OLDEROWL's SparkPeople Blog http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal.asp?id=OLDEROWL OLDEROWL's Blog on SparkPeople, home of free diet plans and a healthy living community SparkPeople.com http://assets2.sparkpeople.com/assets/nav/logo_spark.gif http://www.sparkpeople.com/ Fixing negative emotions http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6303778 Tony Robins posted a YouTube story about a man who was in such a serious accident that he became a quadriplegic. Even so he had such a marvelous personality, even after the accident, that his girlfriend still decided to marry him. However, emotions of depression, anger, guilt, helplessness etc. became so unmanageable that they sought help from Tony Robinson. Their ability to follow Tony's advice and regain their sense of love, fun, joy and devotion was so inspiring that Tony used the story... Mon, 23 Jan 2017 12:47:16 EST Help me write a book (you will gain much more) http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6294717 First I felt I should share this link because it is practical advice for those who might feel their New Years Goals may have been set too high or too low. <link>www.sparkpeople.com/blog/blog.asp?po<BR>st=a_5step_action_plan_for_achieving_y<BR>our_goals&utm_source=sparkpeople&utm_m<BR>edium=email&utm_campaign=email-generic </link> . <BR> What might be added to this material? Do you have any questions or comments? <BR> <BR> In particular one criteria for goals that I missed (6 criteria for w... Mon, 9 Jan 2017 16:04:24 EST Self Love http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6289552 Self Love is an important pillar to success. That's why I added it as a six Pillar on my team Create Your Perfect Days. With self love, whenever life gets you down, slowly but surely you can get back up and move on a successful, maybe slightly altered, course. The other Pillars are 1. Planning and Preparation - do research and make plans, remove obstacles; 2. Professional Accountability - listen to the pros and blog often; 3. Social Support find those people who support you both online and o... Mon, 2 Jan 2017 13:15:49 EST My most important 2017 Commitment http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6288656 The following are the 13 Topics of 4 Week Focus (T4WF) for 2017 in the CYPD team. I commit to posting each week on the current (T4WF) and encouraging all active team members to also post as part of my/their Year End Reflection and Commitment. <BR> <BR> 13 2017 CYPD 4-Week Topic Focus Template to Create Your Perfect Days. <BR> <BR> Jan 1-28 ……………..1. Self Reflection and Determining Your True Desires <BR> Jan 29-Feb 25 …… ...2. Creating Supporting Lifestyle Routines <BR> Feb 26 –Mar 25 ….... Sun, 1 Jan 2017 12:52:37 EST Low Calorie Foods that are Most Filling http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6281611 I got this from <link>www.everydayhealth.com/digestive-hea<BR>lth-pictures/satisfy-your-appetite-wit<BR>h-these-delicious-choices.aspx </link> and decided to share it as my Christmas Gift to you. Also, I intend to write a topic (also as a Blog) on getting into the spirit of Christmas. Best regards and have a merry Christmas. - John <BR> Even for the healthiest of eaters, good intentions can fly out the window when your stomach begins to rumble. If you’re trying to lose weight or maintain... Fri, 16 Dec 2016 07:59:18 EST Complete Principles (Not Mere Goals) for Living http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6280981 As the New Year approaches it is common for the media to talk of making New Years Resolutions. More important, however is to do a self-reflection, develop a complete set of guiding principles that serve you in every decision you make and every action that you take. <BR> <BR> To help me and others, I made this the focus of my Spark Team "Create Your Perfect Day" <link>www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/groups_i<BR>ndividual.asp?gid=64349 </link> <BR> <BR> To have a 'perfect' day you must have ... Wed, 14 Dec 2016 18:43:09 EST Purpose of our group http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6277906 Our group is about giving life more structure to free yourself from confusion and chaos, to set boundaries and rules for living to make healthy decisions easier, and to get an early start to your day of progress. Our group used to focus on raising one's (or their children's self esteem then on improving personal relationships; but on November14, the focus of our group was changed to creating 'perfect' days by following Craig Ballantyne's book "The Perfect Day Formula" using the five pillars... Thu, 8 Dec 2016 05:31:50 EST I need help!! http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6276260 I need help spreading an important message! <BR> Perfect Days do not come without delayed gratification. Too many seek the quick route to gratification and miss the big prize. We need an incentive to forego immediate gratification and it must be some objective that you can become passionate about. Something that will enable you to forego early pleasure in order to obtain the greater good. You must have a