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1/26/08 first anniversary of my mom's death

Saturday, January 26, 2008

Today is a tough one for me, this whole year has really sucked in many ways. Things have happened that I know would have been made easier had my mom been alive, she had a way of making things ok, even during really bad times. my mom was far from perfect, but at the same time she was funny, grouchy, caring, loving and could curse like crazy!!!

I do my best to help like she did, but don't have the magic that she had. And I can't quite curse like her!! :)
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NATUREGIRL7 1/27/2008 2:56PM

    I hope today is a better day for you. It is always difficult when the anniversary of something (loss of loved one ) comes up, and unfotunately not one of us walking on the face of the earth is without these things. The loss of a mother is particularly hard. My mother has been gone 12 yrs and I still miss her ! But eventually time makes things a bit easier to bear. Just wanted to say that, and good luck on your healthy journey.

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CRAZYFORFOODKW 1/26/2008 12:21PM

    I have not lost my mom in a physical sense but she had dementia so the child/parent relationship has shifted and in most senses I have lost her. She still knows who I am (her youngest daughter) and is still sweet and all but she can't have very meaningful conversations anymore (she has lost some vocabulary and logic skills). I use to be great friends with my mom and now all we talk about is her incontinence (she gets stuck on topics for a very long time). Or she tries to talk to me about something else but due to her issues I can't understand what she tries to say, causing frustration and tears.

I am so sorry for your loss.

What you need to do now, though, is LIVE! Live to keep her memory alive. She would not want you to be unhappy or sad. She might even tell you to get off your F'ing ass and make it happen! (If you need someone to curse, I'm your (wo)man. Father is a navy man from the Big War (II) and Irish to boot so there are times we curse, well, like sailors!)

Maybe you could write about your Mom...what was she like? what did she do for a living? where did she live? did she travel? what was her favorite holiday? What is your favorite personal Mom memories?

Tell us all about her!

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JUSTTWINKIE 1/26/2008 8:25AM

    It will always be tough and you will always miss her but it will get better.
I lost mine almost 34 years ago and still today I think about her almost daily. There's always something that will remind me of her ,be it a smell or someones hair style or hair color even. It did take me a long time to be able to think of her without getting all said , I can now though, I hope to see her again one day.
Good luck on your getting healthy journey.
Janie

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