Paradox 14: “What we Learn from the Past is: we Seldom Learn from the Past”
Peter noted we tend to repeat negative patterns learned from parents, culture, or ourselves, and worse yet, blame others.
To break an unhealthy habit, Peter suggests:
1. Become aware of and name the unhealthy conduct
2. Name the new be... Read more
Paradox 13: Not making a decision IS making a decision
Peter holds a Master in Counseling Psychology. He started the chapter describing a counseling session and how he helped a client with a ‘victim’ mentality understand he WAS making a decision staying in a job he hated.
He next described how ... Read more
Paradox 12 – Playing it Safe is Dangerous
Peter started discussing this paradox by talking about how parents and coaches challenge children to excel.
He then suggests we ask ourselves two questions:
1. Where are we playing it safe?
2. Why are we playing it safe?
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Paradox 11: “Males have feminine energy, Females have male energy”
Peter talks about how the ancients (Chinese and Greeks) knew our core traits were both feminine and masculine; be and do, intuitive and objective, inward and outward. He suggests that we look @ ourselves with a “both-and” perspective to live a h... Read more
Paradox 10: “Get Serious about a Sense of Humor”
Peter talked about people taking themselves too seriously; and using road rage as an example, showed how a situation could be handled with humor. He talked about how humor could blunt life’s disappointments and lead to healthier life.
I kno... Read more
Paradox 9: We can live happily ever-after if we live every moment
Peter starts this chapter talking about the myths we call fairy tales and their two fallacies:
1. Someone can save you
2. Life is easy, happy and conflict free
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Paradox 8: To see the Truth, contemplate all as False
Peter talked earlier about how living conventional norms was insane, and expanded the paradox to discuss how many ‘truths’ lead to unhealthy behavior. He asked that we contemplate what lies are we living at home, at work, in the way we interact ... Read more
Paradox 7: Insane living does not require going crazy
Peter sums up the paradox of this chapter in one succinct sentence. “It is insane to live by other people’s norms.” He then urges us to let go of our fears and start living ‘outside the box’.
When I look @ spark journeys, I see courageous p... Read more
Paradox 6: "The teacher learns the most"
Peter’s chapter contains wonderful illustrations of how teachers learn more than their students. It ended with a Confucius discussion of learning. While a student ‘hears and sees’, a teacher ‘does’ and hence ‘understands’.
When I think abou... Read more
Paradox 5: Journey Forward = Journey Inward
The 5th paradox Peter discusses is how we ‘progress’ in western culture. He suggests that we focus on the external; praise, money, status as opposed to the internal and the only way to go forward on our journeys is to go inward.
In my case,... Read more
Paradox 4: Change is the only Permanency
Permanent is defined as eternal, intransient, immovable. Change is described as the opposite, hence Peter's fourth paradox. We can see change all around us in the autumn. Leaves turn color. They fall. Days shorten. Temperatures cool. A perfect t... Read more
Paradox 3: Attitude: a Little thing that makes a Big difference
Dictionary.com defines attitude as: manner, disposition, feeling, position, etc., with regard to a person or thing; TENDENCY or ORIENTATION (my emphasis), esp. of the mind.
Attitudes are labeled as neutral, negative or positive. People wit... Read more
Paradox 2: Perfectly Human = Human Imperfection
My healthy journey has mirrored my life. I am a blessed individual with a strong will and a single minded purpose. When I decided to lose weight I did; straight on, 25 pounds in 24 weeks. When I decided to add exercise I did; started with Callan... Read more
Paradox 1: Simple is not Easy
The first paradox Peter Allman dealt with was: Simple is not Easy.
My initial reaction was duh (especially since I'm 15 months into my healthy journey), but I found the first definition of simple is:
EASY to understand, deal with, use, e... Read more
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A Season of Paradoxical ReNEWal and my NEW Journey
Wikipediea defines a paradox as “a true statement or group of statements that leads to a contradiction or a situation which defies intuition.” Thinking of autumn as a season of renewal and awakening as opposed to thinking of it as a season of ex... Read more