PATTYKLAVER's SparkPeople Blog PATTYKLAVER's Blog on SparkPeople, home of free diet plans and a healthy living community 1st Day Okay But Not Perfect I did okay yesterday as far as my new schedule. A kink that I found that I have is Mom. She will be 84 in a couple weeks. The past year has been very difficult for her. The wintertime sickness sure has taken it's toll. She's frail and it's hard for her to get around. Short-term memory has certainly taken a nose-dive. Although I have three siblings and there are 8 grandchildren, the everyday things that need to be done seem to always fall on me. <BR> <BR> When I went over to hang my ... Sat, 20 Sep 2014 10:24:25 EST Determination Okay, I'm determined now! It's September 19, 2014. It's time to get back into a schedule similar to one I had about 4 years ago. I want it to be like this: <BR> <BR> Get up early. <BR> Be dressed and have my exercises done by 9 am. <BR> Be out of the house to run errands by 10:30. <BR> Spend time every day cleaning something in the condo. Organize it and clean it well by Christmas. <BR> Have a made-from scratch dinner ready at 6:30 most nights. <BR> Take time after dinner to do somethi... Fri, 19 Sep 2014 09:26:43 EST Determination Okay, I'm determined now! It's September 19, 2014. It's time to get back into a schedule similar to one I had about 4 years ago. I want it to be like this: <BR> <BR> Get up early. <BR> Be dressed and have my exercises done by 9 am. <BR> Be out of the house to run errands by 10:30. <BR> Spend time every day cleaning something in the condo. Organize it and clean it well by Christmas. <BR> Have a made-from scratch dinner ready at 6:30 most nights. <BR> Take time after dinner to do somethi... Fri, 19 Sep 2014 09:26:40 EST Another Bend in the Road I had been babysitting for 2 boys, ages 4 and 2 since March for 3 days a week. The boys could sometimes be handfuls, but were mostly good. The dad could be aggravating: he was supposed to be home from work at a certain time. He never was; the times varied and many times I knew he had stopped at a bar on the way home. It made it difficult on the days that I had commitments afterwards. But the job gave me a little extra money and it really wasn't hard. <BR> <BR> I had told them when I got... Wed, 17 Sep 2014 10:41:01 EST Way Overdue Okay, it's time. It's been time all summer. Time to get the life back into some semblance of order. Get my act together. Change around the eating and exercising. And the house...organize, re-arrange, etc. How long will it take? Can I keep up the motivation? Yes, I can do this! I am giving myself to Halloween to do this. It should be more than enough time, but not so long that I will put things off. Hmmmm.....the possibilities! <BR> <BR> Okay, fellow Sparkies....keep me on my t... Tue, 16 Sep 2014 07:24:30 EST 9/15/2014 Review As I suspected, the numbers from my tracker for the last two weeks were way down. I admit, it was more important to spend the time with Sherry and Helena than to get my steps in. It did surprise me that I somehow managed to get more miles in last week than I did the week before. Sunday-Tuesday of that week were normal days for me. Go figure. <BR> <BR> So I am back. I am slowly tackling the piled mail, the housework that didn't get done, etc. Leaving my girls really zapped me and I am t... Mon, 15 Sep 2014 09:29:26 EST How Do I Do It? <img src=""> <BR> <BR> I was a bit MIA yesterday. I had a 6 hour layover in Philadelphia and no matter where I went in the airport, I couldn't get online. I did get my walking in, however. I sat for awhile and looked at all the pictures and videos we took. It didn't take me too long to figure out that I didn't need to be doing that. It made me want to turn right back around and head back to Halifax. <BR> <BR> Sherry said that Hele... Sun, 14 Sep 2014 08:49:06 EST Some Things Are Too Hard I used to think the hardest thing to do was to say goodby to Sarah and Sherry. Well, at the time, it was. I learned to stay busy the first week we were apart. <BR> <BR> Then came Helena. I was a basket case when she left at 3 weeks to come to Nova Scotia. Now matter how I tried to psych myself up, I couldn't "be strong". Now that I have been with her again, knowing I just have today and tomorrow, I have that "basket case" feeling again in the pit of my stomach. <BR> <BR> People alway... Thu, 11 Sep 2014 13:28:10 EST Mental Vacation This time away from the hustle and bustle and all the responsibilities that I have put on myself has been just what I needed. Thank you, Miss Helena, for making me slow down and remember the little, wonderful blessings that I have in my life. Tue, 9 Sep 2014 12:51:45 EST A Day Walking Along the Water We went to downtown Halifax yesterday and spent the afternoon walking along the water. I really enjoyed going through the little shops and looking at all the different ships. There were a couple street performers that we stopped and