MSLZZY's SparkPeople Blog MSLZZY's Blog on SparkPeople, home of free diet plans and a healthy living community Acceptance DS stopped to talk with the attorney yesterday and <BR> it was a quiet and civil conversation. He asked a <BR> few questions and then left. <BR> He stopped at the office today and I had a chance <BR> to ask him what he learned from the attorney. He <BR> just said that the attorney told him the judge said <BR> he could not raise his son. He then told me that the <BR> judge said he needed to visit Aaron on a different <BR> day, that the social worker took pictures and he left. <BR> The social w... Fri, 5 Feb 2016 21:27:40 EST The last visit Today DS came in to make a deposit at his bank <BR> and I balanced his checkbook so he knows how <BR> much money is left for the month. We talked about <BR> the bills he still has to pay. He doesn't know he will <BR> be getting more money after Social Security starts <BR> to give him benefits from DH. I even had to call <BR> because they should have started already but there <BR> was a glitch but someone is working to fix it. <BR> He said he had to talk with the attorney and I let <BR> him go... Thu, 4 Feb 2016 21:56:59 EST Brilliant sunshine after the blizzard It is still cold outside but the plows have cleared the <BR> streets and the 2 inches of snow we accumulated <BR> should melt by the weekend. We had whiteout conditions <BR> yesterday and school was cancelled but better to be <BR> safe than sorry. A late start this morning and a <BR> basketball game to be rescheduled but nothing major. <BR> I invited the GC to come over and make jams last night. <BR> GD chose to make strawberry and GS made pear. <BR> Both turned out just lovely so they will... Wed, 3 Feb 2016 17:26:07 EST OH, HAPPY DAY! The wait is over! The judge has spoken! The verdict <BR> came as no surprise and not without some regret and <BR> guilt. Both parents have had their rights terminated <BR> and DD and SIL will now be able to adopt Aaron as <BR> their own son. <BR> We learned of the decision yesterday afternoon <BR> but not through the legal channels so I was not <BR> free to share it until now. My attorney called at <BR> 9:40 and in 5 minutes, conveyed all the important <BR> details and also provided me a copy... Tue, 2 Feb 2016 11:54:25 EST Happy first day of February It is the month of hearts and flowers and a very <BR> special day is coming. Hope you all have made <BR> plans for Valentine's Day. We are celebrating <BR> our oldest GD's birthday and our youngest GS's <BR> birthday at the same time so it will be an extended <BR> family affair. <BR> We were all busy at the office as we are anticipating <BR> a winter blizzard starting tonight and lasting until <BR> early Wednesday morning. It seems we may get <BR> 4-8 inches of snow with strong northerly win... Mon, 1 Feb 2016 21:40:27 EST Time to clean my own house I followed the usual Sunday routine with Bible study, <BR> church services, coffee time and lunch with DH. <BR> We each took a short nap but then it was time to <BR> focus on cleaning a few areas in the house before <BR> the new work week. Laundry is done (for now), <BR> the kitchen, living room, hallway and den have <BR> been swept and I sorted through the clutter of last <BR> week's mail. A fresh start to a new month so let's <BR> focus on being the best we can be. HUGS! Sun, 31 Jan 2016 22:32:58 EST Fun, fun, fun I packed my car to go to DD's with the fixings for beef <BR> stew, a frozen apple pie and 2 dozen eggs. I arrived <BR> in plenty of time to go over my to-do list with DD and <BR> get the lay of the land. Aaron was already awake and <BR> ready for me. Mom and Dad left and it was the 2 of us <BR> having a ball. I vacuumed the entire downstairs, dusted, <BR> folded 3 laundry baskets of clothes and played as much <BR> as I could on the floor with a very energetic baby. <BR> He took a morning nap ... Sat, 30 Jan 2016 20:55:54 EST Kept a positive attitude I really thought we would have news today but <BR> since I had no phone call, I will patiently wait <BR> until Monday. <BR> We attended the basketball games tonight and <BR> DD, SIL and Aaron were here. We had so much <BR> fun passing him around to our friends and he was <BR> such a social butterfly. He finally fell asleep in <BR> the third quarter of the last game. We parted <BR> ways but I will have a fun Saturday. <BR> I will