OLDEROWL's SparkPeople Blog http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal.asp?id=OLDEROWL OLDEROWL's Blog on SparkPeople, home of free diet plans and a healthy living community SparkPeople.com http://assets2.sparkpeople.com/assets/nav/logo_spark.gif http://www.sparkpeople.com/ You can heal your life http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5969885 This is the title and philosophy of a new spark team that I just formed. This team is based on my viewpoint that the unhappiness in our lives is caused not by the events in our lives, but by negative thoughts brought on by these events, many of which occur very early in our lives. My feeling is that we often are defeated by bad thoughts that have been wired in our subconscious mind. I am seeking to clear my mind of unhealthy thoughts, such as "I am not good enough", which tend to prevent me ... Fri, 31 Jul 2015 18:26:26 EST Dealing with stress http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5962899 The one choice to remember when you are stressed is to be happy no matter what your circumstances. Practice being grateful. Even in the midst of the most difficult circumstances, spend at least 15 seconds of every hour to be grateful for those things that have brought you happiness in the past and remember those moments of your happiness. Also be grateful for even for the current moment for you are alive and have what it takes to withstand the difficulty. Know and expect that things will... Sat, 18 Jul 2015 20:27:34 EST Creating a life filled with supportive friends http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5959097 The most healthy relationships are those where respect and support is freely given and received. If you continually fid yourself in a pattern of relationships where you feel let down and not supported, perhaps you could look at the one common denominator of that pattern over which you have control, yourself. Ask "Where am I not respecting and supporting myself? - Why am I not open to receiving respect and support? - Do I present a positive, self-assured and happy attitude?" <BR> <BR> I... Sat, 11 Jul 2015 13:53:36 EST If you have no vision of success http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5951935 If you have no clear vision of where you are headed, you will end up back where you started and will have to start over again. If you can not find others who share your vision, you either did not look deep enough to find others like you who had enough sense to guide your way, you failed to learn from the experiences of others like you, or you have been inspired by a higher power to lead the way for others like you. Either way you should search for others like you and build a relationship wi... Sat, 27 Jun 2015 20:14:48 EST Cyberbullying http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5950425 I learned, from the teaching tolerance magazine, a couple of resources for parents and friends to help their child or someone they know to avoid being a victim of or to deal with cyberbullying, promote positive self esteem, and in general encourage young people to use the internet safely and for doing good. The first site is for parents <link>uk.news.yahoo.com/safer-internet-day<BR>-how-to-keep-your-children-safe-from-c<BR>yber-bullies-163015319.html#nlKHufL </link> and the second site is ... Wed, 24 Jun 2015 18:10:06 EST More on http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5944556 In another forum AJDOVER challenged my conclusion that Let Go, Let God was a most important Al-Anon slogan. She said the importance of each slogan depended upon the circumstances. She also said that to her this slogan was a call for one to pause and examine his or her motives, or agenda, before acting. That is just the type of response I want from you all. A statement of how you view these slogans. I wanted, to know how others view the meaning of these slogans. <BR> I give several meani... Sat, 13 Jun 2015 16:47:24 EST Let go and Let God http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5943659 This is one of the most important slogans of the Al-Anon program, or for mitigating any stressful relationship, but it is important to not abuse it by turning it into a mandate for displaying utter apathy toward the others need for compassion and understanding. Instead the slogan is meant to help us release the stress of trying to solve problems by admitting that we have no control over the other individual and instead focusing on self improvement and the wisdom of a higher power for guiding... Thu, 11 Jun 2015 20:18:37 EST Think (Al-Anon Slogan) http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5940572 Think before speaking since thoughts spoken when the mind is not quiet and calm can lead to self harm just as a bee kills itself when it stings you. To give impulsive criticism, display impatience or hostility, or speak words of anger all tend to sting you back. A thoughtful word will make the situation less stressful and give you more peace. <BR> <BR> Join My Team: Building/Improving Healthy Relationships <link>www.SparkPeople.com/myspark/groups_i<BR>ndividual.asp?gid=64349 </link> Sat, 6 Jun 2015 07:32:50 EST Building/Improving Healthy