PATTYKLAVER's SparkPeople Blog PATTYKLAVER's Blog on SparkPeople, home of free diet plans and a healthy living community Fighting with the Dark Side I found out recently that I am growing more confident and it's easier to speak up for myself. This is after years of being meek and mild - or however Dorothy put it when speaking with the Great and Powerful Oz. I credit my girls and my granddaughter with much of this. I also credit my spark buddies, so kudos to all of you. <BR> <BR> AT & T is laying cable for an internet system throughout the area. I've heard through the Neighborhood Facebook Page that there have been various issues. On... Thu, 1 Dec 2016 11:48:19 EST Scavenger Hunt Okay, I noticed lots of people posting this on my Sparkpage. So here goes: <BR> PATTYKLAVER <BR> Can speak a foreign language. Yes Has been on TV. Yes <BR> Has traveled to at least one other country. Yes <BR> Would bungee jump, if the chance occurred. Yes <BR> Grew up in the country. No <BR> Has traveled by rail. Yes <BR> Has the same hobby as you do. Read, crochet, knit <BR> Likes to read. Yes <BR> Has traveled to at least ten other countries. No ... Mon, 28 Nov 2016 21:00:19 EST Slowly I Move It's been two months since my surgery I my left thumb. I'm getting there. I move my hand better than I did. But I still don't have any oomph and strength to it. And needing the operation on my right thumb, there are many things I just can't put muscle into my cleaning. <BR> <BR> Out of town relatives will be here Wednesday for Thanksgiving. I've been slowly trying to get ready. The house is still far from perfect, but I actually got more done than I thought I would. My c... Mon, 21 Nov 2016 20:54:56 EST Fog Lifting I tend to get a little depressed this time of year. This year, it seemed worse...with Mom gone and not may people to talk to and do things with. I was in the house more than I should have been. <BR> <BR> I'm getting out more, accomplishing more at home, worrying less. I am started to look forward to the holidays. A couple relatives will be coming down for Thanksgiving and this is giving me some motivation. Here's hoping it's onward and upward. Mon, 14 Nov 2016 15:26:32 EST Things I Have Learned Recently Don't worry or stress over getting everything done on my to-do list every day. I found that it won't do it by itself and it doesn't leave. My lists are now shorter, I let my grown daughter do more of what she's supposed to be doing. <BR> <BR> I am more aware of the clock and how long I spend doing things. My kitchen timer helped with this. I am better at being on time, getting things done and not wasting time on the computer. <BR> <BR> Being a grandmother of a 28-month-old human sponge... Fri, 28 Oct 2016 12:59:07 EST I Feel Like The Tortoise Slowly but surely I am making progress. My hands still ache and left me know when I have over-done things. It's a weird sensation to not have the strength in them that I expect to have. But I continue with therapy and ice/hot packs. The incision is SO much better than it was a month ago, but it's too soon to say what it will be like in 4-6 weeks. <BR> <BR> My major stressor has gone away - hallelujah! The stomach has settled and I've gotten in some good relaxation sessions. I do stil... Tue, 25 Oct 2016 06:56:25 EST Still Off Main Road, But... My life is still out of sorts. My hand is in a splint now, but doing things I want to do are still off limits. I have no hand or gripping strength in either of my hands. But I have hope that in 5 months they will be much better. <BR> <BR> The thorn in my and in my daughter's side is still there. How many times, ways, and people have to tell someone "no" for that person to understand? It reminds me too much of someone else who did things to try to get people to "not be on my side". My s... Sat, 15 Oct 2016 14:21:19 EST Oh, Come On, Already! The Funk I am in has not lifted. Someone from the past has added greatly to it. Stop this ride - I want to get off. Mon, 10 Oct 2016 21:32:19 EST Sinkhole Update I think I might be leveling off, but I'm not positive. I still have a cast on my left hand. I got the first one taken off yesterday and a smaller one put on. But the process made it hurt a little. It's still bruised and I will probably have a good-sized scar. Meanwhile, exclusively using my right hand is making that thumb and wrist hurt more. <BR> <BR> We have a cage set up where someone spotted Lulu Saturday night. We found some of her hair on the yard of the house next to the woods. ... Tue, 4 Oct 2016 08:55:55 EST Sinkhole Update I think I might be leveling off, but I'm not positive. I still have a cast on my left hand. I got the first one taken off yesterday and a smaller one put on. But the process made it hurt a little. It's still bruised and I will probably have a good-sized scar. Meanwhile, exclusively using my right hand is making that thumb and