RENATA144's SparkPeople Blog RENATA144's Blog on SparkPeople, home of free diet plans and a healthy living community It's so hard to let go ! My favorite residents left for Home today. I am so happy for him as Home is where he (we) belong but I am also so sad because we became wonderful friends & now I may never see him again. We hugged & kissed a lot. <BR> It's like the song - it's the best thing for him & ... <BR> I really feel that I was the one who helped to bring him out of his Alzheimer's fog when we had our many amazing, educational & inspiring conversations. I hope that he can get the right intellectual stimulation that ... Thu, 31 Jul 2014 23:47:32 EST Extending a helping hand Today I made some new friends. They are the family of a new resident at the nursing home. They were still in shock because of the sudden onset of their father's health problems. We talked a lot. I counseled them as we shared our "war" stories. It felt so good to have folks to commiserate with. I reassured them that they , like I, have picked the right facility for our Loved ones. I was happy to answer their questions & give them a heads- up about some things that are "coming down the pike". ... Sun, 27 Jul 2014 23:42:39 EST May Peace & Love be with you <em>220</em> <em>247</em> <em>212</em> <em>414</em> <em>403</em> <em>532</em> Sat, 26 Jul 2014 23:12:24 EST Keeping company 'Most Everything is better when you have good people around you. <BR> Your presence is a Gift to others as well. <BR> <em>220</em> <em>361</em> <em>342</em> Thu, 24 Jul 2014 23:35:46 EST Volunteering Is good for your spirit Wed, 23 Jul 2014 23:33:30 EST Spread good vibes everywhere you go !!! Find something to be happy about & share how it makes you feel. Build upon those feelings until everyone is as happy as you are. <em>236</em> <em>244</em> <em>104</em> <em>355</em> <em>356</em> <em>353</em> Mon, 21 Jul 2014 20:59:15 EST I Love making accomplishments !!! Like The sensation of what it feels like when someone tells me that I can't do something & then I go & do it. <em>104</em> <BR> <em>208</em> <em>209</em> <em>521</em> Sun, 20 Jul 2014 14:46:06 EST Project confidence Love & respect yourself . Project confidence & it will be reflected back to you. <BR> Be <em>345</em> <em>306</em> <em>104</em> Sat, 19 Jul 2014 23:58:11 EST Erasing regrets Last week there was a karaoke show at the nursing home. I didn't participate because I'm a professional singer & didn't want to be a " ringer" . I was a little regretful of my choice & vowed that I would take the next opportunity to perform. <BR> <BR> Today the young recreation director was called away for a few minutes as she was setting up an auction. Everyone was arranged into a perfect audience. As if I was having an out of body experience I stood up & started singing old familiar song... Fri, 18 Jul 2014 17:30:26 EST Make one good choice Then make another. Keep building on your success. Feel great. <em>9</em> <em>550</em> <em>332</em> <em>311</em> Thu, 17 Jul 2014 23:59:23 EST The mountain came to Muhammad ! There was a Mass at the place that I was. I attended. It's been awhile. <em>288</em> <em>296</em> Wed, 16 Jul 2014 23:58:31 EST A funny story ! I'm proud to say that when I went to an all you can eat buffet I ate only 1 plateful. No seconds. This was a 1st for me. I was satisfied. I enjoyed sharing stories with my friends. <BR> We then went to visit my husband in the rehab home. My girlfriends are elderly & quite decrepit. 