GRANDMABABA's SparkPeople Blog GRANDMABABA's Blog on SparkPeople, home of free diet plans and a healthy living community DH Retired! My husband retired five days ago. Today was out first day without house guests. It will take time to figure out our new life, but we are so excited. I will be out of town next week. Soon after I return, he will go out of town with our daughter and grandsons for a week while I take care of our local granddaughter. Then the next week we take all of our family on an Alaskan cruise. After that, I think retirement will really start to seem real. I'm so glad he decided to take this step. Th... Wed, 5 Jul 2017 19:05:54 EST Hot! Summer heat has hit. So, walking less outdoors and doing more inside these days. Have to wear a heart monitor for 30 days (on day 6) so wearing looser clothing to conceal wires, battery and screen. Will remove to fly a few times and for my husband's retirement next week so I can wear a dress. Still, there should be plenty of info for cardiologist. Already did EKG and ECG and will have PET scan after monitor finishes. So, finding inside ways to stress this body a bit to get some things t... Tue, 20 Jun 2017 13:13:11 EST Changing gears... My husband is retiring in about three weeks. We are so looking forward to doing even more together as time goes on. Our kids and their kids will be at the celebration. I'm surprising him with cruise for all of us to Alaska in August. Hoping to keep it to about $35,000 for 11 of us. The cabins are booked and paid for - all 4 with balconies, the shore excursions are also booked and paid for. Still have to book flights for most of us and will do that soon. <BR> Beyond this trek, I have t... Mon, 5 Jun 2017 16:46:05 EST At goal doesn't mean not paying attention! I don't track every bite every day anymore, but I do track. I don't obsess over steps, but I continue to walk far beyond the 10,000 steps each day wearing my fitbit. I don't watch carbs particularly, but I just enjoy all the seasonal fruits and veggies along with whole grains that I love. I don't work out excessively, but I enjoy my trips to the gym or just some exercise at home as I would love to keep improving my tone. I don't watch what I drink as I drink mostly water with a cup of cof... Tue, 30 May 2017 14:24:57 EST Next stop...cardiologist! I've complained of dizziness and blacking out since I was a kid. Was told I had a little murmur and to not worry. I thought all my falling down had to do with lack of coordination, but now I really wonder. Recent tests show that murmur and another one and an enlarged heart and other issues. The dizzy times and light headedness have increased a lot and so have the falls. I blamed multiple sclerosis and am a bit upset that my internal medicine doctor didn't have this checked years ago. So... Wed, 24 May 2017 18:58:49 EST DH is retiring... My husband is retiring the end of June. I'm so excited for him and for us. I hope to surprise him with a cruise that includes our kids and grandkids, but may not be able to coordinate in time. We'll see. Just as he retires I begin a very involved year planning for a convention for one organization and being president of another large organization. It will be interesting to see how we work out all of this and still get to do the things he is looking forward to. <BR> <em>30</em> <em... Tue, 9 May 2017 14:30:14 EST Another Grandson Event to Cheer! Last evening I got to attend a middle school scholar awards banquet honoring my oldest grandson. It was a semi-formal event. It was fun to see the 11 honorees so dressed up. My daughter invited me in her husband's place as he had to work. Each table had one of the students, his two guests, the teacher who would introduce his qualifications and a few district dignitaries. It's always such a blessing to watch those kids excel and to be a part of their lives as they dream their big dreams. ... Wed, 3 May 2017 17:31:41 EST Walk, walk, walk and walk some more! Did a 3 mile MS walk Saturday followed by a few more miles getting from place to place at other activities. My favorite walk was with my second grandson, age 12, who insisted on walking me to my car after his brother's water polo game. I'd parked about a half mile away. We had such a nice visit on our way. I feel so blessed to have grandkids who actually figure out extra reasons to spend time with me. What a gift! <BR> <em>311</em> <em>311</em> <em>311</em> <em>381</em> <em... Mon, 1 May 2017 16:32:24 EST Reminding myself... I find great encouragement in reminding myself how far I've come. Remembering challenges and triumphs help me to want to continue working towards the healthiest me that I can be. I may be in maintenance, but there are always goals. I'm getting stronger, more toned, trying new foods, encouraging others, etc. With one eye on the scale I feel great freedom to try new things in my life. I celebrate what works and put those that don't up on a shelf to maybe try again another time. I trash th... Mon, 24 Apr 2017 16:17:05 EST Cool, but great day to walk My husband and I cheered our