LADYFROMTHEWOOD's SparkPeople Blog LADYFROMTHEWOOD's Blog on SparkPeople, home of free diet plans and a healthy living community Positive I had the most negative day yesterday. I struggled with comfort eating and feeling very blue. The bright spot (which felt like a real struggle to do) was that I was able to help someone with a little financial aid from Red Cross. He lost his home to fire on New Year's Day. <BR> <BR> Today, I'm trying to stay positive. Even though the scale is up. <BR> <BR> I have engaged a few, easy Feng Shui techniques in the house. Hubby is surprisingly interested in the Feng Shui as well. He even... Fri, 5 Jan 2018 08:47:55 EST Working on it... The person I was dealing with yesterday is definitely someone I want to keep in my life. So, I expressed myself (after giving myself time to calm down and process what I was really wanting to say) by using "I feel that..." and being direct. The truth that I suspected came out and we are now working on the changes we need to make to keep the relationship moving forward instead of backwards. <BR> <BR> I still feel like I had to let the crazy show a little to be heard though. *eye roll* <BR>... Wed, 3 Jan 2018 09:45:39 EST Help Got any good advice or article links on how to UNteach someone how to treat us? I've changed so much over the years that I've reached a point that friction is beginning to heat up between what I am and what others expect me to be... because I used to be that one way and now I'm not. <BR> <BR> I've talked many times and feel like what I said was forgotten. <BR> I've expressed possible changes and hopes and feel like I was punished for it today. "Well, if you are going to do 'x', you can't a... Tue, 2 Jan 2018 14:27:02 EST Practicing What I Preached (Dangit) Remember me getting off subject yesterday? About the cold and animals and how we try to catch the feral cats at Hubby's work? And how he caught a kitten yesterday? <BR> <BR> Well, guess what he came home with. <BR> <BR> He called the shelter all day, but no one answered. Then he drove the kitten to the shelter and the gate was locked. On a Friday during business hours. <BR> <BR> The mamacat refused to be caught. So we have the little baby (old enough to be away from mom, but still ver... Sat, 30 Dec 2017 10:01:30 EST Setting the Stage I've superglued the lid back on the top of my Fitbit Flex and am letting it set up. Waiting for a day in hopes that it still works. <BR> <BR> I started tracking my food again yesterday. It kept me from overeating last night. I have put in my breakfast this morning as well, so have the day started right. <BR> <BR> Meeting a long-time friend for lunch today! I've checked out the menu online and have a plan. <BR> <BR> Bought a new bottle of iron supplements. Been taking one every other d... Fri, 29 Dec 2017 08:47:55 EST Onward! Oh, the day after Christmas was delightful! Nowhere to go, a fire in the stove, pure relaxation. And no decorations to take down... HAHAHA! <BR> <BR> The trip down to our son's for Christmas dinner went ok. Except DD was a gloomy gus. Matters of the heart... again. But the meeting of the future (maybe) in-laws went well. The dad is a bit, metrosexual, but so is my ex-husband. I reassured my hubby that he is the man they wish they were, with their lumberjack beards and plaid shirts but... Thu, 28 Dec 2017 08:51:29 EST Merry Christmas! <em>460</em> <em>447</em> <em>445</em> <em>443</em> <em>442</em> <em>446</em> <BR> <em>67</em> Happy belated Solstice! <em>31</em> <BR> <em>500</em> Happy Belated Hanukkah! <em>499</em> <BR> <em>501</em> Happy upcoming Kwanzaa! <em>501</em> <BR> <BR> Peace and joy to each of you, my friends! <BR> <BR> Hubby and I only have plans to drive down with our daughter to visit our son two hours away, on Christmas Day. So, we are not even bothering to put up th... Sat, 23 Dec 2017 10:26:57 EST Arrival Fallacy In the Bible, there are several prophets that did big things... then fell into a depression immediately afterwards. There is a term for that: post-achievement depression. It is also somewhat connected to the "arrival fallacy." The feeling that you should be glowing with joy once you finally earn or get what you worked so hard for, but instead there is an empty feeling. Almost a let-down. Connected to