WATERMELLEN's SparkPeople Blog http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal.asp?id=WATERMELLEN WATERMELLEN's Blog on SparkPeople, home of free diet plans and a healthy living community SparkPeople.com http://assets2.sparkpeople.com/assets/nav/logo_spark.gif http://www.sparkpeople.com/ Difficult to Manage http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6189314 One of my great heroes used to speak (forgivingly, more in sorrow than in anger) about people who had been born with "difficult personalities". Personalities which were difficult to manage. <BR> <BR> It's interesting to think that we are born with our personalities more or less intact: one of those fundamentally immutable characteristics. Which can nevertheless be managed. <BR> <BR> Some inherent personality characteristics aren't very objectionable to others -- such as being rather pl... Sat, 25 Jun 2016 10:15:20 EST Splitopia: A Good Divorce? http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6188660 <link>www.theglobeandmail.com/life/relatio<BR>nships/splitting-with-dignity-how-some<BR>-former-couples-are-treating-divorce-a<BR>s-an-awakening/article30573608/ </link> <BR> <BR> Here's an article I may offer to some of my clients. It's long but for those who've experienced their parents' divorce or whose siblings are divorcing or whose kids have experienced divorce or whose grandkids have been affected by divorce (and that would be just about everybody???) it may offer some fresh persp... Fri, 24 Jun 2016 07:47:10 EST Anniversary: 37th!! http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6188101 My goodness, if we had known 37 years ago everything we'd have to deal with, would we ever have had the courage? <BR> <BR> And if we had known 37 years ago what joy and companionship and growth and change we'd experience (as well as the stuff we'd have to deal with!): well then, how could we have not?? <BR> <BR> I'm so grateful. Every day. <BR> <BR> Or at least, most of 'em: when not dealing with some of the aforementioned . . . and nope, doesn't get better than that, I'm pretty sure!! Thu, 23 Jun 2016 08:18:53 EST An Excellent Imitation http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6186707 Just riffing back and forth with a Sparkie friend about how difficult it is for young people to grow up today . . . <BR> <BR> And I was reminded: quite often I feel about my own self that I've never really grown up. <BR> <BR> Oh yeah, I do an excellent imitation of a grown up a lot of the time. <BR> <BR> Fool a lot of people, I'm pretty sure! <BR> <BR> But "inside": the same ol' same ol'. And that's not necessarily a bad thing. Keeps me humble, keeps me young, keeps me learning. When ... Tue, 21 Jun 2016 05:52:00 EST Flamingo! http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6186121 OK, the new top is pretty, uh, flamboyant for work . . . so I'll tone it down today with very low key "other pieces". <BR> <BR> Beige cotton pencil skirt (plain, but with a pretty flutter of pleaty detail at the back). <BR> <BR> And beige linen jacket (I almost always take a jacket -- although I'm not always wearing it). <BR> <BR> And then coral leather wedge sandals? And a truly gorgeous coral leather belt with a leafy gold clasp? <BR> <BR> Or maybe when I get dressed I'll opt for low... Mon, 20 Jun 2016 08:06:12 EST At My Bird Feeder . . . http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6185628 The bird feeder outside my window at work is a source of pleasure and distraction, for me and sometimes my clients too. <BR> <BR> There is quite an aggressive group of blue-necked, yellow-eyed blackbirds: the squirrel baffler springs are set just tightly enough to make it difficult for them to alight without blocking the seed distributors, but they can generally kick seed out and feed beneath (and the mourning doves like that too). <BR> <BR> I've been getting lots of smaller birds: finches,... Sun, 19 Jun 2016 10:11:34 EST Truth in Visuals? Shout Out to 2BDYMANIC! http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6185108 <link>www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_jo<BR>urnal_individual.asp?blog_id=6185098 </link> <BR> <BR> Isn't 2BDYNAMIC one of our very best bloggers? And I really like the visuals in her blog today, "This or That": powerful. <BR> <BR> Made me think: supposing