CARLOOTA's SparkPeople Blog CARLOOTA's Blog on SparkPeople, home of free diet plans and a healthy living community Blow out the candles. No, it's not my birthday. Just a little trick I learned. I read an article about teaching one's kids to manage stress. One of the suggestions was to make pretend they are blowing out birthday candles. Just take a deep breath in, then blow it out. I have been using that trick when I feel my anxiety arise. When I feel depressed or anxious about my work and family problems, I just remind myself: blow out the candles, blow out the candles. The deep breathing helps me calm down. Worry is ... Tue, 8 Jan 2013 22:50:52 EST Right where I need to be Sometimes we go through life hoping and praying that our circumstances will change soon and remaining hopeful and optimistic that God will "make it better". Even though every one stumbles and falls on hard times, we just need to look around and thank God for what we DO have. Unfortunately, there are people going through even worse situations. These past few years have been exceptionally difficult for me. As I reflect on those hardships, I realize that even though I am still not where I ... Wed, 12 Dec 2012 21:50:09 EST Good day Today was a good day. I was able to sleep in a little bit. Even though I had some disheartening news, I did not let that defeat me. I just took some deep breaths. Then I talked to a co-worker, who helped put things in perspective. I did not rely on my 10-minutes-at-a-time philosophy; I made it through the whole day. I don't know how long I will have my job, but I am trusting that God will continue to provide for me and my daughter. Thank you, God, for providing all my needs. <BR> <BR... Mon, 10 Dec 2012 20:49:25 EST Storm has passed The darkness has subsided. I feel stronger, wiser. I am mindful that there will be many more storms in life. I am mindful that I have all the tools necessary to remain strong during those storms. I actually made it through the whole day; did not need to get through today 10 minutes at a time. There is hope. There is healing. Tue, 4 Dec 2012 23:09:12 EST Victory WARNING: POSSIBLE TMI ALERT <BR> <BR> I have noticed a pattern. I realize that my depression and anxiety "flare up" when I am premenstrual. Now that I know the problem, I am implementing solutions. Nutrition plays an important role in physical AND mental health. Exercise is equally as important. Usually around "that time" I just succumb to those feelings of hopelessness and put myself on auto pilot; just so I can make it through the day. At night I would cry myself to sleep. This p... Sun, 2 Dec 2012 19:18:47 EST Back to life I'm back to my regular schedule. Working full time 5-6 days a week, going to school full time. I don't have much to update right now. I am grateful to have the routine of a steady job. Routines are very helpful in maintaining a stable mood. I am hoping to incorporate this blog as part of my routine, too. My goal is to overcome depression, anxiety, and low self esteem without the use of medication. I know that talk therapy, healthy diet, and moderate exercise will help me. Jotting dow... Thu, 29 Nov 2012 22:23:34 EST Still pressing on I have been cooped up in my house all day. I was planning on doing a lot of things at home; including finishing some homemade Christmas presents. I did not get everything done. I did get a few things started, though. I have completed my school project that is due this upcoming Tuesday. I have started the first of two papers that are also due this Tuesday. I was able to spend some quality time with my beautiful daughter. Most of the things on my to-do list have not been started, but I a... Sat, 24 Nov 2012 21:41:21 EST Treading water Anxiety and depression are like treading water in the ocean; many times managing to stay afloat, other times a big wave threatens to engulf me. With the holiday season, I am ever vigilant. This year, I will not succumb to this wave. My two day absence from blogging has affected me tremendously. I have been very close to crying and being paralyzed by depression. I force myself to press on. I am in the middle of a big school project so I have LOTS of homework. Every time I get up to get ... Fri, 23 Nov 2012 20:21:29 EST Ten Minutes At a Time With so many projects to complete, it is easy to get overwhelmed. I look at my to-do list and only 2 items are checked off. Sometimes I feel like I can't handle it all and then life hands me another "blow". This time it's going to be different. I'm going to just take deep breaths and remember that God is in control of my life. I will not get overwhelmed. Some day I would like to take things one day at a time. For now, though, that is still too much. I'm getting through life just ten m... Mon, 19 Nov 2012 20:04:16 EST Do not be dismayed Journaling is a great way to manage stress and anxiety. Writing down one's thoughts helps to put things in perspective. I am going to use this blog to jot down my thoughts. At this point, I am more concerned with conquering my depression and anxiety rather than losing weight. It is equally important to have a healthy mind as it is to have a healthy body. I am bound and determined to make it through this holiday season with a positive outlook on life. Hopefully my blog can motivate othe... Sun, 18 Nov 2012 19:45:43 EST Woe is me? Not this time. Everyone of us has gone through or is currently going through a rough patch in life. I tend to relieve those and easily fall into the "victim" role of "Why is this happening to me?" "Why is everyone always picking on me when I haven't done anything." I feel as if I need to get to the root of the problem in order to fully move forward. In reality, though, that is a luxury I cannot afford. I am TRYING to come to terms with a lot of things that have happened in my life. Unfortunately, some... Sat, 17 Nov 2012 21:37:40 EST Who is that person in the mirror? These past two years have been such a blur. I stayed in an unhealthy relationship for far too long and finally moved out on my own. I'm now a single mom. I go to school full time and work full time, also. I'm doing things I never thought I would do. I feel so far removed from the person I was, even from just a few months ago. It has been such a roller coaster ride. Sometimes I don't know which way is up, down, left, right, right or wrong. Sometimes I look in the mirror and think "How ... Mon, 21 Nov 2011 22:04:30 EST I can't believe this is happening. I joined the "biggest loser" challenge at my job a few months ago. I had NO HOPE of winning. And, while I didn't win the overall contest, I did come in third place overall. And I came in first place for the women. It's amazing. I used many of the resources here on Spark People. That has helped me physically and emotionally. I'm a member for life and I will, with the help of SP and all the supportive members, maintain this healthy lifestyle for the rest of my life. PRAISE GOD!!! and... Tue, 11 Aug 2009 20:02:18 EST