OLDEROWL's SparkPeople Blog http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal.asp?id=OLDEROWL OLDEROWL's Blog on SparkPeople, home of free diet plans and a healthy living community SparkPeople.com http://assets2.sparkpeople.com/assets/nav/logo_spark.gif http://www.sparkpeople.com/ On self-confidence and respect for others http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6378265 Yesterday’s blog on embracing failure while on a path to success left out a discussion of obtaining self -confidence which is the main subject of today’s blog. My parents took pains to teach me self-confidence. Even so, for many reasons, I became an introvert and lacked the self-confidence necessary for me to achieve my full potential. <BR> The lack of self-confidence is a problem in people that is far too common today, as well as in biblical times. However, those of great faith were inspi... Thu, 22 Jun 2017 09:22:03 EST Embrace Failure and Succeed http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6377874 You might be second-guessing this advice right now, that’s because many of you have been led to consider that failure is something to cringe at, to avoid and to be ashamed of. However Truman Capote said “Failure is the condiment that gives success its flavor.” Nothing is more satisfying then turning failure into success. There are two reasons why we should embrace failure. <BR> 1) Failure is one of the best teachers. <BR> Through failure, you have a better understanding what areas need... Wed, 21 Jun 2017 11:22:09 EST Days 26-27 How to respond to sabotaging thoughts http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6364672 On day 25 we were asked to identify sabotaging thoughts that tempt us to stray from healthy eating. It has been over a week since I discussed day 25. I had some sabotaging thoughts, first that my efforts to share Dr. Becks 42 lessons on Cognitive Weight loss were not being well received and that I have been spending too much time sharing her lessons; second that people gave up on me because I defaulted due to missing two consecutive weigh-ins and will be assigned to a different team for the ... Sun, 21 May 2017 10:01:53 EST Day 20 Getting Back on Track http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6357779 Adapted from Judith Beck's book 'The Beck Diet Solution' <BR> <BR> Yesterday, we learned about thoughts that tend to justify giving into cravings and how to deal with them. Today we are going to learn how to respond to an even more damaging thought that encourages you to abandon your diet after you gave in to a craving. Some people may think thoughts like this, “I can’t believe I ate that . . . I have no self-control . . . I really blown it . . . I might as well enjoy myself for the remai... Thu, 4 May 2017 22:00:58 EST Day 19 Stop fooling yourself http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6357748 Adapted from Judith Beck's Book The Beck Diet Solution <BR> Healthy eating is a choice, but many overweight people might make very rational and reasonable choices when it comes to financial decisions but find it easy to excuse eating something that is not on their diet plan by fooling themselves that it’s OK to eat it. They might say to themselves that: “I will eat it just this time”; “It’s not that fattening”; “Not eating it will insult my host”; “It’s OK because I’m celebrating”; “It wil... Thu, 4 May 2017 20:39:16 EST Day 13 Countdown to Overcome Cravings http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6351865 A trick of mine to overcome cravings is to think of a countdown to a successful rocket launch to weight loss. Count 5-4-3-2-1 Blast Off as follows: <BR> <BR> 5. This is just a craving <BR> 4. It will pass <BR> 3. I have strengthened my will to resist it <BR> 2. I can relax because I’m now in control <BR> 1. This craving has no power over me <BR> Blast off to weight loss success <BR> <BR> Practice this countdown often so that just saying 5-4-3-2-1 Blast Off (silently) will invoke the subl... Sat, 22 Apr 2017 08:20:21 EST Give Yourself Credit Even at "Failure" http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6347552 Adopted from Day 4 of The Beck Diet Solution book: Many people struggle unnecessarily at dieting because they rarely give themselves credit for doing that which they figure they should have done, but are quick to judge themselves unworthy for simply being a human that is capable of making errors. But successful dieters know better! Learn the difference from the following two examples. <BR> Example 1 <BR> Poor Pete is at a large family gathering in a restaurant where they put bread fresh ... Wed, 12 Apr 2017 13:46:04 EST Using the wisdom of a gardener for getting better Health http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6341034 If you are one that said you would eat better and exercise more as part of your New Year’s resolutions but can’t seem to follow through with your promises. Well read this blog. <BR> WHY WE TEND TO FAIL: Getting the habits of eating better and exercising more are harder to maintain because our old habits have become so ingrained. For that reason people have learned to dislike exercise and