-WISPY-'s SparkPeople Blog http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal.asp?id=%2DWISPY%2D -WISPY-'s Blog on SparkPeople, home of free diet plans and a healthy living community SparkPeople.com http://assets2.sparkpeople.com/assets/nav/logo_spark.gif http://www.sparkpeople.com/ 10 tips On ways of learning to love yourself. http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5762511 Received this from a friend the other day. Do not know where it came from so I cannot give credit. It is so helpful to me that I am wanting to share it. <BR> <BR> If anyone knows the source please let me know and I will add it. <BR> <BR> PS. I now have it on 'good authority', thanks Sue <em>9</em> it is written by Louise Hay. <BR> <BR> "10 Steps to Loving Yourself <BR> <BR> 1. Stop all criticism. <BR> Criticism never changes a thing. Refuse to criticize yourself. Accept yourself... Mon, 18 Aug 2014 23:02:23 EST Just found this - it is called 'life changing tips' - loved it - wanted to share - http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5672320 Here are ten life changing tips inspired by quotes from the great Sufi poet, Rumi: <BR> <BR> 1. Challenge Fear <BR> <BR> "Run from what’s comfortable. Forget safety. Live where you fear to live. Destroy your reputation. Be notorious." <BR> <BR> 2. Be Bold <BR> <BR> "Do not be satisfied with the stories that come before you. Unfold your own myth." <BR> <BR> 3. Have Gratitude <BR> <BR> "Wear gratitude like a cloak and it will feed every corner of your life." <BR> <BR> 4. Take Action <BR>... Mon, 14 Apr 2014 20:27:47 EST Depression and the help of writing http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5587027 I spent a very large part of my life with depression. Not the come and go kind, but the day by day constant companion kind when the world is just a grey, foggy, aching emptiness and time crawls by from one agonizing second to the next. I had everything outwardly. Husband, family, home, my own business - but I felt lost and empty and scared on the inside as if I was at the bottom of a very deep pit. <BR> <BR> My life did not change suddenly but very slowly over the last 50 years. I could thi... Wed, 8 Jan 2014 14:42:23 EST Living in the Present Moment http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5576976 “All negativity is caused by an accumulation of psychological time and denial of the present. Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry - all forms of fear - are caused by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of non-forgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence.” <BR> <BR> Eckhart Tolle <BR> Tue, 31 Dec 2013 17:52:03 EST Finding freedom ... from me http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5565011 I am wishing you all the blessings of peace and joy that so many of us do not find at this time of year. My first sober Christmas I spent most of the time in bed trying not to think about what everyone else was doing. All my pre AA friends were out partying and I was alone, cold on the inside as well as the outside, scared and so lonely and miserable. For me emotional recovery took a long, long time. I used to be amazed at how others seemed to be bright eyed and bushy tailed in a few wee... Sun, 15 Dec 2013 17:09:38 EST "In everything give thanks ..." http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5563854 Today I am giving thanks for everything exactly as it is - I have been working on this for a long while. Many times gritting my teeth and doing it anyway just because I believed in the principle. <BR> <BR> An unusual thought came to mind as I awoke this morning and it is this - <BR> <BR> How arrogant am I to question the goodness of anything that has been made by that which created me? <BR> <BR> This last couple of months have been a kind of new chapter for me with all sorts of new thi... Fri, 13 Dec 2013 21:04:17 EST To those who are sad, lonely or depressed at Christmas time http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5558727 Today I read a story from a friend who is not looking forward to Christmas. Her story is heart warming and personal. I have been there on so many Christmases and I understand how she feels absolutely. <BR> <BR> This is for those of us who are alone for whatever reason. For those of us who cannot be with family, or do not have a happy family experience in any case. It is for those of us who are mentally or physically disabled, challenged or abused and are too sad or afraid to tell anyon... Fri, 6 Dec 2013 23:23:22 EST Acceptance of What Is, so we can move forward http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5553765 Don't know if this will be helpful to anyone, but for those of you who have asked I am happy to share my own journey with 'acceptance'. <BR> <BR> There are lots of quotes and articles about 'acceptance' and how important it is - but actually how to experience it is another matter - so perhaps it is a process we have to go through in our own way with the help of whatever Higher Power we believe in. <BR> <BR> I am an alcoholic, so my first