daughter on to her marathon victory (won her age division) today. I took her special water to her at two locations on the course and my husband went to a third location. Because the finish was only a mile from our home, I was able to go in one direction to meet her at the 5 mile mark and go in the opposite direction to meet her at the finish. My husband met her at mile 16. It was so much fun to be able to support her in this way. She is an encouragement to ... Sat, 22 Apr 2017 16:31:17 EST Gotta Stay on track despite a couple added challenges! Too much salt and not enough water led to a couple extra pounds. I know they will stop away, but I do frustrate myself when I know better. But, got news that my heart is not behaving and also I have a nerve in my leg that is misbehaving. So have work-up with internist on 5/4 and MRI on leg on 5/1 - previous tests on leg included x-rays and ultrasound. These issues are causing some unwanted stress. The next few weeks will be interesting. <BR> <em>24</em> <em>198</em> <em>521</em... Thu, 20 Apr 2017 22:05:10 EST We are worth it We are worth every healthy choice we make. When I make a choice that is not good for my body, my mind or my spirit I always deal with at least a little bit of regret. Each time I weigh the choice I am about to make I remind myself that I am worth far more than any bad choice I might yet make. More often than not this reminder is enough to encourage me to make the better choice. I have but one body, mind and spirit and I can choose to make it the healthiest I can possibly make it for this ... Wed, 19 Apr 2017 16:55:34 EST Another Beginning Now that I'm healing from surgery to repair my shattered right wrist I am ready to begin weight training again as well as increase cardio. I am eager to add muscle back that I know I've lost over the last few months. Illness and injury can really wreak havoc with our bodies. Wishing everyone a strong and healthy day!!! <BR> <em>311</em> <em>362</em> <em>318</em> <em>213</em> Tue, 18 Apr 2017 12:35:36 EST Just for today... I'm learning maintenance and one thing that works for me is to not look too far ahead. I hold myself accountable just for today for nutrition, exercise, sleep, fun. But, one longer term challenge is when I know I will be off plan for a bit for vacation, guests, etc. For those planned times I work to get in extra exercise and reduce calories to lose a bit ahead of time. That way I can enjoy my play time without having to pay for it after. Also, it reminds me how hard I've worked to reduce... Mon, 17 Apr 2017 13:59:11 EST Grandkids + Our son and family were here the last four days. We got together with our local daughter and her family as much as possible. Her one and his two little girls had so much fun. We are taking her one with us when we meet up with his family in Orlando next fall for about 10 days of fun. I fear we adults may expire from so many giggles and so much silliness. They will be 6, 7 and 9 when we go. Can't wait. Our local older grandsons (12 & 14) were good sports about the little ones - so patien... Thu, 13 Apr 2017 19:04:42 EST Shattered wrist update Got splint off today. May still need it some. X-rays show surgery is healing well. Plate and all the screws are doing their jobs. However, the other broken bone is still not together. Evidently the doctor wasn't able to pull it back together. So, will see if it comes together on its own over the next five weeks. If not a lot of pain we might leave it that way. Feeling a bit frustrated. A lot of pain throughout still at this point. Time will tell. Said it could take up to two years ... Mon, 3 Apr 2017 22:46:22 EST Challenges of maintenance... ...I thought when I hit my goal it would suddenly become a much easier journey. Surprise! I've continued to lose weight and am getting a bit anxious to stop the slide. Balancing calories and exercise at goal presents new challenges. I'm happy to be here, but am surprised at these new challenges. I am finding much encouragement and many tips in the maintenance arena of the Lifestyle section. It is wonderful to know that I am not alone in any of the new challenges. I am confident I can g... Sun, 2 Apr 2017 18:38:32 EST Four days of eating differently... My husband and I flew out to pack up items we are bringing home or shipping to our kids from my mother-in-law's home. We ended up eating pizza at brother-in-law's, out to dinner alone, and finally ordering pizza for us and family helping up take stuff to a storage facility. Leftovers provided a breakfast and two lunches. We had oatmeal, nuts, apples and oranges. Turned out ok. I didn't overeat even though I did eat differently than I prefer. It was a success! <BR> <em>244</em> <em>... Thu, 30 Mar 2017 00:15:51 EST Four days eating out will be a good test? We are going out of town for four days to pack up part of my mother-in-law's house so my husband's brother and sister can move forward with having it staged and marketed. We will eat out for four days and I am a little concerned. I am taking tea and instant oatmeal with me so I can have