THEETSYBAY's SparkPeople Blog THEETSYBAY's Blog on SparkPeople, home of free diet plans and a healthy living community Sorry I've been MIA I found this excellent article that I needed to save & share: <BR> <link><BR>l-food-psychology-hacks-weight-loss-mi<BR>ndset/?rs_oid_rd=56624848971363&utm_ca<BR>mpaign=%202018-01-09_NYNY2_SL&utm_sour<BR>ce=ANNC&utm_medium=Email&utm_content=M<BR>ainCTAMindsetChange </link> <BR> <BR> I got "yelled at" during my last doctor visit, and told to come back in six weeks & every six weeks until I'm back on track. <BR> <BR> I guess that's motivation! Tue, 9 Jan 2018 13:39:06 EST Just celebrated another birthday As Al Capone said, "Any day above dirt is a good day". <BR> <BR> I never get upset about growing older because it means that I'm still here. <BR> <BR> We went to Uncle Julio's and I ordered their chocolate pinata. Was great & fun! But now I have to get back on track. I have my next follow-up appt with my bariatric dr and I just can't go there heavier than my last weigh-in! <BR> <BR> It's been nearly 16 months since my sleeve and I should have lost much more weight than I have. But that'... Tue, 11 Jul 2017 04:04:49 EST OK that was enough with that cami I lasted over 9 hours wearing it. I don't feel like I sweated much but it did hold in my gut. <BR> <BR> I couldn't take the tight armholes any longer. Fri, 30 Jun 2017 19:28:41 EST The afternoon of the cami <img src=""> <BR> Ok so it does compress the fat. I can feel that my pants are looser. Yes, I'm still sweating. I've not been moving around much as I don't want to drastically alter my daily habits. I've had it on for over 4 hours now. It's actually getting comfortable, except for the arm holes. They've increased to "tolerable". I guess I'd better read up on how long to wear it. Fri, 30 Jun 2017 14:17:39 EST A day in the life of a "slimming cami vest" (I apologize in advance: my E key sticks and my C key is broken, so I will probably be editing this a lot today) I awoke far too early today so I decided to stop just looking at that cami. <img src=""> OK so like many of you, I've been bombarded with ads for these miraculous "slimming" vests, camis, capris, thigh sleeves...if you have stubborn body fat on any part of your body chances are there's a neoprene produ... Fri, 30 Jun 2017 10:50:18 EST Consistency Well the only thing I know about myself is that I'm consistently inconsistent. <BR> <BR> I found this and it *REALLY* hit me: <BR> <BR> <img src=""> Thu, 18 May 2017 13:36:22 EST 1 year follow-up OK so I have my 1-year post gastric sleeve follow-up appointment today. I'll be wearing the same outfit I did for my initial appointment. <BR> <BR> I'm ambivalent about it. I know that I have lost weight because my clothes are too big, but I also know that I've either gained or not lost any since my last visit three months ago. <BR> <BR> *SIGH* <BR> <BR> We'll thing I know for certain is that I will never go back to my pre-surgical weight. Tue, 11 Apr 2017 12:09:01 EST Motivation? Or a deeper issue? OK so I'm 11 pounds from my goal, and have been for 3 months or so. IDK if I've lost my desire to continue or not. <BR> <BR> Is it a psychological badly do I want it? Do I even want it? I know what to do I just don't do it. It's definitely an addiction. <BR> <BR> I have my 1 year follow up in 5 days and it's like I don't care. I'm not even trying. Thu, 6 Apr 2017 12:09:42 EST Well shoot!! My cousin died last week so we needed to make a trip to Tennessee. It was great to see my relatives but such a horrible reason why. <BR> <BR> I just realized tho that I missed checking in one day and blew my sign in streak. Mon, 3 Apr 2017 12:46:05 EST HOW & WHY? I keep getting told by my dietician and I keep reading articles about waiting 30 minutes between eating & drinking. <BR> <BR> But why? Why must I not drink for 90 minutes? How do I drink anything if I'm only allowed a 30-minute period 90 minutes apart? <BR> <BR> I think my hardest habit to break is drinking while I'm eating! I've tried to make sure that I consume very moist