BECKYLIZ's SparkPeople Blog BECKYLIZ's Blog on SparkPeople, home of free diet plans and a healthy living community Happy and Lucky Today I feel Happy and Lucky <BR> <BR> H - aving <BR> A <BR> P- ositive <BR> P - erspective <BR> Y - on You (me) <BR> <BR> L - oving <BR> U <BR> C - hrist <BR> K - (is the KeY) <BR> Y Wed, 1 Apr 2015 10:31:57 EST Acceptance Page 417 - 419 of the Big Book, A.A. World Series,1939, " Acceptance Is The Key", loosely interpreted states that whenever anything is wrong out there, it is wrong right here. Why I chose to think of that as my marriage, my world, crumbles around me. I hurt, but I keep eating healthy thanks to my daughter, keep meditating, keep reading spiritual writings, keep exercising, keep going one day at a time, thanks to God, my Lord Jesus Christ. <BR> <BR> When I was a small child I would get bea... Tue, 5 Aug 2014 10:19:08 EST Unconditional Love The term unconditional love came into use in the 1960's, supposed LSD drug culture and became more widely known in the 1970's pop culture with counselors and therapists. <BR> <BR> I liked this term when I started having children in the late 1970's. I wholeheartedly understood it then because I could see how a mother could unconditionally <BR> love her newborn child(ren) without conditions, actions, behavior or any other requirements. I grew up in a family wherein you had to meet certain ... Sun, 13 Jul 2014 11:52:27 EST Spark Goals and Accomplishments Weight Loss Jan. 2009 - Jan. 2014 <BR> 2009 - 233 lbs. <BR> 2011 - 196 lbs. <BR> 2014 - 184 lbs. <BR> June 2014 - 180 lbs. <BR> Weight Loss 3 Year MIni Goal (2017) - 150 lbs. <BR> Weight Loss 5 Year Ultimate Goal (2019) - 135 lbs. <BR> <BR> Journey to Accomplishment: <BR> Daily <BR> Take Vitamins/Minerals/Supplements <BR> Log Food <BR> Eat Healthy Fats <BR> Eat Fiber <BR> Eat 3 Fruits <BR> Eat 3-5 Vegetables <BR> Do not eat refined sugar, salt, casseroles, gravies, processed meat. <BR> Wee... Mon, 30 Jun 2014 07:56:44 EST It May Well Be / Be That As It May (Be) I remember my mom saying "it may well be that..."and sometimes "Be that as it may (be)". And it was usually followed by some ultimatum that we, (my brothers and sister), had to follow ( my mom passed away 12 years ago). I did not understand it then, I don't fully understand it now and I woke up this morning pondering this confusing phrase. Why, I don't know. What does it have to do with today? For me, if it does not have anything to do with my life right now, it is not relevant nor wor... Sat, 7 Jun 2014 11:14:55 EST No Ifs, Ands or Buts I am ready today to live a life with no regrets, no excuses or apologies, no ifs, ands or buts. Also let me not forget the woulda, shoulda, coulda's. <BR> <BR> So many things have happened to me in my 64 years here on earth, some bad, mostly good. What I have to remember is that due to God's grace, blessings and magnificent mercy I am still here after multiple strokes and one devastating stroke almost 4 years ago. Not only here but prospering. <BR> <BR> Mind you I still have daily pain... Mon, 5 May 2014 07:27:04 EST Precaution, Caution, Paranoia "Just because you're paranoid, doesn't mean they are not out to get you." from a Kurt Cobain song, Kathleen Anderson show and my youth. <BR> What a way to live! Another one is " the best defense is a good offense", from Carl Von Clausewitz's works, On War. <BR> <BR> These thoughts running through my mind while I ate cake icing, candies and cookies, which I thought would soothe my nerves and comfort me at the time. I had a lot of fear and false courage, a few I nevers, and a lot of what ifs... Sun, 6 Apr 2014 06:51:04 EST It Works For Me I have had a lot of post-stroke pain over the past 3 years. To deal with it and for the strength and motivation to move through and beyond the pain I call out to my Lord Jesus Christ. <BR> <BR> I grew up Southern Baptist and we use to say God all the time as a child in the church. <BR> <BR> Since I had my Stroke I have had a lot of left-side weakness/ pain/ swelling and arthritic pain on my right side, I have started to call on my Lord Jesus Christ. It brings me such strength and peace. ... Thu, 