MISSUSRIVERRAT's SparkPeople Blog http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal.asp?id=MISSUSRIVERRAT MISSUSRIVERRAT's Blog on SparkPeople, home of free diet plans and a healthy living community SparkPeople.com http://assets2.sparkpeople.com/assets/nav/logo_spark.gif http://www.sparkpeople.com/ Communication/conversation thought http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6163316 The new technique that I'm trying for bringing up difficult topics that just might possibly work..... <BR> I decided that I needed to sound very casual and undramatic when I bring things up that are really bothering me (and apparently aren't really bothering other people). Getting all dramatic & emotional and/or trying to schedule deep conversation (as in, "We need to talk") apparently is the way NOT the way to get someone's attention in an effective manner..... <BR> <BR> I am trying the ca... Sun, 15 May 2016 09:34:33 EST Decluttering -- Toss Ten http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6162611 I'm not ready to move to a tiny house yet, but I do think it is wise for me to realize there may be a move to a smaller residence in my future. Plus decluttering is something I do periodically. I invented a game that works for me. It's called "Toss Ten." <BR> <BR> Every day I get rid of ten things. They either go into the garbage, to a family member, or into the donation box. Just think...30 days means 300 things go out of the house ! Just think of how much progress this would be over ... Sat, 14 May 2016 07:38:36 EST Positive Body Mantras !! http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6162000 Great article with lots of positive ideas....Rah ! Rah ! <BR> <BR> <em>104</em> <em>321</em> <BR> <BR> <BR> <link>greatist.com/grow/body-positive-mant<BR>ras </link> Fri, 13 May 2016 08:04:36 EST Attitude Somewhat Adjusted http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6161817 This blog is a follow-up to the venting blog I wrote earlier today. <BR> <BR> Where my head is at right now is this...... <BR> All the problems I vented about center around two things, money problems & communication. The problems are in some ways intertwined. And what perpetuates them is my lack of facing the truth about my financial reality and allowing myself to be too passive with my situation and in relationships. I am taking all this on my shoulders and blaming myself for not facing a... Thu, 12 May 2016 23:01:47 EST Working on an Attitude Adjustment http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6161283 Warning ....vent ahead. <BR> I have been very bummed out and am trying to figure out why. This happens every now and then to me. This is what I have come up with to deal with. <BR> <BR> Problem areas: <BR> <BR> Husband -- I opened up to him about a month ago about a couple of areas in our life that troubled me greatly and hoped we could work through. It took a lot of courage for me to bring them up. Amazingly enough, I expressed my thoughts very calmly and coherently. Husband seemed t... Thu, 12 May 2016 06:35:21 EST Additional May Focal Point http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6154984 I wanted to add this to my May Focal Point Blog of May 1 <BR> <BR> <em>220</em> <em>129</em> Family First <BR> Help adult kids with their plans and goals. Attend important events of grand kids. <BR> Create family memories. Nourish relationship with spouse. <BR> (Reduce work hours -- that is why I am trying to economize in other ways) Mon, 2 May 2016 17:51:10 EST May Focal Points http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6154280 <em>334</em> Teeth <BR> Me -- 5 crowns prepped on May 2. 5 crowns installed on May 16. <BR> Mom (95 year old frail elderly) -- Multiple extractions on May 26. <BR> <BR> <em>528</em> Money <BR> Spend less by getting things for reduced prices at Dollar General, Dollar Tree, Aldi, and resale shops. <BR> <BR> <em>204</em> Femininity <BR> Enjoy things that make me feel more feminine. <BR> Hair styled -- make-up -- earrings -- clothes put together even if casual -- scent spra... Sun, 1 May 2016 20:58:19 EST My Images of Freedom http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6134040 <img src="http://photosaws.sparkpeople.com/guid/bc704485-4cf0-439e-b630-07b4ec25b440.jpg"> <BR> <BR> <img src="http://photosaws.sparkpeople.com/guid/0ea8cd0e-daa9-4337-80a1-a2c4010f9e28.jpg"> <BR> <BR> <img src="http://photosaws.sparkpeople.com/guid/7ad99f4b-a415-4ee0-91d4-fd35224ac961.jpg"> <BR> <BR> <img src="http://photosaws.sparkpeople.com/guid/d8c51ba8-423d-4651-b799-94583754dcca.jpg"> <BR> <BR> <img src="http://photosaws.sparkpeople.com/guid/e68fc6b4-0a89-4066-bab9-f33b41407979... Sun, 3 Apr 2016 14:45:13 EST Self-Care Assessment Worksheet http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6132263 This is from a