spend the day babysitting for him, doing <BR> the laundry, vacu... Fri, 29 Jan 2016 23:00:42 EST Busy but distracted The office has been very busy with most days having <BR> both of the agents in but so far, I have managed to <BR> keep up and that is all that matters. <BR> The hardest part is waiting for the attorney to share <BR> the judge's decision. It appears that we may have <BR> to wait until Monday but I have hope that we may <BR> have word tomorrow. <BR> Looking back, it is hard to believe that we have been <BR> tied up with this issue for almost a year. DD is anxious <BR> and nervous but understand... Thu, 28 Jan 2016 22:22:10 EST Just a few details I was a bit disconcerted over some of the testimony <BR> given yesterday in court. The 2 character witnesses <BR> basically didn't have much to say that I thought would <BR> sway anyone, not even the judge. They devoured more <BR> time than necessary and never really addressed the <BR> questions presented by the attorneys. The "star" <BR> witness was the mother of the child and most of <BR> her testimony were lies and I had direct knowledge <BR> that she was definitely not telling the truth.... Tue, 26 Jan 2016 23:40:09 EST A long day in court The judge and 2 attorneys were late due to bad <BR> road conditions so that put everything behind. We <BR> listened to testimony from the organization's head <BR> man and he had lots to present and plenty of <BR> questions from all 4 attorneys. We had one short <BR> morning break and then stopped at noon for lunch. <BR> The roads were nasty, even worse than earlier. <BR> Driving back was more difficult due to blowing snow <BR> that was sticking to the highway. The first witness <BR> finished ... Mon, 25 Jan 2016 22:01:03 EST Thank you! I am feeling the love and support of all my SP friends <BR> and just want to say thank you. I will post the judge's <BR> decision as soon as I can. Hopefully, after today, I <BR> will be able to share pictures of Aaron with no <BR> restrictions. HUGS! Mon, 25 Jan 2016 06:32:26 EST Too blessed to be stressed Thanks to IMEMINE1 for the inspiration for this blog. <BR> No matter what happens tomorrow in court or what <BR> life has in store for me, this quote speaks volumes. <BR> I have been playing it low key today so I have enough <BR> energy to deal with a 1-2 day session in court. <BR> I will be walking with God tomorrow or maybe <BR> he will be carrying me. I will keep the poem. <BR> "Footprints in the Sand" in my mind. All is well. <BR> HUGS! Sun, 24 Jan 2016 20:50:55 EST Life... is full of distractions. <BR> Don't let them get in the way of your progress. <BR> Working to keep my distractions to a <BR> minimum. Spark on! Sat, 23 Jan 2016 22:57:47 EST Still going strong When push comes to shove, (I've done a lot of that lately) <BR> things get done. I feel like I have been pushing and shoving <BR> for so long that when the time comes, I may not know what <BR> to do with myself. <BR> DS has changed his mind and thinks he "probably could" <BR> take care of his son by himself. But that is the GF telling <BR> him so he will get his son and she will always be a part <BR> of both of their lives. He wouldn't sign the paper but the <BR> attorney said it wasn't neces... Fri, 22 Jan 2016 23:03:32 EST Super Charged! My SIL was in the office this morning and we <BR> covered a lot of things and it was all good. <BR> Then he and DH went for lunch just before <BR> noon while I finished what I was doing. I <BR> didn't want to eat a cheeseburger so I went <BR> home to partake of spaghetti squash, peas <BR> and some left over ground beef with onions. <BR> Back to work at 1 and with the office to myself, <BR> I dug into more boxes of sorting. Our friend <BR> in the feed store was burning garbage so I <BR> sent s... Thu, 21 Jan 2016 21:28:13 EST I've got a secret I am digging through lots of old photos <BR> of DH for his retirement party at the <BR> agent's convention in February. It is <BR> easy at the office but difficult at home. <BR> So far, he hasn't a clue. I hope to keep <BR> it that way. Wish me luck. <BR> I am also working to get DS to sign a <BR> form before court on Monday. He was <BR> to come with me to the attorney's office <BR> this afternoon. I am not sure if he fell <BR> asleep or was ignoring my texts. We <BR> are set to go tomorrow ... Wed, 20 Jan 2016 23:09:39 EST Cleaning out my desk No, I am