WATERMELLEN's SparkPeople Blog http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal.asp?id=WATERMELLEN WATERMELLEN's Blog on SparkPeople, home of free diet plans and a healthy living community SparkPeople.com http://assets2.sparkpeople.com/assets/nav/logo_spark.gif http://www.sparkpeople.com/ Kids and Depression http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5933806 The Globe and Mail series (linked yesterday) continues with a whole bunch of articles of particular interest to those seeking mental health help for children -- and cautioning about the serious side effects of prescribing psychotropic meds to kids "off label". <BR> <BR> <link>www.theglobeandmail.com/life/opposit<BR>ion-parties-urge-co-operation-with-pro<BR>vinces-on-mental-health-services/artic<BR>le24585020/ </link> <BR> <BR> Some of it is peculiar to the Canadian health care system ... Mon, 25 May 2015 06:56:04 EST The Case for Publicly Funded Therapy http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5933346 <link>www.theglobeandmail.com/life/the-cas<BR>e-for-publicly-funded-therapy/article2<BR>4567332/ </link> <BR> <BR> Continuing my exploration of issues relating to depression, I've posted above a link to the first article in a series just started in the Globe and Mail, advocating for publicly funded therapy. <BR> <BR> Julia Holland deplores the widespread prescription of drugs directed at "Moody Bitches": women, of course! <BR> <BR> Such prescriptions are equally common in Canada where ... Sun, 24 May 2015 07:06:51 EST Why Am I Hungry? More Dorito Effect . . . . http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5932968 In continued reading about The Dorito Effect, I came across this gem of an idea: <BR> <BR> It's not JUST that we're eating so much manufactured food (fat/salt/sugar/simple carbs) with artificially pumped-up ersatz flavour, that neon orange coating -- exceeding our caloric requirements. <BR> <BR> And it's not JUST that so much contemporary "natural" food (chicken, carrots, tomatoes etc.) has become relatively "flavour free". Both in comparison with ersatz flavour and for ease of processing,... Sat, 23 May 2015 10:48:57 EST Depression and Insomnia http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5931808 <link>//www.theglobeandmail.com/life/healt<BR>h-and-fitness/health-advisor/how-sleep<BR>-plays-a-role-in-depression-and-vice-v<BR>ersa/article24517613/ </link> <BR> <BR> Yup, there is a connection apparently. <BR> <BR> And yup: treating insomnia (using cognitive behaviour therapy, which is the basis of the very much beloved series of books by Dr. Judith S. Beck on weight loss and weight loss maintenance) can be equally effective in treating insomnia. <BR> <BR> In the past apparently the... Thu, 21 May 2015 06:50:52 EST New undies http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5931648 Susan Estrich, in "Making the Case for Yourself" (another fave fave weight loss/maintenance book, even if it's maybe a little dated) advocates buying new undies right away. Pretty undies. Not waiting until you "deserve" 'em. <BR> <BR> Because: we deserve 'em now. Supportive! Uplifting!! <BR> <BR> So recent issue of O mag had a piece on some very cute on-line undies (not too expensive either) in pretty colours. <BR> <BR> (Nope, even though I'm an incorrigible frugalista, I don't do ... Wed, 20 May 2015 22:15:17 EST What a Weekend! http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5930636 It's a gorgeous fresh cool morning out there! These temps will help the lilacs last their longest. Next up: the giant candles of blossom on the chestnut trees! <BR> <BR> We'll be back to work after our long Victoria Day weekend. And although we spent quite a bit of it at the office, I still played some golf, got to the gym (cardio, weights and huge focus on stretching, which I really needed!). Even picked up some bright red geraniums to hang on the verandah. <BR> <BR> There was a water... Tue, 19 May 2015 07:55:06 EST The Serotonin Myth http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5930097 <link>www.theglobeandmail.com/life/health-<BR>and-fitness/health/marketing-the-myth-<BR>of-serotonin-the-happy-chemical/articl<BR>e24457686/ </link> <BR> <BR> This article is a bit "heavy duty" from a science perspective. <BR> <BR> But