website and I couldn't get the link to work, so I copied and pasted some of the material. I thought the Assessment was quite helpful in brainstorming to determine specifics of a Self-Care Plan. <BR> <BR> Self-Care Assessment <BR> Adapted from Saakvitne, Pearlman, & Staff of TSI/CAAP (1996). Transforming the pain: A <BR> workbook on vicarious traumatization. Norton. <BR> The following worksheet for assessing self-care is not exhaustive, merely suggestive. Feel <BR> free to add... Fri, 1 Apr 2016 07:02:34 EST Another March Update http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6122710 As it turns out, the first eye operated on decided it wanted to get a little more near-sighted. <BR> Apparently some eyes do that after cataract surgery...some go to more farsighted and some go to more nearsighted. So that meant the correction in the implant didn't fully correct for distance. However, that meant I could still see mid distance (computer screen) and relatively close (read at arm's length, food prep, eat at table, ). Knowing this, the doctor said that she would bump up the pre... Sat, 19 Mar 2016 07:39:02 EST Mid March Reflections http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6118770 The right eye after cataract surgery is healing very well and the vision seems to be stabilizing. It was 20/25 the day after surgery and also I was able to read things at arms length. Throughout the next week my right eye went through a variety of changes that I am sure are normal for recovery. Then I had a bout of very blurry vision. I called my surgeon <BR> and she felt that it was dry eyes. This is typical post-surgery.. So I implemented some strategies to deal with that: <BR> <BR> a)... Mon, 14 Mar 2016 07:27:14 EST Mini March Report http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6110924 Thanks to my Sparkfriends that read my last blog and wished me well on the cataract surgery. The right eye is done ! Everything went very well during surgery and the eye is healing. The vision is already amazing even though there is still a little swelling remaining for now in the eye. There is only minor discomfort. At the one day check-up yesterday my vision was 20/25 and that is great for this stage of the game. They fully expect it will be 20/20 and that I will not need correction e... Fri, 4 Mar 2016 07:39:13 EST February Progress / March Plans http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6108263 My main focus for March is cataract surgeries -- Right eye tomorrow & left eye in two weeks. I prepared as much as I can for this by stocking the fridge, cleaning the house, catching up on duties, & planning ahead. Actually, it was a nice impetus to get more organized and caught up. My efforts this month will be to comply with the treatment, make all the appointments, obey medical instructions, and then get whatever glasses may be needed after the vision settles down. Insurance is covering... Tue, 1 Mar 2016 06:58:26 EST Getting My Act Together http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6085625 I've got some big stuff coming. In March I will have cataract surgery. Although my cataracts are not quite advanced enough to qualify as far as typical 20/40 vision requirement, they do qualify because of the multiple ghost images in each eye....classified as "double vision" for insurance purposes. Lucky for me I happened to mention this to the doctor, huh? This means that insurance will cover the surgery, etc. except for a relatively small co-pay here and there. So, February will be a mo... Tue, 2 Feb 2016 08:24:06 EST More Color ! http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6084576 We can see the rainbow of color in our food and "eat the rainbow" for health! <BR> <BR> <img src="http://photosaws.sparkpeople.com/guid/fbd1dd02-2f62-401d-b031-82823e4c82de.jpg"> <BR> <BR> Or we can use a rainbow to understand and balance our emotions ! <BR> <BR> <img src="http://photosaws.sparkpeople.com/guid/5719ac8b-d1e6-4e15-b53a-bad1c320b698.jpg"> <BR> <BR> Or we can use a rainbow to understand ourselves and heal! <BR> <BR> <img src="http://photosaws.sparkpeople.com/guid/e125d99f... Mon, 1 Feb 2016 07:44:23 EST Craving Color ??!!!!! http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6083695 <img src="http://photosaws.sparkpeople.com/guid/10569c82-77a4-4e48-a33e-51dfa7607d0d.jpg"> <BR> <BR> <BR> <img src="http://photosaws.sparkpeople.com/guid/69f3902c-726c-4067-bad7-051bf8b6a128.jpg"> <BR> <BR> Better??? <BR> Doesn't that help?? <BR> <BR> It's a little bleak around here this time of year and I needed a burst of color ! <BR> So, I tried to come up with some easy ways to bring some color into my day ..... <BR> This was not a typical Saturday...the only scheduled event on my... Sun, 31 Jan 2016 07:43:42 EST I'm In LOVE http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6077622 <img src="http://photosaws.sparkpeople.com/guid/e2e0ca8c-6f55-44da-bc33-9aa9bf776dd1.png"> <BR> <BR> "Love isn't something we have, it's something we feel." <BR> "Start by aiming to experience the feeling of love, regardless of a partner." <BR> "To do this, make a love list." <BR> "Throughout the day, look for things to love and be joyful about." <BR> <BR> <link>spiritualityhealth.com/blog/eve-hoga<BR>n/simple-practice-feel-more-love-your-<BR>life </link> <BR> <BR> <img src="http://p... Sun, 24 Jan 2016 07:54:27 EST An Attitude of Gratitude http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6076813 Here's a list of things I'm grateful for (in no particular order): <BR> <BR> 1) We have enough money to buy fruits and vegetables and other foods that sustain me. <BR> 2) My legs work great. The rest of me works pretty well too ! <BR> 3) I am flexible, move easily, and enjoy dancing. <BR> 4) I can still read and do computer work. <BR> 5) My husband and bosses are supportive of me. <BR> 6) My husband has amazing eyesight. <BR> 7) My husband is very strong, energetic, and handy. <BR> 8) I live... Sat, 23 Jan 2016 07:08:29 EST A little rattled http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6074357 Trying to cope with a few things: <BR> 1) Cataract surgery is needed in both eyes-- I determined that I have 3 ghost images in my weaker left eye and 1-2 very noticeable ghost images in my right eye (plus a few other symptoms). I am self-limiting my driving <BR> 2) Husband reinjured knee and will probably need surgery; In the interim his activity is quite limited <BR> 3) 95 year old Mom is having challenging health problems that could be very serious. <BR> She is in a nursing home, but I a... Wed, 20 Jan 2016 09:02:38 EST Asking for your input..... http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6065768 I have identified a bit of a general problem that I seem to be having. <BR> I can't get people to slow down, be thorough, and be somewhat patient with me. <BR> Since I have this problem with everyone but my female friends, I am thinking that I am the problem. <BR> <BR> Here's the situations: <BR> I feel this sense with members of the medical profession who seem flippant, rushed, and irritated. <BR> <BR> I feel this sense with my boss who seems like he has ADHD. He has a 3 second attent... Sun, 10 Jan 2016 12:40:27 EST Feeling kind of psyched ! http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6062324 Well, for a while I was feeling pretty geriatric...... <BR> in the recent months I had a dental specialist explain the need for a full mouth dental reconstruction in three stages totaling $21,000 - $24,000. Prior to that I had eye doctor tell me that I had cataracts developing in both eyes, with the left being the worst. Recently my eyesight has proved to be deteriorating in the left eye and changing in the right eye. So, that has kind of put the teeth issue on the back burner for the time b... Wed, 6 Jan 2016 16:40:31 EST 3 Week Experiment -- Results http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6059693 My experiment was very messed up because first my husband got sick and then I did <BR> (very bad cold that lingers). I was making progress and did the best I could. <BR> I do have a few thoughts to share. <BR> 1) Oxycise -- When I felt well enough to do them, these exercises give me a major boost. <BR> They give you that "I feel like a million bucks" feeling. These will be part of my daily program. Basically, they are breathing, stretching, and contraction exercises all rolled into one and... Mon, 4 Jan 2016 07:40:39 EST Temptation - I've Got It Easy http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6046759 It struck me how some aspects of my life make dealing with food a lot easier for me than for others. Just thought I'd share my thoughts. <BR> <BR> I live in a relatively remote, rural setting. The nearest fast food is 15 miles away, unless you count what you can get at our gas station. (Actually, the gas station pizza is delicious and a back-up plan for unexpected company.) There are no "quick trips" anywhere. <BR> We have to plan our errands and purchases so we don't waste gas. The c... Sun, 13 Dec 2015 08:56:07 EST 3 Week Experiment http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6043339 In the next 21 days I will be running a couple experiments for myself: <BR> 1) Oxycise Daily...Workout # 1 (will monitor weight & waist measurements) <BR> 2) Attempt to shift sleep schedule to later (go to bed later, up later -- will record time) <BR> I am tired of falling asleep on the couch at 8:30 and waking up fully rested at 3:30 AM ! <BR> 3) EFT Daily... regarding vision (will monitor by self-perception of vision) <BR> 4) Will also monitor moods and anxiety levels as well as any ... Sun, 6 Dec 2015 