diets because so many attempts have met with failure. They consciously (or subconsciously) believe th... Wed, 29 Mar 2017 23:22:28 EST Simplify your life, less is better http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6334309 OlderOwl, yours truly, says "Simplify your life, focus first on what is important and necessary, in that order." I say this because too many times, we delude ourselves into believing that something is necessary when it is even not really important to a wholesome, inspirational, healthy and joyous life. We make life too complicated when we try to please everyone. We make life too complicated when we try to have everything that we could possibly use, We have to spend more time and money on up... Fri, 17 Mar 2017 10:52:20 EST Believe it and commit to it http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6334245 All humans, no matter their handicaps, have the potential to do Good Works if they have faith and are committed. This includes obtaining a healthy weight. I say healthy for it is most important to live a wholesome, inspirational, healthy and joyous life, not to please the world, but to honor our god(s). For it is by grace you have been saved; through faith - and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God - not by Works, so no one can Boast. For we are God's workmanship, created To D... Fri, 17 Mar 2017 09:15:28 EST Reached Goal after 46 Months at Spark http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6332302 Yesterday (3/12/17) after less than 4 years in Spark People (starting weight 190 lbs), I achieve my goal weight, 158 lbs, for the first time with the help of a private 5% challenge “weight loss” team and my wife’s cooking. I aim to maintain that weight (between 155 and 162 lbs). I reviewed my goals and set the following affirmations. The 5% weight loss challenge team is more about the habits of regular exercise, healthy eating and weighing your self weekly (you choose or are assigned to o... Mon, 13 Mar 2017 10:23:21 EST COMMITMENT (by its letters) http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6327045 Commitment to me means <BR> <BR> C-choosing to follow a plan to lose weight permanently because of x,y and z. <BR> O-one that is easy to follow and not too restrictive but represents a healthy lifestyle <BR> M-making changes surely but gradually <BR> M-modifying the plan as I learn for myself, via Spark, which healthy foods/exercise suit me. <BR> I - instead of giving up, learning from my errors and devising new ways to avoid them <BR> T - taking a positive can do attitude, always rememb... Fri, 3 Mar 2017 08:02:10 EST Surprised that I lost 1 1/2 lbs the third week http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6311918 As a member of the Winter 5% weight loss Challenge team the first two weeks were rather ordinary for me except I more than tripled the amount of exercise I usually do, averaging 391 minutes a week. However, I only lost 1.4 pounds the first two weeks. On the third week, I found myself concentrating on a personal problem and by Tuesday had done only 110 minutes of exercise and did not do any exercise all after Tuesday, so it is unclear why I lost the weight loss of the first two weeks in half ... Mon, 6 Feb 2017 18:47:20 EST A Wholesome, Inspirational, Healthy & Joyous Life Pledge http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6310718 Please (now is a fine time) add your name and spread this pledge to as many Sparkpeople members you think may be encouraged by it, such as by including it in a blog. <BR> <BR> A WHOLESOME, INSPIRATIONAL, HEALTHY, AND JOYOUS PLEDGE <BR> <BR> We, the undersigned, pledge to strive to live each day, a Wholesome, Inspirational, Healthy, and Joyous life. <BR> <BR> Wholesome because we strive: <BR> -to eat only wholesome foods, and get a proper amount of exercise, <BR> -to live every moment g... Sat, 4 Feb 2017 13:12:27 EST A Wholesome, Inspirational, Healthy and Joyous Pledge http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6306814 Important <em>303</em> Prior to February 6, the contents of this message may be shared with others only by giving a link to this blog <link>www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_jo<BR>urnal_individual.asp?blog_id=6306814 </link> or this link <link>www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_mes<BR>sageboard_thread.asp?board=0x64349x655<BR>88670x1xfirst </link> On February 5th at 11pm (after the Super Bowl) you may post the pledge anywhere if it is posted in its entirety (I will remove unneccessary co... Sat, 28 Jan 2017 16:07:12 EST Fixing negative emotions http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6303778 Tony Robins posted a YouTube story about a man who was in such a serious accident that he became a quadriplegic. Even so he had such a marvelous personality, even after the accident, that his girlfriend still decided to marry him. However, emotions of depression, anger, guilt, helplessness etc. became so unmanageable that they sought help from Tony Robinson. Their ability to follow Tony's advice and regain their sense of love, fun, joy and devotion was so inspiring that Tony used the story... Mon, 