Relationships team invite http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5937009 You are welcome to visit our team <link>www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/groups_i<BR>ndividual.asp?gid=64349 </link> and if you like its goals, join to share concerns and info with those who have a common interest. We strive to use the proven knowledge of God's teachings, 12 steps programs, Jonathan Lockwood Huie, Zen Habits, and other motivation and knowledge shared by team members to improve our relationships with others. I myself plan to contribute to the group on almost a daily basis. Alt... Sat, 30 May 2015 22:57:50 EST unwind from stress in a healthy way http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5930424 Don't stress yourself out by trying to change others. Learn that two people seldom respond to the same situation in the same manner, and the right approach is never confined to your own way. Don't fret over things that you can't change, learn to live with them. Life always includes some things that are not to your liking but can't be changed or avoided. The beauty of life is in the fact that every day brings a change so life is never boring. Most of the time life can be enjoyed and given t... Mon, 18 May 2015 21:45:36 EST I am focused on learning to cook http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5896849 I am sorry I haven't post here much lately but I have been trying to spend less time on the internet and was looking to find a nitch in line with my passion for science and mathematics. After giving that some thought and spending too much time on the computer in that field, I decided that for my wife's benefit I will retire from that and find a nitch in line with my wife's passion for cooking and travel, and in particular with gluten free cooking and travel in a warmer climate during winter. ... Sat, 21 Mar 2015 06:59:07 EST Part 3 to a sucessful marriage (Giving) http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5892870 It's time for part 3 of your report, <BR> "7 Secrets for Fixing Your Marriage." <BR> <BR> I hope you're putting to good work secrets 1 and 2. <BR> <BR> And now let's keep going. <BR> <BR> SECRET 3: GIVE <BR> <BR> You have some changes you'd like to see in your spouse and your marriage, right? And if I were a betting man, I'd guess your spouse has some ideas too! <BR> <BR> So what are you waiting for? Are you waiting for your spouse to make the first move? Are you waiting for your spouse ... Sat, 14 Mar 2015 14:27:38 EST I failed to fulfill my promise http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5886704 I.m taking a week of not using the internet since I failed to limit my hours the past month as much as I had promised my wife. I will do my blogs on word perfect then post them on the evening of March18. Until then I am asking team members to visit and encourage each other to visit the team and post something that honors their personal relationships with others. We will even go to a place with no wifi so there will be no change of plans. Wed, 4 Mar 2015 07:23:51 EST Secret 2 to a sucessful marriage/relationship http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5885859 <BR> "SECRET 2: TALK & TOUCH <BR> <BR> Did you ever hear the Paul Simon song, "50 Ways to Leave Your Lover"? It's a humorous song about a not-so-funny subject (the break-up of Simon's marriage). I don't want you to hop on a bus or drop off your keys, but the song does make a good point about how to succeed in marriage. <BR> <BR> See, the song's ultimate point is that once you make up your mind to do something, action is sure to follow. Whether you decide to leave or love, it's the decision... Mon, 2 Mar 2015 21:49:39 EST Secret 1 to sucessful a marriage/relationship http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5885853 To have a successful relationship with an individual don't focus on your differences or past history, don't focus on what you want, but focus on doing what will lead to a winning situation for both you and your spouse/partner. More to follow when I have time. Mon, 2 Mar 2015 21:37:11 EST Overwhelmed by Challenges for the next 2-13 weeks, etc? http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5883428 Live the rest of your life with less stress and more joy. I mean don't stress yourself by trying to do too much, but by focusing each moment on what is important for that moment. Also, don't stress yourself by trying to make changes in the others around you but be yourself the change you like to see, and let others follow your example. People will resist your efforts to change them unless they see you as an authority figure or want to follow your example. Focus on what is important bu... Thu, 26 Feb 2015 23:06:44 EST Challenge to develop a positive life you love http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5879290 This challenge starts tomorrow February 21 on my building self esteem team. A wonderful site for motivational articles and quotes to do this is Jonathan Lockwood Huie's page <link>www.sail7.com </link> . I happily recommend you go there. The articles are numerous and listed under the categories of --Happiness;Positive Attitude; Living with