JOHNTJ1's SparkPeople Blog JOHNTJ1's Blog on SparkPeople, home of free diet plans and a healthy living community The Solution is Simple “What would you do if someone did that to me?” my daughter asked across the dinner table last night. <BR> <BR> “The emotional part of me would go find him and shoot him,” I said. “But then his troubles would be over and mine would be just beginning.” <BR> <BR> We were discussing the topic du jour, the video of Baltimore Ravens running back Ray Rice knocking his wife unconscious in an elevator recently and how the NFL “didn’t realize it was that serious until they saw the video.” Minimizing... Tue, 9 Sep 2014 08:58:42 EST The Beauty of Deadlines I don't care for them. I never have. I like roaming the wide open spaces and letting things happen as they happen. Throwing caution to the wind and all that stuff. But, I'd been fooling with the project I recently completed for close to 3 years and this little voice kept following me around telling me to finish it.Maybe nagging me would be a better choice of words? It wasn't that I'd lacked motivation or inspiration. Maybe, it was a deficit of perspiration? <BR> <BR> I have a friend who mak... Mon, 8 Sep 2014 11:56:19 EST Project Completed Many of you are aware that I've been MIA here at Spark for the past two weeks or so. I've been working on a project that's been one of those elusive priorities of mine for some time and I am pleased to announce that the project is complete. Once I set myself a deadline and made that deadline a public one, it pushed me towards getting finished. <BR> <BR> Well, we crossed our finish line around 6PM last night. I cant tell you the deep sense of satisfaction I felt when I was able to look at wh... Sat, 6 Sep 2014 08:35:09 EST Who's Number 1? I was looking through some of my old notebooks the other day and I ran across something someone told me a few years ago. They said that no matter what type of work you did, the most important aspect of your life was that you have to be your number one client. <BR> <BR> <img src=""> <BR> <BR> I guess that sounded nice at the time because I wrote it down and forgot about it until now. <BR> <BR> I guess the world sees it as being elfish... Fri, 29 Aug 2014 06:56:19 EST "Where Have You Been" Busy, lol, which has been a good thing and a bad thing. <BR> <BR> My mothers condition continues to worsen. Her Alzheimer's is following a natural progression. The medication she was on caused her severe lower intestinal problems plus a severe skin rash, so it was removed about 3 months ago. During that time she has tried to get out of her bed and her wheel chair unassisted and fallen on the floor. They now have her on more monitors then they have at the Pentagon. Her doctor is trying a med... Wed, 27 Aug 2014 21:15:30 EST Sometimes I Think This is all I Need on My Bulletin Board <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> <img src=""> <BR> <BR> <BR> Thats a heck of a challenge, dont you think? Thu, 21 Aug 2014 08:22:30 EST Anything You Set Your Mind Too This blog is part insight and part bragging. <BR> <BR> Grandfathers have a right to do those sorts of things. <BR> <BR> My 9 year old grand daughter was accepted into the youth choral group in the city she lives in. It's one of those deals where her mom got a call yesterday that said: "We have an opening. If she wants an audition she needs to be here at such-and-such a time. Her and 12 other children. <BR> <BR> My son called last night to tell us she was accepted. I was a it puzzled. I ... Wed, 20 Aug 2014 07:41:51 EST I Lost Track of the Day's.......... Perception I'm not going to number my blogs anymore. Once you get passed 5 or 6 you start losing track of the days............ <BR> <BR> <img src=""> <BR> <BR> Whats your first reaction to this picture? <BR> <BR> It's interesting that over 70% percent of the people who saw this photo initial reaction was a negative one - mine included. Maybe it was an illness or injury or death. A severe economic disaster? The hands are folded and the fingers poi... Wed, 13 Aug 2014 09:37:43 EST Easy Peasey Lemon Squeezey If it were that easy. <BR> <BR> Being healthy is hard work, especially in a day and time where it seems every thing you try to put in your mouth is processed, full of refined sugar or contains all sorts of chemicals that might give a world class spelling bee champion fits. <BR> <BR> I didn't even know what gluten was until a few years ago. <BR> <BR> Do you run, or walk or swim. do you lift weights or not? <BR> <BR> What about shoes? <BR> <BR> <img src="http://photos-ak.sparkpeople.c... Mon, 11 Aug 2014 09:53:35 EST Day 19 Have a great one!!!! <BR> <BR> <img src=""> Sun, 10 Aug 2014 09:11:04 EST Days 14 through 18: Not Sure Where the Time Went When I rolled over in bed this morning I asked Joan if it was Saturday. That's the kind of week it's been. Oh, dont get me wrong, there were no calamities or dire decisions to make. In a sense I almost wish there had been. It would have made it much easier to rationalize. It was simply a challenging week, <BR> <BR> (If you look in the dictionary under the word "life" I think that's how my week has been defined. ) <BR> <BR> For sure it's a journey and someday's that journey is much easier ... Sat, 9 Aug 2014 07:44:49 EST Day 13 Hot Fun in the Summertime We've had a busy summer and 2 of the main things on my to-do list have been my annual reorganization of the garage and storage shed. Joan refers to this as me pulling a garbage tote over and randomly throwing things away. So yesterday, after Mass, we agreed to a detente of sorts - We cleaned together. This was an exercise in teamwork, conflict resolution and recognition. The recognition portion of our activity is me watching for the tell-tale signs of Joan's growing frustration with my logic.... Mon, 4 Aug 2014 08:07:18 EST Days 11 and 12: Catching Up Didn't log into Spark yesterday except to track my food so I'll try to give you two days at once, lol. <BR> <BR> I did light house work on Friday in between appointments and phone calls. It helped my back tremendously. I really feel your prayers and support and it's part of the reason I believe in the Law of Attraction so strongly. <BR> <BR> Two weeks ago I shared that my business was down and it had me worried. since then the opportunities coming my way have been simply overwhelming. Now... Sun, 3 Aug 2014 09:24:03 EST Day 10.1 Clarifications Thanks for all the support and suggestions. Let me clarify something: <BR> <BR> I am not become instantly sedentary. I am moving around, walking, etc. What I am not doing is any aerobics. <BR> <BR> In my mind there is a huge difference between tweaks, twinges and soreness and pain. My pain last night and early this morning actually produced nausea. So I spent the day being active but when I'd move wrong and the pain would coarse through my back and legs I made sure I was near a chair. <BR... Thu, 31 Jul 2014 20:53:37 EST Day 10: Dealing With .......... Well Dealing With Life I'm a routine kinda guy. I am at my best and feel most comfortable and secure when I can see the landscape ahead of me. One of my mentors posted a question on Facebook: If you could be any animal what would you be? <BR> <BR> A giraffe. <BR> <BR> Giraffe's can see everything from way up there. It's why they look so serene when they are munching on those leaves. It's like they are saying "I got this." That's me, a giraffe <BR> <BR> <img src=" Thu, 31 Jul 2014 08:21:53 EST Day 9: Unwrapping & Uncovering I don't like asking for help. It makes me feel weak. When someone asked me what my formula for a successful 40 year marriage was I put it to them this way" <BR> <BR> "I've spent 40 years walking around in the basement muttering "shoot," walking around a bit more and muttering "shoot" again. Joan spent 40 years standing at the foot of the stairs asking "What can I do to help?" My answer usually has something to do with re positioning space and time. <BR> <BR> Where am I going with this? My ... Wed, 30 Jul 2014 10:08:24 EST Day 8: Sustaining There is always that tiny bit of let down. You focus on laying a good foundation and you work towards an initial goal and you attain it - In some cases even surpass that goal. <BR> <BR> Then you realize you have to begin again. <BR> <BR> You do the happy dance for a moment