not retiring, just discarding things in my <BR> desk drawers that have no value. There were quite <BR> a few credit card offers that I needed to shred. Some, <BR> of course, were so outdated that it was laughable. <BR> Others had been sent to College DS and he has <BR> enough to manage now and doesn't need another <BR> credit card to tempt him. <BR> I am looking for any old pictures of DH during <BR> his 35 years as an agent and I found a few. I may <BR> have more time to look tomor... Tue, 19 Jan 2016 22:48:18 EST Finding all the corners Housecleaning finds me checking out corners, <BR> nooks and crannies that have been neglected. <BR> Today I started in the living room, moving the <BR> couch out from the wall, retrieving all the rubber <BR> balls that the cats played with and hid over the <BR> Christmas break. I removed the cold air register <BR> to dust it out and then gave it a good washing. <BR> Next was the den, the man cave. I sweep on a <BR> regular basis but today I rearranged everything <BR> and even washed the end t... Mon, 18 Jan 2016 21:32:59 EST How to beat the cold I kept the wood furnace burning, <BR> spent my day at home cleaning <BR> and staying active and baked a <BR> pork roast and baked a spaghetti <BR> squash while DH made his wonderful <BR> pound cake. The house was warm <BR> and smelled great. The only good <BR> way to make the most of a day <BR> spent at home. HUGS! <BR> PS I did sleep in this morning. <BR> Sun, 17 Jan 2016 22:06:05 EST I didn't know I was living in Canada After a fairly mild morning, the weather has <BR> turned sharply colder, more like Canada with <BR> this Arctic blast that will last until Monday night. <BR> It is now -4 with a wind chill of -25. It would <BR> appear that it will drop to -16 by morning and <BR> the wind chill will be -35 to -40. <BR> No Bible study or church services tomorrow. <BR> That will leave me more time to sort through <BR> boxes. Today I worked in the basement and <BR> have 5 less boxes of papers, mostly old bank <... Sat, 16 Jan 2016 23:54:19 EST The early, early start Before you scold me too loudly, think back <BR> to all the times when I recounted my exploits <BR> on moving and rearranging by myself. This <BR> is typical "Dizzy Mslzzy". <BR> I opened the office at 6 so I could move those <BR> pesky file cabinets. I had my handy dandy <BR> furniture slides and in 15 minutes, I was done. <BR> My agent said, "I would have helped you with <BR> that". Yes, I know but I work better alone. <BR> I sent out all the crop summaries that needed <BR> to be mailed and ... Fri, 15 Jan 2016 22:35:01 EST Tomorrow's game plan A good friend was asking about a large storage <BR> cabinet that I had moved out of the coffee room <BR> in September. He thought it would work perfect <BR> for his tools. Not all of the steel drawers worked <BR> as the rollers and tracks were old and broken. <BR> I told him if he wanted it, he could just take it. <BR> Then our friend in the feed store mentioned that <BR> his bookkeeper wanted an area with a desk so <BR> she could work without being interrupted. He <BR> agreed to let me move ... Thu, 14 Jan 2016 22:13:40 EST Another early day Opening the office at 7:15 has become a habit. <BR> In the good old days, nothing happened much <BR> before 9. Now, the early calls may come by 8:30. <BR> Years ago, there was no such thing as voice mail <BR> but there were answering machines, just not in <BR> every office. We changed and adjusted and now <BR> it is business as usual. All the new technology <BR> just moved us along. <BR> Change and adjust and move. Use the technology <BR> that is available and use what you understand. <BR> Bu... Wed, 13 Jan 2016 23:11:48 EST Finding treasures Cleaning in the office first thing every morning <BR> has been a reward. I am finding items that I <BR> thought had been thrown away. But the things <BR> I did find are treasures to my children. I have <BR> taken them home and will pass them on. One <BR> was a certificate for second son who passed <BR> a certification for the ambulance crew when he <BR> still lived here. I know he will want to frame it. <BR> At home, I found a cute white teddy bear dated <BR> 1993 and given to oldest DD by a ... Tue, 12 Jan 2016 22:20:56 EST The Tale of the Tires DS is seriously in need of new tires and said <BR> it was just one more expense he didn't need <BR> right now. I reminded