wrist hurt more. <BR> <BR> We have a cage set up where someone spotted Lulu Saturday night. We found some of her hair on the yard of the house next to the woods. ... Tue, 4 Oct 2016 08:55:53 EST The Sinkhole Caught Me By Surpi\rise This time of year, I know I tend yo get depressed. But it hit earlier than normal and I tripped and fell into it head first. It's almost Mom's birthday, the anniversary of dad's passing. I had my left thumb operated on last Tuesday; the cast up to my elbow is still on making everything difficult, When that's healed, I get to do the same with my right thumb. The car is acting up. The month-old computer crashed for the third time yesterday. <BR> <BR> The biggest kicker is my cat, Lulu. ... Wed, 28 Sep 2016 09:52:03 EST Joy of Relaxing We got to Pensacola Beach on Wednesday Got a little sunburn that day but I was careful since then Today I can say that I am truly relaxed Of course, we head home tomorrow. I had forgotten how relaxing staying on a beach could be. I must do this more often Fri, 16 Sep 2016 19:24:01 EST Life With Computers My computer started acting up well over a month ago. I babied it along but started getting scared . This is the one that I've had for 3 years and had died twice So I went out and bought a new one I have had it back to the store twice already So this is why I've been lost Wed, 14 Sep 2016 20:52:02 EST Am I Actually Getting Productive? I can see in my closet. This is the first time in over a month that I haven't had everything I brought back from MI shoved in there along with everything else I had in there. <BR> <BR> I went through my clothes and sent another bag to threadsUp. This company sends me a prepaid bag that I fill with clothes I don't want, don't fit into, don't feel comfortable in, and clothes that Helena has outgrown. I set the bag on the porch and the mail carrier picks it up. The company goes through th... Tue, 9 Aug 2016 12:36:04 EST Attitude Adjustment Despite my August goal of having more fun, my attitude seemed to be in the hoppers this morning. I read someone's blog that struck a chord with me. She said that she starts out each day with a good attitude and grand intentions. (That sounds like me.) Then something will happen mid-day to put that fork into the plans (again sounding like me). But today she said she will go left instead of right. Why not? This clicked with me. Wipe my slate clean and go left. Wandering I will go... Mon, 8 Aug 2016 12:06:35 EST August Goals Since my July was miserable, my main goal for August is to have fun and try lots of new things. <BR> I did go on a picnic at a state park with friends and plan to do that more. <BR> Swim with others as much as possible. <BR> Write at least two letter a week to people I haven't talked to in a while. <BR> Organize my pictures and put them on a DVD: I realize this will take more than a month, but it will never get done if I don't start. <BR> Play more games with my family; we played hide and s... Tue, 2 Aug 2016 12:57:29 EST One Way to Cope For a long time, I wondered what I would do when Mom was no longer with me. Mom passed on July 17. Planning the service was one thing I concentrated on. Making sure everyone was okay at the restaurant took some time. (Chasing Helena around helped there, too.) <BR> <BR> Mom was in an assisted living apartment for exactly one year. I remembered how much I tossed when she was sick. When we moved her into the apartment, I couldn't believe how much stuff we got rid of. We learned that as soo... Thu, 28 Jul 2016 10:39:07 EST An End and A Beginning My mother has suffered quite a bit in the past three and a half years. We almost lost her a few times. It was hard to keep her going, especially when I went from Michigan to Alabama to be with my girls. <BR> <BR> When my parents got married on November 29, 1947, they didn't get a honeymoon. The very next day they left West Virginia for Detroit. They worked for and lived with my grandparents for almost 6 years, <BR> <BR> Mom had a heart attack and flat lined during the night of July 8-... Sun, 24 Jul 2016 16:36:35 EST I Believe the Time is Here I got a call from my niece yesterday afternoon. When the nurse came to get my Mom for dinner, she made it into the hall way and told the nurse she felt faint. Down she went to hit her head and to be knocked unconscious. <BR> <BR> The ambulance came and took Mom to the nearest hospital and ran the usual tests. The CT Scan showed things to be normal - no concussions, etc. Most of the other tests were okay. Her potassium was extremely low, which happens occasionally. Her blood pressure ... Sat, 9 Jul 2016 05:10:14 EST Setting an Example I never thought of myself as one who was setting an example to others. But...I have noticed a couple things in the past month. I met up with a girl that I hadn't seen in a while. She told me how I inspired her to exercise because