it's also pretty interesting too. <BR> <BR> Serotonin is the "happy chemical", right? Or so we've been told. And so keeping serotonin levels reasonably constant in our blood streams is supposed to banish depression. <BR> <BR> Anti-depression meds? The... Mon, 18 May 2015 10:37:31 EST Taking a Break! http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5929486 Too too glorious today . . . so there will be a bit more business work on "the project" this morning, and then we plan to sneak out to the golf course. Weather forecast is sunny sunny sunny and mid-20s. <BR> <BR> Yes we deserve it! And given it's Victoria Day weekend, I've broken out the white shoes and cottons -- shorts for sure this afternoon. <BR> <BR> Then we will have fresh zest for getting back at it! Sun, 17 May 2015 08:30:13 EST Just Business . . . http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5929311 Many thanks for all the support on yesterday's "changes and challenges" blog! <BR> <BR> It's just business, not personal . . . . so not to worry. I am NOT worrying! Just beset with details, details, details and small disasters and ploughing on. Thinking flexibly, managing emotions, moderating behaviours and listening with empathy, attention and respect. This stuff really works. <BR> <BR> And as DH and I were saying . . . on a scale of 1-10, given all the stuff we've steamed through t... Sat, 16 May 2015 21:44:18 EST Big Challenges and Changes http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5928441 Deep into it and pushing through it but still some weeks to go . . . <BR> <BR> NOT self-medicating with food, though. <BR> <BR> And just beginning to see the light at the end of the tunnel . . . way off there in the distance! Fri, 15 May 2015 06:12:50 EST Willingness and Will Power http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5927920 Thanks to ONEKIDSMOM's status post I'm thinking about willingness. <BR> <BR> Yup, I too am willing to do what it takes today to be healthy. Today. <BR> <BR> And . . . for me willingness is not so much about will power. Which wears out. Which gets exhausted pretty quickly if challenged too much. When tempted. Repeatedly. <BR> <BR> Not even so much about won't power. What I won't do. Because who knows whether I'll sustain won't power in the face of ongoing seductions? <BR> <B... Thu, 14 May 2015 08:04:38 EST Because Why Not? http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5927314 <link>www.magnumicecream.ca/flavours/doubl<BR>ecaramel/default.aspx </link> <BR> <BR> I've been subject to the "Discover Magnum" pop up ad over and over again for the past several weeks. That seductive pour of chocolate and caramel sauce over the remarkably luscious-looking ice cream bar on a stick. And so I finally clicked on it . . . <BR> <BR> "Our silky vanilla bean ice cream is dipped in a chocolatey coating, then caramel sauce, then thick milk chocolate. Because why not?" reads ... Wed, 13 May 2015 06:09:36 EST Rainy Green http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5926782 It all happens at once here. <BR> <BR> After a stark white silent winter, everything blooms. <BR> <BR> I have apple blossom, grape hyacinth, violets, a single pale yellow daffodil in a tiny mauve vase on the kitchen table. <BR> <BR> Soon: lilacs, lily-of-the-valley. They will smell marvellous! <BR> <BR> The chestnut leaves have opened from those tiny hands of May 4 to huge ones, within days. Our maples are leafing out too. The ginkgo is slowest but the leaf nubs are bright gree... Tue, 12 May 2015 07:48:31 EST Kayaking! http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5926213 Haven't been out in a kayak since February when we were bird watching in the mangrove swamps: in about 3 feet of water! Lazy meanders, carried along by the current . . . and very low key. <BR> <BR> Yesterday DH took me up to Georgian Bay for kayaking and it was glorious: exhilarating, rainy, cold, blowy and a real test of fitness. <BR> <BR> We passed. But only with considerable grit and determination. <BR> <BR> Nobody else signed up for the trek . . . and apparently there was still ic... Mon, 11 May 2015 08:26:43 EST Happy Mother's Day!! http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5925633 I love being a mother. <BR> <BR> Undoubtedly