TRYINGTOLOSE64's SparkPeople Blog TRYINGTOLOSE64's Blog on SparkPeople, home of free diet plans and a healthy living community Update...worries Am worried about my husband even though we are separated. When I saw him Saturday he looked so thin. He's lost a good 20 pounds at least which is way too much for him to lose. I'm sure he's not feeling good overall because of this. However I know a lot of it has to do with what he's going through in the crisis. I know he's in a depression right now because of what's going on in his head and trying to work it all out. I pray daily for him to be able to work this out. I also know his sis... Mon, 29 May 2017 07:23:21 EST Update To update everyone. I'm living in an apartment now. Have been here since April 22. Hubby and I have had several talks and there's been a couple of times that the MLC monster came out in hubby. If you don't know what the mid life crisis monster's all of the negative issues within the spouse that come out like an alien monster making the spouse sound like someone totally different then what you fell in love with and married. Hubby was definitely that the day he left and he's had ... Sat, 27 May 2017 21:23:46 EST One thing One thing all of this turmoil is doing is helping me lose weight. I lost another 2.2 pounds in a week. Sat, 11 Mar 2017 19:09:36 EST Lawyer I need a divorce lawyer plain and simple. I've been trying to locate a lawyer that'll do the work pro bono as my husband has claimed that he's filed for a no fault divorce when he deserted me on 2/18/17. I don't have an income, therefore there is no money available to provide a roof over my head much less pay a lawyer. I seriously don't think my husband knows what he's doing much less deserves the right to take my rights from me along with his sister evicting me. It's not a no fault if he ... Tue, 7 Mar 2017 14:26:47 EST Ahhhhh It's going to feel so good getting rid of some of this junk around the house that my husband wouldn't allow me to get rid of. No, nothing of value or even presumed value. Just a bunch of dog show magazines....a whole bookcase full. May get rid of the bookcase too, will see if hubby wants it, otherwise it's going to goodwill. Sun, 5 Mar 2017 21:11:13 EST updated I updated my weight ticker to reflect the weight gain from during the time I had injuries. That weight was as of January 16th of this year. From then until last weekend I had lost 4 pounds. Weighed again today and I've lost another 3 pounds. Am frankly not eating much at all (mainly just a handful of crackers) especially since I don't have money to buy groceries much less pay bills. Will be going to Social services and the county community service board on monday to see if they will hel... Sat, 4 Mar 2017 19:03:43 EST Hmmmmmm My husband deserted me almost 2 weeks ago. The one thing I always fussed about while he was here was the mess he was constantly making for me to pick up. He left cans and bottles on the floor under the coffee table, he'd throw his trash either on the floor or on the table and when he'd shower I'd have to go get his laundry from the bathroom. Sound like a 2 year old? He's in his 50's closing in on 60. I've spent 25 years trying to undo the mommy's boy damage. I have even had to haul off t... Fri, 3 Mar 2017 21:29:26 EST fair/not fair In talking with several of my friends, they seem to think that my husband is going through a late bloomer mid-life one stated 65 is the new 45. Note: my husband's 57. We've been married 25 years and he told me yesterday that he wants to spend the rest of his life as a single man and he doesn't have an answer for why he got married in the first place. . <BR> <BR> Sad thing is he doesn't even realize how unfair he is being to me, leaving me in the house that we are basically ge... Mon, 27 Feb 2017 09:32:39 EST When it rains it pours Well my husband has apparently filed for a no fault divorce. He won't tell me why and he won't talk to me other then making cruel statements about my siblings being correct about me and he states he doesn't even know why he stated that and he's been calling me a "bitch" for some time now....basically ever since his boss got a divorce and told hubby that his ex-wife got a restraining order on him because she's a bitch. Anybody know if I can file to stop the divorce? He said he talked to th... Thu, 23 Feb 2017 21:35:08 EST Weird situation Had a weird situation outside my house this morning. There was a guy in a hoodie hanging around in front of the business lot next door. He was very suspicious so I called the police and had them check it out. Am glad I did, but if only I had known. Turns out he was waiting on his buddy who was trying to scam people into letting him pave their driveway. It's too cold to be paving driveways here. Plus the buddy was driving an old beat up pickup truck with absolutely no company markings