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passing of loved one

Sunday, August 26, 2007

It is hard to lose a loved one. What is harder though is to watch a loved one weaken into someone you don't recognize. I have watched this transition with my stepfather for almost a month now. He finally left us and went to a place of peacefulness yesterday morning. I had said all of my thoughts and things I needed to say to him during the past weeks, when he was still able to comprehend. I can let go now without sorrow for my loss for I know that his being is at rest now and his suffering is done.
The road ahead will still be bumpy for a short period for now the details that follow must be dealt with. Because my mother is unable to fully care for herself, I will make arrangements for her to move to a place where she can be independent but still have others there to watch over her if she needs anything.
I've always know that I am a strong person and could handle anything that is given to me. I don't always handle it with absolute grace but I get it done nonetheless. What surprises me is how much more 'grace' I have now since I have come to know myself much better.
I realize that SP focuses on weight management, but I think it is much more. I think it gives us the chance to really look at ourselves and pull out our strengths. Those strengths then surface at times when we don't even realize that it is happening. Now is one of those times for me.

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PEGGYLOU4 8/28/2007 7:05AM

    Jamie, I wen't through a similar situation with my grandmother and would just like to send you my love and hugs. Lou xx

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SPARKFLOWER 8/27/2007 12:22PM

    You have such a great attitude.
You are the type of person that will just grow and learn from every experience, its so encouraging, and such a great way to live.
I think its so great that you had such a great relationship with you stepfather.

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DAVENPLK 8/26/2007 8:27PM


My prayers are with you in your time of need. Yes, you do have the strength and the courage to make it through this time. It is a difficult journey, and I will be there to support you in any way that I possibly can.


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BAYCORNER 8/26/2007 3:56PM

    Thinking of you and your fmaily in your time of loss. Blessings.

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JEWELSGRANNY 8/26/2007 1:33PM

    Jamie, I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I am sending my thoughts and prayers to you and your family. I can relate to how you feel as I have been there also with my Dad and my Mom. I took care of Mom when she got sick and was able to get even closer to her in the time before her death.
((((HUGS))))) to you.

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TERJEGOLD 8/26/2007 12:44PM

    Jamie, what an eloquent way to describe your stepfather's passing. My heart is with you as you go through the necessary duties and rituals in the coming weeks and I celebrate the fact that you had the opportunity to participate in the process of his passing. What a gift to the both of you. Be gentle with yourself. Hugs!

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L.I.L.MOMMY 8/26/2007 8:33AM

    Jamie, I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Please know you and your family are in my prayers and if there's anything you need or just want to talk give a shout. I know it's not easy, we lost my Dad several years ago after a two year lingering death.

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