PATTYKLAVER's SparkPeople Blog PATTYKLAVER's Blog on SparkPeople, home of free diet plans and a healthy living community Broken Record Won't Stop It's almost Christmas. I am in my annual funk state of mind. Granted, this year I've had 3 surgeries - the last on Oct. 9 on my foot and I still have a boot on it. This makes it difficult to walk, drive, etc. and that makes my mood worse. I haven't been able to work and that makes the budget worse. So....I have to take suggestions, do SOMETHING. <BR> <BR> I am aware that I have trouble with depression each year this time of year. Yet here it is again. Time to find a counselor that I m... Sun, 10 Dec 2017 10:05:49 EST Don't Wait to Apologize My second-oldest niece, Shannon, turned 48 last week. She has been plagued with physical and mental problems for a long time now. Often, she would lash out at others as she was in pain. On her birthday, she was offered a 40-hour-a-week job with great benefits and was excited about it. <BR> <BR> On Friday, she was to decorate for the holidays with her son. She laid on the couch and fell asleep as she waited for him. He went to wake her up to find her cold. It is so devastating to find ... Mon, 27 Nov 2017 19:09:54 EST Shake It Up I sat in the emergency room for 4 and a half hours last night. Doctor told me to go get an ultrasound of my leg to rule out a blood clot. The night before, I finally got about three hours of sleep because it hurt so bad. No blood clots, but a cyst in the blood. Never heard of that one. <BR> <BR> I got a really good night's sleep last night. I really needed that. I woke up in a much better mood. When I logged onto SP, I read a couple things that shook up the memory a little. They got ... Tue, 21 Nov 2017 15:14:47 EST I Feel Like Charlie Brown: ARRRRRRRRGH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am in my temporary home, but my room is very difficult to walk through. If I absolutely had to find something, I'd be in trouble. But I can say that I am sleeping better despite the weird vivid dreams I've been having. <BR> <BR> Two days were spent at my oldest daughter's house - the one I just moved from. Her house looks worse than this one: the carpet cleaners came Monday and the painters came yesterday. It's easier to do those things with no furniture in the rooms, so I sat in a pi... Wed, 15 Nov 2017 12:34:26 EST I Need a Break! We are in the midst of a few moves: Sherry, Patrick, and Helena are moving into a new house on the next street. Tim and I will be moving with them until we find our own place - hopefully before the end of the year. Sarah will be moving back into this house. <BR> <BR> I put off having my foot operated on from the spring until the fall. The operation was October 9 and I have at least 3 more weeks before I can put any weight on it. So...I have the tasks of doing easy things and being wit... Mon, 6 Nov 2017 16:21:01 EST So Over It Already One of my constant wishes is for me to have time to get some paperwork done. Paperwork is like laundry: turn out the lights and it reproduces.'s been almost a month since my toe surgery. So, here's my chance to catch up. It seems there's more than I thought or I have lost some motivation because sitting doing paperwork is one of the few things I can do. <BR> <BR> I sit here looking at all the housework that needs to be done. We will be moving in a matter of days. Not much has... Thu, 2 Nov 2017 09:54:17 EST Toe Update My rash is a little bit better. The NP wasn't exactly sure what it is either: reaction to medicines, shingles or heat rash. We're going with heat rash as it seems to be the best match. My medicine was still changed just to be safe. <BR> <BR> I was out when the first cast was put on so I got the standard white one that felt like it weighed at least 5 pounds. I got to pick this time: purple to cheer me up. Has anyone seen the commercial where the ladies older that 40 dye part of their h... Thu, 26 Oct 2017 17:56:24 EST Really Discouraged On top of being in pain and not able to walk at all, I am retaining water, gaining weight and have a terrible rash that I am not sure what it is. I go to the doctor Thursday. I want to go but I don't want to. The cast on my foot feels like it's at least 5 pounds. <BR> <BR> My beautiful grandbaby, Helena, is really out of sorts too. It's hard on her that we're moving and I haven't been able to play with her very much. Fun does seem to keep me upbeat. <BR> Tue, 24 Oct 2017 15:05:11 EST It's Only Been 24 