foods, but that doesn't always help. I still need water to wash down my food. <BR> <BR> So WHY do I have to wait 30 m... Wed, 8 Mar 2017 04:35:52 EST I found this helpful article Now all I have to do is stop eating popcorn... <BR> <BR> <link><BR>5.html </link> Tue, 7 Mar 2017 13:00:05 EST Added exercise <img src=""> Okay so I bought this combination recumbent bike and elliptical from It took me a few hours to put it together but I did. Getting the box into the house was harder than putting it together since it weighs 142 pounds. That was a better workout than either the bike or the elliptical. So today I did 20 minutes on the bike and could only do 5 minutes on the elliptical before my legs felt like ... Wed, 8 Feb 2017 23:13:41 EST Follow up coming <img src=""> <BR> No matter what they tell me, I won't get upset. I made my choices. Fri, 27 Jan 2017 15:17:02 EST 9 month follow-up <img src=""> <BR> So I have my 9 month follow-up appointment on Friday afternoon & I was doing really well until this past weekend. I believe I am an addict. Hello, my name is Betsy (hi Betsy!) I am addicted to food...more specifically, unhealthy food. I get horrible cravings & I KNOW I should not eat it. I do all the things to get my mind off of it and yet I still go through with eating. I haven't been eating ch... Wed, 25 Jan 2017 14:25:32 EST The countdown continues <img src=""> <BR> So this is how I broke down my main (huge) goal into something far more manageable & realistic. I also wrote positive reminders along with negative, in my attempt to be realistic. Is it working? I believe so. Will I reach the goal my doctors set for me? Probably not but I'm in this for the long haul. Wed, 18 Jan 2017 11:51:48 EST Mid-month <img src=""> <BR> The question before me is not CAN I do it? the real question is: WILL I do it? Sat, 14 Jan 2017 17:47:02 EST Still doing OK <img src=""> Went to my cousin's on Saturday so I didn't follow my plan, but hey! I don't feel deprived and I'm being realistic. I know that saying "add more" isn't right, that you should be specific. I also know that I don't weigh my food. Saying "add more" reminds me to do it. Mon, 9 Jan 2017 12:14:10 EST Day 5 <img src=""> <BR> One day at a time, right? Thu, 5 Jan 2017 13:34:52 EST My daily reminder <img src=""> <BR> 4 days so far, before I added today's Thu, 5 Jan 2017 13:32:51 EST Off to a decent start OK so I'm still not good at writing every day. I do write it in my head but neglect to put it to paper (so to say). <BR> <BR> I'm adding a new habit or deleting an old one every day this month. <BR> Here's what I have so far: <BR> <BR> 1st: Drink more water <BR> 2nd: no soda <BR> 3rd: no salty snacks <BR> 4th: Protein at each meal <BR> <BR> and today's is <BR> 5th: make 2 more trips up & down the stairs <BR> <BR> We have these bright green dry erase memo board stickers that I hung up in o... Thu, 5 Jan 2017 06:59:24 EST Welcome 2017 I know this site works and i know it freely offers tons of support, but it won't work unless I use it. <BR> <BR> It's like I used to tell my students: <BR> <BR> There's nothing the teacher can do which will overcome what the student will not do. <BR> <BR> It was actually a poster on the wall of my orthodontist's office 50 years ago...substitute doctor for teacher and patient for student, but it's the same meaning. <BR> <BR> So everything is in my hands. I am the only person who can help m... Sun, 1 Jan 2017 11:58:05 EST OK So I'm having issues I gained weight at my last weigh-in, but my right leg was swollen nearly twice its size. Yes, that's my surgical side. It's been 9 months since my reconstructive foot surgery. I thought I was doing really well. <BR> <BR> At my monthly check-in, my dr was so concerned that I might have a blood clot that he sent me over to the hospital, and had me wait for the results. He said if they found one they'd admit me. Luckily?? they did not find a clot, but it didn't explain the swelling. Luckily... Fri, 24 Jun 2016 19:53:34 EST Learning to eat It's like we're being born again, needing to learn