weight-loss, the thought of "I'll be happy when I reach ____ pounds/stone." But you get... Thu, 14 Dec 2017 17:09:22 EST Graduation (photo heavy) <img src=""> <BR> <img src=""> <BR> <img src=""> <BR> <img src=""> <BR> <BR> BA in Human Services and Counseling from Lindsey Wilson College. <BR> Today (the day after) I am in my ... Sun, 10 Dec 2017 12:09:55 EST So Close! I drove an hour to the college campus yesterday and spent 6 straight hours in the math-tutoring lab. I wasn’t very successful in getting my work done because each time I thought I knew how to do it (figuring compound interest under various circumstances) another tutor would come along and point out my mistakes. I did end up meeting a young man who is taking the exact same class as I am, and I was able to help him understand the assignment he was working on (which I had already finished.) We ... Thu, 30 Nov 2017 09:20:33 EST Thanksgiving Feast Today Today is when my family can get together for a Thanksgiving meal. (Except my son, who has to work.) <BR> <BR> I made a pumpkin cheesecake last night and have the turkey in brine. Today I'm making a ham (because we have that one person that won't eat turkey), dressing, gravy, sweet potato crunch, and sweet tea. My mom is bringing deviled eggs, corn, and baked beans, my dad is bringing cranberry sauce and apple cider, my sister is bringing pumpkin roll and mac-n-cheese, my daughter is bring... Sat, 25 Nov 2017 07:50:41 EST Little Triumphs My record for 'days without a pop' was 215 back in 2015. Today, I hit a new streak of 216 days! I plan to keep going. <BR> <BR> I've been drinking 8-12 cups of water every day since I started back to SP again in April of this year. (About the same time I had my last pop!) <BR> <BR> Yesterday, I drove an hour to the college campus to take advantage of the math tutoring center. When I showed them 3 major problems I missed, they confirmed what I suspected. I didn't miss them. Something is... Tue, 21 Nov 2017 13:15:50 EST Stress I'm tracking my food and walking daily. But the stress of my math class is taking a toll on my weight loss efforts. My legs seem to be shrinking, but my belly seems to be swelling. The scale has settled into a plateau, which is better than rising like I'm sure it would if I weren't being proactive. Is it cortisol? This instructor, my goodness, he is a high school principal teaching college math online (probably for extra money.) His class is highly disorganized (one week the homework wa... Sun, 19 Nov 2017 06:59:00 EST Kegel Update I know you’re dying to know. LOL! I tried out the KegelSmart today. It was strange at first, of course. It takes a AAA battery and went through about a 3 minute “workout.” The workout starts 30 seconds after turning it on. It is completely covered with silicone and hygienic. There was a “warmup” of small, short indications to squeeze and relax, I counted 10 times. Then it went into the routine of indicating to squeeze and release about the same space of breathing in and out naturally. Then i... Thu, 16 Nov 2017 16:45:08 EST KegelSmart I’m gonna be blunt (because my blog is set to private for only my female friends.) <BR> I’ve had it with stress incontinence and worrying about decreasing pelvic floor strength as I age. <BR> I can’t remember where my glasses are, much less to do my Kegels. I've heard the good things Pilates can do for this issue as well. But I do well to walk my 10,000 steps a day while trying to finish school. <BR> <BR> Enter (literally) the KegelSmart. <BR> <img src=" Tue, 14 Nov 2017 17:56:35 EST 200 Days Without any pop! (Soda, soda pop, whatever.) <BR> <BR> Yesterday marked the 200th day. My record is 215 days, back in 2015. I'm sure I will smash that. I don't crave it any longer. I drink two mugs of coffee in the morning, and drink water throughout the day. When I eat out and want something different, I'll have a half-cut tea (half unsweet, half sweet.) That's saying something, living in the! I'll have a bottle of wine once or twice a month, and the rare hot chocolate. ... Mon, 6 Nov 2017 10:08:14 EST Halloween Carnival I'm supposed to be doing my homework right now. <BR> But I am getting way behind on blog posts here! <BR> And this is mostly just an upload of pics to share with you. <BR> <BR> The school my