him of the new set of <BR> tires we had bought for his Mitsubishi just <BR> before the engine blew out on him last summer. <BR> They are the same size as those on my Cobalt. <BR> We took them off of his car before the man from <BR> the salvage yard took the car away. I had stored <BR> them in the shed so I would have a set for my <BR> car when the time comes. I gave him t... Mon, 11 Jan 2016 22:08:03 EST A paperwork weekend Time to start sifting and sorting papers so I can <BR> have my information ready to do income tax. <BR> Didn't I just do that last week? <BR> Sifting, sorting and copying paperwork with <BR> DH for VA benefits. More for our two sons who <BR> may benefit but nothing is guaranteed. More <BR> dead trees LOL! <BR> Watched bits and pieces of football games. <BR> Vikings lost to the Seahawks but the Packers <BR> won against the Redskins. I listened more <BR> than watched. Probably better that way. ... Sun, 10 Jan 2016 22:46:24 EST A morning walk, time spent outside and a clean house My short morning walk to the café felt like most <BR> other mornings. It didn't matter that the air temperature <BR> was 3 degrees with a wind chill of -14. I was just <BR> happy to be active. Later DH and I went to the farm <BR> to trim the hooves of one poor nanny. She is very <BR> close to kidding so we thought it best to do it now. <BR> The rest of the day was spent sweeping and <BR> mopping, doing laundry, making the beds and <BR> then making a very delicious pork steak entrée. <BR> The... Sat, 9 Jan 2016 23:01:04 EST Mildly insane and loving the snow and cold I think, being a South Dakota farm girl, that I learned <BR> years ago not to let the weather get me down. I am <BR> sure many of you can say the same thing. I love the <BR> cold as much as I did when I was younger. I have <BR> to admit that I am not fond of cold hands or cold feet <BR> but since I have always had poor circulation, I take <BR> it in stride. <BR> Today will be a great day. One agent is in his other <BR> office and the other agent has training in Sioux Falls <BR> and it is his ... Fri, 8 Jan 2016 10:48:11 EST It's just a little cold front Yes, the temperatures will drop like a rock. We are <BR> expecting snow tonight and tomorrow and then the <BR> blustery winds will follow. Seems like zero will be the <BR> over day high on Sunday-if we are lucky. I do not <BR> mind watching the football game on tv as opposed <BR> to sitting in a frigid stadium. We have no other plans <BR> for traveling so I will again focus on either the dormers <BR> or the cellar. I will fire up the wood furnace so <BR> maybe the basement will have my attent... Thu, 7 Jan 2016 17:10:13 EST Selfish (?) Little Me Today I started working on my plan for me this year. <BR> First on the list was to see the optometrist. Yes, it <BR> has been 6 years and 2 weeks since I was there. <BR> But, to my credit, my vision is just as good as it <BR> was then, maybe a little better as he has better <BR> diagnostic equipment. The pair of progressive glasses <BR> he suggested before were seldom used and almost <BR> a nuisance. A glorified pair of sunglasses since I <BR> had them tinted to wear when driving. I always <B... Wed, 6 Jan 2016 22:56:01 EST A brilliant plan My two agents came up with an idea and it was <BR> up to me to implement it. So I spent 1 1/2 hours <BR> blending the two sets of files we had into one. <BR> I guess they didn't think I could get it done so <BR> quickly. But the brilliant plan that I came up <BR> with is the one we will proceed to use in the future. <BR> There will be a separate "jacket" that will be found <BR> in the front of each hanging file (1 per client). It <BR> will feature a list of all policies each client has <BR> a... Tue, 5 Jan 2016 20:58:55 EST Exciting news from court today Today was a hearing on child support payments. The <BR> original payment set was $216.00 a month, which DS <BR> does not have. That meant that his father and I would <BR> have to pay it for him, which seems a little unfair but <BR> just the way the system works. <BR> I filed an objection as I felt that the numbers were wrong. <BR> The referee had transposed DS's numbers with the GF's <BR> and it was way off. The judge asked if I had explained all <BR> the numbers and information correctly. Ye... Mon, 4 Jan 2016 17:08:57 EST Full day After church, we took down all the decorations at church. <BR> It