or two and then its back to basics. <BR> <BR> I know............ it's why diet's don't work. <BR> <BR> My goal was to lose 3 pounds last week. I thought that to be a realistic goal. I lost 5 pounds and yes there is ... Tue, 29 Jul 2014 09:09:45 EST Day 7 Challenges <img src=""> <BR> <BR> I looked forward to yesterday with a bittersweet attitude. Our oldest grand child turned 9 and we went to her pool party - a Harry Potter theme. Just between us, she has been around the longest and she has a special place in my heart. So the 4 hours in the car yesterday were just a minor annoyance. (That's why God made Ibuprofen.) <BR> <BR> I almost didnt go. See, I knew that as soon as we got there someone would... Mon, 28 Jul 2014 08:07:52 EST Day 6: It's Getting a Bit Easier <img src=""> <BR> <BR> <BR> I had a good day yesterday, busy but good. <BR> <BR> I stayed within my calorie limits and my challenge today is venturing out of my rabbit hole and attending DGD's birthday party. She will be 9 on Wednesday. <BR> <BR> It's getting a bit easier to cope with my renewed routine. It's good to share my thoughts, fears and dilemma's. It helps me to work through them when I type them and look at them on paper... Sun, 27 Jul 2014 09:39:35 EST Day 5: Choices & The Voice In My Head Before I share my thoughts on yesterday let me clarify something I wrote yesterday. <BR> <BR> I referenced the fact that "one more salad would engage my gag reflex." Someone pointed out that I'm acting like I am on a diet. <BR> <BR> Okay, two things. I would have used the same reference if we had been given the option of only eating my all time favorite food, which BTW is just about everything that isn't good for you. My choices for the first 3 days of this past week were severely limite... Sat, 26 Jul 2014 14:18:06 EST Day 5: Choosing To Stumble Rather Than Fall This whole week has been odd. Circumstances dictated that I was eating lunch in public the past 4 days. I wasn't able to pack a lunch and I did really well the first 3 days, choosing salads and water so I could keep my balance. <BR> <BR> Yesterday proved to be different. Not only was I eating lunch outside my home but dinner as well. I thought I'd be okay. While salads were almost making my gag reflex engage I could always eat another one and tackle dinner when dinner arrived. <BR> <BR> W... Fri, 25 Jul 2014 13:00:47 EST Day 4: Notes From Day 3 Wednesday Morning 8:00 AM <BR> I didn’t want to go to the gym today. When I got out of bed everything hurt. Maybe today would be a good day to just rest. I didn’t. Somehow I put myself into the car and pointed it toward the gym. After 45 minutes of various cardio exercise I was glad I came. I felt balanced and relaxed…………….. <BR> <BR> Wednesday Morning 10:30 AM <BR> 2014 hasn’t been the best business year. I made it through the recession relatively unscathed but in the past 14 months or so... Thu, 24 Jul 2014 08:15:15 EST Day 3: The Chair & Reality I do a lot of my work from my office. I spend time writing and filming webinars, Google+ Hangouts and things like that. But yesterday I ventured out to a seminar on radio marketing. A regional radio group is interested in doing some limited brand marketing with me and I was invited to an open house with a presentation on the values of radio and social media marketing. Remember I said it’s been awhile since I’d ventured into that public arena. The cool thing about my work is that I can interac... Wed, 23 Jul 2014 08:15:57 EST Day 2: It Doesnt Get Easier Does It? <img src=""> <BR> <BR> I often resent having to deny myself. Every time I start over here at Spark there is a small degree of personal resentment. Sometimes I feel like my choices are being removed from me and I often feel the pressure, the strain and I resent it. <BR> <BR> It's the old "You cant have this." There is a wall or partition between me and everyone else. <BR> <BR> I kept track of when I wanted to eat emotionally yesterday... Tue, 22 Jul 2014 08:24:50 EST Turning A Page......... Starting Over Day 1 There is a line in a song that goes something like "And every time you fall it's only making your chin strong." I should be able to