mom went to is now a community center, the same one where I performed in a play recently. They have a few fund-raising events throughout the year. One is the Halloween Carnival, with games, costume contests, door prizes, cake walks, and an auction of donated items. <BR> <img src="http://photosaws.spar... Sat, 4 Nov 2017 10:07:57 EST 30 years We had our 30-year high school reunion this past weekend. I almost didn't go. Pjs and wine on the couch was much more appealing, but one classmate needed my support to go. So I went. And we all had a blast! <BR> <BR> I think most of us look great for pushing 50, don't you? <BR> <img src=""> <BR> <BR> Only 4 of us from our little grade school came to the high school reunion. Which was sad, because we were alw... Mon, 23 Oct 2017 10:56:34 EST Madam Mizelle <img src=""> <BR> <BR> Do you remember I told you I was going to be in a community play? It happened this past weekend. I played a fortune teller who talked to her stuffed cat and had a chicken for a pet. <BR> <BR> Here is an action shot. <BR> <img src=""> <BR> <BR> I made the book prop and the sign prop from the first picture. <BR>... Fri, 20 Oct 2017 12:14:54 EST Red Cross Recap Upon arriving in the Austin, TX airport, I found other volunteers. Two of them ended up being on the same team later and one ended up being my roommate! <BR> <img src=""> <BR> <BR> The staff shelter and my bed for the first two nights. Thanks to Great Hills Baptist Church in Austin! <BR> <img src=""> <img src="http://photosaws.sparkpe... Thu, 5 Oct 2017 10:57:54 EST I want to blog... ... but it would get awful long. I want to tell you about going to TX as a Red Cross volunteer. I'll leave you with one of my fav pics for now. Another volunteer brought in hula-hoops for the kids. I shocked the kids (and some of the volunteers) when I picked one up and started teaching the kiddos what few tricks I know. <BR> <img src=""> <BR> It's amazing how something as simple as hooping with the shelter kid... Thu, 28 Sep 2017 13:13:19 EST Still at It I will not give in to being fat. I've seen the lives of too many family members that have given up and ended up living in the gargantuan misery of morbid obesity and type-2 diabetes. I want to live longer, live more fully, and feel better about myself. <BR> <BR> I'm still going. Still here. I haven't dropped out of SP. Actually, I've been trying to stay away from the laptop more. <BR> <BR> Last week I finally got around to taking my measurements: neck, chest, waist, hips, arm, and thig... Fri, 11 Aug 2017 08:32:36 EST Another Pep Talk and a Personal Shock Here is another pep talk that I've bookmarked. <BR> How can we inspire ourselves to be self-motivated? This can apply to our SP journey. <BR> <link> </link> <BR> <BR> Cliff notes for the video... <BR> 3 questions: <BR> Can you do it? <BR> Will it work? <BR> Is it worth it? <BR> <BR> If you answer yes, then you feel competent. Do you feel competent on your SP journey? <BR> <BR> 4 "C" words that can fuel self-motivation: <BR> Competence (it helps to... Fri, 14 Jul 2017 12:16:58 EST Pep Talk? As part of my new, non-weightloss goals, I chose "give yourself a 5-minute pep talk" as a SP Fast Break Goal. This is harder than I thought! 5 minutes can be a long time to do anything you aren't used to! <BR> <BR> What I'm doing to help myself until I get my footing is finding motivational videos on YouTube and listening to those. Here is a good one that I found yesterday and want to share with you. It's more like 15 minutes because it's a TedTalk presentation, but she has some good poi... Wed, 12 Jul 2017 08:10:31 EST What Happened the Day I Stopped Dieting Yesterday, after I Sparked, I put my new life into motion. I accomplished something I knew should be done... finding some jugs to take to a neighbor's pond to get pond water to add to my fountain in hopes it will clear up. This was hard work, for the only jugs I could find were two in my freezer with ice frozen in them for our camping coolers. But I decided not to let anything stop me. I would melt the ice at the pond, which means I carried two gallon jugs of ice down the road over a half... Fri, 30 Jun 2017 09:52:57 EST Motivation and Vision Again, a SP article really spoke to me this morning. Sometimes we need to read something