the toughest job I've ever done. Didn't get a whole lotta "mothering" experience as a kid (except from my truly wonderful older sister). Which means I've pretty much had to make it up as I went along. <BR> <BR> And yup, I've made a lot of mistakes. But: my kids have been forgiving and resilient and are find fine people of whom I'm very proud. And whom I love fiercely, of course. But whom I also like a whole lot as just the terrific funny... Sun, 10 May 2015 06:36:06 EST Desultory Gardening http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5925355 What a gorgeous time of the year to be in the garden! <BR> <BR> Charlie and I began our day sitting on the verandah reading the paper and eating raspberries with Greek yogourt. "Charlie, would you like to sit on the verandah?" I asked, as I do every spring. Not a word he's probably heard much for at least 6 months. And he immediately ran to the verandah door, smiling and wagging. I went back and forth, flipping loads of laundry between washer and dryer and taking items out of the dryer... Sat, 9 May 2015 14:31:40 EST Bill Eddy Part Two: EAR EAR and Maintenance!! http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5924692 <link>www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_jo<BR>urnal_individual.asp?blog_id=5887346 </link> <BR> <BR> I'd blogged about Bill Eddy March 5, just providing a capsule of his approach to dealing with high conflict situations (and applying it to the "high internal conflict" of managing maintenance!) Eddy is a lawyer/psychologist/mediator with a unique and integrated approach drawing on all three of these professional skills in a very low-key and calming manner. He tells us to: think flexibly... Fri, 8 May 2015 08:18:02 EST Moody Bitches http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5922876 <link>www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_jo<BR>urnal_individual.asp?blog_id=5906298 </link> <BR> <BR> I blogged about Julie Holland's amazing new book, "Moody Bitches", after reading an excerpt in O magazine (apparently there is going to be a movie, in conjunction with Oprah Winfrey). Then I requested it on line through my local library: got it very promptly (terrific service! they send an email saying it's available, and I was even able to renew on line when it took me a whole lot longer ... Tue, 5 May 2015 07:17:55 EST Lovely Weekend http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5922234 I'm feeling refreshed and ready to go. <BR> <BR> Actually saw one of the peregrine falcons yesterday using my binoculars. They have been calling pretty much constantly for several weeks, but they move so quickly it's hard to locate them. This one was sitting in the top of the neighbour's sugar maple fanning its tail feathers in the sunshine: and because the tree is still flowering, without leaves, I was able to spot it. Truly magnificent! Now, to capture it using our digital "birding" ca... Mon, 4 May 2015 07:20:39 EST Dorito Effect Part II http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5921822 <link>news.nationalpost.com/arts/books/the<BR>-dorito-effect </link> <BR> <BR> My April 30 blog was a bit of a riff on Mark Schatzker's new book, The Dorito Effect. <BR> <BR> This Saturday's National Post had an interesting interview with Schatzker. Basically he's telling us that flavour counts because it has the ability to provide information about what's really nutritious. But the continuous intake of ersatz-flavoured foods interferes with our ability to obtain that information fro... Sun, 3 May 2015 13:30:02 EST Recovering! http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5921285 Yesterday was long and brutal. I knew it would be. I was prepared. I was patient. I was able to achieve through negotiation a good result in a situation in which it really mattered. And I was proud of myself. But it was very very hard work. <BR> <BR> DD knew my day would be rough. She had put the patio furniture out. When I got home, I sat outside and listened to the robins and had my supper (soup!! of course: then berries and yogourt) with Charlie. It was calm and peaceful. Fo... Sat, 2 May 2015 11:21:00 EST The Dorito Effect: Fake Flavour and Obesity http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5920077 <link>www.theglobeandmail.com/life/food-an<BR>d-wine/food-trends/the-flavour-factor-<BR>undoing-the-dorito-effect/article24151856/ </link> <BR> <BR> What an interesting article: food manufacturers add fake flavour to make flavourless food super-palatable, super-appealing, super addictive: and we eat too much. <BR> <BR> The chicken my Mum prepared was mostly sourced from a local farmer. A capon (male) if she could get it: because it tasted better. One smallish chicken served a family of... Thu, 30 Apr 2015 07:47:29 EST First Golf Game of the Season! http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5919521 Yesterday DS headed out for the long drive north: he's landed an absolutely marvellous job (bush pilot) for the summer. We're delighted for him but we'll miss him enormously and so will Charlie. He starts the great job on his own birthday, could be no better gift at all for him, and our DD baked a shared vegan chocolate birthday cake for both our guys before his departure. Thank goodness for texting: he completed the first leg of the long journey safely last night . . . <BR> <BR> Packed... Wed, 29 Apr 2015 07:57:19 EST Get Sexy for Summer? Asks Steve Siebold http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5918932 OK, that was the optimistic headline on an email from Steve Siebold, sent to his Mental Toughness subscribers, which I have cut and pasted below. <BR> <BR> I can't benefit from his offer of a free (pay only for shipping and handling) copy of his book, Die Fat or Get Tough. It's only for residents of the USA and I'm a Canadian! (We don't need it, right? Only 62% of us are in the overweight/obese category . . . with those in the +40 BMI group expanding fastest, you should pardon the expres... Tue, 28 Apr 2015 07:36:45 EST Walk in the Spring Woods http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5918348 <img src="http://photos-ak.sparkpeople.com/nw/6/9/l690156228.jpg"> <BR> <BR> <BR> I was surprised that the spring beauties were in bloom already -- we'd had quite a bit of snow last week. <BR> <BR> And hepaticas. <BR> <BR> And two adders tongue (dog tooth violets). <BR> <BR> It was a lovely walk! <BR> <BR> <img src="http://photos-ak.sparkpeople.com/nw/1/6/l1669762069.jpg"> <img Mon, 27 Apr 2015 07:47:45 EST BED and ADD Drugs http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5917866 <link>news.nationalpost.com/health/u-s-dru<BR>g-regulators-approve-first-pill-to-tre<BR>at-binge-eating-let-the-debate-begin </link> <BR> <BR> Some people with BED (binge eating disorder) are seeking prescriptions for ADD (attention deficit disorder) drugs. Particularly Vyvanse. <BR> <BR> Why? Because, apparently, people with ADD disproportionately have weight problems. The impulsive behaviours so often associated with ADD extend sometimes to impulsive behaviours around food. <BR> ... Sun, 26 Apr 2015 09:42:36 EST H is for Hawk http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5917599 Yup, recommended by a Sparkie friend and let me pass along that recommendation: this marvellous book by Helen Macdonald has to be one of the best reads I've encountered in a very long time. <BR> <BR> Non-fiction. All about an English academic who's been fascinated by falcons and hawks since her childhood, and who while grieving the death of her father takes on the very difficult project of "manning" a goshawk. Not "taming" it. This is the most ferocious type of hawk, apparently -- used i... Sat, 25 Apr 2015 19:03:42 EST Why I KNOW I'm Going to Heaven . . . . http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5916818 LEANJEANS thinks the time has come to say goodbye to her beloved Coal, her glorious black German Shepherd who's not well. And she posted a blog about this sad moment today . . . <BR> <BR> <link>www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_jo<BR>urnal_individual.asp?blog_id=5916806 </link> <BR> <BR> <BR> It's probably pretty clear for those who follow my blogs that (unlike so many persons here at Spark) I'm not a conventionally religious person. Sure, I attended church as a little girl. I've t... Fri, 24 Apr 2015 08:12:11 EST Charlie Lazarus! http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5916221 Charlie's collapse was April 5th, Easter Sunday. <BR> <BR> We were terrified. He could not get up at