watched that were quite entertaining. Of course, there were the various people with their guitars, bagpipes, fiddles, etc. looking for hand-outs. The fiddler impressed me the most and that's not saying much. But I do give them credit for trying. <BR> <BR> ... Mon, 8 Sep 2014 11:47:31 EST 10-Week-Old Girl Vs. 55-Year-Old Grandma In this corner we have 10-week-old Helena Colter. In this corner we have Patty Klaver. The challenge: get out and ready the Baby Einstein Mat. On go, have Helena lay on the mat and Patty lay down next to her. Turn the music on and move to the music. The winner moves the longest. <BR> <BR> I actually turned on the camcorder and video-taped Helena for 15 minutes before I laid it down. It was then that I decided it looked like great exercise and decided to lay down next to her. I tried ... Sun, 7 Sep 2014 10:06:06 EST Thank You Sherry and Daryl My daughter Sherry and her boyfriend Daryl went out last night. It was the first time they've done that in over a year. Sherry was the typical new mom: debating whether or not she should go. <BR> <BR> Helena and I had a grand time. We made some videos and got lots of cuddling time in. Sherry needed to remember that there's life outside the house. I needed the cuddle time. It took awhile for me to convince Sherry of that, though. Why do all (or most) new mothers do this? <BR> <BR> T... Sat, 6 Sep 2014 11:20:47 EST I'm Bad! I haven't seen my daughter and granddaughter since July 16. I haven't been able to get in many steps each day since I got here Wednesday. We had good intentions of taking the baby for a walk every day. But if you know anything about babies, you know how time consuming it can be to do anything. Today, before we knew it, it was 1 pm. I will admit to everyone that this is my influence: <BR> <img src=""> <BR> <BR> We did walk a little ... Fri, 5 Sep 2014 16:54:35 EST Look What Was Waiting for Me <img src=""> <BR> <BR> My plane flights were way too early in the morning! The second flight was cold and bumpy. But at the end of the trip, the above is what I found waiting for me. I am definitely in heaven!! She's so big and we've already had many wonderful conversations. Can't quite tell you everything she said, but it sounded great! I got a couple videos so far and know I will get many more. I still know I won't be on the com... Thu, 4 Sep 2014 11:42:53 EST Not In Plain Sight Today I'm not sure if I will be back on the computer today. So...I may be MIA on the teams. Can't apologize...getting ready to run through the shower and get to the airport. Helena, here Grandma comes! <em>244</em> <BR> Wed, 3 Sep 2014 05:13:27 EST September?? Is it really September? Where did June, July and August go? What happened to my list of things to do in the summer? view of the world right now is a bit skewed. Not feeling well all weekend has done me in. <BR> <BR> It's September! Time to light that fire! I think I need some explosives to get it going. But wait! I have my explosive! I get to see my Helena tomorrow! If she doesn't do it, nothing will! Tue, 2 Sep 2014 10:06:52 EST Review of Week Ending 8/31/14 It was a busy, stressful week last week. Between trying to get ready to leave, making sure Mom was set for when I'd be gone, babysitting, the accident and the locking myself out incident, it's no wonder I don't feel good. My throat is feeling the post-nasal drip this morning. Time will tell if I end up at the doctor's tomorrow. The clinic doctor I saw yesterday wasn't very helpful. <BR> <BR> I always retain water when I don't feel good. This is in addition to the water I'm retaining i... Mon, 1 Sep 2014 06:01:12 EST Okay...I'm Stopped and Hoping Granted, I know that last week was a hectic, off week for me. But I still wasn't expecting to feel so yucky when I went to bed last night and got up this morning. I went to a clinic close by since my doctor is out of town. I was told that it could be a virus or it could be allergies. Whoopie! <BR> <BR> I am supposed to see Helena Wednesday. I DO NOT want to get her sick! I have to get better! So, today is a rest day with extra water to flush things out of my body. PLEASE have me fe... Sun, 31 Aug 2014 12:51:05 EST Next Week Will Be So Much Better! Everyone must take his/her own turn at having "one of those weeks". It was my turn this week. In addition to my usual work days, I had to fit in a few doctor appointments for both Mom and me and a meeting that I had to move from next week to this week. <BR> <BR> In getting ready for next week, there were errands to run, things to pack, luggage to borrow, etc. I had to make sure Mom had everything she needed for the 10 days I will be gone and that the house was cleaned well. <BR> <BR> ... Sat, 30 Aug 2014 10:05:07 EST Finally! After my knee being swollen for about two months and and my back hurting, I finally got into a doctor yesterday. I have to go to another doctor for my back, but I did get a cortisone shot in