Hours... Yesterday morning, my right big toe was operated on. Arthritis set in and made it very difficult to not only walk but to sleep. The block that the anestheologist gave me can still be felt. I was sent home with crutches and a foot scooter. No weight on the foot for 6 weeks. And I hated the scale when I was weighed. <BR> <BR> The bathroom by my bedroom is so difficult to maneuver. So, I must go half way across the house to the half bath. I thought of using Helena's old potty chair, but ... Tue, 10 Oct 2017 15:04:23 EST Moving Again I've had so many moves in my life that I don't remember the exact number. Right now, I am living with my youngest and my granddaughter in a house owned by my oldest. My furniture is in storage in Michigan, and I am in Alabama. <BR> <BR> My youngest and her significant other have found a house on the next street. Their bid was accepted and there's a tentative move date at the end of the month. My oldest is considering putting this house up for sale afterwards. It's too hard to make 2 hou... Sun, 1 Oct 2017 11:29:50 EST Just When I Thought My Routine Would Get More ... Routine My routine started to change September 20, 2016. That was the day I had my left thumb operated on. The cartilage decided to leave me after years of abuse as a waitress and a house cleaner. No doing anything with the hand for over a month. I had the other thumb operated on, I goofed up my back, my daily life added a few bodies, etc. etc. <BR> <BR> I found out that my significant other got a job offer last week. Good, but definitely another change. I will be home most days by myself aga... Sun, 24 Sep 2017 19:42:45 EST Another Change in Routine Change in routine?? Who am I kidding? It seems I lost my "routine" about 2 years ago! But, yes, my daily activities have changed again. Something different to get used to. But...I am getting into more of a nighttime routine. I'm not sleeping any better, but it's at least better than it was 3 weeks ago. I am fighting the slip in eating habits and coming back around. The injury of my back the beginning of August didn't help any. At least it got me into the habit of doing my back exerci... Mon, 18 Sep 2017 11:54:20 EST Indoor Yard Sale Where we live, we have home owners associations. There are community yard sales in the spring and fall. It's a ton of work and where the house is, there's not a lot of foot traffic. Most of what we have is girl baby clothes. Helena has gone from 12-18 month clothes when we moved in two years ago to a size 6. We have a TON of little girl clothes. <BR> <BR> Last year, my daughter, Sherry found a store that is an indoor garage sale for kids' clothes, etc. in the spring and fall. It's a h... Mon, 4 Sep 2017 14:59:53 EST Be Your Own Advocate A few years ago, I was put on a medicine that I didn't think I needed. The doctors kept telling me that if a doctor prescribed it, there was a reason. Soon I was having trouble swallowing. I don't remember how many tests I went through and nothing showed up. I did a web search on the medicine and read a few articles. Come to find out, trouble swallowing was one of the lesser known side effects. <BR> <BR> I went to a new doctor in June. He told me my cholesterol was high. I have known ... Tue, 29 Aug 2017 10:43:34 EST Unsolicited Phone Calls I've been getting so many unsolicited phone calls that I am seriously considering changing my phone number. It's just such a hassle to update the information everywhere. <BR> <BR> My daughter did come up with a good idea. She gave a different ring tone to the people that I DO want to talk to. It's actually the "ring, ring, pick up the phone" one. It does help to a point. But I find that I still get a lot of unwanted voicemails. This tends to make the voice mail pick up a little quicker... Thu, 24 Aug 2017 11:09:34 EST Helena Evelyn looks Beautiful <img src="">A girl that Sherry works with took Helena's 3rd birthday pictures for her. We got the CD yesterday and sat down to look at them. We both cried. Helena looks so grown up, so poised, so confident! I wish I had her confidence. It's hard to believe that 4 years ago today, Helena wasn't even in existence yet. And to see her now and how sweet she is. I vowed I would take more time with her than I did w... Fri, 11 Aug 2017 09:57:19 EST Oops I did it again! I am told frequently I do too much. Do I listen? Of course not! <BR> <BR> Friday, I got the step ladder out to try to corral the overgrown mess of a bush that's on the property line. We