all. He clearly was in a terrible amount of pain. And he seemed to have given up. We called the emergency vet clinic, rolled him into a comforter and lifted him into the car (all four of us). <BR> <BR> Since then his recovery has been miraculous!! <BR> <BR> At age 10 (and almost 11) he has some arthritis mostly in his hips. We knew that and just thought it was inevitable and not too s... Thu, 23 Apr 2015 07:03:27 EST Sweatworking! http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5915626 <link>www.theglobeandmail.com/life/health-<BR>and-fitness/fitness/sweatworking-takin<BR>g-business-meetings-to-new-levels/arti<BR>cle24045512/ </link> <BR> <BR> Here's an idea I love -- sweatworking instead of networking! <BR> <BR> Meeting up with business colleagues at a gym class or a spinning class or even a yoga class for 45 minutes + a smoothy, instead of meeting for a 4+ hour round on the golf course which segues into a boozy high fat/sugar/salt lunch afterwards. <BR> <BR> Don't ... Wed, 22 Apr 2015 08:12:45 EST Can't Shake It . . . Yet http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5915027 The feeling lousy, that is. Still headachy and nauseous and generally punk. <BR> <BR> Put in a full day at work yesterday anyhow. <BR> <BR> Today - I'll go in, deal with the urgent stuff and then bail. <BR> <BR> We've got good people singing backup and nobody is indispensable. <BR> <BR> Then will crawl home and curl up and snooze it away, here's hoping. <BR> <BR> Yeah!! Tue, 21 Apr 2015 08:03:36 EST The Look of Love http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5914347 <link>www.theglobeandmail.com/life/study-s<BR>hows-love-hormone-increases-when-human<BR>s-and-their-dogs-interact/article23995458/ </link> <BR> <BR> Of course we already knew that, didn't we? That when we gaze into our dogs' eyes, and they gaze back at us, we love each other more. <BR> <BR> And now there's research to prove it, with measureable blood level increases of oxytocin up to 300%. <BR> <BR> Charlie's wise and loving brown eyes gaze at each of us He loves each of us. And we... Mon, 20 Apr 2015 06:55:59 EST Soothing Tummy Soup! http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5913815 My usual fiery concoctions don't appeal at the moment!! (Last week's puttanesca with so much garlic onion and hot peppers and capers and anchovy . . . no way!) <BR> <BR> This week I opted for soothing pureed carrot and pumpkin, with turmeric and ginger. And creamy coconut milk. Ahhhhhh. <BR> <BR> Still not feeling wonderful -- just getting up, and it's almost 8:30. <BR> <BR> My garden has scylla in bloom, bright blue in the grass: and I need to take out last years' perennial stalks (the... Sun, 19 Apr 2015 08:33:45 EST Feeling Lousy http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5913393 Headachy, nauseous, upset tum. <BR> <BR> Doesn't happen often: can't complain. <BR> <BR> Will just take it easy (no gym) and not venture far from home. <BR> <BR> No problem enjoying the sunshine here, with Charlie! Sat, 18 Apr 2015 10:19:11 EST Eating Disorders http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5912795 Some of us at Spark People have eating disorders. Grounded in mental health issues. Eating too much is (sometimes) an eating disorder. And so is eating too little: anorexia, bulimia. Exercise anorexia <BR> <BR> Some of us here at Spark People have family members with eating disorders. <BR> <BR> Eating disorders can interfere significantly in relationships with family and friends -- particularly if we're pressured (or pressure others) into assuming a professional therapist role. Beca... Fri, 17 Apr 2015 08:05:36 EST The Heartbreak of Divorce http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5912214 <link>www.theglobeandmail.com/life/health-<BR>and-fitness/health/divorce-can-be-hear<BR>t-breaking-literally-especially-for-wo<BR>men/article23972035/ </link> <BR> <BR> Oh my goodness. <BR> <BR> I "knew" this anecdotally -- but now researchers have mapped out some links between separations and heart attacks. <BR> <BR> And yup: women seem to suffer more. <BR> <BR> Although it may be that the stress of splits also triggers more smoking or other unhealthy life style habits that could b... Thu, 16 Apr 2015 07:32:19 EST Gluten