1 uses a cane & the other is stooped over. We had a nice visit. But on the way out - the nurses were trying to stop my friends offered them wheelchairs & tried to escort them back to their rooms. It was so funn... Tue, 15 Jul 2014 22:55:55 EST A quote from Katherine Hepburn's pillow : " if you obey all of the rules you will miss all of the fun". <BR> <em>244</em> Sun, 13 Jul 2014 09:17:25 EST "You are A perfect manifestation of Heaven & earth.". Fri, 11 Jul 2014 23:32:00 EST Drink plenty of water During these hot days to prevent dehydration. You'll feel much better. <BR> <em>91</em> <em>194</em> <em>274</em> Wed, 9 Jul 2014 23:21:17 EST I'm so excited to be bringing my Hubby HOME Tuesday !!! I'm bringing my sweet hubby HOME on Tuesday !!! I'm prepping our home for him so that he won't trip. I have <em>232</em> <em>232</em> Outside our front doors. Some of my Wonderful neighbors have mowed our lawn. <BR> <BR> I'm going to get my exercise running around for last minute prep tomorrow. <em>312</em> <em>342</em> <em>247</em> <em>212</em> <em>104</em> <em>356</em> <em>236</em> <BR> Sun, 6 Jul 2014 19:57:30 EST A fun day The BBQ was rained out but the party moved indoors. It was a special surprise when an unassuming young man walked up to the piano & played like an Angel - classical music was his passion. He was also good with pop music. He was reading the music off of his cellphone until I offered him my I- pad. He fell in Love with it as it was easier to see. I sang along with them. It was a good <em>236</em> Fri, 4 Jul 2014 23:59:58 EST Have a Safe & Happy 4th of July celebration !!! My DH's facility is having another BBQ tomorrow. I hope that they have a good DJ like last time. I'm so looking forward dancing with my sweet hubby. <BR> I'm bringing him Home Wednesday !!! <em>104</em> <em>354</em> <em>355</em> <em>356</em> Thu, 3 Jul 2014 23:12:04 EST Making old friends ! Senior citizens have a wealth of knowledge <em>58</em> . It's good too get to know them. Some have fascinating stories. Some are singing stars from days of old. <em>335</em> <em>276</em> <BR> <BR> Be good to eachother. God willing we will all be old one day. <BR> <em>247</em> <em>212</em> <em>220</em> Wed, 2 Jul 2014 23:10:34 EST An unexpected opportunity to exercise ! I had to go to a meeting at my hubby's rehab facility. I got to meet the heads of the departments that are tending to my hubby's needs. They told me about his progress & answered my questions. I didn't have too many because I visit him Every day & therefore witness most of what he experiences daily. We even lunch together. <BR> <BR> This morning I arrived early to go to the meeting. The recreation director was leading the seniors in various exercises. I participated & helped my sweet husb... Tue, 1 Jul 2014 23:20:35 EST Ed is continuing to make progress !!! He's getting lots of physical & occupational therapy & is anxious to go home. I will bring him Home in 10 days . I can't wait !!! I know that it will be difficult but I think I can manage. There will be a Visiting Nurse service & some friends that can help. Mon, 30 Jun 2014 23:44:15 EST Helping others feels good ! Whenever possible try to reach out to someone in need. Sometimes a big hug can soothe an aching heart. We all have something to share. <em>247</em> <em>220</em> Sun, 29 Jun 2014 23:10:51 EST A lovely way to spend a Saturday ! Today the facility threw a BBQ <em>236</em> <BR> The music was irresistible. <em>335</em> <em>339</em> Ed let me hold his hand as a I danced with/ for him. <em>351</em> It was a really nice moment. Sat, 28 Jun 2014 16:30:13 EST Lunch with my BFF It's important to take time to nurture your friendships. <em>361</em> Fri, 27 Jun 2014 23:57:11 EST An update about my Hubby He's doing pretty well. Today he ate more than ever - Thank you appetite stimulants !!! <BR> I got him a shave & a haircut. The staff didn't recognize him at first. He looked so refreshed ! Thu, 26 Jun 2014 23:07:17 EST Talk therapy When you have trouble sorting out a problem it's always got to talk to someone - Family, trusted Friend, your Pastor or a Rabbi , etc. it's amazing how sharing your thoughts can make you feel better especially if you can find a solution to your problem. <BR> <em>220</em> <em>361</em> <em>342</em> Wed, 25 Jun 2014 22:24:12 EST Keep a Positive attitude. Believe that what you want Is Possible. <BR> Abandon negativity. <BR> Surround yourself with The Best People that you can find. <BR> Keep pressing forward. <BR> <em>386</em> <em>306</em> <em>521</em> <em>381</em> <em>247</em> <em>104</em> <em>252</em> <em>215</em> <em>321</em> <em>104</em> <em>356</em> <em>208</em> Sun, 22 Jun 2014 19:38:08 