breakfast in our room unless my husband really wants to go out. Taking some Kind Bars for him and he can certainly have oatmeal, too. We'll see. Hoping we can buy a few apples for snacking. We'll be pret... Thu, 23 Mar 2017 21:56:05 EST Up to travel? Wrist pain and swelling continue and will have splint for at least two more weeks. However, we need to fly out to pack up my mother-in-law's house so it can be staged and sold. We divided estate items by a nearly 4 hour phone call on Sunday. Now we must go get everything out that we selected. That means either putting it in storage there or having two of our nephews driving it out for us next week. Not sure how all of this will work as I have to be careful. I'm not sure we are going yet... Tue, 21 Mar 2017 14:28:33 EST Spring Cleaning Me! As I start spring cleaning it is a somewhat different task this year. I still must do my home, but that includes cleaning out closets and dressers of more than just seasonal wardrobes. Because I am now in maintenance having lost the last bit of weight since November, I must weed through winter and summer things and get rid of items that are just too big these days. It will be fun, but also hard to give away some things I've so enjoyed. Still, time to make room for some shopping I will get... Mon, 20 Mar 2017 14:49:43 EST One day at a time... That is a good way to look at any challenge that will take some time. Whether it's a school or work goal, planning a wedding, raising a child, mourning a loss, recovering from a long illness or injury - or learning to live with the outcome, or something else entirely. <BR> <BR> But, here we see ourselves making healthy choices one day at a time so we can become the healthiest versions of ourselves. Failing one decision, one day, or even a few days does not have to bring defeat. Too ofte... Thu, 16 Mar 2017 14:10:42 EST Caught a bug...still walking. Caught a bug while out to some appointments and events the last few days. Today I'm so weak and have a sore throat. Drinking extra water and walking indoors in small bursts since I dragged myself out of bed. Tomorrow will be a brighter day!!! <BR> <em>527</em> <em>213</em> <em>247</em> <em>593</em> Mon, 13 Mar 2017 15:03:10 EST Happy weekend! Spring will soon be here. Flowers are popping up and the days are getting longer and somewhat warmer! Hope everybody has an awesome weekend. If it's good weather where you are, I hope you are able to get outdoors and enjoy! Fri, 10 Mar 2017 17:56:41 EST Surgery follow-up Surgeon called me Humpty Dumpty as he described the puzzle of putting shattered bones back together as best as he could. Discarded pieces that wouldn't easily fit and some that was already dead a week after the injury. Too bad we couldn't have had surgery immediately, but its healing now. The plate is holding things together. I'll go again in 4 weeks for x-rays. I'm very tired, weak, no appetite. Gotta start eating more to help healing. Pain is challenging. Will drive the first time a... Wed, 8 Mar 2017 18:01:14 EST more successful than Humpty Dumpty Three weeks ago I shattered my right wrist. At surgery follow-up yesterday the doctor detailed what he did. There were so many small fragments in addition to both snapped bones. Piece by piece the doctors put small pieces in place as best they could. They discarded pieces they couldn't fit. They also discarded some bone that was already dead by surgery a week after the injury. Finally, they placed a metal plate over everything and screwed it together with 12 screws. Hopefully, all will... Tue, 7 Mar 2017 18:39:23 EST Thank you for helping me celebrate 44 years I can hardly believe I've been married to my sweet husband for 44 years today. So many wonderful memories. In recent years SP has been an important part in helping me become the healthiest me that I can be. So much encouragement from so many. I am sure SP is part of the reason we'll just keep on making memories for years to come. <BR> <em>304</em> Fri, 3 Mar 2017 19:05:40 EST Challenges and triumphs Thank You Thanks to all who commented on my blog. I continue to learn more ways to use just my left hand and arm. I did have another dizzy spell today and fell on the right hand onto our bed. Not far but very painful with those broken and shattered bones. Am only allowed to lift, pull, push one pound with right hand. I know I exceeded this, so hoping won't cause issues. Trying to respect the added challenges of multiple sclerosis. Pretty sure that was behind fall. Tomorrow will be more successf... Thu, 2 Mar 2017 22:00:53 EST We can do this... -one choice at a time <BR> -one step at a time <BR> -one bite at a time <BR> -one sip at a time <BR> <em>381</em> <em>213</em> Thu, 2 Mar 2017 20:52:50 EST Lion Thoughts and prayers for all who are dealing with such a fierce lion as March begins. <BR> <em>247</em> Wed, 1 Mar 2017 19:32:50 EST Challenges and Triumphs Since shattering my right wrist two weeks ago I've seen some of both. At first I was fearful that I would gain weight while so limited in activity. That has not happened as my