DOODIE59's SparkPeople Blog DOODIE59's Blog on SparkPeople, home of free diet plans and a healthy living community My snowy corner of the world Given that we had no snow until December 23rd, then two significant snowfalls in three days, I thought I'd show my more southern friends what the end of my lane way looks like. Not that I'm boasting, but I'm the primary shoveler in this household. I secretly enjoy the exercise and being outside, day or night, surrounded by falling snow and that hush sound it makes (or is that just in my mind?). <img src=""> <BR> <BR> Yes, and I admit I wa... Mon, 7 Jan 2013 23:00:58 EST Summer Vacation w Pics (for Lisa:)) <img src=""> <BR> The view near Kamouraska on the spectacular Saint Lawrence River. I had to drive my daughter to Halifax so we planned a detour to our cottage, which is sort of near:). We took our time the first day, spending about 4 hours in Quebec City. The city is full of history, but I have to say that the old city is so prettied up for tourism's sake that it doesn't really feel very authentic. Still, Ellen and Colin and I had a grea... Tue, 9 Oct 2012 19:08:30 EST Getting rid of (book) weight, and a surprise As per my deal with CANNIE50, I am clearing out some of the THOUSANDS of books in my home. I had sent two cases to our local library, and then heard that the small Quebec hometown of my childhood had just opened a library. Well! So exciting ... <BR> <BR> I am a rabid reader, and have real difficulty giving away a book once I've read it. I like to lend, but at some point I need that book back in my sweaty little hands ... in a childhood with very little $$, books were like gold, and I lived f... Tue, 27 Mar 2012 09:37:44 EST Back to square one True confessions time. This is the end of my personal 12 week challenge to get back on track. I had lost 8 lb by the end of week 8, and was still at 8 by week 10. I felt that I HAD taken back control. However, in the last two weeks I've gained all 8 lb back. I know, it will go almost as quickly. The real issue is that it is now the dead of winter, and I am in my annual funk. <BR> <BR> I would have been happy to lose 8 lb in 12 weeks -- extrapolated, that would have been more than 30 in the c... Mon, 23 Jan 2012 18:38:20 EST Who, What, When, Where and Why -- Know Thyself, and Plan Ahead The idea that we will have to be diligent the rest of our lives is overwhelming. I think this makes it important that we be really clear about what we want and why we want it, so that under pressure we will remember why we're fighting for it. <BR> <BR> We need to always be AWARE of the kinds of roadblocks, opportunities for failure, etc., that are specific to each of us. We need to be able to plan ahead, to watch for and avoid pitfalls. We also have to know, deep in our hearts, why we are WO... Wed, 11 Jan 2012 12:06:54 EST A wonderful family visit with my sister at Christmas (pics!) As promised, here are some photos of our visit to my sister's farm in the Gatineau Hills of Quebec. The first shot is of me visiting with their (cranky) parrot. They have had lovely, friendly birds in the past -- he's not one of them:) <BR> <BR> The second photo is of my three nieces on my side of the family and my daughter on the right -- quite the family resemblance between them! Unfortunately, I did not get a photo of their brother with my two sons. <BR> <BR> The outside photos include m... Fri, 30 Dec 2011 13:13:26 EST Day 9 of Taking Back Control: What is freedom exactly? When I think about "taking back control", specifically regarding what I eat and of my health, I wonder why I am so resentful of the discipline required. <BR> <BR> I'm doing this for me, for my betterment, my health ... where is the downside? In fact, instating control over what I eat brings me FREEDOM, allows me to dream about better health, a better life, more movement. <BR> <BR> The excessive amounts of food I have eaten over the years have made a prison of me, of my very self. Holding m... Wed, 9 Nov 2011 09:44:08 EST Day One of Taking Back Control There is nothing of interest to anyone but myself in this blog (So you can turn back now:)) It is my ... statement of intent. <BR> <BR> I have been staggering and stumbling since hitting 25 pounds lost way back in April. I kept almost all of it off until September, then quickly gained 5 pounds that I have not been able to re-lose. I did stay on Sparkpeople because I felt very strongly that keeping connected prevented me from getting way off track. Now, finally, I am ready to recommit. <BR> ... Tue, 1 Nov 2011 09:23:29 EST Happiness and Health/Health and Happiness My book club just celebrated our annual weekend away at good friend Carole's fantastically located cottage in the Gatineau Hills, Quebec. The trees were turning, the expected rain did not happen -- we all got in for swims. Yes, the water was cool. <BR> <BR> This place is idyllic. It has glass walls on three sides and