23 Jan 2014 10:13:18 EST My Mantra and Prayer I heard in a 12 Step Program that fear is false events appearing real. Also that one cannot be in fear and faith at the same time. I do not wholeheartedly endorse that point of view. I have also heard that courage is faith in spite of fear, and the beat goes on... <BR> <BR> My mantra and prayer today is FAITH. My acronym for - <BR> F - Forever and <BR> A - Always <BR> I - Intuitively <BR> T - Trusting <BR> H - Him (my God, Lord Jesus Christ Almighty, Father, Son and Holy Spirit). <... Thu, 2 Jan 2014 06:44:50 EST Words I Live By I read a lot of spiritual writings on my weight loss journey. Why? Because I do a lot of the tried and true things that are recommended by the experts and programs that supposedly work for weight loss and I am sporadically stalled. So I have surmised that a lot of my problems are in my head, emotions, mental, subconscious. <BR> <BR> Pursuant to that line of thought, the Dalai Lama states that "the worse feelings are anger, hate and fear". I think I have to work on my anger and fears. <BR>... Fri, 25 Oct 2013 07:35:51 EST My Best Life My weight loss efforts have not been working to my satisfaction for the past 3 months. <BR> I have stepped up my efforts by tweaking my food plan, increasing and changing my exercise and for inspiration I read books by Joel Osteen, Evangelist- I Declare, Live Your Best Life, Friday, etc... <BR> <BR> Some of the things he says really resonates with me...(I'm paraphrasing) <BR> Do your best and God will do the rest <BR> The rest of your life can be the best of your life <BR> I am the vict... Tue, 4 Jun 2013 18:59:52 EST A Child's Prayer For Me, For All Times The following is a child's prayer taken from an essay in " The Spectator" , March 8, 1711, written by Joseph Addison. A later version appeared in "The New England Primer in the 18th century. My mom taught me to say this prayer at bedtime when I was a little girl, at about 5 years old and I grew to treasure it as I outgrew it over the many years past my 12th birthday- I am 63. <BR> <BR> Now I lay me down to sleep <BR> I pray the Lord my soul to keep. <BR> If I should die before I wake, <B... Wed, 24 Apr 2013 07:32:44 EST Experience, Strength and Hope I was taught through membership in a couple of 12 step programs to share my experience, strength and hope with others. The great part of that is I always have at least two out of three of those working in my life daily. It was there that I also heard the following prayer for the first time- (Saint Francis of Assisi was a 13th century saint who lived among the beggars at Saint Peter's Basilica in Rome): <BR> <BR> Prayer of Saint Francis of Ass... Sat, 16 Mar 2013 09:00:22 EST A Psalm of David I learned this Psalm when I was about 12 years old and have continued to recite it daily and/or nightly when I have problems getting to sleep and/or staying asleep. I feel it is helpful because I have read that 7 to 8 hours of sleep each night is good for weight loss. <BR> <BR> The Lord Is My Shepherd, the 23rd Psalm from the Holy Bible, <BR> King James version <BR> <BR> The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not want. <BR> He maketh me to lie down in green pastures: <BR> He leadeth me besi... Wed, 13 Mar 2013 08:53:23 EST Prayer Changes Things I pray daily for health- weight loss, to lift my physical disabilities, mental soundness, happiness for myself and others, etc.; for wealth - financial, family, friends, etc. <BR> I pray in accordance with the Holy Bible, King James version, <BR> as Jesus taught us in <BR> the Gospel according to Saint Matthew, Chapter 6, Verse 9 - <BR> After this manner therefore pray ye: <BR> <BR> Our Father which art in heaven, <BR> Hallowed be thy name, <BR> Thy kingdom come, <BR> Thy will be done in ... Tue, 12 Mar 2013 08:59:14 EST More Serenity Today The Serenity Prayer by Reinhold Niebuhr <BR> (Born Karl Paul Reinhold Niebuhr on June 21, 1892, an American theologian) <BR> <BR> God, give us Grace to Accept with Serenity <BR> The things that cannot be changed, <BR> Courage to change the things <BR> Which should be changed, <BR> And the Wisdom to distinguish <BR> The one from the other. <BR> <BR> Living one day at a time, <BR> Enjoying one moment at a time, <BR> Accepting hardship as a pathway to peace, <BR> Taking, as Jesus did, <BR>... Sat, 19 Jan 2013 10:44:14 EST 2012 Yearly Review - Accomplishments Increased my workout minutes from 60 minutes, 5 days a week to 180 minutes 6 days a week <BR> <BR> Tracked my food and water intake daily on the Spark People web site <BR> <BR> Read spiritual writings and meditated at least 10 minutes daily <BR> <BR> Gave financial, food and clothing donations to several charitable organizations <BR> <BR> Recited my Affirmations and my Gratitudes daily <BR> <BR> Played Spark People Trivia and Huddled with all my Spark People Teams daily <BR> <BR> At... Sun, 13 Jan 2013 07:52:02 EST New Year Gratitude List I am Grateful for : <BR> Life <BR> God <BR> Love <BR> Family <BR> Friends <BR> Walking <BR> Health <BR> Wealth <BR> Total Bodily Functions <BR> Pursuit of Happiness <BR> Kindness of Others <BR> Housing <BR> Shelter <BR> Internet <BR> Wits <BR> Five Senses <BR> Finances <BR> Passion <BR> Compassion <BR> Healthy Food <BR> Water <BR> Air <BR> Electricity <BR> Happiness Tue, 1 Jan 2013 08:07:59 EST Stay in the NOW Dear Lord help me stay in the day, the moment, the NOW. <BR> <BR> I will no longer linger in the past because all there is in the past for me are anger, pain, regret, shame, guilt and misery. <BR> <BR> I will no longer fantasize about the future because all there is for me in the future are worry, possibilities, insecurity, doubt, fear and apprehension. <BR> <BR> So what is in the NOW for me - God, being, love, beauty, reality, opportunity, spirituality, self,happiness, joy, blessings,... Sun, 23 Dec 2012 15:21:09 EST Re - Affirmations According to The Holy Bible, King James version, Exodus, chapter 3, verse 14 .".. And God said unto Moses - I am that I am" <BR> <BR> And for today <BR> I am Happy, Joyous & Free <BR> <BR> I am Fair, Firm & Consistent <BR> <BR> I am Healthy, Wealthy & Wise <BR> <BR> I am Grateful, Thankful & Reasonable <BR> <BR> I am Nurturing, Generous & Giving <BR> <BR> Humble, Faithful, True <BR> <BR> Honest, Efficient, Effective <BR> <BR> Loving, Kind, Benevolent <BR> <BR> Fearless, Brave,... Wed, 21 Nov 2012 07:54:31 EST Hurricane Sandy I have lived here for 20 years. Up until Hurricane Sandy came last week, we did not have lengthy power outages or flooding. But from Monday, October 29th to Tuesday, November 6, 2012 my family were without electric power and heat in sometime 32 degree weather, us and the surrounding area in New Jersey. <BR> <BR> We did a lot of praying and exercised a lot of humility, patience and acceptance. Three days prior to the power being restored the surrounding areas slowly began to get power back... Wed, 7 Nov 2012 08:49:34 EST Gratitudes not Platitudes - the expanded version Grateful for Life <BR> I almost died a little over 2 years ago and prior to that I have had low points in my life wherein I was not grateful to be alive. I took it for granted and was even not impressed with this thing called life. <BR> Grateful for God in my life <BR> I always believed in God, from early childhood, but not really grateful like I am today. My eyes and my heart opened even wider as I truly started to take notice of how blessed I am. <BR> Grateful for Walking <BR> When I had ... Tue, 23 Oct 2012 14:56:51 EST Taking the Fork in the Road (LOL) Yogi Berra said " when you get to a fork in the road, take it", (LMAO) <BR> <BR> After 4 months I had my last occupational therapy session today. I had my last physical therapy session last Friday. Now I have to commit to 2 hour sessions at home, 6 days a week. <BR> <BR> I have the time, the written instructions and the equipment. It is now time to take the fork in the road (lol) <BR> <BR> Dear God in heaven above help me keep my commitment to myself and my family. In spite of the pain... Fri, 12 Oct 2012 19:57:02 EST All Glory Be To Him I began the month thanking God for progress in my workouts, for healthy eating and weight loss that I wanted to receive this, my birthday, month. <BR> I followed my prayers up by making sure I had more