23 Jan 2017 12:47:16 EST Help me write a book (you will gain much more) http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6294717 First I felt I should share this link because it is practical advice for those who might feel their New Years Goals may have been set too high or too low. <link>www.sparkpeople.com/blog/blog.asp?po<BR>st=a_5step_action_plan_for_achieving_y<BR>our_goals&utm_source=sparkpeople&utm_m<BR>edium=email&utm_campaign=email-generic </link> . <BR> What might be added to this material? Do you have any questions or comments? <BR> <BR> In particular one criteria for goals that I missed (6 criteria for w... Mon, 9 Jan 2017 16:04:24 EST Self Love http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6289552 Self Love is an important pillar to success. That's why I added it as a six Pillar on my team Create Your Perfect Days. With self love, whenever life gets you down, slowly but surely you can get back up and move on a successful, maybe slightly altered, course. The other Pillars are 1. Planning and Preparation - do research and make plans, remove obstacles; 2. Professional Accountability - listen to the pros and blog often; 3. Social Support find those people who support you both online and o... Mon, 2 Jan 2017 13:15:49 EST My most important 2017 Commitment http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6288656 The following are the 13 Topics of 4 Week Focus (T4WF) for 2017 in the CYPD team. I commit to posting each week on the current (T4WF) and encouraging all active team members to also post as part of my/their Year End Reflection and Commitment. <BR> <BR> 13 2017 CYPD 4-Week Topic Focus Template to Create Your Perfect Days. <BR> <BR> Jan 1-28 ……………..1. Self Reflection and Determining Your True Desires <BR> Jan 29-Feb 25 …… ...2. Creating Supporting Lifestyle Routines <BR> Feb 26 –Mar 25 ….... Sun, 1 Jan 2017 12:52:37 EST Low Calorie Foods that are Most Filling http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6281611 I got this from <link>www.everydayhealth.com/digestive-hea<BR>lth-pictures/satisfy-your-appetite-wit<BR>h-these-delicious-choices.aspx </link> and decided to share it as my Christmas Gift to you. Also, I intend to write a topic (also as a Blog) on getting into the spirit of Christmas. Best regards and have a merry Christmas. - John <BR> Even for the healthiest of eaters, good intentions can fly out the window when your stomach begins to rumble. If you’re trying to lose weight or maintain... Fri, 16 Dec 2016 07:59:18 EST Complete Principles (Not Mere Goals) for Living http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6280981 As the New Year approaches it is common for the media to talk of making New Years Resolutions. More important, however is to do a self-reflection, develop a complete set of guiding principles that serve you in every decision you make and every action that you take. <BR> <BR> To help me and others, I made this the focus of my Spark Team "Create Your Perfect Day" <link>www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/groups_i<BR>ndividual.asp?gid=64349 </link> <BR> <BR> To have a 'perfect' day you must have ... Wed, 14 Dec 2016 18:43:09 EST Purpose of our group http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6277906 Our group is about giving life more structure to free yourself from confusion and chaos, to set boundaries and rules for living to make healthy decisions easier, and to get an early start to your day of progress. Our group used to focus on raising one's (or their children's self esteem then on improving personal relationships; but on November14, the focus of our group was changed to creating 'perfect' days by following Craig Ballantyne's book "The Perfect Day Formula" using the five pillars... Thu, 8 Dec 2016 05:31:50 EST I need help!! http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6276260 I need help spreading an important message! <BR> Perfect Days do not come without delayed gratification. Too many seek the quick route to gratification and miss the big prize. We need an incentive to forego immediate gratification and it must be some objective that you can become passionate about. Something that will enable you to forego early pleasure in order to obtain the greater good. You must have a greater purpose and visualize your self obtaining and fulfilling that purpose. Only then ... Sun, 4 Dec 2016 15:48:14 EST Update on "Create Your Perfect Days" Spark Team http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6275218 Last November 14th, I decided to change the focus of my group from building healthy relationships to "Create your 'Perfect' Days" (don't mean as perfect as perfect can be, but a day in which you can be satisfied and happy that you are in the process of fulfilling a vision of living a life of strength and character allowing for occasional imperfections. I got Craig Ballantyne's book and program titled "The Perfect Day Formula -- How to Own the Day and Control Your Life, about giving your lif... Fri, 2 Dec 2016 08:19:05 EST On creating your 'perfect' days http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6266668 I got Craig Ballantyne's book and program