appetite has lessened along with the activity level. Though there are many things I've set aside for now, there are surprising abilities along the way. I can prepare a few simple things in the kitchen, feed myself and clean up after. I can do the laundry, fold and put away clothes. Today I even washed and put the ... Tue, 28 Feb 2017 18:29:59 EST Recovery will be slow Doctor put my right wrist back together with plate and about 12 screws. Removed bone fragments. We'll know in about two weeks if smaller bone pulled into place or if more surgery is needed. Said will be a long process. So far so good. <BR> <em>213</em> Sat, 25 Feb 2017 22:05:25 EST Wrong Handed Living I'm right handed. i shattered my right wrist on Valentine's Day. Having surgery in three days. I'm not able to do much and feel like doing even less. But, one very positive outcome has been slowing down my life. What is really important? What really doesn't matter? <BR> <BR> I only eat what I actually want to eat and eat that very slowly. I only go where I must. I'm learning to ask for help. I'm actually reading encouraging posts, texts and e-mails instead of missing so much because ... Sat, 18 Feb 2017 17:36:32 EST like a slog Can't do much with shattered right wrist. it is splinted until surgery next Tuesday. Every motion is painful and I am very dizzy, too. Guess I just need to learn a bit more patience. I did a little cleaning and very simple food prep. With so little activity it is a blessing that I have little appetite. Wishing all of you a wonderful weekend! <BR> <em>46</em> <em>198</em> <em>39</em> <em>213</em> Fri, 17 Feb 2017 19:41:18 EST ouch update saw hand surgeon yesterday. complicated break that will require plate and a lot of screws and perhaps a second surgery later. besides the big breaks through both bones there are a lot of fractures that couldn't be seen well because of cloudiness indicating many bones over bones. straightened deformities somewhat before immobilizing. will be interesting to see what can be plated and screwed and what will just need to be removed. hoping to end up better off than Humpty Dumpty! surgery tuesd... Thu, 16 Feb 2017 17:24:47 EST ouch! walked this morning...fell. nice young msn actually picked me up and walked with me a bit until I assured him I could manage. drove to urgent care clinic keeping right hand up and as still as possible. broke both arm bones at wrist. the larger one is in several pieces. the other broken in two places and into joint. i figured it was bad when i felt shifting bones and saw deformity. not fun. hand specialist tomorrow. ouch! happy Valentine's Day to me. hope yours is going much better.... Tue, 14 Feb 2017 17:21:55 EST Time to change gears So, checking my BMI and the way my clothes fit and my weight, I'm finally ready to admit that I should be in maintenance rather than continued weight loss. However, I would love to lose a few vanity pounds and inches on my way to becoming the healthiest me that I can be. <BR> <BR> So, day by day I will do what I can. That will probably mean less time on SP as I don't need to sit this much at a time. I am raising my keyboard again and standing and doing squats part of the time while I type... Fri, 10 Feb 2017 19:42:19 EST Big Challenge this Year We have plans to meet up with our son's family in Orlando in November for eight days of Disney World - mostly Epcot Food & Wine Festival. Our son and daughter-in-law are running the half marathon and their two little girls (5&8) will run the mile race while there. <BR> <BR> Now to the challenge part. Having multiple sclerosis is often challenging and I don't really know what life will be day to day. We will share a beautiful large room on Disney property to eliminate extra travel and so... Wed, 8 Feb 2017 15:10:17 EST Celebrations Yesterday our family gathered here to celebrate. It was both a birthday party for my husband and our oldest grandson and a Super Bowl party. I prepared far too much food, but it still worked out well. There were three pizzas, breadsticks, chips, dips, guacamole, pigs in a blanket, birthday cake, ice cream, cupcakes, chocolate and caramel dipped pretzels, cheeses and crackers, wine and beer. But, there also was guacamole, fresh salsa, shrimp with cocktail sauce, mixed nuts, coffee with alm... Mon, 6 Feb 2017 18:17:46 EST One Year... I just looked at my measurements to goal for the past year and was pleasantly encouraged. <BR> Waist - lost 3 1/2 inches <BR> Hips - lost 4 inches <BR> Weight - lost 13 pounds and am at goal of 120 <BR> <BR> Time to set a new weight goal, though in a healthy place at the middle of BMI range and weight range. I think I will set a new goal for 115 pounds which would be lower than I've been for the last 20+ years. I was at 117 for my daughter's wedding in 2000, but that was at the end of canc... Tue, 31 Jan 2017 13:22:01 EST Home At Last and Ready to Go! After a month away to care for mom-in-law, plan her memorial, speak at her services, etc. it is so good to finally be back home. I missed my husband, my bed, my routine and so much of what