on ... Thu, 2 Feb 2017 10:39:04 EST Ya know, Sometimes I..... Ya know, Sometimes I really can't stand people or should I say what technology has done to people. They don't think about anybody but themselves, therefore they don't care and have a total lack of empathy. <BR> The lady that works next door at the antique store had the gull to ask me how old my dog is and then she asked me if I thought he really needed to be walked. My dog is 13 years old, yes he's an old dog. No I don't force him to do anything but I do like to get him outside to loosen... Tue, 24 Jan 2017 16:16:28 EST Various things I've been gradually working my mileage back up due to asthma and a weakened knee from an injury. Through this struggle with the health issues, I've also been dealing with a lack of motivation. I've been trying to push myself at least once a week to get out there and do a longer walk then normal. Today I did a 2 1/2 mile walk.Got to thinking on my walk about all that I've been through in the last year. And I certainly hope that 2017 and my getting back to losing the weight that I've gained ... Wed, 18 Jan 2017 15:56:14 EST Happy New year!! I don't know about you but I'm certainly glad that 2016 is ending and am hoping that 2017 will be better. Can't be much worse! Sat, 31 Dec 2016 19:53:12 EST Update Was a beautiful day for walking despite the neighbor across the street out riding their 4 ATV's and 3 dirt bikes. Does wonders for my asthma that's kicked back up since the weight gain. But I pushed forward and actually walked a little further then my normal 1 to 1 1/2 miles. Made it 2 miles this time. Still don't want to push the left knee but felt the need to loosen up my chest some for better breathing and sleep. Half way back was able to get rid of some of the mucus from my chest....... Tue, 27 Dec 2016 19:58:01 EST Merry Christmas!! Am trying to make it through the first Christmas without my mother. Sun, 25 Dec 2016 06:15:54 EST Update Am hoping to be able to find some time to get out and walk today. Am still working through my mom's spinning stash and my own spinning stash. Am sick of my craft room looking like a hoarders room and am sick of not having room in my car to put simple stuff like groceries or more then two people. Am hoping to be able to place some of my mom's stuff at the next guild meeting and will decide soon on what I'll give as a christmas present at the December guild meeting. <BR> <BR> I'll be glad... Mon, 31 Oct 2016 13:05:47 EST Update Well in trying to get myself better physically to be able to walk.....I've managed pretty well in the last month. I've gotten rid of the callus, however I believe that caused a bone spur over the course of having the callus. That's probably why it hurt so bad to wear shoes and walk. The swelling on my feet have gone wayyyyyy down from a diabetic puffiness/swelling to pretty much back to what I would call normal. My knees are still hurting more out of stiffness if I sit too long or sit wit... Sun, 4 Sep 2016 18:33:49 EST Update Am trying to get myself well enough physically to get back to walking when the weather cools down some. 3 digit temps are way too hot to be out and walking in at this point. I'm also trying to find a decent pair of tennis shoes that don't cause calluses or corns on my feet. Am presently getting over a seed corn that helped contribute to a sore abduction area of my right knee.... the other thing that contributed to that was my left knee being injured being a primary caregiver to my mom. If... Mon, 15 Aug 2016 20:51:28 EST What is wrong with people? What is wrong with people nowadays? Obviously too many people think they are downright much so that they feel they can park their vehicles anywhere they darn well please. Had someone this morning park their vehicle in our second driveway that is mostly covered in grass. You would've thought that the grass would've been enough for them not to park there. I told them they couldn't park there because it's private property...mind you the property next door is commercial. Th... Tue, 19 Jul 2016 10:01:45 EST Sigh!! Got the last of the craft stuff from my parents house today. Now to finish up sorting it out to be sold or distributed appropriately. Today's stuff was basically a kitchen trash bag full of knitting needles from the metal kind to the plastic kind to the wooden kind and even the circular. I will definitely be glad to get my sewing room organized in a neat fashion so that I can actually use it the way it's intended. Sat, 9 Jul 2016 20:12:45 EST Be careful!! Be careful and suspicious of what you get in the mail. We received what looks like a tax refund check in the mail today. Yet get this, we owed on taxes this year. Hmmm!! Hubby will be taking it to the bank tomorrow to have them verify it....not cash it, just verify it as we aren't even going to sign it. It looks legit