over and over until it truly "clicks." <BR> <BR> First, this quiz really focused my perspective and showed me my trouble spot when it comes to staying motivated. <BR> Become Your Own Best Motivator <BR> <link><BR>s_articles.asp?id=694 </link> <BR> <BR> That led to my reading the other articles in the Motivation series. <BR> Which led me to this gem... <BR> Write ... Thu, 29 Jun 2017 12:02:35 EST New Goals, NONE weight loss Ever had one of those days when a SP article really speaks to you? Then the other suggestions for articles play right into the same theme? Today was one of those days for me. Of all the articles, this one spoke the most motivation and change to me: <BR> <link><BR>st=5_goals_to_focus_on_instead_of_the_<BR>scale </link> <BR> <BR> I will be setting new goals today, and none of them will be to "lose ___ # of pounds." <BR> Then I will write them on paper... Wed, 28 Jun 2017 09:39:47 EST A Break-Up Not for me, but for daughter. It was her first committed relationship, so her first hard break-up. Plus, she has anxiety disorder with panic attacks and some depression so she is having a really hard time dealing with it despite working up to this point for over 6 months. It's hard to watch your child go through something like this and not be able to pull them out of what they simply have to go through. I can only offer support and advice. <BR> <BR> But as I do, I am hearing some of th... Mon, 19 Jun 2017 09:13:07 EST So Much Going On! For the past month and a half, Hubby's truck has been in the shop for transmission repair. This meant I have been "stuck" at home. And last week, I began to have terrible fatigue and pressure headaches that scared us a little. That was the bad... <BR> <BR> But the good is that I am now recovered from the fatigue a couple of days ago and the headaches are easing off. AND Hubby's truck was ready to pick up yesterday evening! I have my Jeep all to myself, sitting in the driveway should I w... Fri, 16 Jun 2017 10:24:36 EST Regular Reemergence Whilst pondering today on my hormonal depression (which is about 2 days each month during progesterone spikes) I waxed a bit poetic and wrote this analogy... which I leave here mostly for myself, but if you can use any part of it, you are invited to ponder it as well. <BR> <BR> Cycles happen in life. Sometimes vicious. Sometimes healing and restorative. <BR> <BR> And, too often, we fight the cycles that are natural... all our lives... unless we learn to recognize that they are the nature ... Wed, 7 Jun 2017 16:14:38 EST Off to the Falls! All week I've busted my tail. I set about making our deck and porch the best it can be with what we have around the farm. I moved all the winter's firewood off the porch to a spot down into the lower yard next to our burning spot for summer campfires. That involved moving about 20+ wheelbarrows full of wood and restacking it. I moved and stacked a section about 10-12 feet long and about 4 feet high. I had to take a breather between each load!!! That showed me that my walking around the ... Fri, 2 Jun 2017 09:40:34 EST Weekend Over I took it easy this weekend. I even took off my Fitbit for charging and didn't put it back on for part of a day. I also took the time to look back through my old blogs to see what worked for me in the past. There is Zumba and SP's walking program for a 5K. <BR> <em>354</em> <em>311</em> <BR> <BR> We didn't do a lot for the weekend. In our area, we observe "decoration day" during Memorial Day weekend. This is when it is traditional to put new flower arrangements on family headston... Tue, 30 May 2017 09:21:30 EST On the Case I'm gaining again instead of losing weight. And all the symptoms I mentioned in my last blog had me suspicious of hormones and too low of a calorie deficit. I've stumbled upon the most telling symptom of all... headaches. I thought it was due to drinking less coffee in the mornings, as it feels the same as a caffeine (or lack thereof) headache. But then I noticed the timing. Nearly every time I eat, no matter what I eat, I would develop a headache that really wasn't that noticeable unles... Sat, 27 May 2017 23:00:20 EST Something Ain't Right I've been feeling low-energy when I should be feeling energized. My limbs especially feel heavy. I am not sleeping well and