greater purpose and visualize your self obtaining and fulfilling that purpose. Only then ... Sun, 4 Dec 2016 15:48:14 EST Update on "Create Your Perfect Days" Spark Team http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6275218 Last November 14th, I decided to change the focus of my group from building healthy relationships to "Create your 'Perfect' Days" (don't mean as perfect as perfect can be, but a day in which you can be satisfied and happy that you are in the process of fulfilling a vision of living a life of strength and character allowing for occasional imperfections. I got Craig Ballantyne's book and program titled "The Perfect Day Formula -- How to Own the Day and Control Your Life, about giving your lif... Fri, 2 Dec 2016 08:19:05 EST On creating your 'perfect' days http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6266668 I got Craig Ballantyne's book and program titled "The Perfect Day Formula -- How to Own the Day and Control Your Life. It's about giving your life more structure to free yourself from confusion and chaos, to set boundaries and rules for living to make healthy decisions easier, and to get an early start to your day. Since I do not see myself as an expert, especially on relationships and do not see relationships as important a matter as living a "perfect" life, I am changing the focus of my... Mon, 14 Nov 2016 10:03:34 EST From Failures you can gain Happiness http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6255583 Happiness does not come from comparing your failures or successes with the successes of others, but from looking within yourself. See if the thought you need to compare yourself with others can be changed to <BR> “I can be happy with my self no matter what others do or say since I am an able and capable individual and still have much to give back to society. I do things because I feel they are the right thing to do, not because that is what society expects of me, or because I need to mak... Sat, 22 Oct 2016 21:22:53 EST I will not give up my dream http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6243284 My motivation to eat healthy is my dream. My dream is to run a 10K without breaking out of running stride. I decided to keep track of my progress here and discuss overcoming my doubts and fears. <BR> Sept 28, 2016: I am 70. I last ran a 5K on the treadmill in 48 minutes, lowest pace (besides warmup) was 3.6 mph. I have never done a 10K. I never run before I was age 66 except through high school. I was always among the last to finish in the class. I hope to keep up to a running pace (co... Wed, 28 Sep 2016 18:20:57 EST Finding time and Starting an exercise Routine http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6227083 I read this somewhere and put it in my Journal 1/22/16: "Is it even possible to be too busy to exercise? Richard Branson, founder of Virgin Group, has started more than 400 companies. He has also published multiple books, is an active philanthropist, and has many personal hobbies. When asked how he does it all, he always lists exercise as his number-one productivity secret. Research suggests that he may be right. Studies show that exercise increases creativity, helps you sleep better, and giv... Tue, 30 Aug 2016 11:10:00 EST The green tea cup exercise http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6184815 Try this exercise out. Andy Shaw in his book "Using a Bug Free Mind" describes the result of imprinting your mind with the general image of a green, tea or coffee cup two times daily. Continue your life as you ordinary would during the rest of your day. If you do this faithfully, then you will within a certain time period, say seven days (14 days if your more of an pessimist), notice a green, tea or coffee cup, or see an image of one. I tried this exercise and on the 4th day I saw one at ... Fri, 17 Jun 2016 19:25:29 EST Don't dispair, you have the power http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6184270 I haven't walked your journey, but I am sure you are a worthy and powerful person. God, or the universe, or however you define it made you human and as a member of the human race you have incredible power. <BR> <BR> If you lack confidence, it's not your fault that your mind is not trained to use your power. Your self esteem and ability to change is largely dependent on all the encouragement and support you obtained prior to finishing grade school. Also, school only teaches you what to thi... Thu, 16 Jun 2016 21:43:50 EST Slay your dragons http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6130350 Some things that you need to do are not things you enjoy doing. These tend to be put off and put off until your life suffers too much and you just have to do it no matter what. Successful people don't get to that point. They figure what haves to be done then do that which they dislike most first. It called the slaying the dragon mentality. Once they slay the dragon, the thing they hate is no longer a burden on them and the can better focus on those things they like better. Without the burd... Tue, 29 Mar 2016 18:52:06 EST reasons why people make weight loss a big struggle