Joy,Purpose, and Conscious Choice; Self Esteem - Self Confidence; Motivation - Motivational Articles; Relationship Articles - Love, Marriage, Dating, Di... Fri, 20 Feb 2015 09:59:25 EST Challenge to improve your self confidence ending 2/21/28 http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5864469 I posted this challenge in the Message Boards SparkPeople Challenges. I also posted it under the Forum "Self-Esteem, Self-Action Challenges" of my team "Building Self-Esteem, Self-Action Group. See <link>www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/messageb<BR>oard.asp?imboard=8&imparent=35413255&s<BR>trViewThisPage=2 </link> or <link>www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/team_mes<BR>sageboard_thread.asp?board=29552x64349<BR>x60477564 </link> <BR> <BR> The challenge comprises the following steps. <BR> <BR> Step... Wed, 28 Jan 2015 11:43:06 EST Burying the hatchet http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5861732 To many people say they forgive you for some error you made yet tend to avoid your company or whenever they see you make some comment about the error even when you don't do anything to remind them of your error. I try to ignore it and pretend that its not about me although I know that it is. Beats me what is troubling them so, I try to put across a positive loving attitude and admit again that I was wrong. I thought we had made amends, yet they don't seem to respond. Anyway, I have a lot... Sat, 24 Jan 2015 17:49:07 EST Challenging a troubled part of my personality http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5857394 I can use my will to make choices that will empower me. I can take the advice of my friend who tells me that I do not have to react in anger because I am angry, withdraw emotionally because I am jealous, or delay working on my most important task because I am upset at the outcome of the Greenbay Packers - Seattle Seahawks championship game. I can make choices that I am willing to take responsibility for. <BR> <BR> Strengthening my will power involves recalling a previous time when I had a ... Sun, 18 Jan 2015 20:27:56 EST My thoughts on self-esteem, Part 2 http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5851478 A friend mentioned that I should not post as if I am lecturing as I am only a lay person and do not have professional credentials. Sorry for coming across so strongly , but I have a passion for giving advice since helping others cope with life issues helps my own self-esteem. Also I had self-esteem issues because I had speech problems and often was made fun of when I was young because I couldn't be understood. Therefore I was very introverted when young. Even after schooling, I did not fu... Sun, 11 Jan 2015 00:25:18 EST New Self Esteem Building Spark Team http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5847190 Most of the unhappiness of the world can be attributed to egos damaged by low self esteem and by the actions of others having low self esteem. I have tried forming several Spark teams none of which have yet taken off despite my good intents, but this is one team which deals with a subject which I am passionate about and which I feel has the greatest chance of improving the lives of others if it is successful. <BR> I got an inspiration to buy Dr. Joe Rubino's Book 31 Ways to Champion Children... Mon, 5 Jan 2015 23:51:57 EST Steps to a greater understanding http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5840911 The steps to a greater understanding <BR> 1) Know that you are framing your reality by perceiving things through a lens fogged by past experiences or mass media. <BR> 2) Allow that it is just one way of perceiving among many, that others have different lenses formed by different life experiences. <BR> 3) Let go of any stressful self doubt, and ill feelings for the present moment and be at peace, relaxed, open minded, and fully aware, as if you are detached from your body. <BR> 4) Full your b... Mon, 29 Dec 2014 23:13:32 EST Life is a journey, enjoy it. http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5835194 Too many of us make our happiness conditioned upon achieving a desired goal or dream. This is partly due to seeing all those ads that present various products as something we must have to be successful. It is good to have a goal or dream for it helps us plan for the future, but fears of failure often paralyze us and prevent us from taking steps that need to be taken. Also, focusing too much on what we don't have creates in our mind a feeling of lacking, wanting and being inadequate. Thus ... Fri, 19 Dec 2014 00:24:43 EST The blind men and the elephant http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5833780 I enjoyed John Godfrey Saxe's ( 1816-1887) version of the famous Indian legend: <BR> <BR> It was six men of Indostan, <BR> To learning much inclined, <BR> Who went to see the Elephant <BR> (Though all of them were blind), <BR> That each by observation <BR> Might satisfy his mind. <BR> The First approach'd the Elephant, <BR> And happening to fall <BR> Against his broad and sturdy side, <BR> At once began to bawl: <BR> "God bless me! but the Elephant <BR> Is very like a wall!" <BR> The