titled "The Perfect Day Formula -- How to Own the Day and Control Your Life. It's about giving your life more structure to free yourself from confusion and chaos, to set boundaries and rules for living to make healthy decisions easier, and to get an early start to your day. Since I do not see myself as an expert, especially on relationships and do not see relationships as important a matter as living a "perfect" life, I am changing the focus of my... Mon, 14 Nov 2016 10:03:34 EST From Failures you can gain Happiness http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6255583 Happiness does not come from comparing your failures or successes with the successes of others, but from looking within yourself. See if the thought you need to compare yourself with others can be changed to <BR> “I can be happy with my self no matter what others do or say since I am an able and capable individual and still have much to give back to society. I do things because I feel they are the right thing to do, not because that is what society expects of me, or because I need to mak... Sat, 22 Oct 2016 21:22:53 EST I will not give up my dream http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6243284 My motivation to eat healthy is my dream. My dream is to run a 10K without breaking out of running stride. I decided to keep track of my progress here and discuss overcoming my doubts and fears. <BR> Sept 28, 2016: I am 70. I last ran a 5K on the treadmill in 48 minutes, lowest pace (besides warmup) was 3.6 mph. I have never done a 10K. I never run before I was age 66 except through high school. I was always among the last to finish in the class. I hope to keep up to a running pace (co... Wed, 28 Sep 2016 18:20:57 EST Finding time and Starting an exercise Routine http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6227083 I read this somewhere and put it in my Journal 1/22/16: "Is it even possible to be too busy to exercise? Richard Branson, founder of Virgin Group, has started more than 400 companies. He has also published multiple books, is an active philanthropist, and has many personal hobbies. When asked how he does it all, he always lists exercise as his number-one productivity secret. Research suggests that he may be right. Studies show that exercise increases creativity, helps you sleep better, and giv... Tue, 30 Aug 2016 11:10:00 EST The green tea cup exercise http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6184815 Try this exercise out. Andy Shaw in his book "Using a Bug Free Mind" describes the result of imprinting your mind with the general image of a green, tea or coffee cup two times daily. Continue your life as you ordinary would during the rest of your day. If you do this faithfully, then you will within a certain time period, say seven days (14 days if your more of an pessimist), notice a green, tea or coffee cup, or see an image of one. I tried this exercise and on the 4th day I saw one at ... Fri, 17 Jun 2016 19:25:29 EST Don't dispair, you have the power http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6184270 I haven't walked your journey, but I am sure you are a worthy and powerful person. God, or the universe, or however you define it made you human and as a member of the human race you have incredible power. <BR> <BR> If you lack confidence, it's not your fault that your mind is not trained to use your power. Your self esteem and ability to change is largely dependent on all the encouragement and support you obtained prior to finishing grade school. Also, school only teaches you what to thi... Thu, 16 Jun 2016 21:43:50 EST Slay your dragons http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6130350 Some things that you need to do are not things you enjoy doing. These tend to be put off and put off until your life suffers too much and you just have to do it no matter what. Successful people don't get to that point. They figure what haves to be done then do that which they dislike most first. It called the slaying the dragon mentality. Once they slay the dragon, the thing they hate is no longer a burden on them and the can better focus on those things they like better. Without the burd... Tue, 29 Mar 2016 18:52:06 EST reasons why people make weight loss a big struggle http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6122481 White-1602 just posted a translation of an article giving reasons why many people make maintaining a healthy weight a bigger struggle than it should be. I include a link here because many of them hit home. See <link>www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_jo<BR>urnal_individual.asp?blog_id=6122332 </link> Fri, 18 Mar 2016 20:59:28 EST I'm no longer Democrat, but Trump scares me. http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6118241 On March 11, someone said to me you have a big day coming up in May, what are you going to do about it. He was talking about my seventieth birthday in 2016. I thought about it and decided to make a big change. I will switch from Democrat to Independent and say what is truly on my mind as to what is important for America. But not like Trump as I have empathy and respect for others, and self