17:04:19 EST Experiment of One http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6043102 I really do think we are all unique individuals and what works for one may not work for another. I feel like I have learned a lot and have found many behaviors that work for me, now, in my present situation. Some of the practices are not of the norm and get classified as rebellious or new-age. I question lots of things, so what I have come up with for me sometimes seems the total opposite of common truth and practice (and Spark). <BR> <BR> I would so love to be able to figure out more of ... Sun, 6 Dec 2015 08:17:44 EST Do we really need goals? http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6041603 Was thinking this AM.. <BR> Do I really need to have goals? What is it in me that feels this need to set goals? <BR> Most people think so. Here's an article that adds some new thoughts. <BR> <BR> <link>zenhabits.net/no-goal/ </link> Thu, 3 Dec 2015 07:58:13 EST When Life Hands You Lemons...... http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6039898 <img src="http://photosaws.sparkpeople.com/guid/8e04064a-06fb-4341-a22b-490db1fdb604.jpg"> <BR> So, I've had a few woes that I have been dealing with: <BR> 1) Need for extensive, thus expensive, dental repair (3 stages of crown work, total estimated cost $21,000-28,000) <BR> 2) Leg injury from overuse & overexertion, i.e. too much yard work and exercise without enough R & R. <BR> <BR> So, you ask, where is the lemonade? <BR> <BR> <img src="http://photosaws.sparkpeople.com/guid/d3af9c1e-0... Mon, 30 Nov 2015 08:33:36 EST Took a Firm Stand With the Dental Specialist http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6032406 WARNING: Purpose of this blog is to vent and record my feelings. <BR> <BR> So....apparently my mouth is a potential train wreck. <BR> My gums and roots are very healthy due to good hygiene and all the chewing activity. But because my teeth fit together so well and I have a slight overbite, they are just really designed for gripping and grinding. Well, 66 years of eating,chewing on things, and tooth grinding has taken it's toll. This is one area where I take my stress and can't seem to... Sun, 15 Nov 2015 08:59:57 EST Day 4 of lecture series on tapping http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6026420 <link>www.thegabrielmethod.com/tapping-for<BR>-weight-loss-rob-nelson?inf_contact_ke<BR>y=054a10b5f0c4f0a6e97f1263e1b4001622da<BR>336db913882381f3908d9227fd1d </link> Wed, 4 Nov 2015 06:16:07 EST Day 3 of lecture series on tapping http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6025805 <link>www.thegabrielmethod.com/tapping-for<BR>-weight-loss-lindsay-kenny?inf_contact<BR>_key=fc46b13c47e4280e8fedd00a8a567fd68<BR>ee57ab2d08c7b28b683ffff023ac727 </link> Tue, 3 Nov 2015 06:03:53 EST Day 2 of lecture series on tapping http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6025142 I think these videos are only up for 48 hours. <BR> <BR> <link>www.thegabrielmethod.com/tapping-for<BR>-weight-loss-dawson-church?inf_contact<BR>_key=d70b9e02f74c5a61d1c23662342e6f193<BR>60ebba9926da228dd2ed5e104304bb6 </link> Mon, 2 Nov 2015 06:23:31 EST Great video on Tapping http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6024531 <link>www.thegabrielmethod.com/tapping-for<BR>-weight-loss-screening-2015?inf_contac<BR>t_key=e39ed75e6c38633f0c1296fdb83c70f0<BR>4920c961b4ebabef49d8dc9d7c59e0b8 </link> Sun, 1 Nov 2015 07:20:33 EST One Size Does Not Fit All (Blog 3) http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6018574 In yesterday's blog I talked about the various stresses in my life and that I thought it may be raising cortisol. I should also mention that, according to the sources I read, cortisol levels raise just because of ageing. <BR> <BR> My go-to solution for stress reduction had always been some type of large body movement. Through the years it varied, but I have always been active. I didn't do it to lose weight, but to stay healthy and because I so enjoyed it. There was swimming, baseball, rac... Wed, 21 Oct 2015 06:46:24 EST One Size Does Not Fit All (Blog 2) http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6018037 According to Jason Fung and many other sources, sometimes people gain weight because of an increase in cortisol. I gave this a lot of thought. <BR> <BR> It brought to mind the many websites that I stumbled upon in my googling. There is a slew of websites with "experts" that meet this description: <BR> Young woman who is 15-20 pounds overweight and feeling run down. <BR> They stop the overexercising, stop the calorie restriction, begin a more relaxing type of movement and attitude and ..... Tue, 20 Oct 2015 08:07:54 EST One Size Does Not Fit All (Blog 1) http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6015313 <link>https://intensivedietarymanagement.c<BR>om/why-cant-i-lose-weight-htlw-12/ </link> <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> This is an article by Dr. Jason Fung. <BR> The following is an excerpt from this article: <BR> "The key to understanding obesity is that many different things can contribute to the development and the treatment. Consider the analogy of your car not starting. There could be multiple problems. For example, the battery is dead, the car ran out of gas, or the spark plugs are worn ou... Thu, 15 Oct 2015 06:59:34 EST The "Me That Is to Be" http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6008395 I just came up with this a couple days ago. <BR> This phrase, "the me that is to be" is what I am using with myself. <BR> In the trenches, when I am making one of the many decisions that I make during the day.....I go by this guideline. What does the "me that is to be" do in this circumstance? What is the behavior that this "me that is to be" would choose? <BR> <BR> I started the process by becoming aware of my values, qualities & traits that I admire in a person, personality, and perso... Sat, 3 Oct 2015 06:43:12 EST Resolving Issues http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6007852 My last blog talked about some issues with my Dad and also my husband. <BR> During a walk later that day, I decided to try to talk with my Dad, even though he is deceased. I do believe in that kind of thing and understand that some of you may not. <BR> <BR> Well, when my Dad and I had our conversation, he was very sad. He felt bad to know how things had affected me. He let me know how hard it was coming home from war, then getting married and supporting a family and how hard it was to tran... Fri, 2 Oct 2015 07:35:27 EST Great....now I'm crabby ! http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6006152 Blogging to process my feelings. Please disregard if this seems a bit nutso. <BR> <BR> Something snapped. I am just plain tired of being nice to people that disregard my feelings and needs. I can't figure it out. New development. Maybe it has something to do with getting older. Supposedly we lose our filter and the real stuff just comes out. Trying to figure it out. Maybe it's healthier for me to be more open? <BR> <BR> It has something to do with my feelings toward my Dad. I know... Tue, 29 Sep 2015 11:51:31 EST I'm Just Envious http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6002561 So.....I made a statement in my last blog about Sparkers sometimes bragging.....and that it sometimes makes me feel bad about myself. <BR> <BR> Spark is a little different place place with a different culture than our every day world. <BR> It encourages us to be positive about ourselves. It gives us permission to be proud. <BR> We need to feel good and crow about our achievements. The world can be negative. <BR> Those in our everyday lives can sometimes be downers and controlling. Spa... Wed, 23 Sep 2015 08:39:37 EST Beck -- only on day 4 and I need to start over http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=6001222 Thanks to all those on the Beck team that answered my request for help! <BR> I did some thinking about what was causing my confusion. <BR> 1) I am in maintenance. I have been maintaining a 15 pound weight loss for about 3 years now. <BR> I have been doing it by intuitive eating and making adjustments as the demands on my life changes. So....what I have been doing is working in many respects. I was looking for a way to maintain the weight loss and perhaps change body composition slightly.... Mon, 21 Sep 2015 06:32:10 EST Beck -- Day 4 Third Day http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5998359 There was some discussion on a recent blog about whether or not to use food as a reward. <BR> I found a couple things on the internet that are geared towards the educational setting. <BR> They review the topic and give specific reasons why food is not a good reward. <BR> <BR> Here are links to those articles: <BR> <BR> <link>healthymeals.nal.usda.gov/hsmrs/Conn<BR>ecticut/Food_As_Reward.pdf </link> <BR> <BR> <link>cspinet.org/new/pdf/constructive_cla<BR>ssroom_rewards.pdf </link> <... Wed, 16 Sep 2015 07:06:30 EST Beck -- Day 4 Second Day http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5997686 In exploring the concept of giving ourselves credit, I ran across a very interesting/enlightening article about self-indulgence vs. self-nurturing. <BR> <BR> <link>https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog<BR>/evolution-the-self/200806/self-indulg<BR>ence-self-nurturing </link> <BR> <BR> Title: From Self-Indulgence to Self-Nurturing <BR> Author: Leon F. Seltzer, Ph.D. <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> Here is an excerpt: <BR> "Rather, if our parents (because of their own unfulfilled needs