11/11/2009 | 8:44 AM
I wore my college hoodie all winter last year. That and emotional eating to deal with my husband's serious illness helped me gain 15 pounds on top of the 30 I had to lose.
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1/27/2010 9:36:43 AM
Been there.....done that, unfortunately. I can honestly say I do know what you're feeling. I had lost a very close friend, and had my 4 year old grandson AND husband both diagnosed with cancer within 6 months. While my grandson had a good prognosis my husband didn't, and the stress was unbearable, so I turned to food for comfort. Did it help the situation? I was compromising my health, and at the time it did give me some needed comfort. I did not have guilt ,I just didn't care about myself at the time, I was too busy worrying about others.
That storm has passed. My grandson is cured (now 11) and my husband defied the odds and is doing very well.
Although I did gain a lot of weight I did not beat myself up over it. Everyone has weaknesses, and these came during a time when I was most vulnerable. Now that the storm has calmed I realized that while they survived their battles mine was still ahead of me, and that it was time for me to get back into shape so I could live long enough to watch my grandson grow and become the doctor he dreams of, curing other children with cancer. I know that my husband could have substantial health issues in the future and I could fall off the wagon, but I also realize that I need to be healthy and strong to weather the storm.
I wish you strength my SparkPeople friend. Don't give up hope, and do try to take care of yourself as well. And if you slip along the way give yourself a break, you're only human and you'll get back on your feet in due time.
1/24/2010 9:39:07 PM
I cannot know what you are going through, but I do know how it feels to be lost and alone. But Isaiah 43 says that we are never alone. Better days are ahead. Look up.
1/24/2010 9:17:59 PM
You look so sad & unhappy, I will say a prayer for you. Just don't give up on yourself, when you are at your best you will be a great blessing to others and be at peace with yourself. I lost my dad too several years ago and it was devastating but you will move on, and you will take with you the good memories of that person and be a stronger and wiser person for it.
1/21/2010 3:22:00 PM
i have this ugly notre dame sweatshirt that i wore all the time after my daughter was born. its good at covering up a fat stomach. i just had twins and didnt want to bring the sweatshirt out but i did.
1/18/2010 1:48:03 PM
I know exactly how you feel. My father passed away in 2005 and I began to eat to deal with the pain of loosing my father. My husband was injured in November of 2006 and has not worked since. The struggle with my loss, my husbands injuries and the added responsibility of trying to make ends meet and to keep a roof over our heads has been enormous. I am an emotional eater. I try hard not to be, but sometimes my emotions just take over. I can do good all day, then at night or on the weekend, I slip and eat something I shouldn't, which in return makes me feel worse.
1/17/2010 1:25:18 PM
Praying for your peace and your husband's health. You are a beautiful woman.
1/11/2010 10:20:39 PM
It's hard to think good thoughts when we're down. Yet, even at our most vulnerable, our weakest, we are a miracle of nature. We are amazing: millions of cells in our bodies are constantly doing complicated tasks...so what if they produce excess fat once in a while? Admire how incredibly beautiful and miraculous you are. Be in awe of you, of your life, and it will reveal its awesomeness to you. Hugs
1/11/2010 11:01:16 AM
I know it's very easy to crawl into a pint of Ben and Jerry's to try to cope with stress and pain. I've done it myself many, many times. You and your husband will be in my thoughts and prayers while you weather this storm.
1/4/2010 6:51:56 PM
I think you're beautiful.
1/3/2010 7:04:14 PM
I like the God box idea. I have been (virtually) unemployed for the past two years (with about a year in there of being self-employed with very inconsistent and insufficient pay)... which has been a reasonable stressor. It is a funny thing that we think eating (whatever) will help . . . and it does for that moment. I will be praying that you will find some self-soothing things to do to replace the food. Maybe journalling, call a good friend, a bath..... Will also be praying for you and your husband. For his recovery and creativity in the midst.
1/3/2010 5:20:43 PM
Taking care of others, I forgot totally about myself for years. Now that it's only me and my two boys here, I have to rediscover myself and start taking care of myself again. That is a scary thing. But I am loved by me too and I too deserve the best care I have given to so many for so many years.
It is one day at the time, keep plucking away and give to yourself what you so willingly give to everyone else in your life. YOU deserve it!!!
12/28/2009 3:20:19 PM
Hi Jane. Just focus on loving you. You are beautiful. Dealing with a loved one's sickness can be hard and we deal with it in so many ways. Just never forget yourself! It is not selfish to put yourself first. It is when you take care of yourself first that you are a better wife, mother, sister, friend etc. God bless..
12/14/2009 6:13:24 AM
You are beautiful.
12/7/2009 9:17:11 AM
that hoodie should be UT and im happy your doing well im just gettig started your an insperation trying my best .
11/29/2009 3:59:07 PM
Sometimes it helps to substitute something else to comfort yourself. I used to get stressed out at work, then stop at McDonalds on the way home. I was spending on average $7 a week on fast food and packing on the pounds. Now, I use the money for little non food treats for myself, like nail polish, lipstick, lottery tickets, etc.
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