experience with the attitude of acceptance occurred w... Sat, 30 Nov 2013 22:29:22 EST A new science of happiness http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5531428 " A new science of happiness is finding that these emotions can be readily cultivated in familiar ways, bringing out the good in others and in oneself. Here are some recent empirical examples: <BR> <BR> Meditating on a compassionate approach to others shifts resting brain activation to the left hemisphere, a region associated with happiness, and boosts immune functions. <BR> <BR> Talking about areas of gratitude, in classrooms, at the dinner table or in the diary, boosts happiness and socia... Sun, 3 Nov 2013 23:05:21 EST A journey from being a perfectionist http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5527697 Perhaps it is not so much that aiming for perfection is a hard task master, although it most certainly is both for ourselves and for those around us who we think should be perfect also, according to our ideas of what perfection is. <BR> <BR> Perfection is a hard task master or mistress. I was a perfectionist for a large part of my life, striving to attain perfection in all that I was involved in at any given time. I was hard on myself and those around me. I gritted my teeth and forced... Wed, 30 Oct 2013 19:43:44 EST All beautifully imperfect http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5526823 <BR> “We are all wonderful, beautiful wrecks. That's what connects us--that <BR> we're all broken, all beautifully imperfect.” <BR> <BR> ¯ Emilio Estevez Tue, 29 Oct 2013 20:44:10 EST The Gifts of Imperfection: http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5525888 "The Gifts of Imperfection: <BR> <BR> Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be <BR> and Embrace Who You Are <BR> <BR> - Brene Brown <BR> <BR> Mon, 28 Oct 2013 19:43:58 EST A protein by any other name... http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5516392 Just wanted to pop in as I have now discovered that some people mean something quite different to what I mean when they talk about 100gr of protein. I mean protein weight as it used to be called. 3 1/2 oz of protein = a 100gr weight of meat, fish, poultry, 2 boiled eggs etc. <BR> <BR> I was quite confused to hear a couple of times recently that 200gr protein a day was bad for my health and as I am in good health, diabetes and BP under control without medication and I am in my seventies this ... Thu, 17 Oct 2013 20:31:03 EST An on-site lesson in ego v peace http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5514593 Hi guys, well have to tell you first that my acceptance was right out the window this morning for about ten minutes. I lost it completely. Have not been so angry in a very long time. <BR> <BR> Last Friday the property developer who is putting in the sub-division behind me said that my boundary fence was over limit by about 35 centimetres and asked if they could move my fence back on to my land. This had been confirmed by his engineer. I already knew so I agreed that they could move and rep... Tue, 15 Oct 2013 20:45:23 EST To Those Who Suffer with ME, CFS and anything else that people think is all in our heads http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5511975 I got something akin to glandular fever when I was 40 and my physical problems started as a consequence of that condition. This was 34 years ago. <BR> <BR> However the umbrella name in use at that time was ME. This was what they called it if they could not get a positive result on Lupus or other similar conditions which presented in a similar manner. There were other types of viral infections that were also lumped under that heading, at least on this side of the world because they seemed... Sun, 13 Oct 2013 00:16:41 EST On My Soapbox again :) http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5489571 Hi Sweetie. There are always people who make judgements against any eating plan which is not the one they happen to be promoting or using themselves. <BR> <BR> I am a firm believer in trying what looks like a plan I can live with. I do not like reading anything where the author is saying other plans are faulty in some way. And as soon as they do this I stop reading their articles. I prefer to find out what works for me. <BR> <BR> We are individuals and no one else knows my body as well a... Wed, 18 Sep 2013 19:27:25 EST Depression - Panic - Anxiety - PTSD http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5471304 So many of us suffer with this in one form or another and to varying degrees. <BR> It is still widely misunderstood and sometimes people even role their eyes as if we should 'just get over ourselves', or 'get it all together and let bygones be bygones.' <BR> <BR> PTSD can be a very deep seated condition and many of us are scarred for life by what has happened to us in childhood - even to the extent of taking our own life because we could not live with the emotional pain. Horror has a way ... Fri, 30 Aug 2013 23:09:50 EST Getting free from the tyranny of food