my knee. It feels a little better. I'm not sure how long it will last. He talked about getting an ultrasound on it. I go back in a couple weeks and will know more then. Fri, 29 Aug 2014 11:59:51 EST Would I Really Want a Do-over? Everybody has those days on occasion where a day doesn't end up at all like they wanted. Yesterday was one of those days. <BR> <BR> I tried to get a handle on my mound of paperwork. I swear it grew as I sat at the table. <BR> <BR> Mom's basement flooded a couple weeks ago. When someone with short-term memory issues has something stressful happen, or that person is tired or off schedule, it's harder to remember things. Because I am the one who's usually there, I'm the one to handle the... Wed, 27 Aug 2014 04:54:33 EST It's About Time! I'm starting to really get excited about going to Nova Scotia to see Sherry and Helena. I guess that before this, it just seemed like too far away. So, my spirits are lifting. My lists are being made. My errands must be started. As it's a day off for me, it's time to put the pedal to the metal and get the lead out. Can't wait to be able to cuddle with someone! To infinity and beyond..... <img src=""> Tue, 26 Aug 2014 09:21:23 EST 8.25.14 Update I had such grand intentions last Monday. I really wanted to get in more activities that the week before and to eat better. I got a 50/50 result. Granted, my knee has been sore and swollen all week. But it's done that before. I worked at getting it down, but it just didn't work. I have an appointment with an orthopedic doctor this week. I really hope I don't have to have it drained again. I know it's an instant work, but it is a little uncomfortable. <BR> <BR> My tracker report: this... Mon, 25 Aug 2014 08:57:07 EST Goal Dangling in Front of Me <img src=""> <BR> <BR> I ended up yesterday a little on the down side. I pulled out my calendar to take a look at what the next few weeks bring. I wanted to think about what I can do to motivate and cheer myself up. I realize that in 10 days I will be traveling to Nova Scotia to see my youngest babies. <em>244</em> <BR> <BR> The notebook came out. I started making another one of my infamous to-do lists. Of course, it's pretty... Sun, 24 Aug 2014 08:54:14 EST "Mommy Mode" My granddaughter will be 2 months old on the 27th. My daughter went yesterday to get her long hair cut. She said she had been wearing it up in a bun. Helena's "death grip" is getting stronger every day. So...she said she wanted to get out of "Mommy Mode". Whoa! I've been in "Mommy Mode" for 34 years now. Guess I need to seriously think about making changes. I think I can still be in "Grandma Mode": this one's fun. <BR> <BR> I also have been coming across quotes and people talking abo... Sat, 23 Aug 2014 09:28:43 EST Wonderful Beginning of Day <img src=""> <BR> <BR> After grabbing my coffee and morning pills, I sat at the computer and looked at my email. This was the first one I looked at. Seeing this beautiful smile started my day off beautifully. In 13 days, I will see her. I haven't seen her since the first week of July. I am so excited! Thu, 21 Aug 2014 11:02:51 EST Great Point! I was reading some blogs this morning and one hit home with me. It was comparing ourselves to a car. It was stated to "keep your paint job pretty, it makes you feel better while you're driving around". (Indygirl) It made so much sense to me. <BR> <BR> In the hustle and bustle of everyday life, I often put me on the bottom of my to-do list. Why? I don't know - habit, guilt, whatever. Why should I, though? I'm important! I should keep myself up for me, for my family, to be able to d... Wed, 20 Aug 2014 08:44:47 EST Tracker Problems Sure - just because I said yesterday that I was going to pay more attention to my tracker report, my tracker went on the fritz. It updated a little after 9 am. Then, at about 6 pm, it would light up, but it was lighting up red. I posted on the technical message board, but never got a response. So, I thought I'd try changing the battery. After I did, the light was green again, but it looked like it lost all my steps for the day. At the end of the night the site registered that I had a li... Tue, 19 Aug 2014 15:21:22 EST Review of Last Week 8.18.14 I was reminded again that I can't do hard, physical work for very long. After spending 5 straight hours on Mom's flooded basement, I couldn't move. My knee is still reminding me. <BR> <BR> I learned that I really should stay out of casinos. I don't have good luck and I can find many other things to spend my money on - like Helena. <BR> <BR> I went over my Spark Tracker Report. <BR> This Week Last Week Difference <BR> steps: 89660 ... Mon, 18 Aug 2014 09:36:04 EST Suggestions Needed <img src=""> <BR> <BR> How do I quit spending so much money on someone like this? Sherry was talking to Helena and she gave mom this expression: Like I really believe you, Mom! Sun, 17 Aug 2014 10:45:40 EST Other Blogs' Lessons