an... Tue, 15 Sep 2015 06:12:56 EST Beck -- Day 4 Giving Yourself Credit http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5997050 Beck says she's noticed that, "people who struggle with their weight tend to be hard on themselves." She says, "Do you have a tendency to focus on the negative, berating yourself for <BR> everything you do wrong? <BR> <BR> <img src="http://photosaws.sparkpeople.com/guid/b94f8aa2-9cc6-419d-be58-f63beae33d43.jpg"> <BR> <BR> Beck says, "To counteract this tendency, it's important for you to learn to give yourself credit for everything you do RIGHT." Critical thoughts will undermine our con... Mon, 14 Sep 2015 07:04:49 EST Beck-- Day 3 Grace at a meal http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5996436 I did some thinking about how to make mealtime special. <BR> I stumbled on a painting that affected me deeply. <BR> <BR> <img src="http://photosaws.sparkpeople.com/guid/b8c8633f-89e9-4cd6-8bfe-c5ba83d1b583.jpg"> <BR> <BR> This painting was done from a photograph. <BR> <BR> <img src="http://photosaws.sparkpeople.com/guid/9f4af9b7-4540-4f85-a88f-2edc57957eaf.png"> <BR> <BR> The story of the photograph is explained in this article: <BR> <BR> <link>gracebyenstrom.com/history.html </lin... Sun, 13 Sep 2015 07:18:41 EST Beck -- Day 3 -- Second day http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5995963 I am taking a second day to try to get myself to eat only at a table (as opposed to the couch and the car and my work desk.) For me this is a major habit change that I need I need to work through. True, Beck Day 3 just says we need to eat sitting down. I normally do eat sitting down. But I personally feel the need to come to a resolution of some sort about eating at a location that honors the meal, honors myself as a person that deserves a pleasant eating environment/location, and acknow... Sat, 12 Sep 2015 10:13:05 EST Beck -- Day 3 Eat Sitting Down http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5995240 Beck says we are supposed to eat sitting down. I reviewed my eating habits and concluded that I usually do eat sitting down. I do occasionally taste test food as I prepare it. A little of that is necessary, I think. I also scrape the bottom of the pan to get the rest of the sauce, right before I do the dishes. Other than that, I am not standing and eating. Maybe others have more of a problem with this than i do. To me, it just seems awfully messy to stand and eat. <BR> <BR> However... Fri, 11 Sep 2015 06:26:14 EST Beck -- Day 2 Pick a Food Plan (Diet) http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5994586 Today I am supposed to choose a diet to follow and also a back-up diet. <BR> <BR> First choice diet -- I have been intrigued by the 21 Day Fix. This plan involves portion control, specific number of portions from food groups, and specific food choices. <BR> I will use the food plan for that, but try to figure out a maintenance plan rather than weight reduction. This means that I will try to figure out a sense of sustainability about it. I will be figuring out quantities that will be enou... Thu, 10 Sep 2015 06:50:54 EST Beck -- Day 1 Reasons http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5993925 <img src="http://photosaws.sparkpeople.com/guid/71b96449-47ab-4678-82ef-6a13d1195190.jpg"> <BR> <img src="http://photosaws.sparkpeople.com/guid/edda03cb-9f77-4352-ac1b-296eaa61b65a.jpg"> <BR> <BR> <BR> I have begun reading The Beck Diet Solution. I am presently at a weight that is within normal ranges for me. So, I have decided that I will utilize the principles in The Beck Diet Solution to achieve goals that are part of my Wellness Plan as opposed to a "Diet." However, you will see t... Wed, 9 Sep 2015 07:38:26 EST Life is Not a Competition http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5989401 <BR> <img src="http://photosaws.sparkpeople.com/guid/e1a14c61-987c-4255-8407-95d355c221c3.jpg"> <BR> <img src="http://photosaws.sparkpeople.com/guid/f1d03797-a1e3-42f1-a217-3c9039b445bc.jpg"> <BR> <img src="http://photosaws.sparkpeople.com/guid/303ac36b-a026-4deb-8b4d-d0aebbc5d5ee.jpg"> <BR> <img src="http://photosaws.sparkpeople.com/guid/a6e8f195-032e-4aa6-8765-67f9be0460f6.jpg"> Wed, 2 Sep 2015 08:12:01 EST September 2015 http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5988569 I have decided to make things as simple as possible this month. <BR> <BR> 1) Going back to the basics of the food plan that has served me well. It is a modification of <BR> The Simple Diet. My "plan" involves lots of vegetables, some fruit, 5 servings of lean protein and a serving of carbs (preferably finely milled whole grain) at suppertime, plus a few condiments for taste. I also allow myself to OCCASIONALLY have foods because I really want them so I won't feel deprived. I don't... Tue, 1 Sep 2015 06:47:42 EST