took over 2 hours but we had a great lunch waiting for us. <BR> After a late night last night with Aaron, I was ready to relax <BR> a little. He was so good that it was a shame to come home. <BR> I took a nap and then continued to pack away the Nativity <BR> set and the rest of our decorations. I then decided to <BR> rearrange the dormer where I store all the totes and boxes <BR> of Christmas supplies. I could have stopped ther... Sun, 3 Jan 2016 22:18:03 EST Focused housecleaning Today my focus was the basement. Maybe the least favorite <BR> place to be on a sunny day but one area that I know needed <BR> to be worked on in the worst way. It was a little daunting to <BR> get started but once I was on a roll, it went well. <BR> I bagged up all the recyclable plastic into ONE large bag <BR> and it will be ready for DH to take over to the center when <BR> he gets to it. One large bag of tin cans and at least 2 of soda <BR> cans that have been there since DS was still in h... Sat, 2 Jan 2016 18:09:13 EST It is officially the New Year! I didn't watch the ball fall on 2015 but I saw the <BR> sunrise in 2016. Here's to a New Year, filled <BR> with promises and possibilities! <BR> DH is officially retired! Now maybe he can move on. <BR> I was provided the reports from the baby's mother <BR> and her experience with a realistic baby to test her <BR> skills as a mother. The poor doll had shaken baby <BR> syndrome TWICE in less than a week. But then, <BR> it was "only a doll". I hardly think a real baby would <BR> fare any better.... Fri, 1 Jan 2016 09:14:13 EST Happy New Year! As 2015 winds down, make a pledge to move into <BR> the New Year as a New You. Make it happen in 2016! Thu, 31 Dec 2015 23:35:23 EST One more day Yes, one more day in 2015. Less than 15 hours <BR> and we turn a new leaf in the New Year. The last <BR> year is behind us and it is time to turn our sights <BR> on the myriad of new opportunities that will be <BR> there to for us. Each day will be a challenge. <BR> Are we up to the challenge? Yes, we are! We <BR> can do this! Use each minute of each day to <BR> reach your goals. Have fun! Do what you can <BR> but also work harder. Try something new! <BR> Believe it to achieve it. <BR> <em>... Wed, 30 Dec 2015 22:22:28 EST Lucky Number 7 Today is my 7 year anniversary on Spark. My, how time flies! <BR> I would love to say it was all easy, always a success but, as <BR> we all know, there are setbacks, plateaus and times when we <BR> lose our way. <BR> I have had the time of my life, learning and growing and living <BR> the best life I could. But there are also those times when life <BR> takes you in a different direction. There is only so much that <BR> you can control. <BR> The last 1 1/2 years have been full of challenges. F... Tue, 29 Dec 2015 22:22:28 EST Just another snowy day This looks to be a very fast moving system and should <BR> exit the state by noon. But not before it drops 3-5 inches <BR> of snow. Combine that with the wind and we will have <BR> blowing and drifting. As a matter of fact, it has been <BR> drifting since just before 5. <BR> It is nice to be inside with the wood furnace burning <BR> and a pot of turkey vegetable soup simmering on the stove. <BR> It will be done, left to cool and used for lunches this week. <BR> We expect our SIL to be in the ... Mon, 28 Dec 2015 21:57:17 EST A quiet house DS and his fiancé breezed in this afternoon and gathered <BR> the rest of their possessions on the way back to their <BR> apartment. The most important of these were their 2 <BR> cats. I did enjoy having them, until returning from church <BR> and finding the Christmas tree knocked over for the <BR> third time. I had thought to take it down last night but <BR> wanted to leave it up until the New Year. <BR> All that changed when I discovered all but 14 ornaments <BR> in pieces, the garland tang... Sun, 27 Dec 2015 19:41:03 EST I have my seasons mixed up It is the dead of winter, 6-8 inches of new snow on <BR> the ground and I am either doing fall housecleaning <BR> or spring. <BR> I decided to clean the bathroom, as in washing the <BR> walls and ceilings and cleaning the tops of the cabinets. <BR> I swept and mopped the floors after shoveling snow <BR> several times today. The temperature has dropped so <BR> I have the wood furnace burning to take the chill out <BR> of the air. <BR> All in all, a