have a 3-foot retaining wall there as the neighbor's yard is lower. I was quitting as I was a little nervous close to the edge of the property. With one foot on the ground and the other foot coming off the ladder, the ladder toppled down to the neighbor's property and I followed. I scraped the back of m... Mon, 7 Aug 2017 11:44:38 EST My Daughters' Little Red Wagon Sarah and Sherry got the wagon for Christmas one year as a present from their paternal grandmother. I can't tell you how many times that the wagon was used. It really saved us quite a few times. (If you ever sold Girl Scout Cookies you understand what I mean. <BR> <BR> I never would get ride of that wagon. I did lend it to my youngest niece only if my brother could guarantee that he'd keep it in good condition for me. Now that Helena is 3, it was time to bring it back so we can get even... Tue, 25 Jul 2017 12:57:10 EST The Good and Bad in Everything Bad: I had to morrow money to get another lawyer for the divorce. <BR> Good: Hubby is trying to cheat me out of more money. It won't happen. <BR> <BR> Bad: car won't start. <BR> Good: the garage door won't open anyway. I don't have the money to fix anything, so no one will be able to bum rides off me. <BR> <BR> Bad: The "feels like" temperature all week is over 100. <BR> Good: I've been getting my walks and yardwork done in the morning. I caught up on housework in the afternoon. Got ... Wed, 19 Jul 2017 22:27:46 EST I got a relaxing vacation We went up to Detroit for 10 days and I got to spend a lot of quality time with my family (except the "problem" children, but that was a good thing). Got a Tiger game in and lots of swimming and lounging around the pool. <BR> <BR> The problem with the vacation was TOO much lounging, not enough sleep, and not enough water. But I got back yesterday morning and am ready to start back fresh. Wed, 12 Jul 2017 16:29:50 EST Day After Helena's Birthday Update The different stories that I heard about the "alleged shooter" on Redstone Arsenal in Huntsville, AL and getting more and more worried about my granddaughter being at the daycare near the scene that was cordoned off, the 6 pm news announced that no shooter was found. <BR> <BR> My blood pressure had shot up when I went to the doctor after getting Helena. She did tell me that she heard an alarm and saw a lot of police officers in her building as they took the kids to a safe room. The teach... Wed, 28 Jun 2017 10:24:53 EST 6/27/2017 Helena's Birthday Helena was so excited this morning. I took her yesterday to the store and she picked out what she wanted to take to school as a treat. She wasn't even there for 2 hours and all of Redstone Arsenal is on lock down. There is an active shooter not far from the day care. The kids are all accounted for and safe. But Grandma is having a really hard time right now. I am asking please for prayers for all of the people on the arsenal. If something happens to my baby, I don't know what I will do... Tue, 27 Jun 2017 12:52:18 EST How Come Time Goes By Faster Each Year? I remember as a kid that summers seemed to last forever. Then it took forever for Christmas to come. I grew up, graduated, married and had 2 babies. Time from that point on seemed to go faster and faster. I thought that when my girls graduated from high school (or even college) time would slow back down a bit. Nope. <BR> <BR> I swear it was just yesterday that Sherry said she was coming into town from Halifax, Nova Scotia. When I went to the airport to pick her up, it was Sarah that I ... Fri, 23 Jun 2017 14:33:58 EST Improvements are Slow but Sure I'm making improvements. Granted, sometimes I feel like the tortoise, but didn't he win the race? I've gotten up early each morning this week and did something healthy for myself. I tried a few new things. I worried about less. I loved more and played more. Life is food. <BR> <BR> Now, if I could just figure out how my granddaughter is almost 3 years old already and how come she acts 10 years older.... Wed, 14 Jun 2017 14:14:57 EST Houston...We Have a Problem Right here and right now I have to change my mindset a bit. My girls went on a 4-day weekend to a friend's house. No daughter or granddaughter to clean up after, etc. So...what did I do the 1st 2 days? Mostly housework. Granted, it was nice to get it done with no interruptions. I was able to go through cupboards, closets, etc. and throw out stuff without anyone getting in my way, telling me we may someday use something or whatever. I