SANDICANE's SparkPeople Blog SANDICANE's Blog on SparkPeople, home of free diet plans and a healthy living community Concurrent Goals January 1st I made a resolution to 1) maintain my weight 2) organize my house 3) cultivate "in-person" relationships. <BR> <BR> I am surely moving along on all of them, but I'm just saying that I cannot spend too much time on any ONE of them...otherwise I feel overwhelmed and the other goals receive no attention. <BR> <BR> Gosh, this BALANCE thing in life is harder to achieve than to say. And hey, balance wasn't even one of my resolutions!!!! It just seems to be an unintended consequence... Tue, 27 Jan 2015 13:17:17 EST It's Monday!!! Very short blog today. I love to see the steady "steady" of the weight of the long time maintainers and am always inspired to see them put their weight out there. <BR> <BR> I've only been maintaining 13 weeks now, but this morning I'm 1 lb below goal....see how much I am INSPIRED!!!! <BR> <BR> I LOVE SPARK PEOPLE!!! Mon, 26 Jan 2015 05:47:14 EST All I Really Have is TODAY! Today is day 21 of Steve Siebold's free 21 day program. Today he sets me up for continuing success. In weight loss, in fitness and in anything I chose to focus my energies on. He says I need to maintain a sense of urgency because yesterday is gone, tomorrow is promisary note so all I have is TODAY. He urges me to keep my eye on my goals and ACT towards them today. <BR> <BR> He also tells us about his friend. How Steve was supposed to call his friend, but the friend passed ... Sun, 25 Jan 2015 06:53:58 EST Three Stages: Excitement, Season of Pain, Knowing Phase Ahhhhhhhhhhhh, today is Day 20 of Siebold's free 21 day program. Today he reviews the three phases we go through when making major personal changes. <BR> <BR> He's told me these stages before in this 21 day program, but today he really focuses on what to do when I reach The Season of Pain. Strategies to focusing my thinking on why I want the change. Thinking over and over to myself that I will succeed. Thinking over and over to myself the benefits of that success.... Sat, 24 Jan 2015 13:23:24 EST Inventory of my core beliefs Today is day 19 of Siebold's 21 day on-line free program. I have wondered and wondered and wondered why I have never been able to maintain my, he tells me the answer to my question!!!! <BR> <BR> Today he wants me to think very carefully about what I believe. Because he says Belief precedes Action. He also says that probably, once I figure out what I currently believe, that I will need to take the time to REWORK AND REWORD those beliefs to reflect what I want to achieve. <BR... Fri, 23 Jan 2015 11:43:43 EST I have been WRONG! First, goodbye to my very good friend Watermellen, who has been oh so helpful to me in my journey... She's taking a Spark break and I wish her every good thing in her life and while I will sincerely miss her, I do understand that us "virtual" friends do need to take a back seat to real life. <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> Anyone who knows me knows I very, very often say "Action is King"!!! Well, today Siebold tells me I have been incorrect in my thinking. It is not action that is is MY B... Thu, 22 Jan 2015 08:02:30 EST The Ball is in My Court This morning Steve Siebold, my mental toughness coach, reiterates that being overweight is MY FAULT. It is a result of old, bad habits. I cannot tell you how happy it makes me to hear this!!! Really...b/c this means that control for my weight is squarely up to me! He tells me I can change. Yes, I can. The interesting thing is I had never thought of the reason for being overweight and yo yo-ing all my life was b/c of MY HABITS! Gosh, now that I know...I know! <BR> <BR> And Beck has giv... Wed, 21 Jan 2015 08:07:33 EST Something else to learn?! Today is Day 16 of Siebold's free program. Yesterday the lesson was: <BR> Make my decisions with logic. <BR> Motivate myself with emotion. <BR> and NEVER EVER mix the two! <BR> <BR> Today he tells me that I ALONE am responsible for my success or failure. Not my husband, not my diet, not him, not my coach...nope...ME! Ok, so the