards slide. What the heck is wrong with me???

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4/25/12 1:32 A

YES!YES!YES! It is so annoying. I lose a few pounds and then I celebrate my weight loss with pizza. I need to stop dong that!!!!

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4/25/12 1:04 A

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4/25/12 12:45 A

I sure do and this is an issue im dealing with right now :(

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4/24/12 10:11 P

I've found I self sabotage in two different ways.

One is complacency. After some success, I may celebrate and cause a backslide. To deal with that, I just try to be aware of this tendency in myself and keep the celebrations under control.

The other is rebelling against a program that's too restrictive. When I'm going really hardcore (I went through a sodium-Nazi phase recently), I inevitably get to a point where I eat angry and have food tantrums. I'm still working through my last bad spell, but I think that by loosening up the food restrictions I place on myself I can bring the joy back to eating and still be healthy. This week, I'm letting Spark tell me what to eat and seeing how that goes. So far, so good!

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4/24/12 9:52 P

Yes I do:( I could be at my goal weight but every store I go in has Easter candy on sale and I just have to buy it because it is such a good deal. Then I think I will only eat just one piece then 1/2 the bag is gone. I continue to work out regularly the food just seems to get me all the time. Need to work on those triggers!

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4/24/12 9:48 P

POUKAH, you are not alone! I also have a hard time passing up an opportunity to have something "special" to eat that I don't dare keep at home.....self sabotage....it is tough to get in the zone and stay there. I will look into the almonds you mentioned. Thanks for posting.

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4/24/12 9:30 P

I most certainly self sabotage... doing it right now in fact. I am supposed to be doing my 20 minute work out followed by a 40 minute trot on the treadmill. Okay okay... I'll stop. Good bye interwebs and hello Jillian Michaels!

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4/24/12 9:22 P

yes I have to cook for the whole family, so i wind up eating what I have made.

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4/24/12 8:39 P

You can fight it...keep up the hard work! We CAN do it!!!

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4/24/12 8:11 P

Yes, too much. But I am looking at my triggers and trying to work on new ways to cope.

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4/24/12 7:45 P

Way to often.

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4/24/12 7:33 P

Ha, ha, ha! I don't have kids anymore but just in case some show up! Yes, I do that, oh and Hallow'een I go crazy in case 100 children show up at our door!

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4/24/12 7:25 P

Yes! Yes! and Yes again!
It is so hard before, during, and after the holidays. I brought half priced Easter candy and BOGO Chips Ahoy because the kids might want it.

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4/24/12 7:18 P

I have been at this for four years and only recently have I begun to notice and deal with the triggers that cause me to self sabotage. What is really sad is that last year I was five pounds from my goal weight and sabotaged myself and gained fifteen pounds.

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4/24/12 7:01 P

Isn't it great to say it out loud to people that can totally relate! What I often do is my binge eating away from home and away from friends....so I can definitely relate to hiding the wrappings and all the evidence!!! Someone could take a look at my garbage bag in my car and really find out what's going on! Also, my garbage can at work in my private office!!!!
I have figured out that much of the unhealthy eating follows traditional holidays - the leftover chocolates, potato chips, cookies and stuff like that. I get on a roll.
Thanks so much for sharing. I am so grateful for SparkPeople and the support and understanding that we share with each other.

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4/24/12 6:53 P

I was so shocked to see that so many people deal with the same thing that I do. I eat ALL the time it seems like. I'm not hungry or I am and I eat. I do so well for a while and then I just binge. After that I feel horrible, disgusting and ugly. I have NEVER said that out loud! I am so embarrased that I do this. I'm constantly hiding food or wrappers in the garbage. I have done pretty well in the last week of not keeping my "weakness" foods in the house. If I have to make a special trip to get them, I'm way less likely to do it.

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4/24/12 5:15 P

Yes. If I can remember to stop and realize what I'm doing maybe I could figure out how to stop. Constant reminders like this are helpful

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4/24/12 4:08 P

Same thing here. For me it's an inability to stop. Like yesterday, I worked out really hard and then came home and ate everything in sight. I knew it was wrong and I kept telling myself to stop - but I couldn't.