modesty. <BR> I was reading a book by Chuck Norris of Walker - Texas Ranger called "Black Belt Patr... Sun, 13 Mar 2016 15:09:57 EST Faith http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6104520 Faith is the key to success. The key to success is to be grateful and happy no matter what life brings you. If you are unhappy because of what happen in the past or because you’re afraid what may happen in the future, be happy because you are alive and the human body is designed to recover. Know that you can function as required to recover from almost anything life can bring you, even drug addiction or bankruptcy, particularly if you have faith for the future. This point is worth repeati... Thu, 25 Feb 2016 10:29:00 EST Lean Habit 2, Mastering the hunger pain (satiety clue) http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6079049 Doug Lisle created a video called “Losing weight without losing your sanity” <link>www.youtube.com/watch?v=xAdqLB6bTuQ </link> . eating is controlled by the part of the brain called the hypothalamus which responds to stretch receptors and nutrient receptors in the digestive system. Law of satiety: Animals eating in their natural habitat will eat no more or no less than that needed for optimum health because of the law of natural selection and survival of the fit. The problem is that ou... Mon, 25 Jan 2016 19:15:51 EST Unstoppable Motivation http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6071651 Listen to the podcast at <link>podcasts.personallifemedia.com/podca<BR>sts/216-inside-out-weight-loss/episode<BR>s/2789-unstoppable-weightloss/play </link> . Continue with the tapping from the prologue, See <link>www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_mes<BR>sageboard_thread.asp?board=4806x20380x<BR>63417223 </link> and also tap on any issues that might come up when doing the tapping or when thinking of motivation such as the following: <BR> <BR> Do I judge myself poorly or do I believe in mys... Sun, 17 Jan 2016 09:44:02 EST Managing Thought and a Challenge for You http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6062490 I always did poorly in sports of any kind and could never keep my breath after running for one minute, and I doubted my manhood as I grew up. I never seriously thought of exercising or consider myself capable of excelling in any physical activity until after retiring. However, my health insurance provider said I needed to lose 32 pounds which is why I considered running in the first place when my daughter announced plans for her and her daughters to run a 5 K. At 67 I ran and walked 2 miles ... Wed, 6 Jan 2016 20:33:16 EST Letting go of mental pain http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6057739 Holding onto mental pain of a traumatic event is insane. The pain served you when it was caused but no longer serves you and the ones that cause the pain seldom feel your pain or care. To heal you need to tap on accepting that pain is a problem to detach from, forgiving the ones that caused your pain, letting go of needing others to feel sorry for you, even forgiving yourself for not letting go. As you tap, be detached from your pain, i.e. be neutral - don't fight it, just observe it and k... Sat, 2 Jan 2016 08:41:15 EST On being happy with your "failures" http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6057137 Happiness does not come from comparing your successes with the successes of others, but from looking within yourself. Failure is merely an illusion as every situation is an opportunity to start over with new information. See if the thought you need to compare yourself with others, or regret a failure, can be changed to “I can be happy with my self no matter what my circumstance is, or what others do or say, since I am an able and capable individual and have much to give back to society. ... Fri, 1 Jan 2016 15:46:22 EST Acceptance: A key to emotional freedom http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6050794 Acceptance is a key to emotional freedom. We learn that from EA concept 4: “We do not judge; we do not criticize; we do not argue…” and EA concept 5: “EA is not …for continually reviewing our miseries, but a way to learn to detach ourselves from them … [and] our serenity comes from being able to live at peace with unsolved problems.” We also learn to accept what is one day at time: “Just for today” [2] “I will try to be happy, realizing my happiness does not depend on what others do or sa... Mon, 21 Dec 2015 16:26:52 EST 5 questions to ask at a family dinner http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6046801 See <link>mindvalleyacademy.com/featured/5-que<BR>stions-dinner-table </link> Sun, 13 Dec 2015 10:29:27 EST Health is a mind-body quantum prenominal http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6036369 In my work on my Spark Team "You Can Heal Your Life", I found Deepak Chopra's new book "Quantum Healing", revised and expanded November 2015, very enlightening. The book speaks of many cases of medically unexplained cases of cancer reversal including a case where the cancer metastasized to a man's bones and liver. He had given up chemotherapy and moved to India to