how to eat. I keep thinking that. Babies have to learn how to eat and it takes a long time for them to learn and adjust. <BR> <BR> After my father had a stroke, besides learning how to walk & talk again, he had to learn how to eat. <BR> <BR> I'm just too impatient... Fri, 6 May 2016 11:54:54 EST WOW WOW...all I can say. <BR> <BR> I feel full, I feel like I'm eating...and I'm losing weight. <BR> <BR> Just...WOW. <BR> <BR> <em>521</em> Fri, 29 Apr 2016 13:22:05 EST Wow, what a difference. So we went out for Soul Food after mom's doctor's appointments. I really should have ordered just a side dish but it just looked & smelled SO good! Leftovers are good, right? <BR> <BR> I told mom that this one meal would feed me for 3 days. <BR> <BR> I ate about half of the mashed potatoes & gravy, and didn't even drink the entire glass of water. <BR> <BR> WOW! Never thought I'd eat this little & feel satisfied. <em>334</em> Wed, 27 Apr 2016 16:01:39 EST My eyes are now officially bigger than my stomach! OK so I'm still at the stage where I think I should be eating more. I see the amount of food I'm allowed to eat and think "Oh that won't be enough" so I dish out more, then can't even finish half of it. <BR> <BR> I wonder how much longer it will take until I actually believe everything my doctors have been telling me. <BR> <BR> A few months ago, I started cooking about half as much as I used to for my mom & me. Now it'll have to be a quarter...or just single servings for us to share, since ... Tue, 26 Apr 2016 17:38:24 EST OK I gave up I had gastric sleeve surgery on April 11th. <BR> <img src=""> <BR> How anyone could say that I didn't need it is beyond me. <BR> <BR> This will be very difficult but obtainable. I'm sore and am experiencing new feelings. I guess this is what being full feels like? I'm still bloated too. Will be glad when all the gas has escaped. Sun, 17 Apr 2016 00:05:21 EST 2 days left Yes I was cheating a little...but I'm down 12 pounds since 3/28. <BR> <BR> My mom says I should just stick with this. Is she nuts? I'm dying! I want to eat SO badly! I am hungry! One tiny "lean & green" meal a day is not enough. <BR> <BR> She says I'm acting like I have more energy. OMG, all I want to do is go back to bed. <BR> <BR> Tomorrow is the last day of the VLCD so it excludes the one meal...nothing but liquids from here on out. Sat, 9 Apr 2016 16:37:52 EST 12 days Well I went to the Dr yesterday and kind-of got yelled at for not following the VLCD properly. <BR> <em>24</em> <BR> I *HAVE* to eat 6 times a day, every 2 hours. <BR> <BR> And skipping a meal isn't an option. Wed, 30 Mar 2016 10:40:17 EST Coundown: 13 days OK now I sound like one of those ditzy skinny girls: I forgot to eat yesterday, <BR> <BR> <em>198</em> <BR> <BR> I forgot my afternoon snack of sugar free jello & my after dinner protein shake.That's 1/3 of my daily food allowance. <BR> <BR> Oops... Tue, 29 Mar 2016 11:35:15 EST VLCD starts today 14 days on a very low calorie diet. <BR> <BR> <BR> <em>249</em> <BR> <BR> I can do this. Mon, 28 Mar 2016 04:14:02 EST Happy New Year...I give up I give up trying <BR> <BR> In the immortal words of Yoda: <BR> <BR> Do <BR> or do not <BR> there is no try Wed, 6 Jan 2016 11:26:03 EST REALLY need to vent Surgery on requires someone to be there with me. <BR> <BR> I am a nervous wreck. My mom can't drive any more. <BR> <BR> My sister originally said she'd scheduled the day off, once I told her what time I had to be there she asked who was driving me. <BR> <BR> WTF?!?!? <BR> <BR> She now says I can drive myself and they come back & pick up my car. I'll be damned if I'm letting her touch my car! Sat, 19 Sep 2015 20:04:04 EST OK I can honestly say that I'm getting better... well maybe better isn't the proper word. <BR> <BR> More observant? <BR> More in tune? <BR> <BR> IDK what to call it, but eating small meals more often, chewing thoroughly, and real, really focusing on what and how I eat, well I think it's finally paid off. <BR> <BR> After 54 years, I can finally tell when I feel full. <BR> <BR> What