lift a building with mine. <BR> <BR> I quit drinking soda, mostly Diet Cokes roughly two months ago. In that time I have gained 16 pounds, which meant I went from being really obese to being really, really obese. I replaced one poison with another. I know it's my choice but as the scale inched upwards I became more full of despair. It was one of those "Sigh, wh... Mon, 21 Jul 2014 09:47:06 EST My Walk On Water "Walking on water is at times used as an example of an impossible task. The phrase is widely used to refer to the performance of extraordinary tasks, as in the titles of books that aim to show individuals how to break through their personal limitations and achieve dramatic success." Claire Sumerhill <BR> <BR> That is as good of a definition as I've found anywhere to describe it. It's my web address, and people ask me why that title? (No this isn't an attempt to sell you anything so those of... Tue, 15 Jul 2014 09:30:37 EST This One Had Me Scratching My Head The gym I belong to has exercise based competition's and they award prizes based on achievement. This year we are doing the The Summer Olympics. Gold level is 300 minutes a week, Silver is 200 minutes a week and Bronze 100 minutes a week. The more you work out the nicer prize you are eligible for and other than having to check in with your membership card the tracking is on the honor system. <BR> <BR> The problem I have with the whole thing is that every time we have a competition a gym emp... Mon, 14 Jul 2014 20:57:05 EST Addictions First and foremost thank you to everyone who responded to my blog from last week or as I call it "my meltdown." I appreciate the love and support, the comments, the Goodies and reassurances. <BR> <BR> 8 weeks ago I quit drinking carbonated beverages of any type. There are a lot of similarities between this and when I removed tobacco products approximately 9 years ago. <BR> <BR> In a word it has been horrible. (Well that is more than one word.) <BR> <BR> I am fine for days even a week or ... Mon, 14 Jul 2014 09:09:32 EST Digging Deep I am frustrated. Frustrated and feeling beat down. <BR> I weigh more than I've ever weighed in my life, even more than when I joined Spark almost 5 years ago. It's embarrassing, humiliating and frustrating. My self-image is the toilet. It's as if I'm starting all over again, plus!!!! <BR> <BR> I don't want to. I want to sit here and blame the entire world for me being morbidly obese. <BR> <BR> I've tried to write this blog for 2 weeks and couldn't figure out what to say or how to say wit... Mon, 7 Jul 2014 16:52:09 EST Choices Joan used to do the book keeping for a family owned store. They hired her away from another company paid her a great salary and gave her benefits plus a pension and a 401K. About 2 years after she began working for them two of our kids were diagnosed with ADD. We spent a boat load of money with evaluations, psychologists, educators, etc to make sure. ADD can often be a dismissive diagnosis. Kid acts out, give kid pill, everyone is happy. Matt and Maggie were both struggling to keep up in scho... Tue, 1 Jul 2014 09:32:01 EST It's Not What You Say.......... The story goes that two men were walking to church, deep in a discussion. The first man said, "I wonder if it's okay to smoke while you pray?" The second man said he didn't know and suggested the first man ask the preacher. <BR> <BR> The preacher looked the man in the eyes and said "Absolutely not!!! It's an abomination to God. How disrespectful to light a cigarette while you are praying....." <BR> <BR> The second man thought a moment and asked "Preacher, can I pray while I'm smoking." Th... Sun, 29 Jun 2014 10:39:36 EST Pruning Our Lives About half way home from Charleston on Sunday I remembered that I'd forgotten to ask Julia to water my tomato plants when she came to feed the dogs. After we unpacked I went in the back yard and surveyed the damage. Thank goodness there is no agency for tomato abuse or I'd be cooling my heals in a jail cell somewhere. Wilted would be using a polite word. The temperature had hovered around 90F all the time we were gone so I broke out the hose and soaked them for about