responsibility and the POWER are directly in my lap. That's good actually...this means I can do whatever I am determined enough to do and have eno... Tue, 20 Jan 2015 20:09:12 EST Control over emotions/feelings Siebold's day 15 is another good lesson for me. <BR> <BR> Make my decisions with logic. <BR> Motivate myself with emotion. <BR> and NEVER EVER mix the two! <BR> <BR> To get to this, he urges me to monitor my emotions today, and my response to them. You know folks, things are always good when we're all excited about doing something new. We're upbeat and woo hoo-ing. The problem for me arises when I hit what he refers to as "The Season of Pain"....when the novelty has worn off and now it... Mon, 19 Jan 2015 08:09:23 EST Pre-planning Today my body is still invaded by "the bug" so no church today, however, I am pre-planning my day and my food for today and food for the upcoming week. <BR> <BR> New year's goals are going well but pre-planning has been slipping a bit, so I'm going to tighten that up RIGHT NOW! I guess it's too new of a skill to be automatic as yet, so I'll work it until it is. <BR> <BR> Also, I'm starting a personal "squat challenge" of 2 weeks in length, starting with 10 the first day and increasing by 1... Sun, 18 Jan 2015 09:24:32 EST Saturday Saturday is done...I'm off to bed. Sat, 17 Jan 2015 22:20:11 EST Growing up - today. Siebold's Day 12 is about growing up emotionally. Ok, so I want to relate this to my life, and my coach has sent me a FABULOUS e-mail with lots of clarification and things I definitely want to work on, and will work on. <BR> <BR> For today, growing up emotionally means not whining because I'm sick. Today is another day in my life when I know I'm just going to have to suffer through to achieve my goal...which is to stay above-ground at least until Saturday morning. Yepper, that's the goa... Fri, 16 Jan 2015 22:59:40 EST Say it ain't so!!! Today is my Day 10 of the free on-line program by Steve Siebold. Today he tells me that losing weight is a simple 2-step program. <BR> <BR> 1. Make a decision. <BR> 2. Develop the mental toughness to stick to it until I get it. <BR> <BR> He says no one wants us to believe it's this easy, b/c the weight loss industry is worth <BR> 68 BILLION DOLLARS a year in the United States. Now, he does say that us humans are emotionally-based creatures so we have to overcome our emotio... Wed, 14 Jan 2015 06:50:03 EST The Second Week of Deer Camp Does anyone know this song: <BR> <BR> It's the second week of deer camp <BR> And all the guys are here <BR> We drink play cards and shoot the bull <BR> But never shoot no deer <BR> The only time we leave the camp <BR> Is when we go for beer <BR> The second week of deer camp <BR> Is the greatest time of year! <BR> <BR> This morning it won't stop cycling through my head!!! Guess it's just a fun song to sing in the deep freeze of the winter on a sunny morning.... Oh yes, and it is the 2nd ... Tue, 13 Jan 2015 10:00:07 EST A Late in the Day Blog Today Siebold wants me to commit to doing whatever it takes to succeed. Yep...I never want to regain...I'm there. <BR> <BR> He also tells me that major change is not easy...nope, it's not...but I want it. <BR> <BR> He tells me "life isn't fair and success isn't free" has taught me he's right. <BR> <BR> He tells me to take control of my emotions...I'm working on it...I'm working on it. <BR> <BR> And he tells me to "Dream Big!" <BR> <BR> Ok, Steve, I'm dreaming of the day when I h... Mon, 12 Jan 2015 20:44:36 EST Sunday and Siebold and Beck and Me I'm continuing on with Siebold's program. Today was day 7, but each and every day he has a good lesson for me. I LOVE his program. <BR> <BR> Now, having said that, I hear Beck's words in my head every day too. NO CHOICE. EAT SITTING DOWN. Oh Well. Pre-plan!!!!!!! It's kinda like Siebold is encouraging me to stick with Beck's program...b/c Beck's program works! Beck's program does work if I work Beck's program. <BR> <BR> Hope you all have a peaceful, happy, on-plan Sund... Sun, 11 Jan 2015 06:58:53 EST THIN PEOPLE EAT TO LIVE...FAT PEOPLE EAT FOR PLEASURE This is the topic of Siebold's