Second,... Tue, 16 Dec 2014 08:51:00 EST Free podcasts that I find helpful http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5825217 Thought for this week. Renee Stephens provides an archive of podcasts that can be listened to free at <link>www.insideoutweightloss.com/podcasts </link> . There is a link to podcasts on self care that are relevant to many life events as well as to weight loss. Listening to them will allow you to pilot your mind and body much as a pilot steers an airplane by making necessary adjustments as life brings you challenging headwinds or cross-winds, a truly holistic approach. Also, there is a fre... Sun, 30 Nov 2014 13:59:04 EST Live in the present and reach your goals http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5809856 This is meant to be merely an introduction to my The Holistic, Naturopathic Alternative Group which is meant to enable us to gain the knowledge and motivation to treat food, exercise and thought like medicines so we allow our bodies digestion and immune systems and stress response to prevent and remove causes of inflammation and have improved mental function. This allows us to live a healthy life in the moment and achieve our lifetime goals. This is a holistic naturopathic approach and sol... Mon, 3 Nov 2014 09:28:08 EST How to find your passion and follow it http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5809433 I am a bit disappointed with my self because I haven't actually started an anti-inflammation diet although I read enough material on the subject, tried a couple of meals and started a team devoted to it. You see I don't do the cooking in my house, and I'm having difficulty even discussing the topic of a more "healthy" diet. I am also known for spending too much time on the computer and books. <BR> I just listened to a couple of you tube videos about finding your passion, i.e., your subco... Sun, 2 Nov 2014 15:35:11 EST free 21 day law of attraction meditation series starts 11/3 http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5809117 Oprah Winfrey and her meditation expert, Deepak Chopra, every so often give us free 21 Day meditation sessions to enjoy. Sorry for the late notice but I just notice that this session focuses on using the power of positivity to attract improvements, even more wealth, into your life. To register go to <link>chopracentermeditation.com/home/?aco<BR>de=oprah&utm_source=OWNersInLineCTA&ut<BR>m_medium=20141030&utm_campaign=1 </link> . <BR> The power of positivity is part of the focus of my new g... Sun, 2 Nov 2014 07:06:18 EST Stopping repeated negative thoughts http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5807425 The Power Of Positivity <BR> If your struggling to fight off negative thoughts that keep occurring then remember the <BR> five S’s: <BR> 1. Sense the negative thought creeping in. Watch your emotions come and go. If some emotion of feeling anxious, hurt, ashamed, angry or depressed lingers, then you are in danger of allowing your mood to cause even more negativity in your life. <BR> – <BR> 2. Stop this negative thought as soon as you sense it lingering. Refuse to let it linger any linger.... Thu, 30 Oct 2014 08:59:13 EST Turn negative thoughts into positive action http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5807176 Experiencing setbacks and having stressful situations is a fact of life. In order to avoid feelings of being over whelmed by stress and to make positive gains, we first need to learn to look for the positive side of everything. The following is an exercise I got from the lawofattraction.com. <BR> <BR> Step 1) Quickly jot down in a few words a problem that you currently face and your worry or fears about it. Don't look for the negatives, just simply write down why you view it as a problem. (e... Wed, 29 Oct 2014 20:47:54 EST You can be organized now http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5804152 You can be organized in no time. Decide now what is important in your life and what can be let go of to make room for what is important. As my tickler states: "Being organized is not about living according to other's expectations, rather it is about setting up a system that allows you to do more of what you are passionate about." Start now and set up a regular time to determine what are the 3 most important things to focus your tasks on, and make room by reducing the unnecessary. Allocate re... Fri, 24 Oct 2014 19:37:49 EST Fighting the urge to break a healthy habit http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5802002 The main reason we break a habit (especially if its a new habit) is that it can be easy to switch to a different task (or contrary old habit) and then not be able to return to doing the habit. This is because of lack of focusing on the positive aspects of following the habit such as having a wonderful, wholesome life rather than the habit’s negative aspects (the amount of effort required, doubt about whether the habit can succeed or its worth, a feeling of being overwhelmed with too many ot... Tue, 21 Oct 2014 09:15:04 EST Key to developing your talents http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5799143 I'm keeping on course by following a caloric 