FRNCHLVR's SparkPeople Blog FRNCHLVR's Blog on SparkPeople, home of free diet plans and a healthy living community Turning It Over <img src=""> <BR> <BR> In the 12 Steps, the 3rd step refers to "turning our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understand Him." <BR> <BR> I have been thinking about this phrase for several days. I do relate to a Higher Power (as is spoken of in these meetings) as being the wisdom of Buddha--known collectively as the Dharma. <BR> <BR> This is not the traditional way of engaging in this step, but I find that I cannot do... Thu, 22 Jul 2010 09:26:21 EST Importance of Letting Go Mindlessness is such a common behavior. We live in a world that seems to value multi-tasking more than a life filled with simple focused actions. Yet, the brain can only concentrate on one thing at a time (when multi-tasking, it seems as though the brain is handling many things, but in fact, the brain is rapidly oscillating its focus back and forth between different objects). <BR> <BR> How have we created such a lifestyle? It does not serve us well. A life filled with distractions, and t... Tue, 20 Jul 2010 08:53:30 EST Wanting <img src=""> <BR> <BR> Reading that comment by Ronna Kabatznick struck me. I have been pondering it for two days now. It is the simple truth of our existence. Mindlessness is the habit of not paying attention to what kind of wanting is taking place (usually covertly) for most of the things we do. <BR> <BR> It is important to practice paying attention to what is underneath even the slightest of actions, as a means to finding an inner a... Fri, 16 Jul 2010 10:31:24 EST Remembering To Be Aware <img src=""> <BR> <BR> Today, thoughts of remembering to become or remain aware are my focus. It can be so easy to simply act mindlessly, carelessly, thoughtlessly, impulsively, even recklessly--and I cannot say that I generally feel happy with the results. Yet, we are all conditioned to do so many things without consideration of what is happening, that one must learn a new skill in order to notice the myriad overt and covert triggers o... Tue, 13 Jul 2010 11:54:52 EST Reconnecting With That Which I Had Almost Abandonned <img src=""> <BR> <BR> Yesterday I made a commitment to a very dear friend--and to myself--that I would begin anew with eating mindfully. <BR> <BR> While I do not feel that I have fully gotten away from it, events in my life have been unusually stressful in the past year--as they have for many around the globe. I have all-too-frequently turned to food for comfort. <BR> <BR> Today, I need to do the simple task of re-aligning myself ... Mon, 12 Jul 2010 08:40:15 EST Simple Foods I've discovered that simple foods are best. When I get too far into trying to create fancy menus and recipes, I am lost and overwhelmed by the processes, and then I become too attached to the obsession of making sure every eating experience is a treat. Then I discover I cannot keep up with that pace, and I also discover that the desire to have every meal be something tasty and different quickly leads to a feeling that there is always something more, something better--and I'm quickly too inve... Thu, 3 Apr 2008 08:28:58 EST Stretch To Move Beyond The Limits of Our Own Imagined Space I have been thinking about how we all *feel* as though we live in isolated little bubbles of personal space untouched by anyone around us, unless we either give someone permission to enter our "personal space" or are invaded without granting such permission. <BR> <BR> The truth is much different from that. We are all inter-connected in more ways than we can appreciate, even though it feels as though we have separation. The problem with this illusion of separation that we all hold within ours... Tue, 18 Mar 2008 09:11:24 EST Pine Tree Each time that I go through my bank's drive-through, I find myself sitting there and just observing a lovely young pine tree that sits on a rise in front of the drive-through. I have watched that tree for a couple of years now, and recently I was looking at it on a particularly windy day. <BR> <BR> As a gust of wind would swoop across everything, this graceful little tree just let its needled arms move with the wind, then come back and settle into place again, until the next burst of wind c... Wed, 20 Feb 2008 09:23:46 EST Loving Kindness Today is Valentine's Day. A very good day to reflect on Maitri (Metta) or Loving Kindness. I will spend this day wishing for happiness for all those whom I love, and for everyone on the planet--that we may all find peace in our lives and be free from suffering. Thu, 14 Feb 2008 08:29:47 EST A Simple Piece of Cheese Last night, my husband and I shared a lovely piece of cheese together. I found myself thinking of all the many beings and conditions that had allowed us to have that cheese to eat. <BR> <BR> The more I thought about it, the more grateful I felt to the cows who ate the grass, which grew with the help of the sunshine, rain, nutrients in the soil, and all the tiny creatures who helped with the pollination and growth of the grass. <BR> <BR> I felt gratitude to those who cared for the cows that... Mon, 11 Feb 2008 08:36:21 EST Miracle of