Day 5 of I attended a Little Christmas dinner last night and did not go over my calorie range for the day. I pre-planned and ate VERY lightly during the day so I'd have extra calories for the dinner...well, that worked. However, the person next to me is a naturally thin person and she ate about 2/3 of what I ate and had NO DESSERT! Yep. No dessert. <BR> <BR> She piled her plate with salad, ate some lean chicken breast and some squash. Yep,... Fri, 9 Jan 2015 08:24:49 EST EXPECT PAIN Today is day 4 of my review of Siebold's and his message today is EXPECT PAIN! Yep, to be successful, we must suffer. Interestingly enough, he also tells us "nothing is free, there's a price to pay for everything". Success is not free...failure is not free either. I'm with him, I'd rather pay the price for success than the pain of failure. <BR> <BR> What a great day for this lesson to re-arrive, considering we've been invited to Little Christmas dinner at a food-pusher's h... Thu, 8 Jan 2015 08:06:38 EST Control over emotions/feelings Siebold says when we don't take control over our emotions/feelings, they will RUN OUR ABILITY TO THINK! Oh gosh. I must grow up emotionally. I'm 59...time to grow up! I sure hope he has a plan for me to follow for me to achieve this (like Beck's plan for weight loss), otherwise I'll be mired in my own emotions trying to overcome my own emotions!!!!! Aaaaaaugh! <BR> <BR> Ok, I'm working on it. And I'm relating it to the rest of my life, in addition to there's an eye opener.... Wed, 7 Jan 2015 16:55:07 EST I'm WORKING Yep, I set plans to achieve my 3 goals for 2015...and I'm WORKING them each day. No, a full week hasn't passed as yet (my reference to the Today Show where they said most new year's resolutions don't make it past the first week). <BR> <BR> I'm still working...and I can see results already which is spurring me on to more action! (but just a bit each day) <BR> <BR> I too am re-doing Siebold's I am also relating his strategies to my other 2 goals...and yes, effort and compl... Tue, 6 Jan 2015 10:09:03 EST Monday Bonus <BR> "Action is the antidote to despair." <BR> – Joan Baez Mon, 5 Jan 2015 17:13:59 EST Monday and Up a Bit I wish I was only referring to my mood/spirit when I say I'm up a bit today...but alas, my scales have me up 3 lbs over last Christmas was exceptionally good, and what happened? Well, I'm sure part can be attributed to salt and lack of bodily functions, however, there's always that FOOD component and that CHOICES component. <BR> <BR> I think when my weight was the same after Christmas, I allowed myself to eat a bit too much. NO BINGE was involved, for which I am ever so grate... Mon, 5 Jan 2015 09:39:50 EST New Year's Resolutions This morning on the Today Show, they said that most new year's resolutions go by the wayside in the first week of the new year. <BR> <BR> Well SparkFriends...not this girl! Nope! I'm going onward and I am determined to do what it takes and I'm darn well going to enjoy the journey too! (foot stomp) lol <BR> <BR> Hope you have a super day! Fri, 2 Jan 2015 13:29:33 EST New Year's Eve's been quite a year, 2014. It's been good, it's been bad, and it's been ugly. Yep, it's been quite a year. <BR> <BR> I'm ever so grateful for the goals I've accomplished in 2014 and ever so grateful for the being dragged out of the deep pit of despair by my Spark Friends. You know who you are! You know. You're the ones who jump on one of my "sad" blogs with uplifting words and with the same speed/enthusiasm that I used to jump on an ice cream truck with! Yep, it's been quite... Wed, 31 Dec 2014 15:00:47 EST Hey, Where's My Blog? Hey, where did today's blog go???? Gremlins ate it??? Tue, 30 Dec 2014 19:54:10 EST It's The Monday After Christmas So today is the Monday after Christmas...and weekly weigh in day for me. Talk about trepidation...stepping on those scales today after all those appetizers at DDs yesterday? <BR> <BR> Well, turns out I was the same weight this morning as I was the Monday before Christmas. Really? Yep, apparently so. So I'm thinking that now when I think I'm pigging out, I'm not really. My definition of "binge" has changed. A binge used to be eating an entire box of crackers and cheese or peanut butte... Mon, 29 Dec 2014 11:11:53 EST It's Officially Christmas It's only 1:30 a.m. at my house but that makes it officially Christmas. It's SOOOO windy here that I am a-feared that Santa will be blown right out of the that what's keeping me up tonight? <BR> <BR> In any case, hope everyone has a lovely Christmas day. Thu, 25 Dec 2014 01:32:56 EST The Gift is for me. Merry Christmas fellow Sparkers. 