is familiar. I never really got into the new year as we left here on 1/1/17. <BR> <BR> So, here I am, nearly to February and just starting my New Year routine and looking toward my new goals. I'm upping my step goal to 11,000 as I was doing better than that on average already. My fitbit will help me st... Sun, 29 Jan 2017 18:16:33 EST A day at the beach and a day in the city... It has been so beautiful here since the storms. Yesterday my husband and I joined his brother and sister for a day in Santa Cruz. The storms damaged the coast, but it will be repaired eventually. Today we drove to San Francisco to meet our daughter-in-law down from Seattle on business. These were two of the most beautiful days ... picture perfect. We head home to snow on Saturday morning. After having to be here for a month, I am really ready to get home, even to the ice and snow. Hopi... Thu, 26 Jan 2017 20:40:06 EST Beautiful memories We buried my mother-in-law today. She was a dynamo - WWII Army nurse, pediatric nurse, wife, mom of three, athlete, writer, grandmother of 8, great grandma of 10. There were times she pushed my buttons, but mostly I learned a lot from her. Fear of disappointing her probably helped me not ever become obese,though my weight has gone up and down a bit through the years. She ate healthy foods, but loved my and my mom's cookies. She would say she ate her lunch so she could have a cookie for ... Wed, 25 Jan 2017 00:32:10 EST Thousands of photos later I just finished going through thousands on my mother-in-laws photos to assemble a collage for her memorial. It turned out pretty well. At least my husband, his brother and sister, one of our nephews and both of my children like it. I think it reflects her life pretty well, which isn't easy since her life covered 101.5 years! What great memories of a really awesome lady! Fri, 20 Jan 2017 20:53:58 EST Only A Birthday Card? My dear husband's birthday is tomorrow. Before he flew home a few days ago I gave him a card that he tucked away to open at home. His mom was in the hospital since mid-December and we came to visit a few weeks ago. She so wanted to come home, but needed 24 hour care and hospice assistance. When he, his brother and sister couldn't decide on a care agency I volunteered to be her 24 hour care giver. I told hime I probably wouldn't have time to shop for a gift for him this year. He said taki... Thu, 19 Jan 2017 12:54:53 EST Peace amid the storm With so much to accomplish before my mother-in-law's memorial next week, I really cherish these moments of calm when I am alone in her house between errands or in the late evening and early morning hours. Some of that time I get to spend here. Thank you Spark friends for being here. You are the best! It will be good to get home and into my own routine, but for now time with you is often my home away from home. One drawback is I don't think the scale here is correct. It will be good to g... Wed, 18 Jan 2017 17:49:59 EST Gotta get back on track I was caring for my mom-in-law in her home with hospice help. She died yesterday morning. It was exhausting to care for her. Now the energy is different, but so many details. Spent nearly 5 hours at the mortuary today with her daughter, son and other daughter-in-law. <BR> <BR> With all that has gone on, I've been eating very sporadically and exercise has not been what it should be. I resolve to get in my 10,000+ steps each day again beginning tomorrow. Exercise always calms and stren... Thu, 12 Jan 2017 01:20:46 EST Mother-in-law care I have offered t care for my mother-in-law in her home until she dies. It's hard to be so far from my husband again, but I can most easily make myself available. She doesn't want wheel chair or hospital bed. She definitely doesn't want hospice. I strongly believe she needs all three. She is in rehab an could be released today or tomorrow. Home care agencies charge so much. Plus, she won't know them. please pray we all make good decisions in this. <BR> <em>304</em> Tue, 3 Jan 2017 05:02:46 EST She has been a great inspiration... My mom-in-law has always been a tiny thing. Golf, riding her bike, and walking were her favorite activities. She played tennis before I knew her and loved to dance. She gave up her bike around 90. Had to stop walking last year at 101. She got sick a couple weeks ago and struggles to breathe a bit. She's tired and ready to go be with departed family and friends. I believe she is going on hospice soon and will get to go home as long as she agrees to have someone there with her. She's fi... Sun, 1 Jan 2017 12:00:26 EST Mom-in-law down She's so sweet. She's in rehab recovering from infection and breathing struggles. She fell on Christmas when up to bathroom without ringing for the nurse. Very independent. She didn't want us to visit right now during the holiday rush. We will fly out for a few days in January. She used to be a real challenge to me. She has mellowed and so have I. We pray she will be well enough to visit. Did I mention she is 101 years old?!?!?! <BR> <em>213</em> Thu, 29 Dec 2016 04:26:48 EST