Wednesday, September 19, 2007
I recently decided to become vegetarian the tuesday after Labor day. It started off as a healthy way to loose weight but the more research and reading I did, the more I realized I can't bring myself to eat an animal that has suffered the way pigs, cows and chickens do. My husband jumped on the bandwagon with me so he could loose weight as well but as soon as the choice turned from mainly weight loss to something ethical, he became all defensive and now it seems like I have to defend my choice to him everyday. I'm by no means a perfect veg head, I still eat fish but i'm trying to wean myself off of it. I thought I could go cold turkey but i guess i overestimated myself. Even now as i type out this blog, i am defending myself via text message to my husband. Here is how the conversation has gone so far:
Him: "Did you read that Dole article I told you about yesterday?"
Me: "I was able to read half of it. I don't eat Dole brand lettuce. I wonder how it got contaminated."
Him: "My point is that lettuce can be improperly handled too."
Me: "I agree. That's why I'm wondering how it became contaminated."
Him: "But don't you see? Yet another reason why vegetarianism is not better than eating meat."
Me: "I see your point but it still doesn't change how animals are treated. When it comes down to it, I don't want to eat it."
Him: "But what about how vegetables are mistreated?"
Me: "They don't have a CNS. They don't feel pain."
Him: "So why are we special just cause we have a CNS? Why does that make it ok? You still eat eggs and drink milk. What about those animals?"
Me: "Honey, why do I have to defend myself to you? You are my husband, why can't you just support it and say ok baby, if that's what you want. If I became a vegan you would really go crazy."
Him: "You're damn right I would. I personally think vegetarianism is a new wave, pop culture, pu**y ass decision. I honestly think you're smarter than that. No wonder most vegetarians are women, only women would make such an illogical decision. Besides, I miss sharing a meal with you."
Me: "Honestly now, we can still share meals together. And I resent that comment by the way. I've never ragged on you about any decision you've made, other than when R*** lived with us. This is just about food. Why get so bent out of shape?"
Him: "Have I made an illogical decision since then? And besides, food was both our lives, it was something we loved and now we can't share that any more."
Me: "Lol. Yes we can. I told you I don't mind cooking for you. I still eat fish (which makes me a pescatarian vs a vegetarian). Remember the conversation we had the other day?
Him: "Yeah but i still feel bad."
Me: "Why baby? I've never felt bad for doing things for you. It doesn't bother me to cook for you. I'm still cooking for us."
Him: "I guess...."
So yeah, that's been my whole lunch hour for the most part. I'm sure to a neutral party he seems like an a$$hole who is afraid of change and truthfully, he can be. It's so weird b/c just last week he was saying he loved how much more creative I've been with dinner. And men say women are emotional and illogical. *sigh.