need a nap during the day just to log up to 7 hours sleep. Last night I had to resort to a sleeping pill, which is an oddity for me. <BR> <em>273</em> <BR> I am suspicious that my calories are too low and I will bump the range up to 1400-1750. I've averaged 1,522 over the past six days. Or am I not getting some mineral/vitamin I need, like potassium or vitamin D... Fri, 26 May 2017 08:22:54 EST If Weight Didn't Exist... I have a backlog of Sparkpeople emails in a folder that I am going through each day I login now. I started out with over 900 and am down to the 600s. Haha! But I am glad I kept myself signed up for the emails since (a) I get points for the ones that have them and (b) there are some gems among the rocks. Like the one from last November that I came across this morning. <BR> <em>387</em> <BR> It asked the question, "If weight didn't exist, how would you measure your health?" <BR> <em>2... Thu, 25 May 2017 07:42:40 EST NSV Yesterday, I put on a shirt that had been too tight in the belly before now. It was more comfortable than before. My belly is starting to decrease! Yay! I could see it was so in the mirror. And I'm starting not to hate the mirror so much. <BR> <em>202</em> <BR> When I walked yesterday, I would change up which muscle group I would concentrate on with each new song on my playlist. Swing the arms to feel it in the shoulders, twist a little more to feel it in the waist, tighten the glut... Wed, 24 May 2017 08:47:33 EST updates Updates from yesterday's blog: <BR> I did email my advisor. She has not written back yet. <BR> <em>387</em> <BR> Hubby got the news that his truck may not be fixable. We plan to go pick it up this evening. I'm sure Hubby will tear into it to see if he can figure it out for himself before giving up. It wouldn't surprise me if he can fix it after the mechanic failed. If he can't, we'll have to go into debt for another vehicle. <BR> <em>343</em> <BR> I had not considered part-time w... Tue, 23 May 2017 10:00:07 EST Figured It Out So, I mentioned before I've been struggling with a mood lately. Couldn't put my finger on why exactly. That's because, deep down, I guess I knew why but hated to admit it. So here is what I've realized and what I need to do about it. <BR> <BR> I have finished the semester. What next? Not having my next classes lined up yet leaves me feeling like I could possibly "miss the boat." In fact, checking on the final two classes I need to graduate showed that one of them is not being offered o... Mon, 22 May 2017 09:35:51 EST Water is Life I've been getting in about 12 or more cups of water a day lately. Last night, I got about 10 (which is still meeting my goal.) Yet, this morning I woke up with dry eyes! I have noticed that since I went from 8 cups/day to 10+ (usually 12) that my skin is starting to lose the dryness it had developed over the winter months. I plan to bump my goal up to 12 in June. Water is so good for me! 8 cups just isn't enough. <BR> <em>91</em> <BR> <BR> On a side note, I found the Carolina Wren'... Sun, 21 May 2017 09:07:24 EST Soda Streak Today marks 30 days without any pop (soda.) <BR> I also lost 2 pounds. That is 3 down this month. 17 to go this year. <BR> Not sure what I'll get into on this Saturday. There are lots of places we could go, but I'm in the mood to declutter or myself. Introvert day? Daughter visited yesterday and plans to visit all day tomorrow, so maybe that is why. It was a good visit, but I'm not used to having company, even family. There are marigolds to plant in the tomato bed and tha... Sat, 20 May 2017 10:16:50 EST Daily Walking <img src=""> <BR> <BR> I am now in such a habit of walking around the house, that I am starting to see results. I looked down at my belly this morning and can see that little dent that starts to form between the lowest ribs at the top of my too-big belly. Later, I saw my legs (wearing shorts today) and had to do a double-take. Something is definitely beginning to happen. <BR> <BR> I am now in such a habit of d... Fri, 19 May 2017 13:52:07 EST Why Not Me? Will I ever NOT struggle with self-love? This translates to my struggle with self-care, including eating healthy instead of putting junk in the tank. I have to constantly remind myself, it isn't a matter of "deserving" to be