until you look at it more closely and then red flags start going. Tue, 5 Jul 2016 21:35:12 EST Will be so glad.... I will be so glad when my disowned siblings go back home. It never ceases to amaze me at what they will do or say to try and cover their own guilt just to try and make themselves look better while they try to make me look bad. This time my sister tried to claim that I haven't been over to my parents house in who knows how long. Mind you I'm over there every weekend, have signed in and signed out of the assisted living where they have been at since the end of march and have plenty of witnes... Sat, 2 Jul 2016 20:07:44 EST Am amazed!! I am amazed at the behavior of some people that knew my mom but weren't related to her. We haven't even had the service for my mom yet and her obituary was in yesterday's paper. Get this people are already asking if they can have some of her stuff. I realize they want something to remember her by but some of the stuff was mine to begin with. Like for instance, remember my mom used to spin fiber into yarn on a spinning wheel, I gave her a bunch of fur that the samoyeds that I used to have ... Tue, 28 Jun 2016 12:35:15 EST Great sadness It is with great sadness that my mother passed away today. She went into the hospital on friday due to being incoherent and not responding. Turns out she had a blood clot that went to the brain and busted a blood vessel. It was inoperable due to there being so much blood that she'd be left in a veggie state. She already had limited use of her right arm and leg due to a previous major stroke from 2005. May she be spinning on her spinning wheel and knitting to her hearts content on her br... Sun, 26 Jun 2016 20:40:13 EST Why oh why!?! Finally got a nice cool day to go out and walk. Low and behold it had to be ruined by people who seem to think I'll do anything for them even if they don't know me or I don't know t hem. The produce stand next door opened up for the first time since 2014, but it was opened up by a foreigner. He had to come running out to let me know he had been opened for two weeks and he asked me if I was going to dollar general. I told him no. Am sure he wanted me to go over to the very store that the ... Mon, 13 Jun 2016 20:41:43 EST home remedies Does anybody have any home remedies for poison ivy...specifically on the face around the eyes? <BR> <BR> I wish I could get rid of all of the poison ivy we have but it keeps crawling over from the property to the left of our house of which is owned by a millionaire strictly as a money maker for himself and family. So he's not about to sink any money into it and matter of fact he's the type that if you ask him to do something to it he'll try to get you to pay for it. That's just how nasty a... Mon, 6 Jun 2016 14:30:41 EST Update Got in a decent amount of mileage walking yesterday. My left knee let me know last night through today that it doesn't want to pull that again today. Oh well need to get ready to haul scrap of tomorrow and get ready for this weekend's fiber spinning guild meeting. Haven't been to a meeting since just before both my parents went into the hospital and then they moved to assisted living after that. Not sure at this point if my mom is going to go or not. If it rains like they are calling for... Thu, 19 May 2016 13:48:35 EST Update Not getting much exercise done outside due to raining every day, but am working on catching up on some of the things that have been suffering since I've been overwhelmed. So hopefully I'll get the house cleaned and spinning stuff all sorted and organized. Hubby is a bit miffed because I bought 8 pounds of fiber this past weekend when he knows I'm overwhelmed. He doesn't quite understand that there are only certain times of the year that fleeces are available. But at the same time I realiz... Tue, 3 May 2016 10:13:55 EST Update Been rather crazy around here for the last couple of months between both my parents being in the hospital and then moving to assisted living.and got all of my mom's and my spinning supplies rescued/saved from their old place. Had to save it from my now disowned siblings. They would've either given it away or thrown it away just to make sure I didn't get it...even if it was something that actually belonged to someone outside the family. I have been gradually sorting through all of that stuf... Tue, 26 Apr 2016 18:12:20 EST Update Had a strange but beautiful day for walking. On my main walk for the day, note that I'm trying to break in brand new tennis shoes, I got stopped by a fire engine asking me if I called for a fire engine and an ambulance. Told them I don't have a cell phone so it's not possible for me to call anyone. Turns out the diamond springs truck driver of whom was in the neighborhood delivering water was the one that called for himself. Got several people in the neighborhood