walking One year ago, I was struggling to get around, following knee surgery, using a leg brace and crutches--then a cane. After months of trying to regain my ability to walk as I once had, I had just about given up on ever being able to do that again. Through the months, I continued to have pain and swelling. My despair was genuine. <BR> <BR> It led me to thinking a lot about what I was now missing, that I had always just simply taken for granted. <BR> <BR> Today, I walked--yes WALKED--a mile on m... Sun, 3 Feb 2008 13:31:25 EST Inter-being This morning, my husband and I enjoyed a lovely, leisurely breakfast together. As we sat, we discussed the idea of inter-being. <BR> <BR> We looked at the beautiful colors of the foods on our plates, talked about the origins of the oranges, eggs and oatmeal. We contemplated all the living factors that contributed to our meal. The sunshine, rain, soil, and animals that helped grow the oats, the oranges, and produce the eggs. <BR> <BR> We thought of the many people who were involved in the... Sun, 3 Feb 2008 11:05:00 EST Shift of perspective Today I grappled with a frequent demon of mine. Someone abruptly cancelled out on a scheduled meeting with me at work, that left me with a 3 hour stretch of time that I had to fill while trying not to turn to food out of boredom and anger. If I had gotten more advance notice about the cancellation, I would have adjusted another meeting late in the afternoon to occur earlier, then I could have gone home early myself. Being a Friday afternoon, the idea of getting home early was very inviting. <... Fri, 1 Feb 2008 17:43:33 EST Eating One's Fair Share I find that remembering the suffering of people in the world, those who are starving or unable to find enough to eat, is helping me think twice before eating extra food that I do not need. May everyone on the planet have enough to eat. May everyone on the planet be well. May everyone on the planet be free from suffering. Wed, 30 Jan 2008 08:20:02 EST Value I've been thinking about one particular value/belief to meditate upon, to keep in my awareness for several days, and I have chosen to focus upon the shortage of food on this planet. It might be better to say the grievous misappropriation of food resources (those who have much vs those who have nothing). <BR> <BR> I want to reflect upon this, and eat no more than my fair share. I can't say how successful that may turn out to be, but it is a goal that I would like to work on. <BR> <BR> Just... Mon, 28 Jan 2008 20:00:26 EST Purpose What did I do today to work toward my "purpose"? That's one of the goals marked "other" on the "Other Goals" page. <BR> <BR> Thinking of it as "other" is odd. The word sounds so noble, so knowing. Yet, I discover I find it difficult to exactly articulate my "purpose." My purpose for being? My purpose in Life? That word (in that context) seems to be the sort of thing we totally take for granted. Yet, what actually is my purpose? <BR> <BR> The dictionary says, <BR> Purpose: <BR> 1.) The ob... Sat, 26 Jan 2008 18:06:51 EST Patience Yesterday at the office, I was brought smack up against the reality of what I am proposing to do. And it was only in a small way. So I know that this will be something that requires practice and patience, not just occasionally, but often. <BR> <BR> The important thing will be to recognize the points of "shenpa" as opportunities, not as something to fight, be frustrated by or cave in to. <BR> <BR> It seems much like a child learning to walk. She doesn't give up--I suspect because she doe... Thu, 24 Jan 2008 08:14:32 EST Follow the Breath I awoke this morning very happy. I realized that creating this page yesterday had given me something that I have been wishing for--a place to record my thoughts as I move along this new path. <BR> <BR> Key to making this work will be to remember to follow the breath. When I run into those moments (and I know that I will) where I am confronted with the urge to eat larger portions than I have planned, or even more critical--eat out of habit or for purely emotional reasons, the first thing to r... Wed, 23 Jan 2008 07:22:43 EST The Four Noble Truths The Four Noble Truths <BR> <BR> 1. Life means suffering. <BR> <BR> 2. The origin of suffering is attachment. <BR> <BR> 3. The cessation of suffering is attainable. <BR> <BR> 4. The path that leads to the cessation of suffering. Tue, 22 Jan 2008 22:32:27 EST ENOUGH Enough. A word to contemplate. A word, a concept, an idea, an acceptance to embrace. The means of being content in life. Enough knows how to let go of attachment when the time is best. Tue, 22 Jan 2008 13:55:49 EST A Mindful Beginning I'm feeling good due to a minor success. At first, I couldn't figure out how to get the pictures uploaded--it just wasn't working. So I read and experimented till I did find a way to do it. Afterwards, even for so small an accomplishment, I really did feel quite good. <BR> <BR> I think I need to hold on to this feeling--how good even a small accomplishment feels when I've stuck to something. <BR> <BR> Now I've done 10 short minutes on the treadmill--first time since the knee surgery. Kept ... Tue, 22 Jan 2008 11:22:44 EST