that soft drink or hamburger commercials could ONLY feature actors who consumed these products in quantity: a kind of "truth in visuals" advertising credo. <BR> <BR> And supposing that was also true for alcohol or for cigarettes? ... Sat, 18 Jun 2016 10:10:55 EST Rules to Lose 10 pounds: Shout Out to DDOORN!! http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6183861 <link>www.eatthis.com/rules-to-lose-10-pou<BR>nds </link> <BR> <BR> What a terrific article in DDOORN's status post yesterday. And although I do follow most of these rules, I'm not so hot about the water bottle thingy which is Rule 1: although I'm terrific about the coffee thingy, which is my very own (subversive) version of Rule 1 (I know, I know: but it's my only remaining sin and I'm sticking with it because it works for me . . . ). <BR> <BR> My fave quote from the article? <BR> <BR... Thu, 16 Jun 2016 08:01:52 EST Weight Loss and Better Health http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6183217 Weight loss isn't always equivalent to better health. And adopting a "war on the body" stance isn't conducive to long-term weight maintenance OR health. <BR> <BR> Yeah. We know that. But it never hurts to remind ourselves! <BR> <BR> <link>www.theglobeandmail.com/life/health-<BR>and-fitness/health-advisor/weight-loss<BR>-is-not-always-the-answer-to-better-he<BR>alth/article30453328/ </link> Wed, 15 Jun 2016 07:20:27 EST Stress Recedes http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6182996 Oh yeah. <BR> <BR> And you can bet: that feels so good. Nobody wants a receding hairline. Or receding gums! But receding stress is terrific. <BR> <BR> I've been waiting for it, patiently. Doing everything I could to hasten the process. Ahhhhhhhh!!! <BR> <BR> Charlie's new ramp has arrived and I've set it up for on and off the back deck -- introduced him to it with the help of some liver treats. Here's hoping it helps! <BR> <BR> He enjoyed rolling in the grass on the front yard whi... Tue, 14 Jun 2016 20:56:50 EST LGBTQ2S http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6181858 Some of us are gay. <BR> <BR> But none of us can be feeling gay (jubilant) today. In June: Pride Month. <BR> <BR> Let there be an end to this hatred. <BR> <BR> Gratitude to those political leaders both north and south of our border -- Obama, Clinton, Trudeau, Wynne -- who've spoken up in measured and respectful tones to express our sorrow and our regret. <BR> <BR> And: our determination to effect change. Mon, 13 Jun 2016 07:24:00 EST Fresh http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6181259 The world this morning feels fresh and new and flower-scented. It's a marvellous not-too- hot temperature, and sunny, with the sound of wind in the maple leaves. Life brims over with possibilities: no chores today, no urgencies, a peaceful interlude before work resumes tomorrow. <BR> <BR> And what is so rare as a day in June? <BR> The, if ever, come perfect days; <BR> Then Heaven tries earh if it be in tune, <BR> And over it softly her warm ear lays; <BR> Whether we look, or whether we... Sun, 12 Jun 2016 07:07:40 EST Heavy Duty http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6180710 Late home last night: early start this morning back to the conference. <BR> <BR> And yup, I'm tired. And still absorbing; intellectually and emotionally. <BR> <BR> It's so fascinating and also so profoundly disturbing to learn more about how high conflict actually affects the brain structure -- particularly for growing children immersed in high conflict divorce situations. <BR> <BR> Certainly a huge impetus to try and do things differently: not just for the clients but for the next gener... Sat, 11 Jun 2016 07:49:34 EST Interesting Day(s) Ahead http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6180086 Today and tomorrow, I've got a conference lined up that promises to be pretty fascinating: that whole "high conflict personality" stuff that teaches us how to think flexibly, so we can manage our emotions, so we can moderate our behaviours (and why we need to keep checking that we ARE doing that . . . even though it's much more fun to accuse OTHER people of being all black and white and not thinking flexibly, and raging because they're not managing their emotions, and behaving terribly and un... Fri, 10 Jun 2016 07:08:20 EST