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4/24/12 3:23 P

I know the feeling one day i am so excited that i am actually doing it and the next i'm binge on some Chinese or salty snacks and the thing is i know its wrong and i don't even enjoy it! I dont know why that happens and i thought i was the only one but i now realizing that its something the alot of people go through and i am determine to stop sabotaging what i want!

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4/24/12 3:12 P

Sometimes I have this rush of fear that I just might actually reach my goal and I want to eat. Weird huh? Been working so hard, and don't know why I would do that. But, I think it through before I go there and it has helped me to remain consistent without sabotage.

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4/24/12 2:48 P

Yupper, dupper but I'm working on it!

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4/24/12 2:47 P

I do, but I am working on it. I am figuring out what triggers my sabotaging. So I am working on mastering those triggers.

Sometimes something beyond my control, like the weather makes me want to sabotage. I cannot change the weather, but I can change how I deal with it.

Edited by: MANDIETERRIER1 at: 4/24/2012 (15:10)

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4/24/12 2:23 P

DEFINITELY. It can go either way. If I'm feeling REALLY good about myself on a particular day, then sometimes I just let go and eat things I normally wouldn't, or eat much MORE than I normally would, and right afterwards I crash into a pit of self-disgust.

Or if I'm feeling particularly negative, I'll do the same, telling myself it won't make a difference because I hate myself anyway. It's a crazy vicious cycle in either direction, and I'm trying very hard to learn to balance between constant 'restriction' (or just pressure to eat perfectly all the time), and total abandon.

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4/24/12 2:18 P

Am also a post-dinner self-sabotager. Have noticed, though, that when I have a relatively high-fat supper -- such as salmon, a salmon burger (minus bread), or a decent-size hamburger -- along with vegetables and even a half avocado, I don't think about eating towards 10 pm. Have also been munching on Trader Joe's wasabi almonds (more fat but in the form of healthy oil).

One of my big problems is saying NO to opportunities to have a food that I do not keep in the house, such as having a slice of pizza when en route home from a job and feeling very hungry, or accepting extra carrot cake that my neighbors wanted to share, or ordering bread at an Italian restaurant. In other words, as long as I'm at home, I can pretty much avoid the siren song of carbohydrate-laden delights, whereas under non-home conditions, my brain seems to automatically secrete some sort of chemical that puts me into a temporary fog, and before I know it I'm telling myself that it's really just fine to have a bit of some high-calorie, high-carb food that's is totally off my regular eating plan.

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4/24/12 1:40 P

I think your 3 part plan will work! I know for myself exercise is key to a healthy lifestyle and drinking water sure helps to keep me from eating. (I can't eat and drink at the same time!) Let me know if strawberries give you the same rush as potato chips. For me, the best thing is not to have a single bag of potato chips near me at home or at work. I do my food tracking here on SparkPeople and the first time I logged in a bag of potato chips I was shocked at the calories and fat content! I'm not saying it stopped my cravings but it really helped!

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4/24/12 1:33 P

I go home from work and eat until I feel full (not barely full or nearly full, but FULL), and I eat in bed while I'm reading. But it's time to stop.

Here's my 3-part plan:

1. Exercise depresses my appetite, I'm going to try biking, weight training (rowing machine) or swimming for 10-15 minutes every day. Will that break the eating-too-much-after-work habit?

2. I'm also going to try drinking a full glass of water before bed. Will that stop the munching in bed?

3. Finally, strawberries make me feel full, way more than their size would suggest. Will replacing potato chips and dip with strawberries satisfy my snacking habit?

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4/24/12 1:15 P

I can really relate to what you are saying! I tend to eat at night, mostly out of boredom i think. I just find comfort in chewing and eating. Will power has never been one of my strengths. As far as help... obviously simple will power isn't going to be there for us. I have started a new plan that I hope will give me the leeway I need to eat if i have to without really cheating. its called the "Simple Diet". he lets you modify it to allow for those weak moments without going way off. I just started it today, but it seems like one i can stick with.
I haven't figured out if we are sabotaging ourselves or are just compulsive eaters or both. i guess each person is different. eating for me has always been comforting and enjoyable. i honestly think i was born that way. I have struggled all my life with it.
If you find some magic that helps those of us with little to no will power, please share!

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4/24/12 12:59 P

night is definitely the worst!