30% protein, 30% carbs, and 40% healthy fats diet and by exercising at the YMCA. I take care of my health and mind. <BR> Every day is a day to succeed at making right choices, and thus making improvements. <BR> I enjoy my victories, no matter how small. The key to doing things right is study, planning, practice, but always with moderation and balance. Thu, 16 Oct 2014 08:39:46 EST Zone Diet, An Anti-inflammation Diet http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5796551 I am going to use the Zone Diet meal planning web site I just subscribed to plan just my dinners for the first week. I am starting small until I get the hang of it. The web site allows for planning three regular meals as well as several snack meals all to meet your both the Zone specific Carbs, Protein and Fat ratios and your calorie needs for as many days ahead as you pick and prepares a shopping list. You either plan the meals your self or have the site make a plan. If you don't like the si... Sat, 11 Oct 2014 22:30:46 EST The truth about a heathy obesity http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5774059 For those who are obese, there is a interesting article on Dr Sears site about unhealthy vs healthy obesity. "One of great paradoxes of our obesity epidemic is that many obese individuals appear to be quite healthy. This makes the true believers in the Holy Grail of BMI as the standard for good health quite livid. They know in their hearts that obesity is a mortal sin. Early this year" (in 2013) " the Centers for Disease Control (CDC) published another in a long series of articles demonstrati... Fri, 5 Sep 2014 14:57:39 EST Failure? Never http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5765332 I have been following Leo Babauta's blogs and one of his latest blogs at <link>zenhabits.net/believe/ </link> helps us to believe in ourselves regardless of whether or not we meet our goals. The main point of his blogs is that we are human, and life events can't always be controlled; therefore, we all have setbacks but the important thing is consistency, not perfection -- that we intend to live a healthy lifestyle daily. <BR> I have been at Spark since May of 2013 and have had many setb... Sat, 23 Aug 2014 07:30:13 EST What we can learn from the Ferguson, Mo events. http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5761408 The vary tragic events in Ferguson, Missouri seem to have people on both sides jumping to contrary conclusions. Maybe a deeper understanding and appreciation of life would help. Everyone tends to judge things from his or her own perspective and too many do not attempt to understand the full merits of the other's viewpoint. We should look for ways to agree and not for ways to disagree. We should not rush to a quick judgement. <BR> I agree with Rand Paul who said "Anyone who thinks that rac... Sun, 17 Aug 2014 12:09:44 EST How I sifted thru conflicting diet infro. http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5759128 I was kind of sold on a carb cycling/exercise plan by Shaun Hadshall and have lost enough weight on it to feel that it is working for me. Also, I found a book in my wife's collection of books describing the Pritikin weight loss plan which confirms Shaun Hadshall's recommendation to eat whole food carbohydrates and to avoid processed carbohydrates, such as ice cream, bread, muffins etc. However, yesterday my wife and I went to the library book sale, one of the books my wife pick out recommen... Wed, 13 Aug 2014 18:35:42 EST How to find and live your dreams http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5754880 Hi I just want to let you know you have talents that enable you to do great things, but you have to work at it. Life isn't easy; the trick is to get passionate about your interests and allot the time. Leo Babauta of Zen Habits is my hero in this regard. I have been following his blogs since January. He says to be great you have to find ways to help improve the lives of others: this can be a part of your job or your other interests. Leo blogs about living simple and giving to others. His blo... Thu, 7 Aug 2014 07:28:30 EST Exercise how's and when's http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5748096 GENERAL <BR> Exercise is as basic a need as eating. I believe in a fitness lifestyle in which you achieve a balance between your eating habits and how and when you exercise. What and when you eat determines the best type and timing of exercise inorder to obtain the ideal weight loss effect. This is important if you are following a carb cycling and exercise lifestyle as I am. The balance between exercising and eating isn't as simple as exercising to burn more calories if you eat more calories.... Mon, 28 Jul 2014 09:45:27 EST Aging gracefully http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5747653 I agree that aging can be hard, but the saying "GROWING UP SEEMS TO BE GIVING UP THE JOYS OF BEING YOUNG AT HEART/ FEELING ALIVE " doesn't have to be true. At 68 years old, I have seen enough people suffer, to understand why some day this might ring true even for me. However, the chance of it coming true for me is essentially nil, for I have the example of my mom who suffered