http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5470259 Hi there guys <BR> <BR> We can all do this. We are not on the four letter word 'diet'. <BR> We are changing our way of living for the rest of our lives - one day at a time. <BR> We are not in a race - there are no winners and losers. <BR> We are all doing great - no matter what little or big hiccups occur. <BR> We are here, we are alive. There is hope - and it is FREE in Spark People. <BR> We are posting and telling it like it is. <BR> We are never giving up. <BR> We are picking up the pie... Thu, 29 Aug 2013 20:36:07 EST TO ANYONE LIVING WITH FAMILY OR PARTNER ABUSE http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5462344 Writing was the beginning of finding help for myself. <BR> <BR> When I first started writing I found it hard to even think of anything to say, it was suggested to me just to write down whatever was in my head, like 'I don't know what to write', 'this is stupid', 'this is not going anywhere', 'I just keep writing the same old things', then follow with how this made me feel... frustrated, fed up, angry, just whatever. I was told to write any thought as it arose and if my mind seemed blank the... Wed, 21 Aug 2013 20:02:30 EST EMOTIONAL SOBRIETY AND SANITY http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5436736 Sometimes words can seem harsh and I do not mean what I am about to say to sound uncaring. <BR> <BR> I would suggest that anyone who is living with, related to, or good friends with an addict or emotionally disturbed person does get in touch with one of the Anon groups. They are truly wonderful and the focus is different. Addiction, mental health and dysfunction runs in my family as it does for many of us. <BR> <BR> If there does not happen to be a specific group that suits your particular ... Sun, 28 Jul 2013 22:57:59 EST A TRIBUTE TO MY 4 YEARS IN SPARK http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5412919 Since joining Spark I have got into the habit of recording my food daily. It is something I never really contemplated before as I have always been able to lose quickly and easily and was constantly off and on some diet or other. <BR> <BR> After I became disabled I just piled on weight for the next five years before I joined Spark. I didn't really care and seldom thought of what I ate and never weighed myself. So one day a friend joined SP and I just knew that this was meant for me also. I w... Sun, 7 Jul 2013 02:28:13 EST FINDING HEALING AND FREEDOM FROM CHILDHOOD AND PARTNER ABUSE http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5405813 One of the most difficult things in my life was to face up to and share what had happened to me. I spent many years of my life suffering in silence feeling guilty, wicked and unloveable. <BR> <BR> Today I know my sharing has blessed myself and many others. Each of us, who have suffered in this way, have to deal with the events of our past, or present in our own way and at a time which is right for ourselves when we become ready and able to do so. <BR> <BR> At first I thought it was shami... Sat, 29 Jun 2013 21:33:21 EST Positive Affirmations that really work http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5227765 Sometimes we hear that affirmations do not seem to make any difference to those using them and I just want to share a couple of techniques that I have used over the years that have been successful and these are to make my affirmations both Positive and Active. <BR> <BR> It seems our subconscious readily accepts what we tell it, but does not understand a negative statement so it just removes the "not" from our affirmation. <BR> <BR> So "I will not overeat, or "I will not do 'this' aga... Mon, 28 Jan 2013 20:47:24 EST THIS WORKS - PLEASE READ ME - WHAT HAVE YOU GOT TO LOSE? http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=5173187 The following is easy to understand and simple to do, it takes very little time and can be done as often as you like, wherever you are and can be used to improve any aspect of your life. <BR> <BR> I used this system under the name of Quantum Healing at the beginning of the year and it has produced great results in my physical health. At that time I had no thought of applying it to anything else. <BR> <BR> Because it was so successful (as can be read in my previous blogs), I have now read ... Fri, 21 Dec 2012 20:24:37 EST QUANTUM HEALING 6 http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=4865367 Have to tell you what I did this morning. I WALKED ONE MILE. I can hardly believe it. <BR> <BR> My story in brief for those of you who are un-familiar with it. <BR> <BR> I have been virtually housebound for the last 8 or 9 years. When I joined SP I could only walk 8 steps to the bathroom. I gradually increased my steps to the long way round to the bathroom - 24 steps, then slow walk round the garden with the walker, sitting every few minutes and then finally managing to get to the shops wi... Thu, 3 May 2012 21:12:00 EST QUANTUM HEALING 5 http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=4843549 Something very similar to this was sent to me