she saw me walking all the time. When I walk, I take a plastic grocery bag with me. If I see litter, I pick it up. Most days I get the bag full by the time I get home. It's easy to tie it up and stick it in the garbage. The other day, Helena and I walked out ... Sat, 2 Jul 2016 16:32:43 EST Dear Dad, I sure wish you could have been with me this weekend. We celebrated Helena's birthday all weekend, complete with party, bouncy house, swimming and just playing and talking in the house. <BR> <BR> You would so enjoy Sarah, Sherry and Helena and be so proud of them. Helena at 2 says please and thank you without being prompted. She tells people sincerely "thank you for coming" and "I love you". Her cuddles and kisses melt me every single time. She is a Bunner through and through. You woul... Tue, 28 Jun 2016 12:13:00 EST Summer Sicknesses Suck I've caught what the girls have: a cold/bronchitis/allergies/etc. It knocked me completely down for 2 days. I thought I was going to have a decent day today,, but after an hour, the burning in my esophagus has started again. Back to the least I am catching up on my writing and the crafts I am working on. Wed, 22 Jun 2016 09:44:59 EST Another Big Fork in the Road Sherry finally decided to write a land contract for the condo. This means a finality in having my stuff there and living there. So...I have to collect what stuff is still there (hers and mine) and do something with it. I know I will sell some things but don't know what to do with the rest. <BR> <BR> I will finally have that money to use for my bills. I hope I can get them down quickly. I have to realistically look at my budget. Things to do...places to go...decisions to make! Sat, 18 Jun 2016 06:58:11 EST Helena Evelyn <img src=""> <BR> <BR> This young lady is my sunshine. She makes me laugh every day. We actually have conversations now. She's got a "Let's have fun, go shopping, be devilish, love" attitude that I know she gets from my side of the family. She's independent, smart, loving, and not afraid to try anything once. <BR> <BR> Helena (or like she says: "Laina") will be two years old on the 27th. She's gotten her G... Thu, 16 Jun 2016 08:42:58 EST The Other Serenity Prayer God, grant me the serenity to stop beating myself for not doing things perfectly, the courage to forgive myself because I'm working on doing better, and the wisdom to know that you love me just the way I am. <BR> <BR> <BR> PS - please help me love me just the way I am. Thu, 9 Jun 2016 10:46:16 EST Starting a Streak or Wishful Thinking? Second day in a row I had my exercises in and house work done by 10 am. Can I do it? Tue, 7 Jun 2016 11:37:17 EST Progress on June 6, 2014 Yesterday, I was able to do a bit of paper work and got caught up a bit. <BR> <BR> This morning was one of those mornings where I was up too early and couldn't fall back asleep. So...I exercised, rode the exercise bike, took a walk, did some cleaning and was in the shower at 8. It has been FOREVER since I've done this and I feel good about it. Mon, 6 Jun 2016 10:51:18 EST I'm Glad It's a New Month We made it through the trip to Detroit, but I sure was exhausted. I fell asleep Sunday night at 6 and slept through to 4 am. I took an hour and a half nap yesterday and still fell asleep at 7 pm. I wonder if something is wrong. <BR> <BR> I did wake up with a better attitude this morning. We got Helena off to school and then Sherry and I went to work out. It felt good to actually do my exercises first thing in the morning again. Sherry and I seem to agree that we need to communicate mor... Wed, 1 Jun 2016 11:14:18 EST Gotta Really Work on my Outlook I had a spinal injection on Wednesday for my herniated disc. There's no guarantee that it will work, when it will work, or how long it will last. I have had so many aches that have set me back in the past year that I had to start being pro-active and finding something that makes me feel better. <BR> <BR> The bunion I have on my right foot was causing a searing pain completely through the middle of my foot. Until it gets to the "remove it" stage, the $50 insert I got seems to be making a b... Fri, 27 May 2016 09:19:54 EST It's Hard I've been seeing some improvements in my life: in what I want to do and not do. But I still am struggling. I feel that I am in a huge rut that no matter what I do I can't free myself. Suggestions are more than welcomed. Mon, 23 May 2016 10:37:12 EST It's Hard I've been seeing some improvements in my life: in what I want to do and not do. But I still am struggling. I feel that I am in a huge rut that no matter what I do I can't free myself. Suggestions are more than welcomed. Mon, 23 May 2016 10:37:08 EST Some Improvements I can actually say that I see a couple improvements in myself: <BR> My time management is getting better. I'm not getting carried away with things that aren't as important. My prioritizing