did do a little bit of what I wanted to do. <BR> ... Sun, 28 May 2017 12:32:22 EST Need Suggestions ASAP All year, I looked for a Medicaid psychiatrist. I saw her for the first time in April and she called in three one-month prescriptions for me that I absolutely need to take. I couldn't get back in to see her until yesterday. Meanwhile, my prescriptions ran out and I paid out-of-pocket to see my old doctor and get the prescriptions filled. <BR> <BR> When I got in the office, she asked me where I got the prescriptions she wrote filled. I told her. She asked when I last saw my old doctor.... Tue, 23 May 2017 12:01:11 EST Things really are Step by Step. I've been trying hard this year to make small changes in my life. I can look back at the last 4.5 months and see some changes, however small they may be. A little weight is off. I've weeded out things in the house that I don't know why I was hanging onto. I made some money doing that, too - added bonus. Spending is more under control, but I must continue to make improvements there. The things that bother me that I can't change are written down and given to God. I am remembering to be t... Fri, 12 May 2017 16:50:57 EST Soap Opera Update I realized that I feel that I am a character on a soap opera. So many twists and turns in my life lately. People coming in from all sides to throw another monkey wrench in my life. And then I am the nanny that takes children to the park and somehow gets stuck on the merry-go-round. <BR> <BR> the people with the monkey wrenches, I am not a mechanic, nor do I play one on TV. Give the monkey wrenches to those who can properly use them. To the people whose children are with me...we ... Thu, 4 May 2017 22:57:00 EST I can't seem to get it... I have been so busy the past few weeks, with both of my daughters' birthdays, Easter, getting ready for and helping out with an indoor yard sale...I have been going to bed at 8:30-9:00 every night. I know I am over-booked because I lost my handy-dandy notebook that I always keep track of. <BR> <BR> I bought some tickets to see Neil Diamond tonight. I am feeling guilty about going but I know I will have a great time. Sherry still wasn't prepared Tuesday night to make arrangements for Helen... Fri, 21 Apr 2017 12:21:53 EST Same Old...Same Old I found myself overbooked AGAIN this week. I realized it when I was driving and passed my exit more than once this week. NOY GOOD. I like to stay busy, but not this busy. So, it's time to sit and look at how I am scheduling, why I plan things I don't want to do and to set some new goals for myself. Heck, it's April already and I don't think I've come too far in the New Year's Resolutions department. But today is a new day and time to start fresh. Sat, 8 Apr 2017 08:51:01 EST Overdue I am way overdue on updating. My right had went from a full cast to a short cast to a brace that's uncomfortable. I can't type with it on, so, shhh, I took it off for awhile. I start therapy now. Three times a week for a half hour about 40 minutes of driving each way. The left thumb therapy was at the end of the street and an hour twice a week. It is what it is. <BR> <BR> Many fires are going. I am trying to get ready for a indoor yard sale. Most get rid of some of this stuff I wo... Wed, 29 Mar 2017 10:04:17 EST Things Remembered I had some kitchen clean up to do this morning. I just felt like turning on the radio; I get tired of the same old TV after a while. I forgot how dancing around to the radio made work go easier/faster. I forgot how easy it was to burn some more calories while doing mundane house work. <BR> <BR> When I got on the computer, I came across this article:<BR>s_articles.asp?id=1777&utm_source=spar<BR>kpeople&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=<BR>exercise-o... Fri, 24 Mar 2017 11:50:37 EST Helpful to Get us Ready for Spring Fun<BR>ost=declutter_your_home_in_31_days&utm<BR>_source=sparkpeople&utm_medium=email&u<BR>tm_campaign=best-of-sparkpeople&utm_content=F2 <BR> <BR> I read this article this morning and the light bulb flickered a bit. This sounds like a good way to jump-start myself for spring. Do a little each day and I will hopefully have more time to get out and enjoy the sunshine. <BR> <BR> I got thinking, too. As I go through things, I will start a "sell" pile.... Mon, 20 Mar 2017 10:57:09 EST Little Difficulty I had my operation on my right thumb a week ago last Tuesday. It was a little more involved and difficult, as I am right-handed. It didn't