EST I'm Loving Life again !!! It's so important for all of us to be in an environment that nurtures you in every way that you need it to. Friends - old & new, Family are all essential to our well being. I will always Treasure my SPARKFRIENDS for you support and advice. <BR> You really matter to me. <BR> <em>247</em> <em>212</em> <em>220</em> <em>184</em> Fri, 20 Jun 2014 21:27:50 EST Phase 2 !! This evening Ed was brought to the beautiful nursing home. It is a wonderful place. He will be Lovingly cared for. He will be integrated into the group of his fellow residents. He will get more appetite stimulants to encourage him to eat. <BR> <BR> I am SO HAPPY BEYOND WORDS !!! <BR> My Edward is a total Miracle !!! He has come such a long way. I look forward to watching his recovery & progress. <BR> I Refused to let him go when the dr Debbie downers were essentially telling me to let... Thu, 19 Jun 2014 22:19:14 EST A thrilling day ! Visiting my hubby in the hospital everyday I began to feel at home there. I've grown to admire the Nurses & Nurse's Aides who have lovingly tended to my DH & helped to to make his Miraculous recovery. I've even fantasizes about joining their ranks. <BR> <BR> Today Ed had the procedure- a catheter was removed from his neck- (finally) that was his last obstacle to his being discharged into the rehab. I stayed & helped the surgeon - by doing my best to keep Ed calm & keeping him from jumping ... Wed, 18 Jun 2014 22:32:59 EST You never know how strong you are Until you are tested Tue, 17 Jun 2014 21:31:05 EST Thank you for all of you very much needed Support Dear SPARKFRIENDS !!! My Ed is receiving one great report after another. Tomorrow they remove the dialysis catheter & he - God willing - will be off to rehab Wednesday !!! <em>104</em> <em>244</em> Mon, 16 Jun 2014 23:32:32 EST My Ed's Healing continues to astound !!! Ed's kidney function continues to improve !!! It has gone from 0%to 10% & is now about 30% !!! This is Truly Miraculous !!! If it continues they will remove the dialysis catheter since he will not need it anymore !!!! <BR> <BR> Next stop Rehab !!! Sun, 15 Jun 2014 14:45:21 EST Miracles continue to flow !!! Ed's doing very well. His sense of humour is back. Ie. today when the dr asked him - " Who is this lady?" Pointing at me he said- "That's no lady that's my wife !!!" . The dr (who is from a foreign country) was still laughing at that joke hours later ! I know it's a really old joke but the best part is that he gave the Right Answer. It was such a joyful relief after all of the times he misidentified me, although the last time he said that I was his Mother. Between you & me - I always say that... Fri, 13 Jun 2014 22:23:48 EST Caring staff The sweet hospital staffers are always checking in on Ed & noting how good he looks. He has come a long way. He can't wait to be released. Thu, 12 Jun 2014 23:18:11 EST Miracles Do Happen !!! My hubby's doctor said that his kidneys seem to be working so well that he may no longer need Dialysis for life after all. They want to wait & see for a couple of more days. <BR> <BR> He's so anxious to get out & resume his life, ( as much as possible). <BR> Thank God for the miracles of modern medicine !!! <em>458</em> <em>459</em> <em>282</em> <em>273</em> Wed, 11 Jun 2014 22:46:03 EST I'm grateful for Kindness Everyday I go to visit my poor hubby I try very hard to get him to eat. As part of the Alzheimer's he has lost his appetite. The nurses & I celebrate any time that he eats or drinks anything. I stay with him all day to coax him to eat. But knowing that the food will go into the trash I have been supplementing my diet with some of the more palatable foods. The doctors had him eating puréed foods with a thickener some of which were awful. <BR> <BR> But today I convinced his doctor to give... Tue, 10 Jun 2014 23:17:31 EST I took the day off Even God rested onTHE 7th day. <em>459</em> Sun, 8 Jun 2014 20:22:28 EST Cherish every day Enjoy your Life <em>184</em> Fri, 6 Jun 2014 22:56:20 EST Take care of yourself I have received this good