healthy. I don't have to earn the right. What ever gave me that idea; that I have to earn the right to be happy, be treated well (by me), and be healthy? <BR> <BR> If I can't get over that, then I will at least ask myself this question in the meantime: <BR> Why not m... Thu, 18 May 2017 10:24:32 EST WHY in 2017 On Saturday, I had a brief moment when I actually felt "free" for the summer. Summer break began in that moment as we rode on the ATV, wind in my hair, sun shining down. I keep having to revisit that feeling to remind myself that I really do have a season ahead of me to work on ME. I'm old enough to realize how short a season actually is. Spark lit. <BR> <BR> And I realized that I need to get more serious about losing at least 20 pounds this year (with 40+ lbs. overall) because that will... Tue, 16 May 2017 07:19:18 EST I Rocked Wednesday Here's how I did yesterday while at home: <BR> <em>411</em> May goals: <BR> <em>248</em> 13,468 steps <em>545</em> Mon-Sat 10,000 steps per day, Sunday get 5,000 <BR> <em>248</em> 93 minutes <em>311</em> Mon-Sat 30 minutes or more of active time, Sunday 15 minutes <BR> <em>248</em> 1,508 calories <em>4</em> Daily eat less than 1800 calories <BR> <em>248</em> <em>593</em> Track daily nutrition <BR> <em>248</em> 13 cups <em>91</em> Daily drink 10 cups of water <BR> ... Thu, 11 May 2017 14:51:39 EST A Day at Dad's Yesterday, I woke up at 3:30 a.m. (for no good reason) and gave up on going back to sleep at 4. I checked my emails, FB, and Sparked, then made coffee and got ready to go to my dad's. He had forgotten I was coming! But it turned into a good day. Even though I did NOT stay active (because then he would be tempted to do too much as well), I did cook us some healthy foods and tracked everything. I withstood the temptation to have a pop or beer; both called my name though. I did some basic ... Wed, 10 May 2017 12:14:33 EST Goal Tracking Here is how I did on my goals for Sunday and Monday (today being Tuesday at 4ish in the morning.) <BR> <BR> <em>248</em> <em>545</em> Mon-Sat 10,000 steps per day, Sunday get 5,000: Sunday - 5,149; Monday - 10,550 <BR> <em>248</em> <em>311</em> Mon-Sat 30 minutes or more of active time, Sunday 15 minutes: Sunday - 17 minutes, Monday - 80 minutes <BR> <em>4</em> Daily eat less than 1800 calories: Sunday - 2,118 OOPS!; Monday - 1848 <BR> <em>248</em> <em>593</em> Track daily ... Tue, 9 May 2017 05:16:48 EST May Goals Here we are, starting the second week of May, and I am just now setting concrete goals for the month. Thankfully, I have been working towards them for the past week already. Just making it official and myself accountable here. <BR> <BR> <em>411</em> May goals: <BR> <em>545</em> Mon-Sat 10,000 steps per day, Sunday get 5,000 <BR> <em>311</em> Mon-Sat 30 minutes or more of active time, Sunday 15 minutes <BR> <em>4</em> Daily eat less than 1800 calories <BR> <em>593</em> Track ... Sun, 7 May 2017 12:53:08 EST Coping with the Unexpected I have been on a roll. I decided to take it easy on Wednesday, due to having a mild virus. My thinking was that I could make up for it on Thursday and Friday. Thursday morning, I fixed oatmeal with blueberries but got a phone call from my Hubby before I could eat. My dad needed help getting into car because his back hurt so badly that he was literally crawling instead of walking. Hubby took off work (because I didn't have a vehicle at home) and he headed to help then came to get me so we... Sat, 6 May 2017 12:20:07 EST Saturday Projects I am behind on blogging, so I will start with what I promised you. Here is a bit of what I did last Saturday... <BR> <BR> In preparation for my flower stand, I bought some Wave Petunias. <BR> Before.... <BR> <img src=""> <BR> <BR> After... <BR> <img src=""> <BR> <BR> Before... <BR> <img src=" Wed, 3 May 2017 09:58:59 EST MHR Education Saturday, I worked outside all day. I will try to post photos of that tomorrow. <BR> So, TODAY was all about getting homework done. And resting my body. I had procrastinated long enough. <BR> I found this tidbit interesting as I was reading in my textbook. Thought I'd share! <BR> <BR> <img src=""> <BR> Wood, J. (2015). Gendered Lives: Communication, Gender, & Culture (11th ed.). Cengage Learning: Stamford, CT... Sun, 30 Apr 2017 18:34:52 EST