My Hobby: Shout Out to BESSHAILE! http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6179485 Tripped over a comment by BESSHAILE in which she says that making weight loss her "hobby" was a route to success for her. <BR> <BR> A hobby is an activity or interest pursued for pleasure or relaxation and not as a main occupation. <BR> <BR> Yup. Weight maintenance has become my hobby too; because weight maintenance works best for me when I'm not all grim and determined about it, but somewhat relaxed and playful! And when weight maintenance encompasses pleasurable physical activities (so... Thu, 9 Jun 2016 07:38:47 EST Heartening! http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6178836 Cardiologist (who is 10 years younger than me) says he wishes he'd be able to do as well on a stress test . . . final definitive test and I'm A-OK! Now that's heartening . . . absolutely. Particularly given I'm still not 100% post-cold! <BR> <BR> And I got some of those nasturtium seeds planted last night after work! <BR> <BR> All right then: a few more stressful days including work and a flurry of work-related activities -- professional AGM and 3 day conference -- and by Sunday life shou... Wed, 8 Jun 2016 07:57:49 EST Premature Full Moon??? http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6178103 It's not full moon until June 20, according to my check of a "moon phases" calendar. <BR> <BR> But my goodness: yesterday was quite challenging at work! <BR> <BR> Oh well oh well. We do what we can. <BR> <BR> And this morning I've had a luscious asparagus egg white omelette. Heading out for another cardiology appointment (excessively conscientious GP: I'm sure there are no issues). Tue, 7 Jun 2016 07:11:25 EST New Week http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6177400 It's dark and rainy out there: and I wish I'd managed to get my nasturtium seeds planted over the weekend. <BR> <BR> Maybe tonight after work. A couple days delay doesn't make much difference: they'll be off and running in the warm moist soil. <BR> <BR> Managed to play 9 holes of golf yesterday before it got dark and stormy . . . so I've gotta be about 95% recovered from that cold. <BR> <BR> Conference will take up time for the last days of this week and into next weekend: so I'll be ... Mon, 6 Jun 2016 08:14:23 EST Is 100 the New 60? http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6176890 <link>business.financialpost.com/diane-fra<BR>ncis/body-sensors-uber-care-and-prescr<BR>iption-apps-this-is-how-medical-techno<BR>logy-is-going-to-make-100-the-new-60 </link> <BR> <BR> And if you knew that 100 were the new 60, how would you live your life differently? <BR> <BR> Diane Francis, one of Canada's best economists, looks at the new medical technology which she says is going to extend all of our lives: and make 100 feel like 60. <BR> <BR> Lots and lots of Sparkies (not me) are a... Sun, 5 Jun 2016 11:19:33 EST Feeling Better, Feeling Content http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6176260 I'm not 100% yet but feeling so much better. <BR> <BR> And feeling better makes me realize how very much good health contributes to contentment. <BR> <BR> Nothing euphoric, nothing dazzling, nothing super-exciting going on: just the quiet pleasure and serenity of being able to carry out my usual day. <BR> <BR> Watered the garden. Did the laundry. Picking up from the shoemaker. Heading to the gym soon for a mild workout. Then the library. And the grocery store. <BR> <BR> But: not achi... Sat, 4 Jun 2016 09:08:01 EST The Instant Gratification Genie http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6175600 Thanks for all the sickie sympathy yesterday! I soaked up some sun sitting on my high deck surrounded by blossoms and snoozed and had some soup and read. Still not great but one more day of work (can't play hookey today) and then a weekend. <BR> <BR> Here's another new-to-me gem from Beck Blue, discussing the "psychological traps" and in particular the "I don't care": as in that inner rebellious voice which tells me, "I'm going to eat this anyhow even though it's not on my food plan for t... Fri, 3 Jun 2016 07:37:39 EST Sick sick sick http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6174972 I've been fighting it for about five days but it's getting worse: sore sore throat, achy, plugged