great day for cardio and a clean house to boo... Sat, 26 Dec 2015 21:37:55 EST Merry Christmas! It has been a wonderful day. We have a later service <BR> at church but it was good to have the extra time to get <BR> the turkey and dressing done before we headed over <BR> to MIL's house. EVERYONE was there! Even our <BR> son who has shunned the family since Easter came <BR> with us and had a whole afternoon to spend with his son. <BR> He did share him with everyone but was very attentive <BR> and carried him around and played with him. He even <BR> apologized to his sister for his bad beh... Fri, 25 Dec 2015 20:51:31 EST Bg doings tonight I have a few plans for the evening so here goes. <BR> First, butcher the tom turkey that I raised as a <BR> hatchling. I set some eggs for a lady but when <BR> only one turkey hatched, she didn't want it. He <BR> has eaten enough feed so tonight we will butcher <BR> him for Christmas dinner. I will make a brine to <BR> soak him in overnight and then roast him. He <BR> should be very tender. <BR> Then I have the last of the gifts to wrap. Just a <BR> few but still, need to get this done. <BR... Wed, 23 Dec 2015 15:22:03 EST Court behind us for today A surprisingly short time spent in court today but <BR> with the following result. All attorneys agreed and <BR> the disposition of the case of baby Aaron will be <BR> held in 5 weeks, January 25th. It is set for an all <BR> day session as we anticipate that the mother will <BR> have people testifying on her behalf. There will <BR> be no witnesses for the baby or our son. <BR> Considering some of the material we have been <BR> privy to and the sheer amount that we can only <BR> imagine the s... Mon, 21 Dec 2015 16:07:52 EST DH's retirement pary It was a complete success. We had more than enough <BR> food for the 75+ participants and he received lots of <BR> cards and compliments and well wishes. Some longtime <BR> fellow agents showed up for the big day and one even <BR> spent the dinner hour with us afterward. <BR> Most of the cleanup was done last night but I will <BR> address the rest tomorrow. <BR> Sometime this morning we will drive to help MIL move <BR> into her new house. It will just be the 3 of us so I do <BR> know who will... Sat, 19 Dec 2015 09:45:22 EST All plans in place Maybe, just maybe, in a few more days, DH can <BR> relax and stopping nagging on his retirement. I <BR> do know and understand the mixed feelings that <BR> he is going through but it has been very hard for <BR> him to know and understand my feelings on the <BR> subject. I have tried to be as supportive as possible <BR> and allow him to express his feelings. I just wish <BR> he could see things from my point of view as well. <BR> In this respect, I am feeling like a bit of a Scrooge. <BR> But ... Fri, 18 Dec 2015 09:28:42 EST News on the home front It seems our state manager angered the gods and was <BR> asked to resign his position after January 1st. This <BR> was the one contact I had to move things along in the <BR> process of hiring DH's replacement. Not sure what is <BR> on the horizon now but this could complicate things <BR> a bit. DH is clearly glad his retirement was already <BR> set in stone but the uncertainty for SIL and the other <BR> new agent has to be disturbing. <BR> Party plans are coming together. Glad to have that <B... Wed, 16 Dec 2015 08:38:39 EST The shotgun approach-hunters only "Shoot at every duck in the sky and you might just hit one". <BR> To me, this means take every opportunity to meet your goal. <BR> But, by all means, leave the weapons alone but stay in the <BR> hunt for success. <BR> One more day, one more deadline and one more chance <BR> to focus on the task at hand and then, maybe some me time. <BR> A girl can dream, right? <BR> Off to dreamland! Spark on! HUGS! Mon, 14 Dec 2015 22:42:15 EST Taking time to blog Guess I am still short of time. The days continue to be <BR> long and filled with plenty to do so <BR> I am working, not lurking. I allow myself about 15 <BR> minutes in the morning and after that, SP has taken <BR> a back seat to client lists, new applications, faxing <BR> and filing. I think this will remain a constant for <BR> months to come. <BR> We attended both of the grade school concerts for <BR> the GC. I finally went to my EMT meeting and was <BR> glad it was fairly routine subject... Fri, 11 Dec 2015 23:01:01 EST