unnecessarily upset that... Mon, 4 Apr 2016 20:49:21 EST Update Got my parents moved into assisted living today as my dad will need 24 hour care. My siblings aren't willing to spend any more time then they absolutely have to for my parents care. Heck they think 2 weeks is too much and I've told them that's NOTHING! My mom is in rehab and she should be there at least another week before joining my dad at assisted living. It sure costs a lot to live there but I won't have to pay for any of it because my only asset is my car. We're having a 3 day y... Wed, 23 Mar 2016 21:18:47 EST Prayers needed Found out today that our landlord is retiring on April 1st, of which means within the next several months they'll want us to move out so they can sell this house. We have no where to go but the streets. We can't get a mortgage on one unreliable low income. So we are trying to work out an option with them, it's basically our only other option. That is that they act kinda like a bank and instead of us paying them rent we pay a mortgage and that if say down the road we decide to sell then we... Wed, 2 Mar 2016 20:51:02 EST Update My dad got out of the hospital today and my mother is still in the hospital for who knows how long. My dad says he'll be doing outpatient therapy for his balance and his shoulder. We'll see how things go. The past week has been pure heck with my siblings blaming me for everything even to the point of them telling the hospital not to pay any attention to anything that I say. My brother even threatened me the night before my mother went into the hospital. I take it as a threat because his... Sun, 28 Feb 2016 20:25:37 EST Prayers needed Both my parents went into the hospital this week. My dad last sunday and then my mom on tuesday. My dad for an AFib episode and my mom for a UTI that went septic. My dad is getting better but my mom since she went into the hospital has a declining liver. So please keep them in your prayers. <BR> <BR> I haven't gotten in many walks at all but have done some walking at the hospital including doing the stairs. Fri, 26 Feb 2016 21:04:47 EST Update Seems my bad luck is still ongoing as usual. My dad went into the hospital this morning because his defib.. went off several times during the night last night. So taking care of myself is as usual on the back burner because nobody in my family will help take care of my mother...they view that as my job. Sun, 21 Feb 2016 21:47:51 EST Update Finally got a plumber out here that was willing to come out and actually do some work! You know there really should be some kind of plumbers association that keeps the quality of the plumbers high and the plumbers that are nothing but a rip off low!! Told today's plumber about all of the problems we've had and he agreed with me about the plumber's association by saying 90% of the plumbers out there are a rip off. To tell you how simple of a job it was a new water heater that had... Fri, 19 Feb 2016 20:30:47 EST Update Have never been so round and round with repairmen to get one simple item up and running. I swear today's workforce is TOTALLY useless!! Absolutely no work ethic whatsoever!! I am now stressed out to the max and still have no hot water to wash dishes or take a shower. ARGH!! Thu, 18 Feb 2016 14:42:30 EST Prayers needed! Please keep us in your prayers that we get the water filtration system/water heater working again tomorrow so that we can have running hot water. Would be so nice to be able to wash dishes and take a shower. Wed, 17 Feb 2016 20:08:53 EST Update Water filtration guy actually made it out today and he had no interest in servicing anything. His primary interest was replacing everything we had. I hate living in a throw away society. Afterall that type of attitude is what has done so much damage to the world as we know it...especially the air that we breathe. I have contacted another water filtration company and they seem more helpful then anybody so far on the phone....the difference in talking to them as compared to the others is sha... Tue, 16 Feb 2016 21:35:13 EST Update The water filtration system guy that was supposed to come out today to fix our system chickened out because of the sleet. I've really gotten sick of the state of humanity and the workforce. A bunch of spoiled brats that want everything given to them and the heck with everybody else. We haven't been able to wash dishes or take a shower in over a week now because of no hot water. We have cold water but can't get the water heater to heat because of the filtration system. One would think that... Mon, 15 Feb 2016 19:50:11 EST Update Eating is not a top priority right now since we have very few clean pans to cook in and only cold water to wash dishes in. Silverware and glasses are pretty much all dirty. At this point it looks like we won't have someone out until monday to service the