with heart problems, RA, memory problems and a broken heart, yet still looked forward to enjoying another day. Eve... Sun, 27 Jul 2014 17:22:43 EST Sleep earlier, lose weight http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5737746 Researchers have found that a good night's sleep helps people lose weight. See <link>52wlm.com/mission-31/ </link> . I also found that by skipping late night TV and Internet and going to bed earlier, that I get a better nights sleep and wake up fresh. <BR> If your trying to change the time you sleep, like going to sleep earlier so you can get your 8 hours of sleep and get up early enough to enjoy a fresh start in the morning, then I recommend you do it in small steps over a month or even t... Sun, 13 Jul 2014 08:35:10 EST Newer Ideal Weight Guidelines http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5728551 I been away from Spark for a while as I had other interests - math, writing, a declutter challenge, Zen Habits, vacation etc. Even so, I have been still getting in a fairly regular exercise routine, although I missed several days, especially during our beach trip. However, I did an online health and fitness review with my health insurance provider -- they pay you $20 to take their review. Although I was under my goal weight of 174 lbs, they came back with a recommendation that I lose more ... Sun, 29 Jun 2014 19:28:27 EST New trigger for my strength training http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5712553 I missed a strength training day yesterday and it got me to rethink the time slot I plan to do strength training since I have trouble sticking to a strength training routine. I decided that I just need to commit to doing strength training first thing in the morning seven days a week before my jogging but exercise different muscle groups on alternate days. Before I had the mindset that I would do strength training a half hour before dinner on the 1st, 3rd and 5th days of the week but I cou... Sat, 7 Jun 2014 07:48:30 EST Using compassion and love to prevent, end or lessen the harm http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5711477 In my two blogs about letting go of ideals that conflict with your reality, I discussed the first two steps of letting go. It has been awhile since then and I think I will finish off the topic by discussing all five steps, using child discipline as an example. <BR> Step 1: recognize the signs that you are holding on to an ideal that you should let go of. Warning signs are any signs of stress such as fear, anger, resentment, envy, anxiety etc. Any undue stress, that can arise from wanting... Thu, 5 Jun 2014 17:07:12 EST Message for all parents of young men http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5707605 The following link <link>zenhabits.net/respect/ </link> contains an important message for all parents of young men but is directed to fathers who probably have the most influence over their boys because they tend to emulate their fathers. It is disturbing to me as a father to four daughters (although they are now grown up and have families of their own) how the mass media tends to treat women as objects who should bow to the sexual fantasies of powerful men. If more parents had taught thei... Sat, 31 May 2014 17:55:17 EST Contentment as a lifestyle http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5702457 I find the following resource valuable and it is free: <link>zenhabits.net/contentmentbook/ </link> <BR> Here the writer teaches you to have faith in your ability to cope with the uncertainty of life, and to view setbacks as great opportunities to learn or to increase your ability to cope with hard circumstances and come out the better for it. Two important chapters of which are those dealing with self respect and the act of letting go of your ideals of how things should go in your life whe... Sat, 24 May 2014 23:29:30 EST Letting Go: Seeing the Ideal in conflict with reality http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5699516 I got several comments about how wise I was in posting the five steps to letting go of our Ideals if the conflict between our ideals and reality causes us harm. In the last sentence of the opening paragraph following the listing of the five steps, I wrote "See Leo Babouta of Zen Habits and his free e-book on letting go "The one Skill" <link>zenhabits.net/lg/ </link> ". As you can see from this link Leo has given us a free e-book on letting go and the five steps are explained in five chapt... Tue, 20 May 2014 20:52:02 EST Letting go: recognizing signals that we need to act http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5696221 We would be happier if we could practice the habit of letting go of our ideals of perfection when they are causing us harm. We all want the world we live in to be more perfect since then we would have fewer problems. But there are times when we must act to let go of our ideal of how our world should be. The 1st step of letting go is noticing stress signals that we need to let go one of our ideals of how our world should be. The 2nd step of letting go is seeing the ideal that is in conflic... 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