advice many times during this journey. I think that I'm doing a pretty good job of taking care of myself. I try to eat right. I walk a lot every day through the labyrinthine halls as I visit my hubby in the hospital. My lifestyle has drastically changed because of his circumstances. <BR> <BR> I appreciate it when the doctors, etc. show that they care about me too. The other day I ran into one whom I had met early on. He had witnessed the horrifying incident in whi... Thu, 5 Jun 2014 21:57:48 EST My hubby is progressing - By God's Grace & the Miracle of modern medicine !!!! Thank you Dear SPARKFRIENDS !!! My hubby is better & is anxious to get out of the hospital. I'm so happy for him & me !!! I went to look at a rehab facility that was suggested. It wasn't Nirvana but it was clean & seems to gave everything that he needs to get stronger & recover as much as possible. <BR> <BR> I met one of his physical therapists she told me to get him sneakers with ankle support & Velcro a size bigger - because his feet are swollen. I was so happy when she told me that what I... Wed, 4 Jun 2014 21:15:45 EST My hubby is a bit better ! After a terrifying physical & emotional roller coaster ride my Ed is finally on an upswing. The dialysis is working, although his inherited blood clotting problem rears it's ugly head from time to time the doctors are preparing Ed for his next step - a rehabilitation facility. While there hopefully they can help him to regain his strength & life skills. I can't wait 'til he gets out of the hospital & eventually makes his way home. <BR> <BR> Alzheimer's is an insidious disease. I pray tha... Sun, 1 Jun 2014 22:41:57 EST Expect a Miracle Believe in the Power of Positive Thinking Sat, 31 May 2014 23:54:20 EST Thank you & I care about you too. So many of us are struggling with all kinds of problems. I am very grateful for this forum in which I can blog about things that are affecting my life. I appreciate the very valuable feedback that I have reviewed. <BR> I also care about the <em>345</em> wonderful & kind people who take the time to leave me a word of encouragement. I hope that I say things to help you as well. <BR> <BR> <em>304</em> again. <em>247</em> <em>212</em> <em>252</em> <em>184</em> Fri, 30 May 2014 20:51:48 EST Be prepared to dig deep You never know how strong you are until you have been tested. <BR> Be ready. Thu, 29 May 2014 22:12:24 EST He is getting closer to Home !!! If dialysis goes well tomorrow - & he has not blood clots - they may transfer my hubby to the rehabilitation facility. His Kidneys are miraculously working !!! If they continue to work he won't need dialysis. <BR> Thank you to all of my SPARKFRIENDS for all of your heartfelt Prayers. It's working !!! <em>104</em> Tue, 27 May 2014 23:45:37 EST Thank you Veterans !!! Thank you to the members of The Armed Forces of The United States of America !!! <BR> <em>232</em> <em>195</em> <em>229</em> <em>523</em> <em>10</em> <em>36</em> You are all <em>345</em> <em>214</em> Mon, 26 May 2014 23:15:23 EST A Prayerful walk. Today I went to visit my hubby in the hospital. The Dialysis is working. It is literally draining so he was very sleepy. I was happy to hear that his night Nurses got him to eat. He also had some yogurt for breakfast. He's being exposed to a lot of different foods that he didn't usually eat. <BR> So since he was sleeping the whole time I decided to leave. I took a lovely walk around a beautiful cathedral <em>288</em> that I pass every day. I prayed & fought back the tears. <BR> <BR> I... Sun, 25 May 2014 20:23:09 EST Have a safe & happy Memorial Day. Thank you to all who have served Our Country in The Armed Forces. <BR> <em>232</em> <em>195</em> <em>10</em> <em>36</em> <em>304</em> <em>380</em> <em>340</em> <em>280</em> <em>652</em> Sat, 24 May 2014 23:14:57 EST He's continuing to improve !! For lunch, at least, He ate a bit & drank a few different beverages. He got his voice back. He even got his sense of humour back & made me laugh twice !! <em>224</em> <em>246</em> <em>342</em> Fri, 23 May 2014 23:36:30 EST