up ears, now extending down into my chest: summer cold. <BR> <BR> Bleecchhhh! <BR> <BR> Poor night's sleep; and this morning I'm barely capable of croaking. <BR> <BR> Will go into work for a brief time to handle some urgentish stuff and then probably fold, come home, crawl into bed . . . skipping an after-work BBQ/business event. <BR> <BR> I've been quietly working my way through Beck Blu... Thu, 2 Jun 2016 08:05:30 EST The Science of Spit http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6174239 <link>www.theglobeandmail.com/life/food-an<BR>d-wine/food-trends/how-saliva-determin<BR>es-our-food-texture-preferences/articl<BR>e30221556/ </link> <BR> <BR> What an interesting article in the Globe about "mouth feel" and individual preferences around food texture: all linked to the particular quantity and quality of saliva in a person's mouth. <BR> <BR> I love that melting solid to liquid sensation which apparently only some people really experience: pudding dissolving, and particularl... Wed, 1 Jun 2016 07:53:54 EST Post Verandaaaahhhh Routine http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6173557 At this time of the year, I love to take a little stroll around the garden and pick something fresh for the kitchen table. <BR> <BR> This morning: bridal wreath spirea, late Persian lilac and lily-of-the-valley. <BR> <BR> Coming soon: Siberian iris (the small bright blue ones with clear yellow eyes). And the scarlet Oriental poppies. <BR> <BR> Linda Beck's nutrition column in the Globe this morning tells us not to rely upon "diet" foods: low fat, low sugar. Get a cheese plane, thinly... Tue, 31 May 2016 07:20:31 EST Extreme Gardening http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6172874 Spent at least four hours sweating it out in the garden yesterday: my central life metaphor for sure. <BR> <BR> Weeding. <BR> <BR> Pruning. <BR> <BR> Planting. <BR> <BR> Watering. <BR> <BR> And acknowledging that if a plant isn't working in a particular location, I may need to relocate it . . . or accept that I don't have the right location to offer it. Even if it worked before: the environment around it may have changed, as trees grow and shade deepens and . . . all of that. <BR> ... Mon, 30 May 2016 07:06:57 EST Failure: not a popular concept . . . http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6172378 Loved reading the responses to yesterday's blog, thank you all!! <BR> <BR> And I totally get that wallowing in failure is not helpful. (Hope that's not what I communicated). <BR> <BR> But: I do think that many of us can become discouraged because we can look at our own lives from the inside (with all the fears and failures and frustrations front and centre) whereas we always view everyone else's lives from the outside (all selfies and successes and splendours!!). <BR> <BR> When it comes ... Sun, 29 May 2016 10:10:28 EST Failure Board http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6171829 My very wise and infinitely resilient DD (who's dealing with a tough patch) tells me that what's needed online is not the braggy stuff from Facebook (nope, I'm not on Facebook) or "vision board" but frank "failure boards". <BR> <BR> That is: candid acknowledgement that my life is not perfection, not endless glittering success, not calm and serene stability. <BR> <BR> But full of fear and failure and change. <BR> <BR> So true. <BR> <BR> My peak stress yesterday turned out to be unresolvab... Sat, 28 May 2016 09:40:57 EST OK then . . . Peak Stress?? http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6171232 Could be. <BR> <BR> And I'm prepared for it: one of those fabulous egg white omelettes on my bright red plate with coffee in my bright red mug on the verandaaaaah with Charlie and DH and inhaling the lilac! <BR> <BR> Recess walk planned!! Lunch salads in the fridge at work. Supper soup in the fridge at home. Golf after work. <BR> <BR> So, if stressful it has to be, then bring it on . . . I'm ready!! Or: as ready as humanly possible. <BR> <BR> Will NOT stress eat. Not happening!! Fri, 27 May 2016 08:13:18 EST Microwave Egg White Omelette: My Go-To, in Pictures!! http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6170578 <img src="http://photosaws.sparkpeople.com/guid/a29a60f2-918a-4fc8-8363-c3e30e7966a7.jpg"> <BR> <BR> My microwave omelette maker is