by a friend of mine who is also following the same system as myself, his name is Niraj Naik - so I want to give him the credit as he has done it so beautifully. <BR> <BR> I have however altered it somewhat - so that it accurately reflects what I am doing. <BR> <BR> The simple steps I am using which have brought about the most amazing changes in my life. <BR> <BR> Know exactly what it is you want to bring into being <BR> <BR> Write it down spe... Fri, 20 Apr 2012 05:30:02 EST QUANTUM HEALING 4 http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=4836517 I am delighted that a friend of mine in SP has been spreading the word about the principles of Quantum Healing. <BR> <BR> If anyone is interested I am gaining more information and knowledge as I go along. <BR> <BR> The specific system I found and practice is not necessarily for everyone, but it is what introduced me to Quantum Healing and the results were so dramatic I can still hardly believe it. I also use the Deepak Chopra books, especially what I think of as a work book, which tells u... Sun, 15 Apr 2012 19:37:49 EST QUANTUM HEALING 3 http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=4822350 There is so much information out there on this, what I think of, as the Miracle of Quantum Healing. There is no specific religious affiliation, or in fact it does not matter if you are not a spiritual person at all. Believing in God does not seem to be issue here. <BR> <BR> It does not seem to contradict anything I believe in, in any way, in fact it all points to a Being, or the Universe - if you prefer, as being created by Love and certain Laws. It is about bringing ourselves in line with t... Thu, 5 Apr 2012 19:28:04 EST QUANTUM HEALING 2 http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=4822319 I have now discovered there are so many approaches to Quantum Healing and different kinds of meditations, something for everyone I am thinking. The one I came upon first was right for me. But there are so many others. <BR> <BR> I came across this today - and thought some of you might enjoy it. <BR> <BR> Worry and Love Cannot Occupy the Same Space <BR> <BR> One critical Spiritual Teaching I would love to imprint into every motherfs heart (and everyone else for that matter) is simple, gWo... Thu, 5 Apr 2012 18:53:18 EST QUANTUM HEALING 1 http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=4815747 Quantum Healing is kind of difficult to sum up in a few words. It is something I had never really got into. I had heard of Quantum Physics and Deepak Chopra's views on healing the body with the mind, but it never really caught my attention until a month ago. I had been having such a bad time with different types of BP meds, and they all affected me the same and to put it mildly that was badly. Doc was mad when I said I wasn't going to take them any more at my last visit and he suggested I ... Sun, 1 Apr 2012 21:43:47 EST Short guided meditation video http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=4526017 A friend sent me this today and although I dont usually do guided meditations, I really enjoyed this so just wanted to share with anyone who might be interested. <BR> <BR> <link>www.dbtselfhelp.com/html/turning_the<BR>_mind1.html </link> <BR> <BR> Wispy Sat, 8 Oct 2011 21:17:17 EST 28 steps to building Self-Esteem - Day 28 http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=4509304 Day 28 <BR> <BR> Choose one thing off the list over the last 4 weeks that you personally found the most difficult. <BR> Attempt to do this today. <BR> <BR> If you succeed write down your difficulties with accomplishing it and how you felt on completion. <BR> <BR> If you do not do it then just write down a list of what is stopping you. <BR> <BR> Ask yourself some questions. <BR> <BR> What do you think will happen if you do this? <BR> <BR> What will it say about you if you do/do not do t... Wed, 28 Sep 2011 21:29:41 EST 28 steps to building Self-Esteem - Day 27 http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=4505787 Day 27 <BR> <BR> Ways to overcome Emotional Eating as a result of low self esteem and/or bottled up (unexpressed) emotions. <BR> <BR> Things that work for me. <BR> 1. Following a written daily plan. It is much easier to stick to something once the plan is committed to paper. <BR> <BR> 2. Committing it to another person as well - for as long as necessary. <BR> <BR> 3. Clearing out the fridge and cupboards of all junk food. <BR> <BR> 4. Making a shopping list from my eating plan and buyi... Mon, 26 Sep 2011 22:12:26 EST 28 steps to building Self-Esteem - Day 26 http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=4503701 Day 26 <BR> <BR> Have you ever played a game where people were cheering you on from the sidelines? Or doing anything where you were being cheered or applauded. <BR> <BR> If you have you will know the adrenalin rush and lift it can give you to up your game. If you have not experienced this you can imagine how wonderful it would feel. <BR> <BR> Well today is the day to start being your own cheerleader. <BR> <BR> The energy and enthusiasm of a