I've been reading more blogs lately. You all sure have helped me as I see myself in a bit that I've read. I got reminders this week on setting goals, ranging from cleaning the house to reminding me to do more for me and stepping away from people that I just don't get along with. <BR> <BR> It dawned on me this morning that I've slept pretty good this week. I think it's from being reflective, reading about others, and trying to apply lessons learned to my life. Thanks to all of you who do... Sun, 17 Aug 2014 10:30:53 EST Reflections I'm in a reflective mood lately. Summer is almost over. My Helena is out of town for a few months. My Sarah and my Sherry are in different locations. Mom is struggling and the short-term memory seems to get shorter and shorter with each passing day. Another crossroad seems to be looming in front of me. <BR> <BR> Put the suspenders on and pull up the boots. Not only find something new to do BUT DO IT! <em>521</em> Fri, 15 Aug 2014 06:42:50 EST Laughter With the passing of Robin Williams, I am reminded of the healing powers of laughter. As television showed clips of Robin in various interviews, I was again amazed how he had the ability to talk about anything and make it funny. I had to laugh again at what he said. Oh, how I wish I had that ability. <BR> <BR> I got thinking about the last time that I really, really laughed. It was before Helena was born. A few of us had gone to one of the metroparks around the area. My great-nephew and... Thu, 14 Aug 2014 10:35:59 EST Ouch! Many times I start doing something without thinking about how long it will take or how I will feel afterwards. I did it again yesterday. When I headed to Mom's yesterday to start cleaning the flooded basement, I knew a few things. I wore old clothes. I stopped at the Dollar Tree store and bought a cheap mop, some moisture absorber, etc. BUT, I didn't think to bring my back brace. I didn't take many breaks. I did stop after about 5 hours. <BR> <BR> Thank goodness I did have some help.... Wed, 13 Aug 2014 10:42:47 EST Weather-Related Work It rained like crazy yesterday. I had trouble driving to babysit. I had even more trouble driving home - the roads were flooded in many spots. I got a call from my brother. His basement was flooding. Never having experience with that, he had no clue what to do. Guess he was hoping that I had a better answer than to pick up what he could, wait until it went down, and then start cleaning. <BR> <BR> My brother lives two doors down from Mom. It didn't take a rocket scientist to figure o... Tue, 12 Aug 2014 09:15:23 EST Reports - Starting to Pay More Attention I have a Spark Tracker and love it. I do get a weekly summary report. Up until now, I did skim over them and keep them. I got thinking this morning. Am I getting the most I can get out of this report and the others available to me on SP? I don't think so. Today, I am making a promise to myself to look at these reports carefully once a week. Really look and really compare. Let's see how much they can motivate me, especially now since I feel my motivation needs to be worked on. <BR> <B... Mon, 11 Aug 2014 08:40:19 EST Good Deed Gave me Thoughts on a Purpose People that know me, know that when someone mentions that something needs/should be done, that I tend to be the one to do it. It seems that my family especially knows this. A few days back, I started getting emails about Mom possibly wanting another cat. Some suggested places to go. I just so happened to stumble upon a local shelter that was having an adoption event close to my house. There were two cats on the web site that were a little older, neutered, declawed, and up-to-date on shot... Sun, 10 Aug 2014 18:23:58 EST Casino Time Mom was after me for awhile to go to the casino in Windsor for awhile. So, I told her I'd go with her yesterday. My sister also went with us. The deal is really pretty good. For $8.00, a bus takes us across the border and back. The casino gives us $15.00 Canadian to gamble. We hang around each other or go our own way as we want to. We do meet at a certain time and eat. <BR> <BR> Some movie was shooting in downtown Detroit yesterday. It did take us FOREVER to cross the border. Usual... Sat, 9 Aug 2014 10:22:04 EST Kick Time I know that there are things I want to do. <BR> I know that there are things I have to do. <BR> I know my motivation isn't what it should be lately. <BR> I know I need a kick. <BR> I know I will pay big bucks for someone to do this. <BR> I know I could use the big bucks on other things, so I will take any and all suggestions. <BR> I know, I know...just do it! Thu, 7 Aug 2014 06:29:22 EST Unplanned Doctor Run About five weeks ago, when I woke up one morning, I had a red rash on the left side of my face. It was a little tender and it spread a bit as the day went on. I didn't think too much of it; I remembered bumping it on a shelf and thought that had something to do with it. <BR> <BR> When