take me long to climb the walls. The time change, the weather growing bitter cold and the pain and frustration of not being able to do anything probably all rolled into a ball and zapped me. I slept a lot and didn't have any energy. <BR> <BR> It's a little better today. I actually woke up on my own at my usual time. The bird that I swear is my Dad w... Fri, 17 Mar 2017 09:35:20 EST Marching Along 2017 I struggled the month of February. I always do; it's the longest month of the year for me. I finally figured that I probably have SAD and that contributes to it. No motivation, no energy, no desire to socialize...that was me. <BR> <BR> Now it's already March. That darn time got away from me AGAIN. I'm starting to come out of it and to make plans. But...a few things must be dealt with first. I am scheduled for surgery on my right thumb tomorrow. I had my left one done in September and... Mon, 6 Mar 2017 12:08:56 EST Up and Down I started feeling more "up" and feeling like I was accomplishing something. Then the bottom fell out again. DH cancelled all my health insurance and blamed it on me. I've been scrambling to find doctors who will continue my meds and let me have the 3 surgeries I need. Then my glasses broke. Another big expense I wasn't expecting. The floodgates have opened. I have my life vest on but I am still tossing and turning in the water that I was thrown into. What would I do if I didn't know ... Fri, 24 Feb 2017 22:13:08 EST Sometimes the Light Bulb Needs a Little Tightening I've dieting off and on for so long that sometimes I become complacent. Then I need to go back and review the basics. The lightbulb then gets tightened and I can get a boost of motivation. For the heck of it, I put on a CD to exercise by (The Immaculate Collection by Madonna). I forgot how a great tempo can give me a boost. The lightbulb got tightened. <BR> <BR> This just goes to remind me that I have to continue to remind myself of the basics. Thu, 9 Feb 2017 13:17:10 EST Spark Pledge Please (now is a fine time) add your name and spread this pledge to as many Sparkpeople members you think may be encouraged by it, such as by including it in a blog. <BR> <BR> A WHOLESOME, INSPIRATIONAL, HEALTHY, AND JOYOUS PLEDGE <BR> <BR> We, the undersigned, pledge to strive to live each day, a Wholesome, Inspirational, Healthy, and Joyous life. <BR> <BR> Wholesome because we strive: <BR> -to eat only wholesome foods, and get a proper amount of exercise, <BR> -to live every moment ... Sat, 4 Feb 2017 18:41:32 EST Spark Pledge Please (now is a fine time) add your name and spread this pledge to as many Sparkpeople members you think may be encouraged by it, such as by including it in a blog. <BR> <BR> A WHOLESOME, INSPIRATIONAL, HEALTHY, AND JOYOUS PLEDGE <BR> <BR> We, the undersigned, pledge to strive to live each day, a Wholesome, Inspirational, Healthy, and Joyous life. <BR> <BR> Wholesome because we strive: <BR> -to eat only wholesome foods, and get a proper amount of exercise, <BR> -to live every moment ... Sat, 4 Feb 2017 18:41:29 EST The Meaning of Magic Walt Disney hit it right on the head. Sherry, Helena and I went to the Magic Kingdom last Friday. The attractions were perfectly and amazingly made - one definition of "magic". The meaning of the word hit my heart as I watched Sherry and Helena. They glowed. Helena loves Cinderella, so we made sure she got to see her. The awestruck expression on her face is now a picture in my mind that will last forever. And that, my friends, is the meaning of "magic". <BR> <img src="http://photosaws... Tue, 31 Jan 2017 11:08:38 EST A Surprise "Thank You" When I go om my walks around the neighborhood, I always bring a plastic bag and pick up any litter I see. I've been doing it so long that it's second nature for me. I even got my granddaughter in the habit, and I'm glad she picked it up. <BR> <BR> Sometimes, an adult will comment about it being a good thing that I am doing, but not often. Yesterday, there was a girl on a scooter that stopped and thanked me for doing that - that I was doing a good thing. It's nice to hear a thank you, a... Mon, 16 Jan 2017 20:27:00 EST 7 Benefits of Laughter 1. LOWERS BLOOD PRESSURE: People who lower their blood pressure, even those who start at normal levels, will reduce their risk of stroke and heart attack. So grab the Sunday paper, flip to the funny pages, and enjoy your laughter medicine. <BR> 2. REDUCES STRESS HORMONE LEVELS: By reducing the level of stress hormones, you’re