live out the rest of his life. Given 6 months to live, he immersed himself in meditation, yoga and Ayurveda, and is now cancer... Sun, 22 Nov 2015 21:52:47 EST Coping with a life changing difficulty http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6018807 Having a life changing difficulty is stressful for anyone, and it is normal to feel disheartened, anxious, even fearful. However, it is not normal to feel so upset, or upset for so long, that you can't regain a sense of control over your happiness and well being. Less than 30 percent of individuals facing a life changing difficulty are affected by major depression, anxiety or other mental disorders as a result of their difficulty. After seeking comfort from love ones and trusted friends, a... Wed, 21 Oct 2015 13:47:11 EST Ending a viscous negative Circumstance-Thought-Feeling-Action-Result Cycle http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6010072 I was reading a book by Brooke Castillo titled "Self Coaching 101 - Used Your Mind - Don't Let It Use You". The basis of his book is: 1 We cannot control the world; 2 Nothing outside of us has the power to make us sad or bad unless we concede our power; 3 Stress is not due to our circumstances, stress is due to our thoughts about our circumstances, that control our feelings, which control our actions, that lead to results which create our experience; 4 We attract what we think about; 5 E... Mon, 5 Oct 2015 22:51:01 EST September 16: Beating Cancer http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5998890 Kim has been cancer free for 3 years, but she still has checkups and tests to make sure. Goals for today are to go with Kim to the Image Center per her oncologist, and then have lunch, share with her my love and joy, be positive about our preparations for moving, and return home to continue to weed out the things we don’t want to move to our new home. I worry about installing an electronic fence to keep our dog from wandering off (will it work at his age) as we are not allowed to install p... Thu, 17 Sep 2015 00:51:45 EST Reprograming our subconscious mind, part 1 http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5996377 Have you ever had the general feeling that your struck in life, or unable to make certain changes even though you have been motivated to change? I have and I have been reading several books and articles on the process of overcoming bad habits, such as my procrastination, and self defeating fears of not being good enough. <BR> I have concluded that my problem is that my subconscious mind has limiting thoughts, which prevent me from being successful. I am apparently not having this problem al... Sun, 13 Sep 2015 01:15:32 EST overcome your fears http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5995679 1. In order to overcome your fears, you have to accept and look at your fears. <BR> 2. To understand your fears, look at the worst case possible as a starting point. <BR> 3. Be prepared for the worst, e.g., have a life insurance policy to cover your loved ones, consider the resources available for dealing with future needs, and do just enough to be confident that you or your love ones can manage life (even if it is tougher) if the worst case scenario occurs, but tell yourself that you or the... Fri, 11 Sep 2015 21:19:45 EST The good life summed up http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5991911 In a discussion of Andy Shaw's books I wrote the following re his chapter on living with less pain: <BR> <BR> "Thanks Neikka and Leonard. First of all Leonard's response reminds us that we should beware of judging for most of the time we judge we are on autopilot, as he says, and when we don't distinguish illusion from reality, we end up not liking what we "see". So judging tends to cause pain. In chapter 11, Andy says we should always be joyful for when there is joy there is rarely pain. I... Sun, 6 Sep 2015 08:33:58 EST Living with less pain http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5990851 In chapter 11 of CABFM Andy asks the question, "Do you think you are adding to your pain". My answer is no. For instance, I grew up in a family of 11 with one bathroom and developed the habit of not brushing my teeth. I also had a genitic case of having too little space in my jaw for my teeth. This genitic trait and bad habit led to my having major dental surgery frequently and each time any major dental work was done the dentist would give a prescription for pain medication in case I neede... Fri, 4 Sep 2015 09:56:44 EST Using a more powerful computer (the brain) http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5985896 odays computers have become more powerful but the human brain is more powerful. But then like computers, the human brain does not preform well unless we remove any bugs and install good software. <BR> Some of the bugs your mind might have, that should be removed are: <BR> 1. believing that you are not good enough <BR> 2. worrying about what others might think of you <BR> 3. trying to control or change others <BR> 4. thinking of problems, rather than solutions <BR> 5. not being happy with wha... Thu, 27 Aug 2015 18:02:35 EST