I'm Not Restarting
Tuesday, December 18, 2007
I was almost all set to do one of those "I'm restarting" blogs. Getting back into the swing of it. Getting the motivation up again. Getting back to healthy eating.
But I don't want to.
English is a funny language.
Whether you 'start' something, or 'stop' something, that something is the deviant behaviour. The 'norm' is the other thing. So if you "stop" then you cease a deviant behaviour and return to normal. If you "start" then you go from normal behaviours and add a new deviant behaviour.
Please note that "deviant" means "deviating from the normal". It is not negative! :)
So if I "start" being healthy again, it's admitting that the awful behaviour I've had recently is the norm. That's the usual, everyday way of behaving. The "started" behaviour is always deviant. So being healthy is deviant, and being unhealthy is the norm. I don't like that association.
So I'm not "starting". I'm "stopping" the bad behaviour. This means I'm returning to a state of normal, from deviant behaviou. My bad eating and lack of exercise has been deviant - has been not normal. I am returning to a normal state of being healthy, of eating well and getting exercise. I much prefer this way of thinking.
Of course, neither really matters. Provided you are moving to a healthy lifestyle pattern it doesn't really matter if you are "starting" a healthy lifestyle or "stopping" an unhealthy one. But in the head - oh there's a world of difference in the head!
It's funny what the psychology of words can do to us. If we believed that we were "starting again" each time we find ourselves off the wagon, we're constantly telling ourselves that bad behaviour is normal for us. That it is unusual to be healthy. That it is something we must struggle to keep foremost in our lives.
But tell ourselves that we are simply stopping an unhealthy pattern of behaviour, and we lead ourselves to believe that the healthy way is normal. That it's not difficult, it isn't something we strive to accomplish all the time. It's how we live, and we're simply returning to that now.
... I do go on, don't I? :)