http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6122481 White-1602 just posted a translation of an article giving reasons why many people make maintaining a healthy weight a bigger struggle than it should be. I include a link here because many of them hit home. See <link>www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_jo<BR>urnal_individual.asp?blog_id=6122332 </link> Fri, 18 Mar 2016 20:59:28 EST I'm no longer Democrat, but Trump scares me. http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6118241 On March 11, someone said to me you have a big day coming up in May, what are you going to do about it. He was talking about my seventieth birthday in 2016. I thought about it and decided to make a big change. I will switch from Democrat to Independent and say what is truly on my mind as to what is important for America. But not like Trump as I have empathy and respect for others, and self modesty. <BR> I was reading a book by Chuck Norris of Walker - Texas Ranger called "Black Belt Patr... Sun, 13 Mar 2016 15:09:57 EST Faith http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6104520 Faith is the key to success. The key to success is to be grateful and happy no matter what life brings you. If you are unhappy because of what happen in the past or because you’re afraid what may happen in the future, be happy because you are alive and the human body is designed to recover. Know that you can function as required to recover from almost anything life can bring you, even drug addiction or bankruptcy, particularly if you have faith for the future. This point is worth repeati... Thu, 25 Feb 2016 10:29:00 EST Lean Habit 2, Mastering the hunger pain (satiety clue) http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6079049 Doug Lisle created a video called “Losing weight without losing your sanity” <link>www.youtube.com/watch?v=xAdqLB6bTuQ </link> . eating is controlled by the part of the brain called the hypothalamus which responds to stretch receptors and nutrient receptors in the digestive system. Law of satiety: Animals eating in their natural habitat will eat no more or no less than that needed for optimum health because of the law of natural selection and survival of the fit. The problem is that ou... Mon, 25 Jan 2016 19:15:51 EST Unstoppable Motivation http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6071651 Listen to the podcast at <link>podcasts.personallifemedia.com/podca<BR>sts/216-inside-out-weight-loss/episode<BR>s/2789-unstoppable-weightloss/play </link> . Continue with the tapping from the prologue, See <link>www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_mes<BR>sageboard_thread.asp?board=4806x20380x<BR>63417223 </link> and also tap on any issues that might come up when doing the tapping or when thinking of motivation such as the following: <BR> <BR> Do I judge myself poorly or do I believe in mys... Sun, 17 Jan 2016 09:44:02 EST Managing Thought and a Challenge for You http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6062490 I always did poorly in sports of any kind and could never keep my breath after running for one minute, and I doubted my manhood as I grew up. I never seriously thought of exercising or consider myself capable of excelling in any physical activity until after retiring. However, my health insurance provider said I needed to lose 32 pounds which is why I considered running in the first place when my daughter announced plans for her and her daughters to run a 5 K. At 67 I ran and walked 2 miles ... Wed, 6 Jan 2016 20:33:16 EST Letting go of mental pain http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6057739 Holding onto mental pain of a traumatic event is insane. The pain served you when it was caused but no longer serves you and the ones that cause the pain seldom feel your pain or care. To heal you need to tap on accepting that pain is a problem to detach from, forgiving the ones that caused your pain, letting go of needing others to feel sorry for you, even forgiving yourself for not letting go. As you tap, be detached from your pain, i.e. be neutral - don't fight it, just observe it and k... Sat, 2 Jan 2016 08:41:15 EST On being happy with your "failures" http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6057137 Happiness does not come from comparing your successes with the successes of others, but from looking within yourself. Failure is merely an illusion as every situation is an opportunity to start over with new information. See if the thought you need to compare yourself with others, or regret a failure, can be changed to “I can be happy with my self no matter what my circumstance is, or what others do or say, since I am an able and capable individual and have much to give back to society. ... Fri, 1 Jan 2016 15:46:22 EST Acceptance: A key to emotional freedom http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6050794 Acceptance is a key to emotional freedom. We learn that from EA concept 4: “We do not judge; we do not criticize; we do not argue…” and EA concept 5: “EA is not …for continually reviewing our miseries, but a way to learn to detach ourselves from them … [and] our serenity comes from being able to live at peace with unsolved problems.” We also learn to accept what is one day at time: “Just for today” [2] “I will try to be happy, realizing my happiness does not depend on what others do or sa... Mon, 21 Dec 2015 16:26:52 EST 5 questions to ask at a family dinner http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6046801 See <link>mindvalleyacademy.com/featured/5-que<BR>stions-dinner-table </link> Sun, 13 Dec 2015 10:29:27 EST Health is a mind-body quantum prenominal http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6036369 In my work on my Spark Team "You Can Heal Your Life", I found Deepak Chopra's new book "Quantum Healing", revised and expanded November 2015, very enlightening. The book speaks of many cases of medically unexplained cases of cancer reversal including a case where the cancer metastasized to a man's bones and liver. He had given up chemotherapy and moved to India to live out the rest of his life. Given 6 months to live, he immersed himself in meditation, yoga and Ayurveda, and is now cancer... Sun, 22 Nov 2015 21:52:47 EST Coping with a life changing difficulty http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6018807 Having a life changing difficulty is stressful for anyone, and it is normal to feel disheartened, anxious, even fearful. However, it is not normal to feel so upset, or upset for so long, that you can't regain a sense of control over your happiness and well being. Less than 30 percent of individuals facing a life changing difficulty are affected by major depression, anxiety or other mental disorders as a result of their difficulty. After seeking comfort from love ones and trusted friends, a... Wed, 21 Oct 2015 13:47:11 EST Ending a viscous negative Circumstance-Thought-Feeling-Action-Result Cycle http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6010072 I was reading a book by Brooke Castillo titled "Self Coaching 101 - Used Your Mind - Don't Let It Use You". The basis of his book is: 1 We cannot control the world; 2 Nothing outside of us has the power to make us sad or bad unless we concede our power; 3 Stress is not due to our circumstances, stress is due to our thoughts about our circumstances, that control our feelings, which control our actions, that lead to results which create our experience; 4 We attract what we think about; 5 E... Mon, 5 Oct 2015 22:51:01 EST September 16: Beating Cancer http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5998890 Kim has been cancer free for 3 years, but she still has checkups and tests to make sure. Goals for today are to go with Kim to the Image Center per her oncologist, and then have lunch, share with her my love and joy, be positive about our preparations for moving, and return home to continue to weed out the things we don’t want to move to our new home. I worry about installing an electronic fence to keep our dog from wandering off (will it work at his age) as we are not allowed to install p... Thu, 17 Sep 2015 00:51:45 EST Reprograming our subconscious mind, part 1 http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5996377 Have you ever had the general feeling that your struck in life, or unable to make certain changes even though you have been motivated to change? I have and I have been reading several books and articles on the process of overcoming bad habits, such as my procrastination, and self defeating fears of not being good enough. <BR> I have concluded that my problem is that my subconscious mind has limiting thoughts, which prevent me from being successful. I am apparently not having this problem al... Sun, 13 Sep 2015 01:15:32 EST overcome your fears http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5995679 1. In order to overcome your fears, you have to accept and look at your fears. <BR> 2. To understand your fears, look at the worst case possible as a starting point. <BR> 3. Be prepared for the worst, e.g., have a life insurance policy to cover your loved ones, consider the resources available for dealing with future needs, and do just enough to be confident that you or your love ones can manage life (even if it is tougher) if the worst case scenario occurs, but tell yourself that you or the... Fri, 11 Sep 2015 21:19:45 EST The good life summed up http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5991911 In a discussion of Andy Shaw's books I wrote the following re his chapter on living with less pain: <BR> <BR> "Thanks Neikka and Leonard. First of all Leonard's response reminds us that we should beware of judging for most of the time we judge we are on autopilot, as he says, and when we don't distinguish illusion from reality, we end up not liking what we "see". So judging tends to cause pain. In chapter 11, Andy says we should always be joyful for when there is joy there is rarely pain. I... Sun, 6 Sep 2015 08:33:58 EST Living with less pain http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5990851 In chapter 11 of CABFM Andy asks the question, "Do you think you are adding to your pain". My answer is no. For instance, I grew up in a family of 11 with one bathroom and developed