Free? http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5911637 <link>www.thestar.com/life/health_wellness<BR>/2015/04/14/get-a-celiac-test-before-g<BR>iving-up-gluten.html </link> <BR> <BR> Here's an article that recommends getting a celiac test before embracing a gluten free diet. <BR> <BR> I know that high carb refined wheat products don't agree with me. Love bread and pasta but eat very very little of it. <BR> <BR> However, I don't seek out gluten-free products. (And apparently most people don't have the gene to develop celiac disease -- not ... Wed, 15 Apr 2015 07:53:46 EST Spring in Canada http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5911002 Coldest winter on record since 1934. (OK, not really as much snow as usual: but still!) <BR> <BR> Canadians suffer. <BR> <BR> And Canadians celebrate spring with absolute euphoria. <BR> <BR> From now until the first bright green fuzzy leaves appear on the trees (generally on or about May 4 in my part of Canada) the joy is pretty much unbounded. <BR> <BR> It's warm enough to begin transitioning a few springy clothes back into the wardrobe! <BR> <BR> It's sunny enough (after torrentia... Tue, 14 Apr 2015 07:45:18 EST Mental Distractibility http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5910358 <link>www.theglobeandmail.com/life/health-<BR>and-fitness/health/in-an-age-dominated<BR>-by-distractions-reasons-and-strategie<BR>s-to-focus-remain/article23880199/ </link> <BR> <BR> Matthew Crawford has written what sounds to be a most interesting book comparing the effect of media distractions to fast food. <BR> <BR> We're so surrounded by fast food, deliberately designed to be "uber palatable" (lots of fat, salt and sugar) that we're becoming obese. <BR> <BR> We're so bombarded wit... Mon, 13 Apr 2015 07:59:12 EST The Pressure to Perform Our Lives http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5909861 I saw this phrase this morning in a National Post newspaper article and it struck a chord. <BR> <BR> The pressure to perform my life. Yikes. Complete with selfies? (There are detailed articles on the internet about how to take the best selfies . . . there are!! How to strike a pose, what angle would be best, what to wear or hold . . . . And other articles about how posting such pictures may contravene copyright or constitute a violation of privacy legislation . . . depending upon what hap... Sun, 12 Apr 2015 10:36:19 EST The Comforts of a Muddy Saturday http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5909333 Laundry well in hand. I've rapid-read the paper, enjoyed lots of coffee with raspberries and Greek yogourt. <BR> <BR> Heading to the gym. There's whole lotta new music on my iPod courtesy of DS and I'll enjoy that big time. <BR> <BR> Library says they've got "Moody B*tches" book I'd requested available for me to pick up!! <BR> <BR> Planning a puttanesca style soup which should be delish: lots of garlic and capers, anchovy and olives, big whack of chili flakes plus onions, tomatoes, whi... Sat, 11 Apr 2015 10:26:03 EST Is My Kitchen Design Making Me Fat? http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5908446 <link>www.theglobeandmail.com/life/home-an<BR>d-garden/design/is-your-sleek-new-kitc<BR>hen-making-you-fat/article23837950/ </link> <BR> <BR> I don't have bar stools around a kitchen island that encourage "grazing". Or a kitchen TV. <BR> <BR> I don't have breakfast cereal out on the counter in transparent containers. Apparently people who do weigh on average 21 pounds more!! <BR> <BR> Well there you go. I don't have a "sleek new kitchen design". I'm domestically challenged. And:... Thu, 9 Apr 2015 18:16:15 EST Gender Identity Maintenance and What We Eat! http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5907532 Is meat male? <BR> <BR> Sure is, at my house. The guys are carnivores. My DD is a vegan. And I'm what she calls an "uglitarian" or semi-lapsed vegetarian: I eat non-cuddly animals (fish, chicken mostly) in moderate quantities to supplement my protein intake. <BR> <BR> But the Globe and Mail this morning suggests that guys don't eat yogourt because it's not manly enough. And masculinity is vulnerable. Requiring a public display of grilling and roasting and juicy burgers and steaks. O... Wed, 8 Apr 2015 07:39:00 EST Who Could Ask For