varied workouts; monitoring my intake amount of healthy food; and engaging in more structured prayers, gratitude lists, meditation and affirmations. <BR> Since October 1st, I have lost 6 pounds. <BR> All praises to my higher power whom I chose to call God, and to Him goes the glory. I wil... Sun, 7 Oct 2012 11:04:48 EST He Believes In Me I was watching one of my favorite comedians with my husband this weekend. The comedian said in his monologue that he did not believe in religion or in God. My husband turned to me surprised, and I reaffirmed that he was an atheist. Then my husband repeated a line from the miniseries, The Stand," it doesn't matter if he doesn't believe in God, God believes in him." <BR> I truly believe that in my case, although I do believe in God and I am positive that He has shown me that He believes... Mon, 1 Oct 2012 20:37:21 EST Getting Better One Day At A Time I had a Stroke two years ago. I was paralyzed on my left side, (primarily my limbs), for approximately three months/ninety days. I am still in physical and occupational therapy three days a week trying to recover my former strength, control and flexibility in my left limbs. I walk with use of either cane/walker. I have residual and related complications and pain on the left which includes my shoulder, hip, neck, face, foot and slightly internal organs. <BR> <BR> I say this to speak my t... Thu, 20 Sep 2012 07:49:55 EST Progress not perfection and my serenity A couple of problems have cropped up recently that I have had to pray extra hard about. I thought I was managing things nicely and they got out of control. I surveyed the problems and came up with 2 or 3 possible solutions for each one. Then I gave myself a timeline for each problem and the possible solution(s). Then I gave them to God. So far things appear to be coming along nicely. <BR> Wednesday of next week is the day when I should get some real relief, instead of my banda... Fri, 14 Sep 2012 14:26:01 EST Serenity Prayer By Reinhold Niebur <BR> <BR> God give us grace to accept with serenity the things that cannot be changed. Courage to change the things which should be changed, and the Wisdom to distinguish the one from the other. <BR> Living one day at a time. Enjoying one moment at a time. Accepting hardship as a pathway to peace. Taking as Jesus did, this sinful world as it is, Not as I would have it. Trusting that You will make all things right if I surrender to Your will. So that I may be reasonab... Sun, 2 Sep 2012 14:54:20 EST OH HAPPY DAY! I had not given up but my spirits were low. I had started out 2012 losing 1 to 2 lbs a month. And with no new complications on the horizon I was not grateful or happy. Then in April I started to gain 1 or 2 lbs a week or staying the same until by August I had gained 11 lbs. <BR> I began to pray more, got some gratitude, started more monitoring of my food and exercise. I became more diligent with my healthy snacks, drank more water, stepped up my exercise routine and voila', I lost 6 lbs s... Sun, 26 Aug 2012 15:38:25 EST Life's Challenges Still here Lord, still hoeing the row. never give up, never quit. Thank you for my many blessings and Your grace in my time of need. Thank You for being there in spite of my many struggles and the many obstacles strewn in my path. Thank You for helping me meet and overcome my challenges. I know that overcoming challenges, pain and struggle builds character. <BR> Thank You for walking with me and being there as I confront and overcome the trials and tribulations I encounter post Stroke... Sat, 4 Aug 2012 16:15:40 EST Thanks, God Thank You God for Your continued love and care. <BR> Thank You: For my ability to walk; <BR> For the functioning of my five senses; <BR> For my wits; <BR> For showing up when I need you the most; <BR> For showing up when I don't even know I need it or You; <BR> For my financial resources; <BR> For coming through when I am afraid; <BR> For being there when I'm in over my head; <BR> For being there when I don't know what to do or what I'm doing at the time and; <BR> Thank You for lif... Fri, 29 Jun 2012 07:44:28 EST Adjust, then adjust again I had a series