'Twas the morning of the night before Christmas, and all through the house, not a creature was stirring, not even DH. <BR> <BR> And as I sit here quietly with my morning cuppa java, I am overwhelmed by feelings of gratitude for all the gifts I have received here on SP. <BR> <BR> I'm off to make sandwiches earlier than usual at the Salvation Army this morning so they can be delivered earlier than usual with a $5 gift card with each....a special gift for ... Wed, 24 Dec 2014 07:03:02 EST It's the Tuesday Before Christmas! Yes, it's the Tuesday before Christmas and DH woke up with razors in his throat and an elephant sitting on his chest. Oh dear...hoping it leaves him soon! <BR> <BR> So, yes, Christmas is coming. Christmas Eve is a gathering with DH's family...all 45 of them and gratefully we don't have to host this year! I am PRE-PLANNING what I will eat. Everyone is bringing something so there will be lots of variety and I'm pre-planning to scan and pre-plan. Yep, that's what I will do. Same for all t... Tue, 23 Dec 2014 08:42:16 EST Today is the Monday Before Christmas I'm 59 years old, but I'm excited b/c today is the Monday before Christmas. It is also my weigh-in day. Woo hoo to Christmas coming and woo hoo to weigh in day. <BR> <BR> I have declared today "No Cookie Day" for myself. Yep, I've been eating a cookie a day for the past week and a bit. So while I am happy happy with my weigh this morning, I want to stay happy with my weight and break the "cookie" cycle before it becomes another one of those bad habits that grows.... you know what I'm ta... Mon, 22 Dec 2014 07:45:59 EST It's the Saturday Before Christmas! Oh boy oh boy oh boy! It's the Saturday before Christmas and my littlest GS is coming my way today. AGAIN! Can't believe my luck! For this, I am lucky. For maintainting weight, I am not lucky. There is no luck whatsoever in my weight maintenance. I work at it every day. <BR> <BR> My friends, you'll notice that my blogs are not in-depth studies of why I over-ate, nor my relationship with food. Nor do they go on about how I could go back there to that goofy over-eating I used to do.... Sat, 20 Dec 2014 08:19:25 EST I'm BACK! Hello there SparkFriends! I'm back. Yes, I was gobbled up by a computer virus yesterday and finally at 9 p.m. I was able to reset my computer back a week....and poof, it worked. And the techy people suggested I update my browser and sent me the link to do it, so hat's off to those fab techies!!! <BR> <BR> Everyone was right! I did low tech tracking and pre-historic pre-planning yesterday. Hey, gotta tell you know how I said I believe you can pre-plan moments before you choos... Fri, 19 Dec 2014 07:15:36 EST Awaiting SP Tech support I cannot log food. <BR> I cannot change my status. <BR> I cannot log activity. <BR> I'm awaiting help from SP Tech support. Thu, 18 Dec 2014 07:53:17 EST The Beauty of Beck For any of you who don't know about Beck, its a book called The Beck Diet Solution, written by a lady named Beck. <BR> <BR> She changed my life and this morning, in gratitude, I spent some time thinking about why and how. The beauty of the program is we don't need to slog through finding out what we should and should not be doing to lose weight and/or maintain weight. She lays it out VERY clearly, not missing a step. Her program requires us to find a coach or buddy to work with, which at ... Sun, 14 Dec 2014 09:15:27 EST Fake It Until You Make It So, I'm faking thinking like a thin person until I actually do think like a thin person. This means I'm doing all the "thin person"'s just my brain that has not followed as yet. <BR> <BR> I don't blog daily