sits on a promontory. All the land to the south is Crown Land and cannot be built on, so one only sees other cottages when looking North -- past the islands, outcrops and hills.... Mon, 26 Sep 2011 09:08:16 EST Life lessons ... (Baby) steps on the path to self assertion and learning to deal with criticism My sensitive youngest son was pushed and shoved by a team mate (and friend) the other day and responded by striking back. Harder. He was in tears on the drive home. He has just turned 15, and is in the grips of puberty. He was very upset by what he'd done, but was also upset with his friend because he hates physical aggression, and doesn't understand why a friend would do that. <BR> <BR> He eventually emailed his friend an apology, which included the fact that he did not like being pushed ar... Wed, 27 Jul 2011 10:54:09 EST Let us grow beyond being Pleasers to becoming Whole:) CANNIE50 wrote a fascinating blog today called "The Unpleaseables". Her thoughts hit home on a number of fronts, and got me thinking about the position of the Pleaser. She talks about one of the benefits of getting older being that you are not so eager to please ... . Amen to that! <BR> <BR> It took age and wisdom to realize that my pleaser behaviour (which I saw as noble, other-centred awareness) benefited ME -- defined me in a positive social light -- as much as it benefited my community. ... Fri, 6 May 2011 00:17:51 EST Love my sister Heather and her helpful words The last week or so I've been really struggling and after taking two months to lose 5 pounds, gained back 5 pounds in a week. I sent my sister Heather a whiny email on the subject, and this is what she said: <BR> <BR> "I hear you with the weight. it is hard to believe, but this is just a part of the process. it will probably take two years overall, and will be followed with a lifetime of focus, so it would be unrealistic to think there won't be back slides. It is incredibly hard to do. If... Mon, 25 Apr 2011 21:57:50 EST An unexpected gem of a day w my sister My sister called Tuesday morning to ask if I would accompany her to Syracuse, NY, to pick up a baby goat she'd bought from a farm in Wyoming. Well, heck yeah! She is very busy trying to build up a herd of Nubian Goats in Quebec. She has loved goats since she was a kid (haha) and, in fact, named her first born daughter Tessa after her beloved childhood pet Tessa, an unbelievably personality-filled and ornery goat. And, no, we were not raised on a farm. <BR> <BR> My day went from Uneventful to... Wed, 13 Apr 2011 22:00:25 EST Spent a great birthday weekend in Montreal I'm back from Montreal and pretty tired:) We took the train down and stayed in an inn in Old Montreal -- very quaint. We always walk a lot as a way to explore our surroundings. The weather was wonderful. We visited museums, many small art galleries and partook of artisanal beer:) and great coffees. Oh, and a bit of champagne. Well, a bottle's worth. <BR> <BR> We had an unexpectedly fancy dinner at L'Epicier -- Mark had read good reviews, and understood it to be fairly casual. Well, with wine... Mon, 11 Apr 2011 10:15:52 EST Any recommendations for The Best Scales Ever? It occurs to me that I need to purchase a new scale. I am afraid to do this, however, because I'm worried the new scale will show a different ... perhaps higher ... number:). At my annual physical, the doctor's scales showed my weight as 5 lb higher. Now ... that could be clothes, and breakfast, and lunch ... :) Justifications abound. <BR> <BR> Here is where I remind myself that the scale is simply a tool -- just an objective measure; it is the trend that is important. <BR> <BR> What I wou... Sun, 3 Apr 2011 10:49:31 EST Positivity vs negativity I got all fired up reading EARTHMOTHR's latest blog "Don't Despair" -- her hugely positive essay is worth a read. It got me thinking about the impact of negativity in our lives -- especially internal negative self-talk. Just what is the point? How does being self-critical at any level encourage new and positive change? By definition, personal criticism is destructive. How do we create a base of positivity from that? <BR> <BR> We need to acknowledge and celebrate any and all of the good thi... Wed, 2 Mar 2011 10:22:08 EST I'm liking once-a-week weigh-ins <BR> I am beginning to really like the once a week weigh in. I can look at my week ahead, and know in advance where my problem areas will be (that would be social gatherings) and then I have the time to work around them or balance out the calories on the days prior and after … without having days where I’ll feel bad just because of my weight that morning. Things have time to work themselves out over the course of a week. <BR> <BR> Also important, skipping the daily weigh in reminds you that... Mon, 7 Feb 2011 16:42:01 EST Follow the process of healthy living, and weight loss is a symptom I did a lot of soul searching last week. Had to. I