a revelation. <BR> <BR> If I'd not done any of this research, I'd just keep on eating... Wed, 2 Sep 2015 21:58:10 EST The little engine... I'm still chugging along. <BR> <BR> Yesterday mom asked me if I'd lost any weight. I said IDK since I hate weighing myself lately. But decided I needed to keep track again. So I did...not sure how I compare to myself. <BR> <em>40</em> <BR> <BR> I mean, I should've weighed myself before I went for my initial consultation. However, my weight is within a half pound of when I last weighed myself here. Now to find out when that was... <BR> <BR> Also, I went to see my nephrologist on Thursd... Mon, 31 Aug 2015 15:48:11 EST All things considered... I'm doing OK. I'm much more conscious of what I'm eating and when. I've set an alarm to remind me to eat every 2 hours. I'm chewing, chewing, chewing! <BR> <BR> I went grocery shopping yesterday & bought yogurt, cottage cheese, protein bars, cereal, etc...things that were on the list of "approved" foods. <BR> <BR> Now to convince myself that I don't want any of the potato chips mom bought. <BR> <BR> Wed, 26 Aug 2015 16:34:02 EST OK, here I go's the last time to start over OK I need to write every day. I need to get in the habit of recording my food. And I need to pay attention to myself and what I eat. <BR> <BR> I set alarms to remind me to eat every 2 hours during the day. <BR> <BR> "Why" do you ask? <BR> <BR> I went to see a bariatric surgeon. Well, more than just the surgeon. It's a full -service office. Not just bariatric surgery, they also offer dr assisted diets. <BR> <BR> My initial appointment took close to 4 hours. In that time, I saw a nurse, re... Mon, 24 Aug 2015 13:49:16 EST I really need to vent I need a break. <BR> <BR> I FINALLY FINALLY FINALLY got my sister to agree to take my mom out. To take her shopping. Mom says she needs new shoes & clothes. <BR> FINALLY <BR> FINALLY! <BR> <BR> They're not going. <BR> So I asked my mom why not. <BR> Yada sister won't use the wheelchair. My sister won't take her where she wants to go. My sister would make her spend more money. It would turn into a shopping trip for my sister. <BR> <BR> bottom line: <BR> Mom would rather go shoppi... Sun, 28 Jun 2015 16:25:08 EST I'm not alone... I need to save this link... <BR> <BR> How Overeating Becomes Food Addiction <BR> <BR> Emotional eating is not always "just" emotional eating. Sometimes, it is a full-fledged addiction with obvious - and very serious - consequences. <BR> <BR> <link><BR>?title=How+Overeating+Becomes+Food+Add<BR>iction+&blid=16302 </link> <BR> <BR> <BR> Don’t Let Fear Stall Your Weight Loss <BR> <BR> <link><BR>?title=Don%92t+Let... Mon, 15 Jun 2015 20:38:29 EST I may have found it... I was getting ready to post that I may have found my motivation: <BR> <BR> <img src=""> <BR> <BR> But then another opportunity presented itself. <BR> <em>26</em> <em>129</em> <BR> he's really nice & cute & protective & British... <BR> <em>334</em> <BR> so keeping my fingers crossed for this one. Thu, 14 May 2015 23:55:42 EST ...and now for something completely different or completely the same. I'm not sure. <BR> <BR> But I do know that I can't continue living like this. If I don't change, nothing will. <BR> <BR> So what is stopping me? <BR> <BR> What am I afraid of? <BR> <BR> Am I afraid of staying in pain? <BR> <BR> Am I happy in staying like this and constantly hiding under men's XL shirts? <BR> <BR> Am I afraid of actually being seen as desirable? <BR> <BR> No matter how badly I want to be svelt, what's holding me back? <BR> <BR> Do I not feel li... Thu, 23 Apr 2015 20:37:29 EST day 7 of Lent...IDK where I got 40 days from <em>2</em> <BR> IDK why I thought Lent only lasted for 40 days. Wishful thinking? <BR> <BR> <em>24</em> <BR> Ok so this is now how much can I lose by Easter, and can I remember to type here every day. <BR> <BR> Headache is gone but it lasted nearly 5 days. <BR> Went to Scheck & Sirus to get my shoes adjusted but they still hurt my feet. I just want to be able to walk pain free, or even with a lot less