I went for a check-up the next morning, the doctor looked at it and told me I had a staph infection. No clue how I got it. Antibiotics cleared it up in three days and I had a reason to clean the house wel... Wed, 6 Aug 2014 09:31:57 EST Can I do It? Another night where I was up by 4:30...this is a bit old! But today I figured I'd just go ahead and get up and start the day. I've gotten Mom's bills paid. Some paperwork had been completed. Now...will my energy last all day? Tue, 5 Aug 2014 07:29:08 EST I'm Going Back to Bed! Have you ever started your day wrong? I sure did this morning! I woke up an hour later than I wanted to. My two alarms meant nothing. I got my coffee going and wanted to clean off some blueberries. I went to grab the colander and my nest of bowls came crashing to the kitchen floor, breaking my only Pyrex mixing bowl into a hundred pieces. Of course, I cut myself cleaning that up. I put my retainer and water into a glass to clean it. Instead of putting the cleaning tablet into the glas... Mon, 4 Aug 2014 10:08:48 EST Nice but not Productive Sunday I went to church this morning, visited with Mom and went to my great-nieces's graduation party today. It was a beautiful day and the party was outside. Nice to sit and relax with family and friends. But, I somehow feel a bit guilty. I didn't get the things done this weekend that I really needed to do. Tomorrow is another day, another beginning of a week. Time to get cracking. Sun, 3 Aug 2014 21:06:44 EST Unexpected Change of Plans I got up yesterday with the full intentions of cleaning my house and my mom's house. Then came a call to help someone out. Okay...yes I can do that. When I got to my Mom's, I found out that someone was supposed to pick her up and take her to get her hair cut, to the store, etc. That had fallen through. Okay...yes I can do that. <BR> <BR> My youngest niece (and my Goddaughter) is starting college in September. I'm really proud of her: she struggled at first in school, but ended up be... Sat, 2 Aug 2014 08:58:05 EST Oh, The Plans I have Made! I decided I will visit Sarah sometime in August. I will also be going up to my sister's cottage this month. Sherry will be visited in September. Now to firm up the plans... <BR> <BR> I broke down and bought a member + guest membership at The Henry Ford Museum/Greenfield Village. No to pick the first day to go! It's been about 2 years since I've been there, and I'm overdue. <BR> <BR> Tackle the condo! Now there's a project! I intended on starting early this morning and it's 10 am. Tim... Fri, 1 Aug 2014 10:00:53 EST Okay! Now to Plan! I re-read my blogs from the last couple weeks. My daughter was right. I am a little depressed now that my daughters and granddaughter aren't here. I realized the need to do, to plan, to organize: it's the "need for something to do, something to love, something to look forward to". <BR> <BR> So...while I am babysitting today, I will take my notebooks. I will list the things I want to do and plan for in the next few days. I will do this - definitely. By this time tomorrow, I will have ... Thu, 31 Jul 2014 09:00:12 EST Realization I have been so tired since Sherry and Helena left (two weeks ago tomorrow). I've been feeling like I need to clean, to organize, to find new things to do. I have a feeling of restlessness and general malaise. It's not like me and I know I need to be kick-started. <BR> <BR> This morning, I found out that a dear Spark Friend, Irene (DIDMIS) is back in the hospital. She had fallen about a month ago. The doctors said she broke a vertebrae. They didn't want to operate - citing that they thou... Wed, 30 Jul 2014 08:49:21 EST Today's Mission I want to stop at the library and the recreation department today. I'd like to see if I can conjure up something new, different, and inexpensive to do. I guess I'm a little restless and need to diversify. Tue, 29 Jul 2014 09:17:09 EST Knitting & Crocheting I know the basic stitches of knitting and crocheting. I can make the standards: scarves, blankets. I pick up yarn on sale at stores and when I find it at garage sales. There is a huge overflowing tote on my closet shelf. I have signed up for 3 on-line classes. IT'S TIME TO TAKE THE CLASSES! Use up that yarn! Make some gifts! Make some money to take those trips I want to take. Keep me on my toes. Keep asking if I've done it yet. <BR> <BR> Mon, 28 Jul 2014 10:41:39 EST July 27, 2014 When glancing at the day, it first appears to be just an ordinary Sunday. But look again. A few things have happened in Roseville, MI to prove it otherwise. <BR> <BR> 1. I completed labeling and putting into photo albums 3 boxes of pictures. They've been collecting since last April. I threatened to start this project months ago. I can give myself a big <em>244</em> for finally buckling down and doing it this past week. <BR> <BR> 2. There is a container way up high in the laundry... Sun, 27 Jul 2014 18:20:08 EST