is improving. <BR> I am getting better again at exercising, walking and drinking my water. <BR> I have learned to say to myself that it's time to quit for the day. <BR> Yes, I need to make more improvements: <BR> Make more time to do something I enjoy. <BR> Keep in touch with family and friends more. ... Thu, 12 May 2016 15:59:18 EST Good/Bad Doctor News My foot doctor told me to get an insert for my foot with the bunion to see of that helps. It took a couple days to get used to it, but it does help. <BR> <BR> My Knee and Hand Doctor told me my cartilage is wearing away especially in my thumbs. He gave me a prescription that worked good the first week and not my thumbs are back to hurting all the time. <BR> <BR> The back doctor was the hardest one. I went for an MRI and had to pay A $150 CO-PAY. I never had to before. But I was glad I... Tue, 3 May 2016 21:23:21 EST Whew! Sherry started a new job today. So she wanted to take Helena and go up north to see relatives and friends. I must REALLY be crazy to agree to it! We left Tuesday night about 8:15 and took turns driving. It's just about impossible to sleep in the back seat of a car that has a baby seat in it. <BR> <BR> Nothing has changed about being up in Detroit. Even Sherry noticed it; she commented how everything is dirty and that she felt torn in 100 different directions. I learned quickly that I... Mon, 2 May 2016 15:37:30 EST Something I haven't Done in a Long Time I got up early, helped get the girls off to work and school, then went for a walk. I haven't been out on a walk at 7 am in what seems like forever. When I got back, I spend an hour on the yard picking up weeds and trimming bushes. Then I got right to house work. This is how I used to be about 5 years ago. And it felt good to know that I accomplished somethingl <BR> <BR> Bonus: 19503 steps, 8.32 miles 2071 calories Thu, 21 Apr 2016 21:11:42 EST Wonderful Weekend I had a wonderful weekend. Today is Sarah's birthday and we all spent the weekend doing things together. <BR> <BR> Saturday we shopped and went to church together. <BR> <BR> Sunday, we went to a "Bloom' Arts and Crafts" festival at St. Bernard's Monastery in Cullman. It's a beautiful place with lots of big, old buildings with great workmanship. There were a lot of vendors there selling a bit of everything. Some of the high school band members played music the whole time we were there.... Mon, 18 Apr 2016 21:17:23 EST Doctor Visits Update I saw a podiatrist last Thursday. A bunion on my right foot is causing arthritis in my toes and pain radiating through the middle of my foot. An insert was suggested as the first course of treatment. If that doesn't work surgery is needed. <BR> <BR> Today I saw another orthopedist for my thumbs and my knees. All the years of jump-roping and waitressing have caught up with me. The cartilage has worn away and it looks like it's bone-on-bone. Over-the-counter medicines hadn't worked so I ... Mon, 11 Apr 2016 20:34:32 EST Slowly I Move... March was not the best of months for my family. Neither was February for that matter. Now it's April. The first is my Sherry's birthday. It was such a joy to be laying in bed with Sherry and Helena and to hear Helena just start singing "Happy Birthday" to her mom. <BR> <BR> It did lift the spirits. I'm slowly starting to make me a priority again. I'm getting pro-active and made the doctor appointments I had been putting off. I am starting to work on projects again. I found out that ... Thu, 7 Apr 2016 11:47:51 EST NOT in the Job Description!!! I know that as a Mom and Grandma, my job description is pretty detailed. But, after being with Helena yesterday and last night as she battled a cold and allergies, I was awakened to a surprise. In the back yard was a dead raccoon. I didn't think that getting it up was in my job description. But I knew I couldn't leave it there for Helena to see it or for another creature to get it. So there I was in my pajamas attempting to shovel it into the garbage can. That sucker was heavier than I ... Tue, 29 Mar 2016 16:58:58 EST Easter is over; time to find a new fun routine! Easter was a bit off-kilter: still reeling from a sudden death of someone very close to us. We are a bit off-kilter and need to heal a bit. <BR> <BR> It's time to start a new routine: something that interests us all, gives us our own space a creativity and times, and keeps our minds and bodies moving and doing and learning. Ideas are welcome. <BR> <BR> I hope everyone enjoyed the weekend. Mon, 28 Mar 2016 22:05:25 EST Life Keeps Throwing Fast Balls Another young family member passed yesterday morning. This one hurts, but at least I know that she had health problems all her life. She's not hurting anymore. I do grieve for the rest of us especially her two young children. <BR> <BR> This gives me a chance to sit and think about me and my life. What am I grateful