pain. <BR> <BR> So I've been weighing myself & taking my BP everyday since a nurs... Tue, 24 Feb 2015 19:29:44 EST Day 2/40 Well it started off pretty darned poopy. I gained weight FFS. <BR> <em>234</em> <BR> <BR> I woke up with a really bad headache yesterday and it's still lingering today. <BR> <BR> Lunch is a bowl of grits. <BR> Not sure about dinner yet. <BR> <BR> I put the peanuts away since the only reason I ate them was that they were on the end table in the den while I was watching Nashville. <BR> <BR> My doctor doubled my BP meds but it's actually higher. I thought that maybe I have a headache bec... Thu, 19 Feb 2015 15:50:06 EST Day 1/40 Yes it was yesterday but I forgot to post. <BR> <BR> I thought I did better, I know I ate better. No candy or snacks, just a handful of dry roasted peanuts. <BR> <BR> Lunch was leftover Dirty Rice. <BR> Dinner was black eyed peas. <BR> Then the peanuts. <BR> Lots of plain iced tea. <BR> <BR> Can't really exercise as my feet hurt way too bad, but I stretched a little. <BR> <BR> Baby steps. Thu, 19 Feb 2015 15:43:41 EST OK so... Trying to meet someone online is not easy...nor cheap. eHarmony, and even a Catholic dating site yield nothing but aggravation. <BR> <BR> So I'm going to put that on hold for a while and concentrate on me. <BR> <BR> Here's my plan: Lent. <BR> <BR> 40 well, no junk. <BR> <BR> Take it one day at a time. <BR> <BR> One meal at a time. <BR> <BR> One workout at a time. <BR> <BR> Even a bad workout is better than none. Sun, 15 Feb 2015 23:05:07 EST Need to talk to someone... I can't vent on my fb page since my family reads it. <BR> <BR> I just really need to talk or write things out. <BR> <BR> I met a really nice guy online and he's nearly everything I need emotionally. We've not yet met in real life but he really wants to. Here's the issue, and I know it will make me sound like a heartless bitch: he's been in a wheelchair since a bad car accident when he was 17. So he can't give me what I need physically. <BR> <em>39</em> <BR> I need someone who can take ... Thu, 12 Jun 2014 13:21:28 EST Major victory! OK so yesterday was one of the most emotionally draining days I’ve had in at least 14 months... <BR> <em>39</em> <BR> Here's my fb status & comments: <BR> Just saw my kids. They came to take my mom out to lunch. My daughter gave me a dirty look when I went to the door, but she spoke to me. My son just gave me looks that could kill. Haven't seen him since he turned 18 in April of 2013. I can't remember when I last saw her...maybe Christmas of 2012. --feeling very lost without them. <BR> x... Sun, 8 Jun 2014 14:53:59 EST OK so I REALLY suck at this... I had my second weigh-in and couldn't believe I'd lost more weight. That did make me happy tho seeing as I ate out a few times. <BR> <BR> But this week totally sucks because of Memorial Day weekend. I totally pigged out on Saturday--I allowed myself that day. Then was OK on Sunday but just...I don't know what happened yesterday. <BR> <em>40</em> <BR> The half-eaten bowls of chips were just sitting there... <BR> <em>4</em> <BR> Bowls of chex mix & kettle chips & guacamole flavored chi... Tue, 27 May 2014 18:04:23 EST Day 4 of Jenny Craig & I suck... So Tuesday my sister & I attended a Town Hall meeting with Bruce Rauner. I was not expecting to dine, but some of her friends met us there so they opted to meet at a bagel-type restaurant. I had a salad with balsamic vinegarette dressing. Off the plan already! <BR> <em>198</em> Tue, 20 May 2014 19:11:44 EST OK I admit I need help Hello. My name is Betsy. I'm a carbaholic. <BR> <BR> I'm human...I'm weak...I fall, I get up...I gain, I lose...I gain it back. <BR> <BR> I can't keep this yo-yo going tho, it's very unhealthy. <BR> <BR> I went back to Jenny Craig yesterday. They have normal food in the right proportions. I need to be encouraged with more than my mom asking "How's your weight?" <BR> <BR> A workout buddy would be nice, but that won't happen with my schedule...a virtual one could tho. <BR> <BR> I'd rather... Sat, 17 May 2014 13:44:34 EST