Thursday, September 20, 2007
I had my second therapy session on Wednesday... As therapy does, it was revealed that I had a few issued to work through. My bad relationship with my dad, my yoyo relationship with my mum, my image issues etc. etc. but all of these issues played a huge part in my weight gain and therefore will in my weight loss. Hard to believe? Not really, in fact my therapist summed it up in 1 word, BOUNDARIES. I can't say no to my mother because I don't have boundaries in place likewise with all the other aspects in my life. I've put on the weight because I have not set up and followed boundaries to achieve my goals.
I have to take things 1 step at a time. One, interesting thing he did mention was that although I am a very open person, and I am skilled in articulating my thoughts and feelings (in other words I'm quite outgoing and talkative!)I use this to cover up my feelings and insecurities. Silence makes me uncomfortable and I feel that it is my obligation in every conversation to keep it going and to ensure everyone is ok and entertained. This is apparently a big issue as I supress the feelings of my husband and bestfriend and instead of having a strong relationship/friendship with them I come across as more of a mother figure than a partner. (More on that next week)
But overall, I say it again. Therapy has helped in me 2 sessions get my persepective on life back on track. I welcome all questions...
I hope you're all well!!
Lots of love,