for? What do I want to do with my life right now? It's a hard way to get me motivated, but that it has done. <BR> <BR> Hold tight to those dear to you....let them know ... Sun, 20 Mar 2016 13:51:18 EST Answered Prayer...... My youngest daughter, Sherry, mother to Helena, has had a ROUGH year. She never did seem to have much luck in the relationship department. Last Labor Day weekend, she met a terrific guy named Ben. He really loves both girls very much. He is an answer to my prayer to God to have someone good in her life. <BR> <BR> He had to leave us on Tuesday, March 8. God decided that he was done with his journey on earth. Considering he would be 26 in April, this was a very short journey. Although ... Wed, 16 Mar 2016 18:51:09 EST Self-Lecture Time I let myself be down all weekend. I woke up this morning and said "That's ENOUGH!" Took some time to go over some of my goals, read a few articles, and am starting to plan my strategy to look at life differently. <BR> <BR> The first thing I want to do is to print my list of daily goals. Put this list in a few places where I am sure to look at them more. Then I want to make a small chart of goals: one that I can check things off every day, write down where I'm struggling/succeeding, and... Tue, 8 Mar 2016 11:29:04 EST It CAN"T be a Friday! The extra day screwed me up. wasn't the extra day, but this wasn't a normal Friday. I had to meet up with separated husband who has land of mine that he's supposed to be selling to give me the money. (Way too long a story...!) All morning I let my stomach work itself into a dither. He tends to talk a lot about himself and not listen so much as to what others say. I worried if I would have to hit him over the head or something....well, I could've got him drunk, but then I'd have to take him to Guntersville... Fri, 4 Mar 2016 20:24:10 EST It's March Already?!? Goals... Two months down this year already! Wow! I have accomplished things the first two months that have been on my to-do list. I've lost 8 pounds. My paper work is under control - complete with finish my taxes and my daughter's taxes. I am slowly getting back into the habit of doing my exercises in the morning. I've actually read a pattern and knitted a dish cloth. <BR> <BR> Now to think about my next goals to accomplish. <BR> 1. I will be taking a class next week to learn how to make a hat... Thu, 3 Mar 2016 08:51:25 EST Tried Something New Finally I ordered a stair stepper and a video just to try to motivate myself to try a different type of exercise. I also needed some motivation to get back into the habit of exercising in the morning. <BR> <BR> This morning, I did it. I only did the beginner work-out and then followed it with some familiar exercises. I did work up a sweat - the first time in a long time that I did that! I might me onto something good. Thu, 25 Feb 2016 10:56:12 EST Surprised Myself It was a beautiful day today, lots of sunshine and a few fluffy clouds. Helena and I spent a lot of time outside. My fitbit registers 24,539 steps today - the most I think I have ever done. 9.74 miles and 2221 calories burned. Now if I could just get back into the habit of doing all my exercises every day... Thu, 18 Feb 2016 20:36:54 EST Slowly I set Goals...inch by inch I have been so slow at sitting down, writing some goals, and figuring out how I am going to accomplish them. I have been thinking about them a lot lately, so I have a good idea on what they are. Why is it so hard for me to plan? Why is it hard to tackle them? <BR> <BR> People around me have been important to me and I willingly do a lot for them. I did notice that this time, coming back from Michigan, I have been not so quick to jump and do Sherry's chores. I think this will help. For... Sat, 13 Feb 2016 11:15:36 EST Attention: Seniors Seniors: Hints on How to Liven Up Your Idle Hours to Maintain a Healthy Level of Insanity: <BR> 1. At lunch time sit in your parked car with sunglasses on and point a hair dryer at passing cars. <BR> 2. On all your check stubs write “For Marijuana”. <BR> 3. Skip down the street rather than walk and see how many looks you get. <BR> 4. Order a diet water whenever you go out to eat with a serious look on your face. <BR> 5. Sing along with all the music in public. <BR> 6. When the money comes ou... Wed, 10 Feb 2016 20:16:31 EST Rested and Ready To Accomplish I was really tired all weekend. Instead of doing what I usually do - and that's keep pushing myself - I actually listened to my body and rested. I woke up this morning definitely feeling recharged. <BR> <BR> I will spend some time this morning planning out my week. I need to get back into the habit of writing down everything I eat. I realized that I am doing what I did when my girls were toddlers: I find myself taking bites of what Helena is/isn't eating. The calories will add up too qu... Mon, 8 Feb 2016 09:00:51 EST