the habit of not brushing my teeth. I also had a genitic case of having too little space in my jaw for my teeth. This genitic trait and bad habit led to my having major dental surgery frequently and each time any major dental work was done the dentist would give a prescription for pain medication in case I neede... Fri, 4 Sep 2015 09:56:44 EST Using a more powerful computer (the brain) http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5985896 odays computers have become more powerful but the human brain is more powerful. But then like computers, the human brain does not preform well unless we remove any bugs and install good software. <BR> Some of the bugs your mind might have, that should be removed are: <BR> 1. believing that you are not good enough <BR> 2. worrying about what others might think of you <BR> 3. trying to control or change others <BR> 4. thinking of problems, rather than solutions <BR> 5. not being happy with wha... Thu, 27 Aug 2015 18:02:35 EST Advice for young People http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5978843 Leo Babauta of Zen Habits wrote a wonderful piece of advice for people in their 20's. I am 69 and I think the advice is good for people in their 30's also. You have a lot of time ahead of you to get your life right. See <link>zenhabits.net/scary-20s/ </link> . <BR> Again, I will make a plug for my new team called "You Can Heal Your Life" I am retired and I didn't start to heal my life until I was 67. I am now at my goal weight and feel positive about my life. I want others to feel good... Sun, 16 Aug 2015 09:57:49 EST How to avoid negatively reacting to stress http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5976099 From my advice to a Spark member dealing with daily care of five children and the animals: <BR> The best way to remove stress is to accept the past or whatever life brings you and to have no fear of the future. Have faith in your power to meet everyday challenges. I know life is tough with 5 kids to take care of, I come from a large family myself. <BR> I like the advice of the first two comments to take the kids out for a walk. Depending on your circumstances that may work for you also. I rem... Tue, 11 Aug 2015 16:44:03 EST Why I love Spark http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5975939 When I started at 67 years old I was 190 lbs and thought my health was good. But my health insurance provider Blue Cross/ Blue Shield Fed Program challenged me to reduce my weight. That's when I found out about Sparkpeople. I don't remember exactly how except I think it was through a TV news program. I am thankful for for Spark and the community of friends that encouraged me to stick with Spark. I grew up as a skinny weakling. I remember one time in high school when some jocks at another ... Tue, 11 Aug 2015 11:35:37 EST Forming 3 simple self discipline habits http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5974929 I don't think anyone should try to be disciplined every moment, but at the end of the day we should be able to say that we had a constructive day. Even at the end of vacation days, one should have pride in the memories of joyful moments one formed during the day even if it is merely a good feeling of being refreshed and ready for the next day. Many of us rush through the day from one task to the other without any thought of what lasting memories they are constructing for themselves. What a f... Sun, 9 Aug 2015 21:54:59 EST You can heal your life http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5969885 This is the title and philosophy of a new spark team that I just formed. This team <link>www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/groups_i<BR>ndividual.asp?gid=65503 </link> is based on my viewpoint that the unhappiness in our lives is caused not by the events in our lives, but by negative thoughts brought on by these events, many of which occur very early in our lives. My feeling is that we often are defeated by bad thoughts that have been wired in our subconscious mind. I am seeking to clear my mind o... Fri, 31 Jul 2015 18:26:26 EST Dealing with stress http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5962899 The one choice to remember when you are stressed is to be happy no matter what your circumstances. Practice being grateful. Even in the midst of the most difficult circumstances, spend at least 15 seconds of every hour to be grateful for those things that have brought you happiness in the past and remember those moments of your happiness. Also be grateful for even for the current moment for you are alive and have what it takes to withstand the difficulty. Know and expect that things will... Sat, 18 Jul 2015 20:27:34 EST Creating a life filled with supportive friends http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5959097 The most healthy relationships are those where respect and support is freely given and received. If you continually fid yourself in a pattern of relationships where you feel let down and not supported, perhaps you could look at the one common denominator of that pattern over which you have control, yourself. Ask "Where am I not