an hour hoping they woul... Fri, 27 Jun 2014 10:14:35 EST 7 Steps For Success I was cleaning out a file folder yesterday and found these. I'm not sure who wrote them but I must of thought they were valuable enough to hide so good that even I couldn't locate them. <BR> <BR> 7 Steps For Success <BR> <BR> Take 100% responsibility for your life <BR> <BR> Be clear why you are here <BR> <BR> Decide what you want <BR> <BR> Believe it is possible <BR> <BR> Believe in yourself <BR> <BR> Expect the best <BR> <BR> Commit to setting goals <BR> <BR> It struck me that most... Thu, 26 Jun 2014 08:22:01 EST Sense of Humor Required We've lived across the street from a small college for 17 years. I have to tell you that the students who live on campus are great people. They are good neighbors in every sense of the word. While school is over for most, many stay on campus for summer classes. They usually take their morning run through our neighborhood. <BR> <BR> This morning I was up early to vacuum out the rental van we took to South Carolina for our sons wedding, when a young lady, about 20 or so, jogged by. She holler... Mon, 23 Jun 2014 20:34:35 EST A Few Wedding Photo's While I have a few minutes I thought I'd share a couple photos from my son Johns wedding earlier this afternoon <BR> <BR> <img src=""> <BR> <BR> The bride and groom + Joan and I <BR> <BR> <img src=""> <BR> <BR> A tender moment between Joan and I <BR> <BR> <img src=""> <BR> <BR> Me and Joan <BR> <BR> More to follow <BR> <B... Sat, 21 Jun 2014 16:54:30 EST The Best Moments of Our Lives Joan is in the lobby visiting with her brother and two sisters. It's been a whirlwind here in Charleston. Our oldest son is getting married this afternoon at 2 PM and if you've ever been involved with planning a wedding, even if it's been ever so slightly, you know it taxing, draining and you don't stop to smell the roses. Oh, we all put on that happy face, but deep down inside, we are counting the hours till you are in the car or at the airport and on your way home. You need a vacation to re... Sat, 21 Jun 2014 10:57:18 EST Fathers Day Thoughts Shortly after my dad died in 2012 my sister gave me two of his high school year books, from 1940 and 1941. I wasn't surprised to see how active my dad was during his high school years. He served as a basketball team manager, (They called them water boys back then.) he was a class officer, member of the stage crew and radio broadcasting club. He enjoyed math and science. <BR> <BR> I always wondered why he didn't pursue some of those activities when he left school and he was reluctant to talk... Sun, 15 Jun 2014 12:06:52 EST Pray For Me........... I know what you're thinking. We all do - 'Something is amiss!" It may be illness, a crisis, we can all fill in the blank with our own conclusions. <BR> <BR> Let me reassure you. I'm okay and as far as I know so is everyone I know. But laying in bed last night, reviewing my day and thanking God for YOU, it dawned on me that prayer and its benefits seem to be reserved for dire needs or thanksgiving for favors received. <BR> <BR> My prayer for you is a simple one (I have over 1,500 friends he... Thu, 12 Jun 2014 08:15:06 EST The Power of Humor We talk a lot about having fun, enjoying life and all that other neat stuff and then live the exact opposite. <BR> <BR> So here are a few things that may put a smile on your face and maybe, just maybe laugh a bit. The worst it will do is brighten your day. They are my favorites <BR> <BR> <img src=""> <BR> <BR> <BR> <img src=""> <BR> <BR> <img src="http://photos-ak.sparkpeople... Wed, 11 Jun 2014 12:03:28 EST You Never Know........... I’m always very respectful of the people who knock on my door trying to save my soul. I let them know how courageous I believe they are to walk up to a complete stranger and run the risk of being blasted or at the very least rejected. I know too how strongly I feel about my own beliefs and as long as they are cool with me I am cool with them. A few very well manored young people from the church across the street offered to cut my lawn yesterday if I’d sit on the front porch and pray with them... Fri, 6 Jun 2014 09:33:37 