one of the most useful pieces of equipment I own in the maintenance battle! <BR> <BR> <img src="http://photosaws.sparkpeople.com/guid/582ce775-95a5-406b-a097-5a3b8513f5ba.jpg"> <BR> <BR> Spray with olive oil Pam (5 calories) <BR> <BR> Pour in 1 cup of egg whites from the carton, half into each side of the pan: 120 calories, 24 grams of protein!! <BR> <BR> ... Thu, 26 May 2016 07:38:06 EST Trouble in Paradise . . . http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6170398 . . . a year from now, I won't be troubled about this current crisis. <BR> <BR> If I think about what was worrying me most a year ago, the sleepless nights, the frantic check lists: it's actually no problem, none at all today. Everything is much much better. <BR> <BR> And today's problem which now seems so urgent won't be remotely of concern to me in May 2017. <BR> <BR> So: living in the present, accepting the inevitability of change (because an unexpected, unplanned-for change at work... Wed, 25 May 2016 21:41:42 EST Daily Quotes: 1CRAZYDOG shout out! http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6169323 "Our life is but a stream that flows by so quickly. Make each moment count". <BR> <BR> That was the thought posted on my Spark Page today by 1CRAZYDOG: attributed to Gail Godwin. <BR> <BR> Can I make every moment count? Maybe not: but I can be more aware of the fast flowing stream, absolutely! <BR> <BR> And that I can never step into the same stream twice (Heraclitus). Everything changes, all of the time; change is the only constant. <BR> <BR> There is no more beautiful place in the w... Tue, 24 May 2016 07:54:03 EST Long Weekend http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6168614 May 2-4 (and no, I'm not a beer drinker) is the traditional launch of summer (and no, it's not June 21st) in Canada. <BR> <BR> Queen Victoria's birthday: the British tradition isn't so much what's being celebrated as summer. But: I've been very very active and in addition to the usual weekend chores (laundry, soup-making, groceries) have accomplished the following: <BR> <BR> Friday: golf after work. Gorgeous! <BR> <BR> Saturday: got to the gym. Full upper and lower body ST plus card... Mon, 23 May 2016 08:32:13 EST 10 REALLY Final Diet Fix Takeaways http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6167977 1. If I can't happily eat any less, I'm not going to eat any less. <BR> 2. If I can't happily exercise any more, I'm not going to exercise any more. <BR> 3. If I don't like the life I'm living, I'm not going to keep living that way. <BR> 4. If I accept my personal best at everything else I do ("not held to a standard of perfection") then I probably should accept my personal best/not perfection for my weight too. <BR> 5. If my diet tells me I can't use food sometimes for celebration or co... Sun, 22 May 2016 08:16:05 EST Diet Fix: Last Blog http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6167508 There is so much useful and sane info in Dr. Yoni Freedhoff's book, "The Diet Fix: Why Diets Fail and How to Make Yours Work". <BR> <BR> I could (but won't) blog about it for days and weeks to come. However, I'm pretty sure I'll be thinking about it for days and weeks to come! <BR> <BR> Here's the link to the book website: <BR> <BR> <link>www.thedietfix.com/ </link> <BR> <BR> Scroll down: there are some useful resources at the bottom (including a calorie calculator for my weight/heig... Sat, 21 May 2016 11:52:12 EST Diet Fix 10-Day Reset http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6166047 Like Beck, Yoni Freedhoff thinks any diet can work if we work it. He's about "fixing" or "resetting" your diet. And his program for doing that is just 10 days rather than Beck's 42 days/six weeks. <BR> <BR> OK then: he's looked at the 7 diet sins, the 7 diet traumas and the 13 diet myths: collectively, the problems. <BR> <BR> How's he going to apply these insights. What are the solutions? <BR> <BR> Day One: Gear Up <BR> <BR> Get the equipment needed: scales to weigh myself and ... Thu, 19 May 2016 06:26:28 EST Diet Fix Myths http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6165407 Next, Dr. Yoni Freedhoff offers a "baker's dozen" (you should pardon the expression!!) of modern-day dieting myths. <BR> <BR> And yup: I was pretty surprised at the number of these to which I've subscribed (also not entirely persuaded that they all ARE myths, of course!) <BR> <BR> 1. People Lack Willpower. <BR> <BR> Freedhoff says: diets don't fail because people lack willpower but because of how people are encouraged to approach dieting in an "obesogenic" environment where we're consta... Wed, 18 May 2016 08:41:40 EST Diet Fix Traumas http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6164618 Yesterday Dr. Yoni Freedhof gave us seven diet "sins". And today he matches those up with seven deadly traumas. In other words, if we commit the diet "sins" we'll experience the diet traumas -- and suffer from "PTDD": post traumatic diet disorder. <BR> <BR> Here they are: <BR> <BR> 1. guilt --I can't meet the unreasonable expectations, I sin, and I feel guilty (and give up) <BR> <BR> 2. shame -- oh, yeah: that's pretty embarrassing to fall off the diet, to be overweight or obese: and ... Tue, 17 May 2016 06:50:35 EST Diet Fix http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6163893 Picked up at the library yesterday: Dr. Yoni Freedhoff, "The Diet Fix: Why Diets Fail and How to Make Yours Work". <BR> <BR> Dr. Freedhoff is a Canadian working in Ottawa with a focus on obesity. He says 90% of diets fail and he offers a 10 day program to cope with PTDD: Post Traumatic Dieting Disorder. <BR> <BR> I've read bits and pieces of his approach here and there over the years. He's always seems sensible and helpful! <BR> <BR> He begins by disputing the "seven deadly sins" of die... Mon, 16 May 2016 07:21:36 EST Cool temps, chill time. http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6163298 Apple blossom in bud. Grape hyacinth. And forget-me-not! Just a few sprigs of each in a small vase on my kitchen table: no need to buy flowers from the supermarket! <BR> <BR> A cool and rainy weekend, and now it's snowing out there!! I think my late tulips are hardy enough to bear it, however. There are trilliums blooming in the wildflower bed. And our lilac hedge promises to be spectacular this year. Probably towards the end of the week when I see warm temperatures and sunshine retur... Sun, 15 May 2016 09:18:04 EST Beck Check Week 2: Bonus Blog http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6162993 Do these activities daily: <BR> * Eat a healthful diet with limited calories - pretty good: every day except today! <BR> * Think about what you're eating before you actually put it in your mouth - pretty good, 95% <BR> * Sit down whenever you eat and then eat slowly and mindfully - not bad, improved over last week for sure <BR> * Eat only to mild fullness - absolutely: ate a bit more today but was very active, hungrier! <BR> * Monitor your eating throughout the day - well done <BR> * ... Sat, 14 May 2016 19:36:05 EST Constructive Honesty http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6162699 Spark People is a remarkably supportive community. There's lots of openness and honesty here. People share their experiences (with weight loss, with weight loss maintenance, and with life more generally) in a way that assists those who read their blogs in figuring stuff out. And assists the person writing the blog in figuring stuff out too ("How do I know what I think and feel until I see what I say?") <BR> <BR> Almost never is this trusting constructive honesty simply an exercise in laz... Sat, 14 May 2016 09:43:08 EST Exercise and Obesity http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6162353 <link>www.theglobeandmail.com/life/health-<BR>and-fitness/health/exercise-may-combat<BR>-obesity-better-than-dieting-study/art<BR>icle29989578/ </link> <BR> <BR> Does exercise help shed weight? Not much. It's calorie restriction that works best. <BR> <BR> But: is exercise helpful in staving off obesity in the first place? Absolutely! Terrific, in fact. <BR> <BR> If we're not fat, exercising is a great way of preventing obesity in future. Encouraging our kids to be active from child... Fri, 13 May 2016 19:26:54 EST TOO Clean A Diet? Five Flags!! http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6161295 <link>foodeducator.com/five-red-flags-that<BR>-your-clean-diet-is-going-too-far-wash<BR>ington-post/ </link> <BR> <BR> Consensus here in Sparkie land seems clear: losing weight slowly is BETTER than losing weight fast . . . contrary to yesterday's article. <BR> <BR> Here's