simultaneously cutting the anxiety and stress that impacts your body. Additionally, the reduction of stress hormones may result in higher immune system performance. Ju... Tue, 10 Jan 2017 11:41:24 EST First of the New Year It's already January 9 and I'm just now writing the first blog of the year. We all have been taking turns being sick this past month. Luckily, we were healthy for Christmas. <BR> <BR> I am compiling a list of goals for the year - really. I just haven't found the time to finish them. I will by the end of the week. I have lots of ideas for things I want to do; where to come up with the time and money is a different matter. <BR> <BR> Dearest separated husband decided to cancel the healt... Mon, 9 Jan 2017 12:18:17 EST Getting Older and Somewhat Wiser At the end of the year, like many others, I look back at the past year, evaluate it, and start to look at what I can do better the following year. There's not too many of us that have a slight twist to this. My birthday is one week from today, so I am looking at both the calendar year and the year in my life. I must say that I don't have regrets on what I have done. I do have regrets about things I haven't done. So, I can plan for some of these things to be accomplished in 2017. <BR> ... Mon, 26 Dec 2016 11:11:15 EST I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work. ~Thomas A. Edison I read this quote and thought to myself that I bet I've found more than that. More amazing to me, however, is that I found things this year that do work. My daughter even commented on how I'm doing some things better. <BR> <BR> It's that time of year for all of us to look back and reflect. Then look forward and dream. This time, I will be writing my dreams for the new year down in another brand-new journal. These dreams will be taken one at a time and I will make them happen. Plan it... Tue, 20 Dec 2016 13:58:54 EST Travel Reminder As winter approaches, this reminder from my police department was great. But, then, I think it's great to be prepared all year long. <BR> <BR> 1. When travelling long distances plan your route and share it with family and friends. <BR> <BR> 2. Include planned stops for meals and overnight stays, especially when travelling through rural areas that may experience snow and ice. I add regular stops for gas. The rural areas not always have gas stations. Travel stops such as TravelAmerica a... Thu, 8 Dec 2016 12:55:43 EST Fighting with the Dark Side I found out recently that I am growing more confident and it's easier to speak up for myself. This is after years of being meek and mild - or however Dorothy put it when speaking with the Great and Powerful Oz. I credit my girls and my granddaughter with much of this. I also credit my spark buddies, so kudos to all of you. <BR> <BR> AT & T is laying cable for an internet system throughout the area. I've heard through the Neighborhood Facebook Page that there have been various issues. On... Thu, 1 Dec 2016 11:48:19 EST Scavenger Hunt Okay, I noticed lots of people posting this on my Sparkpage. So here goes: <BR> PATTYKLAVER <BR> Can speak a foreign language. Yes Has been on TV. Yes <BR> Has traveled to at least one other country. Yes <BR> Would bungee jump, if the chance occurred. Yes <BR> Grew up in the country. No <BR> Has traveled by rail. Yes <BR> Has the same hobby as you do. Read, crochet, knit <BR> Likes to read. Yes <BR> Has traveled to at least ten other countries. No ... Mon, 28 Nov 2016 21:00:19 EST Slowly I Move It's been two months since my surgery I my left thumb. I'm getting there. I move my hand better than I did. But I still don't have any oomph and strength to it. And needing the operation on my right thumb, there are many things I just can't put muscle into my cleaning. <BR> <BR> Out of town relatives will be here Wednesday for Thanksgiving. I've been slowly trying to get ready. The house is still far from perfect, but I actually got more done than I thought I would. My c... Mon, 21 Nov 2016 20:54:56 EST Fog Lifting I tend to get a little depressed this time of year. This year, it seemed worse...with Mom gone and not may people to talk to and do things with. I was in the house more than I should have been. <BR> <BR> I'm getting out more, accomplishing more at home, worrying less. I am started to look forward to the holidays. A couple relatives will be coming down for Thanksgiving and this is giving me some motivation. Here's hoping it's onward and upward. Mon, 14 Nov 2016 15:26:32 EST