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Goal Setting

Monday, September 24, 2007

I tend to set goals for myself that are difficult to reach. And then I have to settle for not achieving my goal.

Example - we spent 3.5 days in Philadelphia, visiting family. I walk a lot, and my routes there include more hills than where we live. Plus I knew it would be cooler weather - so my goal was to lose 5 lbs in those 3.5 days. Ridiculous goal. But it sounded nice.

So did I meet my goal? No way. Did I walk every day? Yes. Did I eat sensibly? Kind of. Did I gain weight? No. Did I wear my new 3 sizes smaller skinny jeans and look fabulous? YES! Did everyone notice how great I looked? YES!

So why can't I just set those yeses as my goals? Why do I set unachievable goals for myself?

I don't even beat myself up for not meeting them. I shrug and think, boy, that was a dumb goal. And I forget about it and move on.

I don't make the goal "Walk every day" or "wear the skinny jeans" or "get 5 compliments" - I take those things for granted. They happen, I know they will happen, and I accept it.

I need to get more realistic with my goals. Challenge myself, but not make the challenge unattainable. Be realistic without being overly optimistic.

Reality therapy. That's what I need.
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  • v PHEBESS
    Yeah, SF, I don't like weight loss goals. I like goals like save $ and go to Costa Rica. Not eat less and lose weight by Oct. 1. Doesn't work with my mindset. Maybe that's why I set impossible goals.
    3258 days ago
  • v SECRETFUN
    You know, I never liked goals. People think I am nuts, but I think they are limiting. You on the other hand make hard goals, in fact impossible ones, but if they keep you on track and you are not bummed out by not acheiving them, then as long as you are not too fatalistic about it I don't see a problem. Like NB said, just extend the deadline. You did what was needed in Philly to keep yourself moving forward, and that was what was needed.
    3259 days ago
  • v SILVERLINEDJENN
    That's a good plan (keep the goal, extend the deadline). I like it!
    And you are doing fabulous!
    3260 days ago
  • v PHEBESS
    LOL, Janine - I love it!!!!!!!!!! My new mantra:

    Keep the goal, extend the deadline!!!!!!



    Big hugs, sweetie - you made my day!
    3260 days ago
  • v NOTBLUSHING
    You goals are BIG, and thinking big creates the excitement and momentum necessary to propel you over all those HILLS! It keeps the small goals from seeming tedious, and reminds you every day that you are walking toward a reward so great, that it is almost inconceivable. You are!
    Keep the goal! Extend your deadline.
    3260 days ago
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