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Tuesday, October 09, 2007

UGH... I don't know what's with Mark but it's getting really annoying!

He has always gotten excited or mad and yelled at the TV while watching his teams on TV but lately it's gotten really bad. I'm beginning to think something is wrong.

He watchs the Mets and Buffalo Bills and a couple Nascar drivers. I watch USC Trojan football. He used to never watch my collage football but last year started to. So this year he has too. But he has taking all the fun out of it for me. He yells and cusses when they mess up and just sounds so ANGRY and MEAN!!! He acts like they are loosing just to piss him off and he takes it personally that they are loosing! Then last night the Bills were playing Monday night football and up to the end they were ahead. He went up to bed before me and I'm heading up and he is YELLING and cussing at the tv! It's midnight and Corey is asleep in the next room and he is acting like he is at the game. Though with his mouth he might get his butt kicked carrying on like that.. And he even does it at Corey's games. I have to tell him to knock it off, they are just kids!

I'm glad he has been teaching when Corey has games and hasn't been to one lately. They have been playing badly and I just don't want to deal with him acting like an ass...

I'm tempted to call the Dr and talk to her about it but I know that would make him mad if he found out.
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SLCOLMAN 10/9/2007 7:41PM

    Cindy - Sorry that Mark is acting like an ass about watching sports! Watching sports should be fun not stressful. Try talking to him and if that doesn't work tell him you want him to go to the Drs with you and talk about it there. Keeping your marriage happy and healthy is important :)

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FITLIKENIC 10/9/2007 5:10PM

    Wow! I'm not sure where to start here, my hubby does chat to the TV, can get a bit loud but not to the point of anger...if it is new then I would say he has something bothering him and this is his outlet. Stress can release in many ways but if it is affecting the family then it needs to be brought into the open and discussed. As I do not know Mark only you know the method to go about it, but if you have a Doctor you can talk too it is a good place to start. You say he'd be mad, so be careful how you go about telling him but in the end you are doing it because you care for him and the relationship!

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VIOLETAUTUMN 10/9/2007 4:28PM

    LUVHUMMINGBIRD...It sounds like Mark has issues beyond just ball games and he's using them to express his anger...for now. You should seek counceling which would include him before his anger and rages goes from the games to you and Corey. If not then you and Corey should seek help. Maybe Corey has already seen bad sides that he shouldn't have.

Even if you've known Mark for 5, 10 or even 15 years and he may have been the sweetest person you've ever known, and maybe they type of person that would never hit a woman or child ... just out of no where, left field if you will, Mark could snap if he doesn't get help.

He may not even realize that he is out of control right now. And video taping him might either snap him back or it could make it worse. That's why professional help is important.

Stress, unhappiness, confusion about something beyond his ability to figure it out or even a chemical imbalance can cause a person to suddenly turn into the meanest most wicked person you never guessed he could be.

When someone out of control to the point they beat someone up that is weaker or smaller than they are or someone with no self confidence. The abuser becomes more powerful, they are finally in control now not of their life but of someone elses. The abuse eventually becomes habitual.

He may apologize the first few times but it doesn't mean anything at all. It's just a phrase that an abuser uses to force a person to accept their way of life, and if you don't accept the apology then he uses that as a reason to hit harder, to destroy more things that mean something to you, more people possibly.

Mark is Corey's father figure, you have to ask yourself if you want your child to think it's ok to grow up mean, abusive and destructive. Children learn what they live.

I hope this helps because...your last comment was that you would contact the doctor but you know it would make Mark mad. Ask yourself for the sake of your life and Corey's ... how much control over your life does Mark have right now. How afraid are you and Corey of him? Even if it's just a little, it's a little too much.
Good luck.

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