filtration system and leaks. So we pretty much have the water shut off along with the water heater so we don't burn out the new water heater. We will turn on the pump long enough to run a load of clothes if we have to have something to we... Thu, 11 Feb 2016 20:22:17 EST Update Hope the week of bad luck is over with. That cop stopping me on a walk was only the start of the bad luck. HW heater went out on saturday, got that out and replaced within 24 hours but still didn't have hot hoping to have that back by tomorrow morning. Had a plumber out monday morning to finish installing the HW heater and he was just looking to burn out the new one so he could do the whole job to make more money then what little we needed him for plus he wanted to rip out our ... Wed, 10 Feb 2016 22:02:36 EST Update Hope I don't have a repeat of today. Didn't get in any walks thanks to the hot water heater going out spraying water everywhere. Was in a panic getting that turned off when an old neighbor's son came by to drop off a truck to put in our 2nd driveway for sale. He ended up selling it within the hour and tomorrow he's bringing a 30 foot RV to put in that driveway. I mentioned the other day that I live on a main road right? At least I got this guy to return the favor by bringing the new wat... Sat, 6 Feb 2016 21:42:31 EST Venting I took my dog out for a walk this morning as I do every weekday morning and would you believe a county cop had the nerve to stop us to tell us that it was dangerous to be walking in this area. I felt like slapping her, but instead I told her that I'm aware of how dangerous it is as I've lived in the area long enough to remember the pasture that used to be across the street with horses running in it. My way of saying....see what the county has forced on me since living here!! For those that... Wed, 3 Feb 2016 11:30:37 EST Update Am trying to take advantage of temps for several days this week being in the 60s, How strange is that considering only a week ago we had 15 inches of snow on the ground. But that's Virginia for you!! <BR> <BR> I've got to build up the strength in my left knee after the multiple injuries that I encountered over the last year to year and a half. Gotta get the strength back so that I can get the weight back off. I've already got my spring cleaning done during the colder weather, so that ... Mon, 1 Feb 2016 21:11:14 EST Update Finally got someone to plow out the driveway today. Had a guy show up this morning to do it on his way to Petersburg from VA Beach. LOL He was foolish enough to think that we had the same amount of snow here as they had at the beach. They have 4 inches.....we have 15 inches plus we had snow plows piling it on at the end of our driveway. He only brought a riding lawn mower with a blade on front. Needless to say he left with his tail ducked between his legs and his head bowed down because ... Mon, 25 Jan 2016 20:00:29 EST Snow yet again! We're actually getting to see blue skies and the sun today after receiving a good foot of snow. To bad that can't cure the idiotic drivers that are out there. I live on a main road so I don't have to go out anywhere to see the stupidity of drivers. It's only 9 n the morning and I've already seen one idiot make an illegal U turn over double yellow lines in the weather that we are having. Too bad law enforcement won't enforce the laws that we have on the books, never will understand why the... Sun, 24 Jan 2016 09:14:56 EST Snow If anybody would like some snow you are more then welcome to what I have. A good foot of snow at least has fallen since yesterday morning. I live on a main road and we are lucky to see one car go by an hour. The area is on lockdown....even the snow plows aren't out anymore because they can't keep up. Sat, 23 Jan 2016 20:27:11 EST Update Am not starting out the year like I'd like due to not being used to the freezing temps outside. Am trying to get in what I can and with the extra time I'm trying to get my spring cleaning done so that I won't have to do that when the weather gets warm enough to walk. Am basically sorting through everything in the house from top to bottom, front to back and side to side. We've been planning another yard sale in the spring so am pulling stuff for that and putting it in the garage. Am hoping... Wed, 6 Jan 2016 20:29:15 EST Happy 2016 everybody! Hopefully this year will be a better year by far then 2015 was. 2015 was not a good year here at all. I gained a good portion of my weight back due to a knee injury and plantar facitis. My husband's truck died and we've been trying to save up for a new truck for him, would've been nice if his boss had the balls to pay hubby what he owes him but the truth of the matter is he's too cheap on everybody except for himself. I'm hoping I can get back to walking here soon so that I can get my hea... Fri, 1 Jan 2016 20:06:57 EST