cheerleader is a wonderful way to lift self este... Sun, 25 Sep 2011 21:11:24 EST 28 steps to building Self-Esteem - Day 25 http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=4500876 Day 25 <BR> <BR> Surround yourself and your home with people and things that lift your spirits and make you feel good about yourself and your life. <BR> <BR> If you happen to have a negative partner or spouse I understand how difficult this can be, but whether it is on line or in real life seek out people who share your interestes, your depression or your low self esteem. Whatever it may be. There are groups everywhere these days for all sorts of past times and human issues. Find a grou... Fri, 23 Sep 2011 22:11:12 EST 28 steps to building Self-Esteem - Day 24 http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=4495697 Day 24 <BR> <BR> Today's exercise is in two parts. <BR> <BR> You can do both parts, or choose the one that is most important to you right now . <BR> <BR> The first section is for those of you who have a happy period in your lives when you did feel good and do have happy memories captured in photos. <BR> <BR> The second section is for those whose childhood's were unhappy and the pictures bring pain, sadness or just emptiness. If this feels more like you then go to the second section. <B... Tue, 20 Sep 2011 22:07:34 EST 28 steps to building Self-Esteem - Day 23 http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=4490680 Day 23 <BR> <BR> is about Living in the present. <BR> Enjoying the journey and for the present forgetting about the destination. <BR> <BR> Deciding where we want to go is essential or we would never begin the journey - but it is the journey that is important rather than the end result. For all we know we may never reach our final goals but we can travel towards them every day. <BR> <BR> Once we have made the decision to improve our self esteem we can work with whatever is present in toda... Sun, 18 Sep 2011 08:15:30 EST 28 steps to building Self-Esteem - Day 22 http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=4488956 Day 22 <BR> <BR> Do you have at least one good feature? <BR> <BR> Maybe it is your hair, eyes, or lips. Whatever it is look at that part of yourself and tell yourself that you like your - and then name it - own it. Tell yourself it is pretty, well shaped or whatever adjectives that fit. <BR> <BR> If you find nothing you like in your face then move further down your body, perhaps your hands, nails or feet. Anywhere in between is also good. :o) <BR> <BR> Name it and admire it. This is a go... Fri, 16 Sep 2011 22:31:04 EST 28 steps to building Self-Esteem - Day 21 http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=4487158 Day 21 <BR> <BR> Today when you meet another person, stranger or friend, look them in the eyes and smile. If you can think of something you like about their appearance or personality give them a compliment during the time you spend together. It needs to be something genuine. <BR> <BR> If you were unable to do this, when you get back to your journal, think about this person and find at least one thing about them that you like or admire, there may be several things - they may even make you fe... Thu, 15 Sep 2011 20:34:56 EST 28 steps to building Self-Esteem - Day 20 http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=4484023 Day 20 <BR> <BR> Today it is time for a reminder "I can learn to like myself." <BR> You may have been doing this exercise daily and if so that is great. <BR> <BR> If you are feeling better about yourself than when you began the exercises then look yourself in the eyes and say "I really am learning how to like myself" <BR> No matter how small the change may be, you are on the road to becoming your own best friend. <BR> <BR> Now if a little voice pops up inside your head and says "No I do ... Wed, 14 Sep 2011 06:55:18 EST 28 steps to building Self-Esteem - Day 19 http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=4481889 Day 19 <BR> <BR> Everyone makes mistakes, but those of us with low self esteem tend to make a mountain out of a mole hole over them. We can berate ourselves and go over and over the embarrassment, pain or guilt, reliving the incident and becoming afraid, stressed and upset out of all proportion to the thing itself. <BR> <BR> It is OK to make a mistake, this is how we learn what to do and what not to do. Everyone makes mistakes. Some in public and others that no one may know about. <BR> <B... Tue, 13 Sep 2011 00:42:55 EST 28 steps to building Self-Esteem - Day 18 http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=4476265 Day 18 <BR> <BR> Focus on the positive. <BR> <BR> If you are the kind of negative person I used to be this exercise begins to highlight how easy it is to see the half empty (if not totally empty) glass and the reason why this pulls us down. It can be a way of thinking that just runs on all by itself without us even really noticing how dismal our thoughts are. <BR> <BR> You may have been working on changing your thinking to a more positive frame of mind or this may be your first attempt, e... Fri, 