of unrelated events occurred these past few weeks that turned out to be all good through God's grace. <BR> First, my beloved Explorer needed repairs that was going to cost me thousands of dollars. So with my family's help, I chose to sell it for salvage instead. The money from salvage netted a good profit that was shared by my family for other outstanding items plus some savings. <BR> My medical condition and care, require monthly home blood tests. Initially I was having pr... Sat, 9 Jun 2012 08:51:11 EST Faith I was wondering why I still have fear and anxiety whenever I have to do something new or go to a different place for the first time since I had a Stroke. <BR> I lecture myself: what is wrong with you? Why aren't you stronger? Where is your faith? <BR> I think that the Stroke took a lot out of me. It came without a warning. I was paralyzed on my left side. Initially: it took away my ability to walk, feed myself, take care of myself; it was painful at times-shots, medical procedures and tes... Tue, 24 Apr 2012 12:55:31 EST Meditation Two For approximately 6 months I have been meditating for at least 10 minutes daily, usually more during the work week. I embarked on my meditation journey about 20 years ago while taking a Yoga class at my gym. Failing miserably in my estimation, stopping it and then returning to it again in my late 40's, only to stop again. Shortly before I had a stroke in 2010, my daughter began urging me to meditate, even buying books and CDs and putting them on my iTunes. <BR> <BR> This morning I had a... Thu, 12 Apr 2012 08:58:33 EST My Testimony I believe in a higher power who I choose to call God. <BR> God is good all the time. <BR> He may not come when you want it, but he's right on time. <BR> God does more than answer my prayers, but He consistently supersedes my wishes, my hopes, my desires. <BR> God's will, not mine be done. <BR> If God is for you, no man can go against you and He is always for me. <BR> My saviour, my lord, my Jesus, My Christ Almighty. <BR> I am making this declaration in Jesus' name, for Christ's sake, Am... Fri, 30 Mar 2012 15:10:46 EST Thank God That I Am That I Am "I am that I am" - Dr. Wayne Dyer - Exodus 3:14 And God said unto Moses, I Am That I Am: <BR> <BR> Thank You God, my higher power who I choose to call God, I am relaxed, content, peaceful, and stress free . <BR> <BR> Thank You God I am healthy emotionally, socially, mentally, sexually, physically, medically, spiritually, poetically, rhetorically, literally and figuratively. <BR> <BR> 4 Great Words - Dignity, Integrity, Humility and Love. God is Love <BR> <BR> Thank God for (sm) All favo... Mon, 19 Mar 2012 12:48:48 EST Young Love I was born into a large, violent, dysfunctional family, (5 brothers and one sister), in a farming region of the rural South. As my mother was very religious, I spent a great deal of my childhood in the church, the Baptist church to be exact. As a child I prayed to God to set things right, get me out of trouble, give me nicer parents, Give me good brothers and just about everything I felt should happen. I thought God could go "pouf" and magically make it all better. <BR> I joined the chu... Mon, 5 Mar 2012 17:57:02 EST Love When I had my stroke in August, 2010 I was in my 8th year of a second marriage. I was secure in my love and marriage. I went from hospitalization to a rehabilitation center/nursing home setting for 4 months. I was there with other stroke patients, heart attack sufferers and knee/hip replacement patients. Most of us were housed 2 to a room, like college dormitory housing. I got a glimpse into the lives of other people, mostly women like myself, ages averaging 55 up to 100, married and s... Sun, 19 Feb 2012 11:29:04 EST Meditation Meditate, workout and food plan are the order of the day for me. I meditate every day of the week, guided meditation. Although I started meditation about 20 years ago I still need guidance in that area. I started meditation because I joined a Yoga class that offered optional meditation at the end of the class for ten minutes. I would always stay for meditation at the end and I would always fall asleep while