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Pleasant Dreams - February 7

Friday, February 09, 2018

"I'm too busy. I can barely see the numbers on my calendar for all the meetings, talks, appointments, programs, deadlines and classes penciled into ... [ the ] little squares."
_Linda Weltner

Self-inflicted stress is the voluntary creation of too much to do in too little time. It usually begins simply and innocently enough, with an offer on your part to "help out." What happens next is like a snowball rolling downhill. "Help Out" turns into "support" which turns into "share" which turns into "organize" which finally turns into "single-handedly manage." By the time the snowball reaches the base of the hill, you may find yourself assuming responsibilities that go well beyond your initial offer to help.

Yet rather than cease to offer to help at night when you've already spent most of your day overwhelmed, you may actually jump at the next opportunity to lend a hand! Why? Perhaps it makes you feel good. Maybe you enjoy keeping busy. Or perhaps you like to help others. But what you may not realize is that the real reasons for your giving nature could be unhealthy. You may help others because you want them to like you. You may like being busy because you're afraid of unstructured time. You may feel good only when you're in charge or in control of a number of projects.

From this moment on, resolve to say "No" when it's appropriate--and say "Yes" to doing something special just for you.

If I can't set aside one evening a week out of seven to do something I want to do for me, then I'm too busy. I'll look forward to letting go of my responsibilities to one group so I can be more responsible to me.


This is from Pleasant Dreams: Nighttime Meditations for Peace of Mind, by Amy E. Dean

I opted to show mostly pictures of people volunteering, rather than someone sitting home alone, because it is usually an enriching experience and so many things would not get done without the help of volunteers. And it has a lot of health benefits for the volunteers!

Please read this article:
Why Volunteering Is So Good For Your Health, by Hilary Young

If you are volunteering too much, it may be that you need counseling. Talking with a skilled therapist can help you to prioritize your time better and get to the heart of why you think you need to sign up for everything.

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