9 Sep 2011 21:15:39 EST 28 steps to building Self-Esteem - Day 17 http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=4472773 Day 17 <BR> <BR> Catch up on any exercise you may not have done and are putting off. Make today the day you do it. <BR> <BR> Read through your journal and see what you have accomplished then look yourself in the eyes and smile at your reflection. This is you in the mirror and you are doing things to help yourself. Time to congratulate you. <BR> <BR> However much or how little you have done then you have something to celebrate, even if you are still reading these tips it is time to celebr... Thu, 8 Sep 2011 00:04:46 EST 28 steps to building Self-Esteem - Day 16 http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=4466292 Day 16 <BR> <BR> In one relationship today take the initiative. Be decisive. Say what you want to do rather than just going along with the flow of what others want to do. <BR> <BR> Let the other person know exactly what you want to do, or want to eat, or maybe what movie you want to see. Something that requires you to choose your preference rather than just 'fitting in'. <BR> <BR> It might even be a TV programme you want to watch. Notice the reaction of the other person if this is unusu... Sun, 4 Sep 2011 19:37:32 EST 28 steps to building Self-Esteem - Day 15 http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=4463324 Day 15 <BR> <BR> Today is another color day so get out the crayons, felts or pencils. <BR> The plan is to choose a color for each of the tasks we have covered over the last two weeks <BR> Don't think about it. <BR> Just go back over your journal and write down each task in the color that comes to mind. <BR> <BR> Do not think of anything you may know about color therapy or spiritual meanings. <BR> <BR> When the list is complete ask yourself how does each color make me feel? <BR> <BR> It d... Fri, 2 Sep 2011 21:52:01 EST 28 steps to building Self-Esteem - Day 14 http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=4459438 Day 14 <BR> <BR> "Don't put the key to your happiness in someone else's pocket - keep it in your own." Sorry I dont know who said this either - but it is a quote I live with and it is the summary of our second week. <BR> <BR> Make a list of the three self esteem boosters that you enjoyed doing the most and repeat them today. <BR> <BR> The plan over time is that doing many of these things will become second nature. Once we learn the benefits to ourselves of these seemingly small things ma... Wed, 31 Aug 2011 21:34:00 EST 28 steps to building Self-Esteem - Day 13 http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=4455716 Day 13 <BR> <BR> Think of one thing you like to do just for yourself alone, if this is an easy exercise for you then enjoy this thing today. Relax, put your feet up or get moving, whatever gives your pleasure. <BR> <BR> Do this one thing all by yourself for yourself - if you do not want to do it alone then ask yourself why not? <BR> <BR> Is it the actual thing you enjoy doing, or is it that your happiness is tied up with having someone special to do it with? <BR> <BR> Some of us find th... Tue, 30 Aug 2011 00:38:28 EST 28 steps to building Self-Esteem - Day 12 http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=4451837 Day 12 <BR> <BR> People with low self-esteem tend to dwell on failure in themselves and the good things accomplished every day pass by un-noticed. <BR> <BR> A notebook or journal on your computer where you can look back over the things you have done, and how you felt is a great help in building good self-esteem. We may do nine good acts in a day but then beat ourselves over the head for the one thing that did not go so well. <BR> <BR> Comparing ourselves to others leads nowhere good. Eith... Sat, 27 Aug 2011 21:00:54 EST 28 steps to building Self-Esteem - Day 11 http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=4448832 Day 11 <BR> <BR> First choose a selection of crayons, felt tips, pencils - whatever you have to hand. There need to be at least 6 colors including - blue, red, black, yellow, green, purple. More is fine. <BR> <BR> This exercise needs to be done without taking thought once you are ready to begin. <BR> <BR> Now draw a picture using any colors you like. <BR> Do not think about what color you choose, just pick up whatever comes to your hand. <BR> Don't think of what you are going to draw - ... Thu, 25 Aug 2011 23:48:24 EST 28 steps to building Self-Esteem - Day 10 http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_journal_individual.asp?blog_id=4445069 Day 10 <BR> <BR> Choose one thing that you need to do today or perhaps should have done before now. <BR> It needs to be something you have been putting off, procrastinating about... or are dreading having to do in the near future. <BR> <BR> Today can be the day you choose to face it. From personal experience I can only tell you the feeling of lightness when it is completed and out of the way is immense. As long as we put it off the more and more the thought of it drags us down.. <BR> <B... Wed, 24 Aug 2011 00:31:05 EST