another short controversial piece on cleaning up our diets: when is clean TOO clean? When am I verging on obsessive? (And presumably that means I'm unlikely to be able to sustain . . . so won't be successful in maint... Thu, 12 May 2016 07:04:19 EST Short Answers to Hard Questions About Weight Loss http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6160606 <link>www.theglobeandmail.com/life/health-<BR>and-fitness/health/short-answers-to-ha<BR>rd-questions-about-weight-loss/article<BR>29941808/ </link> <BR> <BR> Pretty interesting and brief article addressing the questions which are raised over and over again here at Spark about how to lose weight and how to keep it off. <BR> <BR> Is it better to lose weight fast or more slowly? Fast. <BR> Is it better to eat just three meals a day or to spread the calorie allotment with snacks? No conclus... Wed, 11 May 2016 06:55:45 EST FUN CLOTHES: FOR ANYBODY WHO WANTS 'EM!! Yes yes yes to SERENASEA! http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6159892 "So many of us feel we don't deserve beautiful or fun clothes until we lose the weight": that's what SERENASEA wrote on yesterday's "shopping in my closet" blog, wondering if that would be a good leaping off point for a blog. <BR> <BR> Well, one of the very best tips in Susan Estrich's classic weight loss book, "Making the Case For Yourself", is to go right out at the BEGINNING of any weight loss journey and buy yourself some beautiful undies. Matching sets (for the girls, of course) and lac... Tue, 10 May 2016 07:21:44 EST Sunny Day http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6159193 Thanks so much for all the kindly comments on my Mother's Day blog yesterday. Much much appreciated . . . this is a marvellous community of supportive people. <BR> <BR> Had a long chat with DS late in the day on the phone and felt that yup, I'm some use as a mother really. Just listening, just supporting, not solving, not fixing. Huge huge fondness. <BR> <BR> OK then: my natural sunniness resurges and it's sunny out there but cool. Wide leg navy cuffed trousers, fitted navy shirt, pale... Mon, 9 May 2016 07:39:09 EST Happy Mother's Day http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6158744 I've been enjoying reading people's wonderful Mother's Day blogs: full of happy memories of their mothers, and rejoicing in stories of their own children too. <BR> <BR> It's heart warming. <BR> <BR> My mother and father died in 1997 within 24 hours of each other. I am very proud of the care my sister and I provided to them both, taking it in turns to move into their home and making it possible for them to end their days there. It was hard. The relationship had not been a good one for eit... Sun, 8 May 2016 11:34:00 EST Beck Check Week #1 http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6158333 Do these activities daily: <BR> * Eat a healthful diet with limited calories - 6 GREAT DAYS, 1 GOOD <BR> * Think about what you're eating before you actually put it in your mouth - 95% <BR> * Sit down whenever you eat and then eat slowly and mindfully - 75% <BR> * Eat only to mild fullness - 95% <BR> * Monitor your eating throughout the day - 90% <BR> * Give yourself credit - need to improve <BR> * Do spontaneous exercise - need to improve, parking at the far end of the parking ... Sat, 7 May 2016 17:11:28 EST Girls Hating Fitness http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6157456 <link>www.theglobeandmail.com/life/health-<BR>and-fitness/health/body-changes-pushin<BR>g-teen-girls-away-from-sports-research<BR>-suggests/article29866403/ </link> <BR> <BR> And, in sharp contrast to yesterday's inspiring centenarian: here's an article about why girls around age 11 stop wanting to move their bodies. <BR> <BR> How come we routinely ensure our sons have athletic supporters: but not that our daughters have appropriately supporting sports bras? <BR> <BR> Hmmmmmm. Fri, 6 May 2016 08:23:39 EST 100 Years Inspiring http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6156715 <link>ca.news.yahoo.com/video-100-year-old<BR>-woman-sets-world-track-record-1503402<BR>35.html </link> <BR> <BR> Short video clip, pretty inspiring!! <BR> <BR> "Get up and do things even if you don't feel like it. . . . Your strength is in you". <BR> <BR> Thank you, Ida Keeling!! Thu, 5 May 2016 06:26:07 EST