wasn’t losing weight. <BR> <BR> I did not weigh myself between Thursday and Monday – hellishly hard at first, but freeing in the end. It frees me up to follow the process of healthy living. And it is the process of healthy living that will get me where I want to be, not the numbers on the scale! Weight loss is a symptom of our progress toward healthier lifestyles. <BR> <BR> This notion came to me while talking to a fellow Sparkperson about... Mon, 24 Jan 2011 15:11:46 EST Ugh! Not hurtling toward success:) It looks like I'm stepping from plateau to plateau. That only comforts me if I visualize each plateau as a flat stepping stone across a turbulent creek -- with wellness at the other side. My path might be slow. It might be nerve wracking, but if I pause on each stone to make sure I have my balance and breath ... well, then I'm sure to make it to the next stone. You can't skip these stones and get to the other side! <BR> <BR> I keep forgetting that reality is where you are right now. So, one ... Mon, 10 Jan 2011 09:44:21 EST Easier to support other people's plateaus It's way easier to be supportive about sticking with the process when it's the other person's plateau we're talking about. As I sit at the same weight for two weeks (Isn't it a little early in the game for that?) all the worries and frets tamped down at the back of my mind come to the front. Oh no, is my body digging in its heels? Is this where I'm meant to stop? <BR> <BR> Well, no, the trend is your friend! It's time to dig out all the cliches I've been offering to others: Hang in there/Ev... Fri, 10 Dec 2010 09:37:22 EST I appreciate the 300 cal range flexibility I find I'm really enjoying the approximately 300 calorie range differential available to us each day. It allows for days with less stringency and for follow up days with a little more attention to detail, most importantly without adding any guilt. I find I'm far more likely to write down every single bite when I know I won't have eaten myself onto the "failed diet day" list. (Oh noooo, 1501 calories! Bad girl!) It really supports the concept of a long term lifestyle change rather than the tra... Fri, 19 Nov 2010 09:43:44 EST Isn't it odd? ... Isn't it funny that when we like a food we scarf it down, and when we don't like it we chew on it slowly and for a long time. I had this experience the other day, and I almost laughed out loud. If I chewed the foods I love as slowly as the ones I dislike I wouldn't be chubby. What's the rush to get the tasty stuff down as fast as possible? The pleasure of that food is gone as soon as it leaves your mouth. I feel like our dog -- he doesn't stop to chew any piece of meat that happens his way -... Tue, 9 Nov 2010 14:49:36 EST You know who I blame? .../Keep an open heart I just read HopeRising's blog about overhearing nasty comments said about her and I'm touched by her dignity and self-belief. You're mighty fine, girl, and on your way to fine tuning those parts of you you think need work. <BR> <BR> One of the lines she heard was: "You know who I blame? ..." <BR> <BR> I have a particular beef with that starting line to any conversation. Oh really? You feel the need to blame someone? There's always someone to blame? <BR> <BR> The notion that someone always... Mon, 25 Oct 2010 10:37:59 EST Eat Healthily to Celebrate YOU Last night I incorporated 2 big glasses of wine into my day's foods yesterday <BR> to accommodate bookclub (and only had 1) but blew it on two pieces (small) <BR> of delicious homemade cake ... still, I didn't feel bad. Those days will happen <BR> ... it's the other days, the majority of days -- when you do the right thing <BR> -- that will get your ship sailing in the right direction. Celebrate the things <BR> worth celebrating and eat healthily to celebrate YOU. (Words of advice to my ... Thu, 21 Oct 2010 11:53:22 EST Very Motivating Reading on Main Wellness Page There is a very powerful and motivating series of articles to be found on the Main Wellness Page called Mind Over Body. There is a 10-step program that aims to clarify and make concrete the steps you need to follow to make a successful lifestyle change. It asks clear and honest questions about who you are and where you want to be, ie, 1, 5 and 10 yeas from now. How to get there? I found it very helpful and will go back often for reinforcement. Tue, 19 Oct 2010 10:14:55 EST Just had a realization I was trying to make a list of goals -- well, actually, I was trying to find the place on the website where I could record my list of goals -- when I came to the realization that it was not the goal itself, but the process of working toward it that will bring about success. For example, I should not be thinking "Lose the flap of stomach skin that hangs down" but rather "Start a walking streak", "Incorporate core strengthening exercises" and "adhere to the Nutrition Tracker". Doing these will ... Sun, 17 Oct 2010 12:31:43 EST