respecting and supporting myself? - Why am I not open to receiving respect and support? - Do I present a positive, self-assured and happy attitude?" <BR> <BR> I... Sat, 11 Jul 2015 13:53:36 EST If you have no vision of success http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5951935 If you have no clear vision of where you are headed, you will end up back where you started and will have to start over again. If you can not find others who share your vision, you either did not look deep enough to find others like you who had enough sense to guide your way, you failed to learn from the experiences of others like you, or you have been inspired by a higher power to lead the way for others like you. Either way you should search for others like you and build a relationship wi... Sat, 27 Jun 2015 20:14:48 EST Cyberbullying http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5950425 I learned, from the teaching tolerance magazine, a couple of resources for parents and friends to help their child or someone they know to avoid being a victim of or to deal with cyberbullying, promote positive self esteem, and in general encourage young people to use the internet safely and for doing good. The first site is for parents <link>uk.news.yahoo.com/safer-internet-day<BR>-how-to-keep-your-children-safe-from-c<BR>yber-bullies-163015319.html#nlKHufL </link> and the second site is ... Wed, 24 Jun 2015 18:10:06 EST More on http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5944556 In another forum AJDOVER challenged my conclusion that Let Go, Let God was a most important Al-Anon slogan. She said the importance of each slogan depended upon the circumstances. She also said that to her this slogan was a call for one to pause and examine his or her motives, or agenda, before acting. That is just the type of response I want from you all. A statement of how you view these slogans. I wanted, to know how others view the meaning of these slogans. <BR> I give several meani... Sat, 13 Jun 2015 16:47:24 EST Let go and Let God http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5943659 This is one of the most important slogans of the Al-Anon program, or for mitigating any stressful relationship, but it is important to not abuse it by turning it into a mandate for displaying utter apathy toward the others need for compassion and understanding. Instead the slogan is meant to help us release the stress of trying to solve problems by admitting that we have no control over the other individual and instead focusing on self improvement and the wisdom of a higher power for guiding... Thu, 11 Jun 2015 20:18:37 EST Think (Al-Anon Slogan) http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5940572 Think before speaking since thoughts spoken when the mind is not quiet and calm can lead to self harm just as a bee kills itself when it stings you. To give impulsive criticism, display impatience or hostility, or speak words of anger all tend to sting you back. A thoughtful word will make the situation less stressful and give you more peace. <BR> <BR> Join My Team: Building/Improving Healthy Relationships <link>www.SparkPeople.com/myspark/groups_i<BR>ndividual.asp?gid=64349 </link> Sat, 6 Jun 2015 07:32:50 EST Building/Improving Healthy Relationships team invite http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5937009 You are welcome to visit our team <link>www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/groups_i<BR>ndividual.asp?gid=64349 </link> and if you like its goals, join to share concerns and info with those who have a common interest. We strive to use the proven knowledge of God's teachings, 12 steps programs, Jonathan Lockwood Huie, Zen Habits, and other motivation and knowledge shared by team members to improve our relationships with others. I myself plan to contribute to the group on almost a daily basis. Alt... Sat, 30 May 2015 22:57:50 EST unwind from stress in a healthy way http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5930424 Don't stress yourself out by trying to change others. Learn that two people seldom respond to the same situation in the same manner, and the right approach is never confined to your own way. Don't fret over things that you can't change, learn to live with them. Life always includes some things that are not to your liking but can't be changed or avoided. The beauty of life is in the fact that every day brings a change so life is never boring. Most of the time life can be enjoyed and given t... Mon, 18 May 2015 21:45:36 EST I am focused on learning to cook http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5896849 I am sorry I haven't post here much lately but I have been trying to spend less time on the internet and was looking to find a nitch in line with my passion for science and mathematics. After giving that some thought and spending too much time on the computer in that field, I decided that for my wife's benefit I will retire from that and find a nitch in line with my wife's passion for cooking and travel, and in particular with gluten free cooking and travel in a warmer climate during winter. ... Sat, 21 Mar 2015 06:59:07 EST