EST Won't You Be My Neighbor? My children grew up part of the PBS generation. That included Mr Rogers Neighborhood. Fred Rogers had an amazing way of lowering your blood pressure, causing your shoulders to relax and put a smile on your face. <BR> <BR> I'd walk in the door after a long day. The kids usually had Joan tied to a chair, figuratively, not literally, pandemonium reigned supreme and then from that square box with the antenna on top of it came that familiar introduction. <BR> <BR> I'd sit down, relax and allo... Thu, 5 Jun 2014 08:48:24 EST Blessings "We pray for blessings, we pray for peace <BR> Comfort for family, protection while we sleep <BR> We pray for healing, for prosperity <BR> We pray for Your mighty hand to ease our suffering." <BR> <BR> In May of 2011, at the height of my journey towards a healthier me, I sustained a severe back injury. I'd lost 75 pounds, had run in three 5K races - all at the age of 57. I'd done things I'd never done before and in the literal blink of an eye I found myself on the pavement of a parking lot ... Mon, 2 Jun 2014 10:16:40 EST Courage I really needed to read this today. It hit home <BR> <BR> <img src=""> Thu, 29 May 2014 06:31:29 EST A Public Service Announcement <img src=""> Thu, 22 May 2014 21:21:49 EST On Being Aware A short reminder, mostly to myself, on how what we see, say and feel can have a great influence Thu, 22 May 2014 12:50:37 EST Our Precious Right Many states in the USA are holding primaries today. Candidates will be selected for the fall elections. I published this on FB earlier and I thought I'd share it with you. <BR> <BR> I hear a lot of people talking about their “rights;” either the rights they have or the rights they perceive have been taken from them. I hear a lot of talk about the one percent and about how they make my life and yours a mess. I hear about the Affordable Health Care Act and how it’s either a blessing or a boon... Tue, 20 May 2014 16:50:33 EST If You Are Afraid of Nothing, Skip This Blog (Be Blessed Today) There are times in life that I believe we are all marathon runners. Try as we might we cant seem to out run our fears. If we poured our favorite beverage,sat on the deck, held hands and supported each other I'm sure we'd find we are all afraid of something. <BR> <BR> There are things that haunt us. <BR> <BR> Maybe it's a past transgression, a slight, a mistake or maybe there are days we simply look at the sum total of our lives and we see ourselves coming up short. We think late at night ... Mon, 19 May 2014 08:17:56 EST The Latest Isn't Necessarily the Greatest I found it nestled in the bottom of my night stand. I thought I'd thrown it away years ago - Something about the batteries corroding inside of it one time. Yet there it was, waiting patiently for me to move a few other relics and find it. <BR> <BR> <img src=""> <BR> <BR> If you don't recognize it I'll explain. It's a Walkman - The great grandfather of all digital music. You would pop in a cassette tape and take your walk, or jog, or run... Sun, 18 May 2014 09:33:52 EST The Risk & The Reward I woke up excited this morning, all bright eyed and ready to go. Today is a big day for me. I'm going to be involved in something new that has the potential to reach a lot of people and it has a super message. If you want to know more, shoot me a Spark Mail and I'll share with you. I got dressed and headed for the gym, had a nice workout, not drenched in sweat but that comfortable perspiration that comes from working your muscles. <BR> <BR> The sun was just coming out when I walked out the... Thu, 15 May 2014 08:10:21 EST The Hidden Cost I had to run to the grocery this morning for zip lock bags. Naturally they were at the back of the store so I had an opportunity to look at everything that was on sale as I worked my way towards them. What I noticed was that all the items on sale had little to no nutritional value to them. Cookies, candy, donuts, frozen treats - all either buy-one-get-one or 10 to 30 percent off. None of it was tucked away so that you'd need a map to find it. They were out there in the open, beckoning like an... Wed, 14 May 2014 14:13:42 EST