b/c I'm doing well...really well, and for some reason there have been MANY people in my life who have not/don't want me to do well. So, I'm not telling everyone everyday that I'm working at Beck Thinking, and Beck Acting all day long, every day. <BR> <BR> Yesterday I went ... Thu, 11 Dec 2014 10:37:03 EST Six Weeks Today It was 6 weeks today that I re-arrived at my goal weight after having to re-lose 31 pounds (again) and I am giving myself credit...this morning, I'm still there. <BR> <BR> Six weeks might not seem like much, but as I have previously stated I have only ever stayed at goal weight for "a minute" in the past. I am creating a new history for myself. I like it. I like it a lot. I like it so much that I don't ever want to over-eat again....honestly, that's how I feel right now. <BR> <BR> I... Thu, 4 Dec 2014 09:15:53 EST How to stay at my goal weight? By always making the next right choice Yep, the next right choice.... <BR> <BR> Make yourself quiche, but only eat a portion...not the whole thing! <BR> <BR> Go to Costco shopping, but don't buy the things you LOVE to eat and you can't say no to! <BR> <BR> Have healthy snacks in the house. <BR> <BR> Pre-plan food...and eat to the plan! <BR> <BR> Appreciate life.... Thu, 27 Nov 2014 18:34:22 EST Beck Day 44 - How to Stay at Your New Weight Beck has wonderful suggestions as to how to stay at goal weight: <BR> <BR> -Continue to weigh myself <BR> -recommit yourself if you gain 3 pounds <BR> -create a maintenance advantages response card <BR> -Anticipate the amount of effort required for maintenance <BR> -give yourself credit (still hard) <BR> -respond to sabotaging thoughts <BR> -Eat the same amount of food <BR> -Continue to plan and monitor what you eat <BR> -Create menus <BR> -Eat consistently day to day <BR> -Use good eating ... Wed, 26 Nov 2014 06:37:55 EST Beck - After Losing I've been yo yo-ing for so long that I figure I need to just pick a weight and stay there. 160 was hard to maintain...180 was hard to too will 140 be hard to maintain. I have accepted the fact that I'm addicted to food. And, as a food addict, I need to say NO to food whenever I get a craving...ALWAYS, no to eating when I get a craving. <BR> <BR> I do now allow myself to pre-plan the food I "am craving" for the following day...I pre-plan the food and the amount, so that t... Tue, 25 Nov 2014 09:58:21 EST Beck Day 42 43 days ago Watermellen said she was re-starting the book the following day and I was welcome to join her. I was reluctant. And look, 43 days later, this is the last day! Time flies! <BR> <BR> Beck Day 42 is Practice, Practise, Practise. She tells me I have the new-found skills to think like a thin person now. She also says that from time-to-time I'll give in to cravings, forget to give myself credit (almost always...much more practise required), or neglect to follow m... Mon, 24 Nov 2014 06:15:56 EST Beck Day 41 Oh thank you to everyone for all your kind words yesterday.... I really cannot express what they mean to me. <BR> <BR> After a long afternoon nap, yesterday afternoon me and DH got dressed up, went shopping and then went to a buffet Chinese restaurant for dinner. It was lovely. My size 10 Laura store pants were large enough so I could fit a 2nd pair underneath to keep me warmer. The shopping was uplifting as I just went up and down the isles, looking and looking and looking some more. T... Sun, 23 Nov 2014 07:03:28 EST Beck Day 40 Beck's Day 40 is Enrich Your Life. Really? You mean there is more to life than planning meals, cooking meals, logging food, logging exercise and blogging each day? Yes, I believe there is, but so much has happened to me in the past year, that I'm wounded. Wounded and tired. I've been thinking about enriching my life lately, but no action has happened. <BR> <BR> Beck's Enrich Your Life gives me step to take to get started, along with a plan to keep going. I think I need to make an "ad... Sat, 22 Nov 2014 07:35:30 EST Beck Day 39 Today is Keep up with Exercise. I love to walk. Walking outside gives me more pleasure than swimming, kayaking and gardening combined, however, this time of year