meditating. I was upset with myself for falling asleep but my instructor said that... Fri, 10 Feb 2012 06:37:22 EST Food Plan Low or no sugar <BR> No white food except cauliflower <BR> Low or no fats except healthy fats <BR> Three regular meals daily <BR> One healthy snack 5 days a week <BR> No dairy <BR> No citrus <BR> 8 - 8 ounce glasses of water daily <BR> No sodas <BR> No alcoholic beverages <BR> Fiber daily <BR> 5 fruits and vegetables daily Thu, 19 Jan 2012 15:52:53 EST Workout regimen Workout 6 days a week, 100 reps <BR> <BR> Physical Therapy: <BR> <BR> Leg/knee lifts <BR> Walking <BR> Toe taps/touches <BR> Knee kick pauses <BR> Squats <BR> Bike/pedalizer <BR> <BR> <BR> Occupational Therapy: <BR> <BR> Hand presses <BR> Arm stretches <BR> Shoulder lifts <BR> Shoulder rbolls <BR> Gripper <BR> Play doh <BR> Shapes <BR> Hand exercises <BR> Free weights/curls <BR> <BR> <BR> <BR> Thu, 19 Jan 2012 15:42:53 EST What Happened? About 16 months ago I was struggling with my weight and still recuperating from 2 broken and busted knees that had occurred on two occasions during the previous decade. I was on and off high blood pressure medication, with and without doctor's orders. I was in and mostly out of doctors offices. I was walking with and without a limp, on my good days. I was taking vitamins and pretending, hoping, and praying that everything was alright. Silently, secretly knowing in my heart and in my c... Sun, 18 Dec 2011 14:41:07 EST Who Am I ? i am a married, retired, mother, spark person <BR> Married, Mother - First marriage lasted 17 years and produced 2 children- a boy and a girl, now adults, Daughter married for 4 years, son single, no children. <BR> - Second marriage now for 9 plus years, no children. <BR> Retired after 36 plus years with state government <BR> Spark person off and on since 2008, lost 47 pounds to date. Trying to lose more weight through a Low or no sugar, low or no salt, low or no fat, l... Tue, 13 Dec 2011 08:23:40 EST A Day In My Spark Life 5 AM- Get up, clean/wash up, brush teeth, get dressed, etc... <BR> 6 AM - Breakfast, take medication, take vitamins <BR> 7AM - Meditation <BR> 8AM - Begin exercises, stretches, leg/knee lifts/kicks, stationary bike/pedalizer, etc... <BR> 12 PM - Lunch <BR> 1 PM - Healthy Brain exercises <BR> 2 PM - Rest and/ or Paperwork, Internet, Etc... <BR> 5 PM - Dinner <BR> 6PM - TV/ Relaxation Time/Family, DH <BR> 7 PM - Shower, brush teeth, get ready for bed <BR> 8PM - 9 PM - Reading, Internet, Famil... Fri, 2 Dec 2011 13:23:21 EST Weight Loss Biography I was skinny until I turned 22, and then I struggled to maintain 128 lbs. By the time I turned 26 I was flucuating somewhere between 135 and 145 lbs. I had already started special diets, chewing gum when I felt hungry, going to gyms, Weight Watchers and skipping meals. <BR> By then I had gotten married and when I got pregnant with my first child I gained 40+ pounds. Two years later I became pregnant with my second child, I had not lost the weight from my first pregnancy and I gained an ... Mon, 28 Nov 2011 14:41:58 EST Gratitude List I am grateful for life, family and God in my life. <BR> I am grateful I have a husband who loves me and takes care of me. <BR> I am grateful I have a daughter who loves me and cares for me. <BR> I am grateful that my ex-husband and son are reasonably healthy. <BR> I am grateful that in spite of my stroke I can walk, talk, see, smell, hear, taste, think, write... <BR> I am grateful I have a functioning brain and body. <BR> I am grateful I can pay my bills, that I have money to buy things I nee... Fri, 18 Nov 2011 08:08:48 EST God and Sparkpeople <em>252</em> . I had a Stroke last year in August, 2010 and had lost over 30 pounds less than 3 months later. Mind you I had been trying to lose at least 50 pounds and keep it off for about ten years prior to that. I had joined gyms, bought exercise equipment, bought exercise DVDs. I would lose 2 or 3 pounds a week, a month and then gain it right back. No matter how hard I tried I could not get under 200 pounds. <BR> Thanks to God and Sparkpeople I finally weigh less than 200 pounds... Thu, 17 Nov 2011 18:44:01 EST