More? http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5906899 Yup, today's the day that I truly thought would never happen when the Beatles made the song popular: I really AM 64. <BR> <BR> And not asking for a whole lot more! <BR> <BR> Life is good. <BR> <BR> I'm healthy and happy and fit. My DH and DD and DS give me joy. Charlie is noticeably better this morning. <BR> <BR> It's spring. What a marvellous time of year to have been born. And to keep on finding freshness and pleasure in life. I do. <BR> <BR> More of the same, please. Tha... Tue, 7 Apr 2015 07:55:08 EST Prescription Meds and Depression: the Julie Holland Perspective http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5906298 Never was a fan of the Oprah show or even OWN, but O magazine is pretty much the only mag I read semi-regularly. I picked up a copy of the April 2015 issue which has at page 71 a review of a new book by psychiatrist Julie Holland MD called "Moody B*tches: The Truth About the Drugs You're Taking, the Sleep You're Missing, the S*x You're Not Having, and What's Really Making You Crazy". <BR> <BR> Wow. Some title!! <BR> <BR> Holland's key take-away can probably be summed up in fewer words: "To... Mon, 6 Apr 2015 09:39:55 EST Charlie Emerg http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5905863 Dear old Charlie our beloved golden retriever is soon 11 and we're very aware that he's getting older. <BR> <BR> He hasn't been able to climb the stairs to the third floor for about 6 months, and within the last month or so has also stopped going even to the second floor. <BR> <BR> He clearly has quite a bit of arthritis in his hind quarters. But late yesterday he started limping a great deal, with apparent tenderness in his right front leg. And this morning he really could not get u... Sun, 5 Apr 2015 13:13:08 EST Salsa Soup: It's a Spicy Life!! http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5905254 Simmered a big pot of salsa soup this morning while running through three loads of laundry, reading the newspaper, and enjoying a Greek egg white omelette (feta, mushrooms, spinach, cherry tomatoes) with multiple cups of great coffee. Ahhhhhhhhh!!! <BR> <BR> Into the soup: a can of crushed tomatoes, a can of diced tomatoes, about a cupful of very hot salsa, water, brown rice, celery, carrots, 2 cans of rinsed black beans, a little diced chicken breast (could easily have been left out), some... Sat, 4 Apr 2015 10:13:40 EST Snowdrops! http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5904689 <img src="//photos-ak.sparkpeople.com/nw/1/4/l1445010592.jpg"> <BR> <BR> We're having some roof work done at the back of our big old house: it's steep and scary, and there's sheet metal flashing still to be installed at the base of one of the chimneys. And even though it's Good Friday, apparently the roof guys are coming back today to finish up. <BR> <BR> So I put on my gym clothes (gym will open at 10 am) and went out to move cars to create space for the roofers' trucks . . . and there t... Fri, 3 Apr 2015 09:26:18 EST What to Say When You Talk to Yourself http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5904002 This book by Shad Helmstetter is a big fave of Steve Siebold. So, inspired by SANDICANE (who bought it and loved it) I located a copy on Amazon and am beginning to read. <BR> <BR> And so far, it's interesting. And it's a book I'm pretty sure I'll be reading over and over again. <BR> <BR> Helmstetter points out that most of us were programmed from early childhood with consistently negative messages. The average kid hears 148,000 "No"s from parents and teachers before reaching age 18... Thu, 2 Apr 2015 06:20:08 EST Wearing Our Resilience http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5903363 Resilience is something of a current buzz word. It's replaced, possibly, the formerly-favoured meme of self-esteem in the popular lexicon. Self-esteem we now know not being something we can pour over our own heads, like chocolate syrup over a sundae. Or even over the heads of others, either: such as our kids, with constant praise ("Good job!!") and equal prizes awarded to everyone. Self-esteem being something (if authentic) that's earned internally. Externalized self-esteem being somethi... Wed, 1 Apr 2015 07:18:11 EST