is too treacherous to walk. <BR> <BR> In 2006 when I was losing weight for my daughter's wedding, I was following Dr Phil's book, The Ultimate Weight Loss Solution. In it he gives my only hope for continuing to exercise. He suggests I "consequate my exercise". He told me I wouldn't think of going to work without getting dress... Fri, 21 Nov 2014 07:27:52 EST Beck Day 38 - (happy dance day!) So Beck's day 38 is Deal With A Plateau. <BR> <BR> When I was in weight-loss mode, a plateau was dreaded...oh so dreaded. I would work hard and anxiously await the scales to move again. <BR> <BR> In maintenance, a plateau is utopia. That's what I'm striving more yo yo-ing, and after a lifetime of it, at 59 years of age, I'm oh so ready to embrace all of Beck's new food thinking and oh so ready to watch those scales stay the after day, week after week. <BR> <BR> It's... Thu, 20 Nov 2014 08:21:08 EST Beck Day 37 - Reduce Stress For me, Beck has had some truly wonderful, eye-opening steps in this book. Today's lesson is Reduce Stress. <BR> <BR> I've been trying to use NO CHOICE and Oh Well to solve problems and also to reduce my stress. Step 3 of today is: Change Your Mindset. She says many people are chronically stressed because they allow unreasonable rules to guide their behaviour. ie <BR> -I should always do my best. <BR> -I should always prevent problems. <BR> -I shouldn't rely on others. <BR> -I shouldn't... Wed, 19 Nov 2014 07:37:59 EST Beck Day 36 - Believe It This lady really knows what's in my head!!! I was looking at my weight graph as she suggested yesterday. Ok, I reached goal weight October 23rd. The next week I was up 4 lbs. After that I went right back down to 1 lb above goal weight and the line is FLAT! Yes, the line is FLAT! <BR> <BR> Beck day 36 is Believe It! Do you believe it? Today is Believe IT and I'm having a very hard time believing it. Did I really eat that much food standing up in my kitchen?...obviously the answer is... Tue, 18 Nov 2014 07:12:12 EST Beck Day 35 Thank you to everyone who has been supporting me through this journey. We all know it's not all about food and our weight, although here we try to focus on that aspect of our lives. When we are winners in the weight/food area, it does make the rest of life better. <BR> <BR> My buffet dinner of Saturday night went really well. No appetizers, one small plate of food and dessert. All acceptable. 2 glasses of water to drink followed by 2 cups of coffee. <BR> <BR> Last night's dinner at f... Mon, 17 Nov 2014 07:38:33 EST Beck Day 33 - A BIG ONE! Today's Beck lesson is Eliminate Emotional Eating. So I had a few "coasting" days on Beck...lessons already learned...but this one...this one still needs my attention. She talks about ways to distract ourselves when our emotions make us want to eat. She says food can often be used as an "effective distractor" to avoid our feelings, by us overeaters. <BR> <BR> She says "You have to deal with distress in non-food-related ways if I want to sustain permanent weight loss." I want to sustai... Sat, 15 Nov 2014 09:31:04 EST Beck Day 32 Today's Beck day is "Prepare to Travel". I read it just in case she has some good tips, but again, life has taught me what to do and what not to do. I've been on vacations where I haven't gained any weight, and I've been on vacations where I've gained over 10 lbs. The difference???? Conscious choices and planning. Yep, that's it. Pre-planning for me is the key. What will I eat for breakfast, lunch, supper? Do I have enough reserve calories to have a snack? <BR> <BR> Pre-planning, ... Fri, 14 Nov 2014 09:50:45 EST Beck Day 31 Yesterday's "dead cow" comment on my blog, first had my tummy churning, however, after reading all comments at the end of the day, I couldn't stop laughing...all the way to bed even!!! Made for such a pleasant sleep...thank you everyone!! <BR> <BR> Let's see if today's Beck topic stirs up such levity.... <BR> <BR> Day 31 is Decide About Drinking. I drink. I drink water. I drink coffee. I drink flavoured coffee. I drink green tea. I drink the occasional diet soda (b/c I've heard how ... Thu, 13 Nov 2014 06:53:10 EST